Social retard

anyone else feel like they are completely socially incompetent sometimes?

I do. Almost all the time. But I don't let it bother me.

i do all the time and it bothers me !

why do we feel like social retards?

I had such problem before. But now I learned to handle it. Even more, it gives me advantages.

how do you handle it?

well, I can only give you my approach. I've found that if you sit back and observe a situation before jumping in, you can get a good vibe of how the people are- and how they prefer to interact.

Additionally, don't let one bad experience keep you from jumping into others. You may put your foot in your mouth one day, but the next day you can enlighten and uplift an individual.

Also, the reason why I don't let some things bother me-- it's because if you dwell on something that's happened, it becomes harder to get past it. It's the past. You can't UN-do it. Heal, learn, move forward.

I agree sTD, I too had my moments. still do. I just dont let them bother me. I feel if ppl dont like me for who I am, the hell with them. also as std stated, sit back and observe. you will learn alot. my grandmother always told me-"keep your eyes and ears open and mouth shut an you will learn more than you realize" meaning, as I took it,,listen first then talk..lol..I used to always do the foot in mouth syndrom,,,esp as I was growing up I had alot of embarassing moments. yes std ur right heal and move on, theres always another brighter day.🙂

AK

Doesnt that is "escapism" now?

YES
But u know what
i dont give a damn

No haffo, escapism is when you retreat to fantasy instead of dealing with reality. I think what AK and I are talking about is simply :
1. letting go of the embarrassment of making mistakes (partically in a social setting)-- as long as you learn from them
and
2. Listen and observe before jumping into a situation

Yes sTD your right, that is what I am talking about, ty for clarifying 🙂 sometimes I take the long route around..lol
#2. is especially important if you want to help yourself and not jump ahead.

AK