Leo woman doesnt know how to act around me

So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Posted by but_didyoudie

Leo who doesn't like PDA 🧐🧐 then the therapy + depression. That's your call entirely. Now would I chase somebody like that personally no. But I know of people that are with medically diagnosed bipolar people so🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ it just depends if that's your cup of tea.

I agree..

Chick sounds like she got issues, but if you into her and wanna tap that.. That's on you.

I would tell OP not to invest too much into this.

This coming from a guy talking to a Sag who is also seeing a therapist; the girl has depression, social anxiety, getting over nicotine addiction, and also on the spectrum, into FWB and open relationships and more shit .

Posted by isaiah6137

So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Sounds like she wants to make you her plaything.

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Posted by isaiah6137

So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Sounds like she wants to make you her plaything.

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Yea thats what I told her it feels like she puts me on this rollercoaster, but everytime I saw her before she would always have a like of dudes following her but I'd never see her making out w them or anything, but w me we made out the first night and after that night she said she doesnt usually do that w guys. When we met though I told her Leo's are dangerous lol and she said how....I knew what I was getting myself into lol

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

How old is she? Young young? It took me a while to be able to act like I was into a guy in public. I remember pissing off some "boyfriends" because I found any PDA embarrassing, up until I had a real boyfriend at 17. I'm Leo Mars, if that matters.

We're both in our early twenties, shes told me shes had bad luck w relationships so she gave up on them so I just think she doesnt know how to act because she knows this is different like one side of her wants to focus on herself and keep it moving but the other side of her knows deep down that we could be something good

Posted by frozenintime

I’m a Leo and I don’t like PDA unless we are an official kind of thing.

She did tell you she isn’t looking for a relationship so it’s not like she didn’t say it.

I’d say give her some time she may come around. Let her come to you

Good luck

Thanks, yea I told her I'd give her space she said we're on good terms but she agreed that she needed a little space

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So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Sounds like she wants to make you her plaything.

Yea thats what I told her it feels like she puts me on this rollercoaster, but everytime I saw her before she would always have a like of dudes following her but I'd never see her making out w them or anything, but w me we made out the first night and after that night she said she doesnt usually do that w guys. When we met though I told her Leo's are dangerous lol and she said how....I knew what I was getting myself into lol

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Just keep an eye out. Leo women respect guys who are themselves and confident. If you just go along with whatever she wants not only is it most importantly not good for you but she'll get bored.

Let her do her thing, let her know where you stand and keep doing you. It's a two way street if she wants to hang out with guys but kiss you when no ones around, don't stand for that. Watch out as to not get manipulated because sounds like she's really good at that.

PDA isn't for everyone (same here... Light PDA at most) ...

but especially for people who are interested in more than one person.. 🤷‍♀️

Posted by isaiah6137

So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Leos don't necessarily like PDA with people we aren't actually dating. Even when we're liberaling flirting, Leos can still be rather conservative in our approach to love and relationships. Likewise Leos take time to truly open up. You can't expect a Leo woman to be completely into you when you don't really know them in the first place.

That being said, the reason why she's pushing you away is because you're trying too hard to make your intentions known publicly. You're killing any mystery there might have been between you two. She isn't ready for other people to know that there's something going on between you either. She already told you that she doesn't want a relationship. What do you think that means?

Simply put, she liked it when things between you two were more ambiguous and private. Like many women, she likes the mystery. There are many reasons for this. She's a woman after all, so even if she does like you, she still needs time to sort through her feelings. Maybe she likes you and wants to take things slowly. Maybe she just likes hooking up. Maybe she likes you and someone else. Maybe she wants to keep her options open because she doesn't know you. Maybe she liked you, but changed her mind.

Regardless, she already made it clear that she isn't looking for a relationship. Getting into an argument with her because she doesn't like PDA proves that you don't understand her or what she wants. In her mind if you also didn't want a relationship, then you wouldn't care that she wanted to keep things private. Another thing to know about most women is that they like a man who can keep things private and remain emotionally strong. You haven't shown you are capable of that.

My advice is to act normal, but leave the PDA out. If she ignores you, it's because she's no longer comfortable with you. Getting drunk and arguing with a woman who isn't your girlfriend isn't a good look. Most women will avoid a man who exhibits this behavior for fear that he will be clingy and controlling. If she's ignores you, then back off completely and move on to someone new.

