@Loyal Lioness
11 YearsLeo
Will my Aries lover ever leave me alone for good ?
You basically told him to shove his friendship up his ass, that should have done it.
Posted by Jardsi
You basically told him to shove his friendship up his ass, that should have done it.
@ Jardsi, I feel that he basically told me to shove our relationship up my ass by putting me in the friend zone, but still wanting to deal with me when it's convenient to him. So that's is why I told him to keep his friendly ass wherever he was going. I just feel if you want to leave, then leave, but leave me alone for good, and he can't seem to get that through his thick head. Ijs
Posted by starlover
He will leave you alone for good when you make it very clear in yourself that you mean itKeep strong boundaries and be firm....he will leave you alone eventually
I managed it with one that was very persistent
@ Starlover, I pray I made it clear this time. He is the most inconsiderate and selfish person I know.
Posted by starlover
He will leave you alone for good when you make it very clear in yourself that you mean itKeep strong boundaries and be firm....he will leave you alone eventually
I managed it with one that was very persistent
@ Starlover, he has a taurus moon like you do, so do you think that has anything to do with him not wanting to go away and stay gone? I'm just asking.
Posted by ImTheRam
Posted by starlover
He will leave you alone for good when you make it very clear in yourself that you mean itKeep strong boundaries and be firm....he will leave you alone eventually
I managed it with one that was very persistent
This ^^
If you make it clear that you don't want him...he will stop..
But you have to mean it...Aries are good people's readers.
And once you say "No" and mean it...he will go...he loves himself too much (or too proud) too ever *crawl* for someone that doesn't want him anymore.
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@ ImTheRam, I don't understand why I should have to make it clear to him when he is the one making a choice to place me in the friend zone, because as I stated to him " he can take his friendly ass wherever he is going and stay:" It shouldn't have anything to do with him being a good people reader or not, he should not play with my feelings. I have already turned my heart cold toward him, so I hope he can read that very well.
Posted by AriesLove
I'm not sure you want him to leave you alone.How hard is it to cut someone off?!
@ AriesLove, how can I be when he made the decision to friend zone me after 4 yrs out of the blue? I feel that he should leave me alone, being that he made the choice. As a strong Leo woman I have no problem accepting when a person don't want me anymore, but I do have a problem when he want just leave and stay gone. He made his choice, so he should have to live with it. Ijs
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Do not respond to his attempts to get your attention. If he ever contacts you, just ignore him. He might bomb you with messages, but you just need to ignore him. He'll get the message. My Aries ex kept contacting me over and over again but I never responded to him and he just let go. I'm guessing that's how this Aries will act, too.
@ Lovinglioness1115, I plan on doing just that and I have no problem doing so. He has already started stalking my facebook page and asking people about me. I am prepared to ignore him to the end.
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by AriesLove
I'm not sure you want him to leave you alone.How hard is it to cut someone off?!
@ AriesLove, how can I be when he made the decision to friend zone me after 4 yrs out of the blue? I feel that he should leave me alone, being that he made the choice. As a strong Leo woman I have no problem accepting when a person don't want me anymore, but I do have a problem when he want just leave and stay gone. He made his choice, so he should have to live with it. Ijs
Since you don't want to be friends for whatever reason...do as you did and ignore all contact with him. But you can't be mad at someone if their feelings have changed. That's life and no one owes anyone anything. People fall in and out of love or just want different things in life. You said there was great chemistry so maybe that's why he wants to remain friends. You being his friend does not mean you have to do the same things you did when you were in a relationship.
But just ignore all contact to get rid of him.
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AriesLove, you're exactly right, and I will do just that. Thanks for you're advice.
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Do not respond to his attempts to get your attention. If he ever contacts you, just ignore him. He might bomb you with messages, but you just need to ignore him. He'll get the message. My Aries ex kept contacting me over and over again but I never responded to him and he just let go. I'm guessing that's how this Aries will act, too.
@ Lovinglioness1115, I plan on doing just that and I have no problem doing so. He has already started stalking my facebook page and asking people about me. I am prepared to ignore him to the end.
Lol he sounds kind of like a Scorpio. Watch out for those, too! They're the best tricksters/manipulators.
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@ Lovinglioness, he's a Aries sun, Taurus moon & venus, