What I know

...is very little about:

Men
Dating
Relating to men in a dating sense
How I feel or don't feel about men

I basically date like a 15 year old. I met my husband at 17. first boyfriend ever. Have been in love only twice. Long term. No experience with this shit.

And I have a venus in cancer that wants to kill me and a moon in scorpio that wants to kill my venus. basically Im fucked.

Men are easy just feed us laugh at our jokes sometimes If you like us have sex with us and if you don't like us wellll have sex with us anyways lol..


dating kinda sucks all those expectations and such best to just relax and try to have a decent time and see if you like the man your seeing and if there;s a possibility of love. I think people try to look for the one and what they need to do is look for the one but look at there bad points if you can live with the bad points problem solved If not No matter how much you love them it will always drive a wedge in the relationship.

You seem Like a smart lady articulate and not a dummy by any means. The only way to gain experience with that shit is to go get some and get yourself out there.

I don't know much about formally dating, either. I hunt and take down what I want - if I enjoy their company, then they're around for awhile.

It MAY partially be my Leo Sun + Virgo Venus/Mars.. but I DO NOT take well to going out on dates - I NEED to either pay for myself or the date must not cost anything. Once an individual is courting me, I'm extremely uncomfortable with monetary involvement. It's somewhat of a control thing; once I feel that there's a possibility of me feeling obligated towards something in a relationship dealing with cash, even if its only me being typical crazy overthinking me.. I hightail it like a bat outta Hell.

To be honest, I've been second guessing whether I've ever been in love, despite my ex fiance and many others. I think if I was *in love* with him, I'd be more proactive with grief and wouldn't be moving on. I'd be.. torn.

So, whether 0, 2, or 12 - being in love and feeling that is irrelevant, as long as you have all the passion in you directed towards the world and loved ones, then the dating game is really just a fucking date, nothing more to think on unless it is meant to develop further. 😛

personally, i don't view it as dating and then there's no expectation involved at all. to me, it's just hanging out with someone i think i'd like to hang out with and que sera, sera.

Seraph: You are beyond accurate, correct and damn spot on. Thanks for the loving bitch slap. I have been without that loving comfort of a true bond with a man for so long that I WANT it and I WANT it now! As Rig told me recently, I need to allow love to *come to me*. Just as you say.

lblibra: Thanks for the kinds words 🙂 I needed them. And thanks for "how to" on men. Noted and stored!

Huntress: I wish I had your venus, and you are one amazing young woman with a solid head and heart!

Elle: I love you like a fat girl loves fudge. That was awesome...thank you!!

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personally, i don't view it as dating and then there's no expectation involved at all. to me, it's just hanging out with someone i think i'd like to hang out with and que sera, sera.

Whatever will be, will be~

Oh and Rig...

Damn, I want to have that ability to just see it as a get together. I was able to master that with the aqua the other night, so I guess Im getting there. My latest lesson is to NOT do the texting in advance. Too much communication that way before a first date is too much for me. Getting me all goosed up 😛

yup dimple...

That's why I don't have sex early on. No matter what. And let me say, the heat between this sag and I was in-fucking-toxicating!! Seriously, almost in a daze. When we met at the restaurant my knees were literally and I mean physically, literally shaking. I was scared I might start to topple over so I walked to a counter and just rested my self there til we were seated. That has never happened to me before.

So the idea of sleeping with him that night would've been akin to "fucking under the influence". I may not know how to do much right when relating with men but I do know how to relate to my own self-esteem and worth by not giving away my very valuable body. The thing a man wants most. That flucker's gonna have to earn it.

Funny thing, this sag is not so handsome, and thin. And truth be told his teeth weren't so hot and that is a BIG deal to me. Nice teeth. So why was I dripping for him— Because in the week prior we had some sharp as communication, phone and text, laughing and goofing, his hanging on my every word and putting me on the Leo's favorite place, the pedestal. So I was turned on by communication, not physical.

If I would've slept with him, I'd a had to borrow his service revolver and shot myself in the vagina after.

Ok, I'll commit to keeping my lady bits in tact. 🙂

generally, I have to feel that we are both mutually connected and have the same feeling for each other. I believe it's my cancer venus that needs to be assured I am the only woman he is seeing and he cares about me the way I do him. I'm just not a "wham, bam, thank you sam" kinda broad.

Cus if I fux ya, I'm probably gonna luvs ya soon after. So I wait till I know what I know and know a little something about him.

Ive had casual sex with ex's only, after the emotional love left the relationship. My ex hubs, and the other guy i was in love with after. Once I was no longer in love and no longer in hate, I was totally fine with it.

But with someone new....no can do. Maybe one day.....