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So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Leos don't necessarily like PDA with people we aren't actually dating. Even when we're liberaling flirting, Leos can still be rather conservative in our approach to love and relationships. Likewise Leos take time to truly open up. You can't expect a Leo woman to be completely into you when you don't really know them in the first place.

That being said, the reason why she's pushing you away is because you're trying too hard to make your intentions known publicly. You're killing any mystery there might have been between you two. She isn't ready for other people to know that there's something going on between you either. She already told you that she doesn't want a relationship. What do you think that means?

Simply put, she liked it when things between you two were more ambiguous and private. Like many women, she likes the mystery. There are many reasons for this. She's a woman after all, so even if she does like you, she still needs time to sort through her feelings. Maybe she likes you and wants to take things slowly. Maybe she just likes hooking up. Maybe she likes you and someone else. Maybe she wants to keep her options open because she doesn't know you. Maybe she liked you, but changed her mind.

Regardless, she already made it clear that she isn't looking for a relationship. Getting into an argument with her because she doesn't like PDA proves that you don't understand her or what she wants. In her mind if you also didn't want a relationship, then you wouldn't care that she wanted to keep things private. Another thing to know about most women is that they like a man who can keep things private and remain emotionally strong. You haven't shown you are capable of that.

My advice is to act normal, but leave the PDA out. If she ignores you, it's because she's no longer comfortable with you. Getting drunk and arguing with a woman who isn't your girlfriend isn't a good look. Most women will avoid a man who exhibits this behavior for fear that he will be clingy and controlling. If she's ignores you, then back off completely and move on to someone new.

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I understand completely where you're coming from and I know I'm an emotional guy but there were other small details.

I was drunk and all this built up emotion kinda came out, I dont yell or get aggressive but I kinda stop being passive w things and I say how I feel. since we've met shes always kinda played w me. Like she would be like I dont want a relationship or start anything, so then I was like let's just be friends dont call me cute, she would be like "but I think you're cute" and tell me she'd get jealous if she saw me w someone else. She would always get nervous and quiet around me and smile at me and stare at me in the gym I could tell she really liked me, her actions never matched to what she said. The first time we met we were making out holding each other I even picked her up it was intense and comfortable and romantic, and we were in public we were drunk but not that drunk. The night we got in a fight she was texting me asking how work was saying my snapchat is cute and asked if I was out, she knew where I was but never said she was coming. So I'm tipsy and I see u I get excited and then u completely act like I'm some random dude and you are in the clubs I'm in and dancing right in front of me ignoring me and staring at me from across the bar when I'm dancing w someone else, but not wanting to talk to me. I just think shes a little immature and was acting hard in front of her friends. I understand keeping it lowkey but I'm a who cares what people think kind of guy, she cares too much what people think imo, but I kinda told her it's cool we dont have to talk because I feel like I can do better so its cool

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Posted by isaiah6137

So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Leos don't necessarily like PDA with people we aren't actually dating. Even when we're liberaling flirting, Leos can still be rather conservative in our approach to love and relationships. Likewise Leos take time to truly open up. You can't expect a Leo woman to be completely into you when you don't really know them in the first place.

That being said, the reason why she's pushing you away is because you're trying too hard to make your intentions known publicly. You're killing any mystery there might have been between you two. She isn't ready for other people to know that there's something going on between you either. She already told you that she doesn't want a relationship. What do you think that means?

Simply put, she liked it when things between you two were more ambiguous and private. Like many women, she likes the mystery. There are many reasons for this. She's a woman after all, so even if she does like you, she still needs time to sort through her feelings. Maybe she likes you and wants to take things slowly. Maybe she just likes hooking up. Maybe she likes you and someone else. Maybe she wants to keep her options open because she doesn't know you. Maybe she liked you, but changed her mind.

Regardless, she already made it clear that she isn't looking for a relationship. Getting into an argument with her because she doesn't like PDA proves that you don't understand her or what she wants. In her mind if you also didn't want a relationship, then you wouldn't care that she wanted to keep things private. Another thing to know about most women is that they like a man who can keep things private and remain emotionally strong. You haven't shown you are capable of that.

