Surrendering to Love

So...here's my prob. My partner decided over the summer that he wanted us to move back to his home country after i finished my Master's in May 07, so he could attend Poland's film school. I was allllll for it because I desperately wanted to move abroad after school, and get some field experience teaching english. Well...the plans have changed (which is TOTALLY an Aries trait...you know, indecision, hahaha!). Now, everything has been put on hold because he doesn't have enough $ saved, nor the common sense to just get a second job so he COULD save $ (you guys always have to take the hard route, dont cha) BTW, school is only $ 3000 a year...that could easily be saved!

Now, I know that I have another semester of school, and I know that a lot can happen between now and when I graduate, but say that then IS now...what would you do? I have ABSOLUTELY no desire to stay where I am after school. I really, truly want to live and work abroad for a couple of years. But I don't want to do a long-distance thing (I'm completely against it...been there, done that, hated it). I don't want this relationship to go bye bye, either. I obviously haven't made up my mind on anything because i can't just yet (thank god!)

Would you surrender your plans to love, or do your thing (BTW, I've been doing my thing for the past 25 years)?

He's not very good w/ financial responsibilities and he's used to a luxurious kind of living. I'm glad I don't have to make any decision, yet...but just thinking about it makes me frustrated and nervous...he's wasting his talent because he's afraid to put forth TRUE effort to get what he wants...ugh!

Yes, i am the "lesser of two evils" when it comes to financial security. Bottom line, I got bills to pay so...nough said.

It's funny you ask...my sister is an aries and she, too, is bad w/ money. I don't know what she spends it on, but she definitely doesn't know how to hold onto it. My BF doesn't live a luxurious life style , now...but he used to, so he's been spoiled. He actually started giving me his money to help him save, which WAS a grand start. However, he has a crappy job that is not very secure. He bartends at a theatre, and he will either make a ton of $ or none at all.

As far as what he is afraid of...Choco, I really don't know and I don't understand why. His passion is art and film making. He would make an excellent director, photographer, editor, graphics...you name it, if it has to do w/ a film, he'd be very successful. He knows so much, now, and if he went to school he'd have more luck w/ getting his foot in the door. He's aware of this, himself, but he repeats the pattern when trying to find work, and it's getting him no where.

I think he just has poor self-esteem and a lack of faith in himself which is MIND-BOGGLING because he is so amazing! It's like he'd rather be safe than sorry...in other words, he won't take risks. This school in Poland would be an EXCELLENT risk to take because it's the most realistic thing he could do...you know?

That's the thing about pushing, I never know if I'm overstepping my boundaries. He's not very good at taking advice or suggestions...almost childlike in a sense. He contradicts himself all the time in that he looks for guidance but then refuses help. PLUS...he's going through this whole Saturn Return, which means that he has a lot of self discovering to do for himself on his own...all I can do is support him.

He does want to go to school. That's all he's been talking about since we've been together. I think that since school is his goal for the future, it also is his greatest fear...you know?

I've been thinking about writing a letter for him...that way I can make myself clear and won't come off sounding like I'm his mother...you know. I dunno, what do you think?