Basically, everything started perfectly fine until he told me he's not ready to commit due to some harsh past-love experience.
We argues a lot and I tried to run away many times, but he managed to stop me and brought me back to him. We r still seeing each other, having great time, completing our sentances, reading our minds, having millions of things in common, always up for adventures and even when we fight we somehow manage to get back together.
However, every time when he tries to get closer to me I just back off and shut him down, because I can't forget his words "After my last relationship I made a promise to myself - no serious stuff anymore". I'm afraid that I will fall or start loving someone who is just having fun around or being with me out of loneliness.
I can see that sometimes he's really hurt by my behavior, and sooner or later he'll be bored and tired of chasing after me and trying to bring me back. A few night ago I unintentionally hurt him, when he sked me to spend the nigh with him (I've done it many times) but I refuse and called a taxi home. I think he got this as me "leaving" him and for the past few days he's been really distanced ...
Anyone who has any insight or personal experience .. I would be glad to hear your advices 🙂
to be honest, a statement like the one he made doesn't really mean much. everyone feels that way after a bad love experience but it can't possibly last for the rest of their lives. he didn't know you very well when he said it as you're still in the getting to know eachother phase by the sounds of it and so i wouldn't let it worry you.
i had the most intensely over emotional push-pull thing going on for two years before getting it together with my aries ex and we ended up being together for almost 20 years. some of the best relationships have these kind of stop/start beginnings because people who have been hurt generally take more care to build a better relationship than the one that hurt them.
he's just talking about how he felt at that particular time but that time will pass. it sounds as though you have a good connection and so it would be a shame for you to lose that because you hold him to something he said that can't possibly be a rock-solid attitude from here on in. do you know what i mean?
btw...aries men do tend to start arguments about something when there's another issue that's pissing them off (as alot of people do generally). my ex was like that at the beginning...he constantly started fights over trivia. it was mainly because he kept having to detach himself from me as he'd only just recently split with his fiance after we met, therefore making me part of that equation...giving him a reason not to want to get close...until he'd closed the chapter with her.
don't worry about words...just watch the actions and go with your gut feeling 🙂
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We argues a lot and I tried to run away many times, but he managed to stop me and brought me back to him. We r still seeing each other, having great time, completing our sentances, reading our minds, having millions of things in common, always up for adventures and even when we fight we somehow manage to get back together.
However, every time when he tries to get closer to me I just back off and shut him down, because I can't forget his words "After my last relationship I made a promise to myself - no serious stuff anymore". I'm afraid that I will fall or start loving someone who is just having fun around or being with me out of loneliness.
I can see that sometimes he's really hurt by my behavior, and sooner or later he'll be bored and tired of chasing after me and trying to bring me back. A few night ago I unintentionally hurt him, when he sked me to spend the nigh with him (I've done it many times) but I refuse and called a taxi home. I think he got this as me "leaving" him and for the past few days he's been really distanced ...
Anyone who has any insight or personal experience .. I would be glad to hear your advices 🙂