My advice is to act normal, but leave the PDA out. If she ignores you, it's because she's no longer comfortable with you. Getting drunk and arguing with a woman who isn't your girlfriend isn't a good look. Most women will avoid a man who exhibits this behavior for fear that he will be clingy and controlling. If she's ignores you, then back off completely and move on to someone new.

I understand completely where you're coming from and I know I'm an emotional guy but there were other small details.

I was drunk and all this built up emotion kinda came out, I dont yell or get aggressive but I kinda stop being passive w things and I say how I feel. since we've met shes always kinda played w me. Like she would be like I dont want a relationship or start anything, so then I was like let's just be friends dont call me cute, she would be like "but I think you're cute" and tell me she'd get jealous if she saw me w someone else. She would always get nervous and quiet around me and smile at me and stare at me in the gym I could tell she really liked me, her actions never matched to what she said. The first time we met we were making out holding each other I even picked her up it was intense and comfortable and romantic, and we were in public we were drunk but not that drunk. The night we got in a fight she was texting me asking how work was saying my snapchat is cute and asked if I was out, she knew where I was but never said she was coming. So I'm tipsy and I see u I get excited and then u completely act like I'm some random dude and you are in the clubs I'm in and dancing right in front of me ignoring me and staring at me from across the bar when I'm dancing w someone else, but not wanting to talk to me. I just think shes a little immature and was acting hard in front of her friends. I understand keeping it lowkey but I'm a who cares what people think kind of guy, she cares too much what people think imo, but I kinda told her it's cool we dont have to talk because I feel like I can do better so its cool

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Well to be fair you two are both being immature. She's freaked out that you're being more emotionally demonstrative in public than she is and you're annoyed that she's not being more emotionally demonstrative toward you. From what you've said, it sounds like you barely know this girl, but you're seeking validation on where you stand with her. Again, it simply isn't that deep between you. You made out and hooked up, that's it. If that's not enough, then this probably isn't the girl for you.

Also why couldn't you accept that there were no strings attached. When she told you that she didn't want a relationship, you responded with, "Let's be friends." Why was that your only option? It sounds like you can't get involved a girl without trying to push her toward a relationship. Right now she's probably looking for a guy who she can have fun with privately without him getting unraveled.

Think about it. Why would she want to keep things private between you? Aside from the fact that women love mystery, friends also tend to complicate things. So even if she does like you, she may not want anyone to know anything yet. Having to explain who you are to her friends may not actually make much sense at this time. Who knows, maybe she still has an ex floating around that you don't know about.

Also a lot of girls will test guys to see if they can keep their cool. All women want to know if you'll suddenly become pushy or clingy when they back away. Do you suddenly get upset and "need to talk". This behavior would be understandable if you two were actually in a relationship, but she's not your girlfriend. You have to let women come to you willingly at their own speed.

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So at my school gym I'd always seen this cute girl, never had the balls to talk to her. I was out one night w friends and I saw her and since alcohol makes me feel like superman I went to talk to her, it went really well, turns out shes a leo. She asked for my social medias we made out and she bought me a shot...this should be simple but after that night shes made it so complicated. That night she was super confident, but everytime I'm around her she gets super nervous. Shes told me she doesnt want a relationship but wants to flirt and texted me everyday and also said shed get jealous if she saw me w someone else lol. When it's just me and her she is very lovey dovey but when we're in public she doesnt like PDA. So we got into a big argument because I was out w my friends I was kinda drunk and I saw her and was just happy to see her so i just put my arm around her, she freaked out acting like she didnt even know me, im a cancer so my sensitive ass got very upset lol especially because she was literally laying on my chest romantically cuddling w me the night before. We've talked but things are of course weird and she just wants a little space. Shes told me she goes to therapy and has issues w depression and I know shes a very sensitive girl and she knows deep down she really likes me shes even told me, but only when shes drunk lol. So my question is should I wait on her or just move on, as a leo is she just to stubborn to accept the feelings we have for each other, thank yall for the help.

Leos don't necessarily like PDA with people we aren't actually dating. Even when we're liberaling flirting, Leos can still be rather conservative in our approach to love and relationships. Likewise Leos take time to truly open up. You can't expect a Leo woman to be completely into you when you don't really know them in the first place.

