Losing it with this guy!

I've had an on and off thing going on with a Leo male. We met last year in spring and saw each other on a regular basis. I ended it in the summer and then the contacted me again and I gave in and we met again. Everything was cool between us and then we got in a fight and he ended it. A few weeks after I admired to my best friend that I was in love with the guy and she said she knew it all along. I didn't contact him but couldn't get him out of my mind. after a couple months I started going out again meeting other guys and this weekend I thought yes I'm finally over him and I went out for a night clubbing with my girls and there he was right in front of me starring at me. I made a mean face and wanted to walk passed him and he took my hand and pulled me in his arms.
We talked a bit and even danced together and had a good time. He introduced me to his friends and even kissed my hand right in front of everybody, told me how good I looked.
Only problem is that I got more and more drunk and at some point he pulled me out of the club and said he would bring me home. We walked to my place and it was like a complete drama he kissed me when we went through the park all movie-scene like. He wanted to leave when he brought me home but I pulled him inside and we spent the night together. And we were both pretty drunk and talked a lot. I don't remember everything just that he kept making me compliments and he said that he missed me and I told him that I thought about him every single day. At some point we just fell asleep in each other's arms and he texted me when he got home.

Now I don't know what to do because I love him. We told each other that we aren't looking for a relationship a long time ago and I really don't care if we ever call it a relationship. I just love him and adore him and I want him in my life because obviously we keep on coming back to each other anyways.

My gut feeling tells me that we would be such a power couple and a great team. I want to tell him all that. I want him to know how I feel but my pride is in my way.

Any advice on how to deal with this lion?

Posted by leow31
Why don't you want a relationship?

if that's truly what you want then you'll never be a "power couple" you'll be the standing girl until he meets someone esle with gf potential.

If you're too deseperate to be with this guy you'll be losing his interest soon enough, leos don't like that.

You have to be strong and control of yourself, be assertive and confident, don't let this man walk all over you..that would be mistake #2

Saying things like "I dont care I just want him in my life " isn't the kind of thing he'll want to hear especially if he's not in the same place you are.

Are you IN love with him? If so be a little more honest with yourself, take your time, don't rush anything and let things happen naturally.

The biggest problem I see is people not being honest with what they want and then they get pissed at us because we don't want more.

Good luck.

Thanks for your advice.
We are both in a place where we are building our lives and advancing in our careers. We both do not have a lot of time because work and school holds us pretty busy.
We talked about it and he says he needs his freedom and I get that. I'm the same way.
I have trouble opening myself up to him which is weird because I've never had that problem before.
I am not desperate to be with him but I do love him very much.
I'm a confident and assertive person in general and I think thats what he likes about me.
I'm trying to be as honest as I can and I know that I'm in love with him. I want to be with him but I refuse to ever let a man walk over me no matter who that man is. I wish he would just realise that there is a reason why we keep coming back to each other.

I think you already lost. He came back as revenge because you ended it first. Game started when you did that. He likes your boldness but it's not enough to keep him. He's still playing the field. It's up to you if you wanna tagg along. Don't get to serious, lindá. He's already a stated he want his freedom, like huh?

Do you girrl. You are the treasure here, not him.

I never thought Leos would play games but here we go. Every time we see each other and he acts like he is beyond happy to see me and hugs me really tight and he doesn't even let it bother him that I'm mean to him. I thought Leos lose interest when you are mean to them.

I never thought that I would fall so hard for him. I'm currently even going on dates with other guys and have so many new projects and I am busy but I still can't get him out of my head. Whenever I am working out I think about him and it makes me go harder and so much faster, I guess there is at least one good thing that came out of this total mess between us.

im not high maintenance at all but whatever. I'm at a point where I don't even care about what others want. In the end he was just a scared little kitten who was terrified of getting to close even though I NEVER put him under any pressure. I NEVER clinged because I just don't do that.