That being said, the reason why she's pushing you away is because you're trying too hard to make your intentions known publicly. You're killing any mystery there might have been between you two. She isn't ready for other people to know that there's something going on between you either. She already told you that she doesn't want a relationship. What do you think that means?

Simply put, she liked it when things between you two were more ambiguous and private. Like many women, she likes the mystery. There are many reasons for this. She's a woman after all, so even if she does like you, she still needs time to sort through her feelings. Maybe she likes you and wants to take things slowly. Maybe she just likes hooking up. Maybe she likes you and someone else. Maybe she wants to keep her options open because she doesn't know you. Maybe she liked you, but changed her mind.

Regardless, she already made it clear that she isn't looking for a relationship. Getting into an argument with her because she doesn't like PDA proves that you don't understand her or what she wants. In her mind if you also didn't want a relationship, then you wouldn't care that she wanted to keep things private. Another thing to know about most women is that they like a man who can keep things private and remain emotionally strong. You haven't shown you are capable of that.

My advice is to act normal, but leave the PDA out. If she ignores you, it's because she's no longer comfortable with you. Getting drunk and arguing with a woman who isn't your girlfriend isn't a good look. Most women will avoid a man who exhibits this behavior for fear that he will be clingy and controlling. If she's ignores you, then back off completely and move on to someone new.

I understand completely where you're coming from and I know I'm an emotional guy but there were other small details.

I was drunk and all this built up emotion kinda came out, I dont yell or get aggressive but I kinda stop being passive w things and I say how I feel. since we've met shes always kinda played w me. Like she would be like I dont want a relationship or start anything, so then I was like let's just be friends dont call me cute, she would be like "but I think you're cute" and tell me she'd get jealous if she saw me w someone else. She would always get nervous and quiet around me and smile at me and stare at me in the gym I could tell she really liked me, her actions never matched to what she said. The first time we met we were making out holding each other I even picked her up it was intense and comfortable and romantic, and we were in public we were drunk but not that drunk. The night we got in a fight she was texting me asking how work was saying my snapchat is cute and asked if I was out, she knew where I was but never said she was coming. So I'm tipsy and I see u I get excited and then u completely act like I'm some random dude and you are in the clubs I'm in and dancing right in front of me ignoring me and staring at me from across the bar when I'm dancing w someone else, but not wanting to talk to me. I just think shes a little immature and was acting hard in front of her friends. I understand keeping it lowkey but I'm a who cares what people think kind of guy, she cares too much what people think imo, but I kinda told her it's cool we dont have to talk because I feel like I can do better so its cool

Well to be fair you two are both being immature. She's freaked out that you're being more emotionally demonstrative in public than she is and you're annoyed that she's not being more emotionally demonstrative toward you. From what you've said, it sounds like you barely know this girl, but you're seeking validation on where you stand with her. Again, it simply isn't that deep between you. You made out and hooked up, that's it. If that's not enough, then this probably isn't the girl for you.

Also why couldn't you accept that there were no strings attached. When she told you that she didn't want a relationship, you responded with, "Let's be friends." Why was that your only option? It sounds like you can't get involved a girl without trying to push her toward a relationship. Right now she's probably looking for a guy who she can have fun with privately without him getting unraveled.

Think about it. Why would she want to keep things private between you? Aside from the fact that women love mystery, friends also tend to complicate things. So even if she does like you, she may not want anyone to know anything yet. Having to explain who you are to her friends may not actually make much sense at this time. Who knows, maybe she still has an ex floating around that you don't know about.

Also a lot of girls will test guys to see if they can keep their cool. All women want to know if you'll suddenly become pushy or clingy when they back away. Do you suddenly get upset and "need to talk". This behavior would be understandable if you two were actually in a relationship, but she's not your girlfriend. You have to let women come to you willingly at their own speed.

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Oooooh I hate you because I know you're right, I know the situation couldve gone better I know I couldve acted more mature, but idk something about the whole thing urked me. Like after we established we're just chilln fwb whatever she asked to come to my house but she didnt want to do anything and we didnt we never have done anything sexual just cuddled, but she was like let me hold you. Firstly I've never had a girl ask me that lol and secondly you dont ask that to someone who you know likes you and has explained how they've felt about you...unless you feel the same right? And it felt good I know I catch feelings kind of fast but I feel like that is what she was trying to do. And maybe you're right she was trying to test me, but to me that's not cool, like I've opened myself up to you, even though it may be hard for you doesnt mean we have to play this testing game like I'm a lab rat to see if I'll pass your trial, idk that's not cool to me. But everybody's different in how we like people, she wanted it her way, I wanted it my way. And when I told her let's just be friends it's not that I'm saying relationship or nothing in between it's just that I wanted her to tell me what she wanted, like what she really wants, and after I said the friends thing she even said she doesnt know what she wants lol. When I met her and she told me she was a leo I told her to her face shes gonna be dangerous lol she said how? Lol......there were alot of signs that told me I shouldnt mess w this girl but I was just hoping for the best I guess, and I still fully believe she was feeling what I was feeling she just didnt know how to react about it because we all got that trust issues thing. I know this is all kinda deep lol but I'm kind of a deep person, and when it was just me and her she was deep too. We just met but we've seen each other around I see her at the gym all the time and we would awkwardly look at each other so we've been interested in each other for a while I just finally got the balls to say something to her, but again maybe I'm just being too deep about all this lol, but maybe im not only time will tell, thank you seriously (:

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Oooooh I hate you because I know you're right, I know the situation couldve gone better I know I couldve acted more mature, but idk something about the whole thing urked me. Like after we established we're just chilln fwb whatever she asked to come to my house but she didnt want to do anything and we didnt we never have done anything sexual just cuddled, but she was like let me hold you. Firstly I've never had a girl ask me that lol and secondly you dont ask that to someone who you know likes you and has explained how they've felt about you...unless you feel the same right? And it felt good I know I catch feelings kind of fast but I feel like that is what she was trying to do. And maybe you're right she was trying to test me, but to me that's not cool, like I've opened myself up to you, even though it may be hard for you doesnt mean we have to play this testing game like I'm a lab rat to see if I'll pass your trial, idk that's not cool to me. But everybody's different in how we like people, she wanted it her way, I wanted it my way. And when I told her let's just be friends it's not that I'm saying relationship or nothing in between it's just that I wanted her to tell me what she wanted, like what she really wants, and after I said the friends thing she even said she doesnt know what she wants lol. When I met her and she told me she was a leo I told her to her face shes gonna be dangerous lol she said how? Lol......there were alot of signs that told me I shouldnt mess w this girl but I was just hoping for the best I guess, and I still fully believe she was feeling what I was feeling she just didnt know how to react about it because we all got that trust issues thing. I know this is all kinda deep lol but I'm kind of a deep person, and when it was just me and her she was deep too. We just met but we've seen each other around I see her at the gym all the time and we would awkwardly look at each other so we've been interested in each other for a while I just finally got the balls to say something to her, but again maybe I'm just being too deep about all this lol, but maybe im not only time will tell, thank you seriously (:

Wait...are you saying that the two of you only cuddled and have never had sex? If that's the case, I'm not sure what your expectations are here. You made out once and then cuddled with a girl who told you that she didn't want a relationship. Now that I think about it, this whole thing might have been one long test.

Since you clearly have feelings for this girl, you should've just told her that you're not trying to lock her down, but are interested in her romantically and would like to see where things go. If she said no to that, then you would've had your answer. Instead you tried to manipulate her by saying, "Let's be friends" with the hopes that she'd respond a certain way. Instead she used that tactic against you and gave you what you wanted. You practically "friendzoned" yourself.

One rule when dealing with a Leo is that manipulation/passive aggressive behavior will more than likely backfire. We take everything at face value. If you say you want something from us, that's what you'll more than likely get. We also see manipulation as a weakness, which we loathe. If you're not confident enough to state what you want outright, Leo women aren't going to work for you.

As I've stated, women test to weed out the clingers and the controlling men. It's not always a conscious effort either, but I assure you that any woman will test your mettle if you desire her. A quick way for a woman to know if a man is going to become obsessive/abusive is if he easily loses his cool in low stakes situations. You may not like it, but you better get used to it if you want to continue dating their half of the species.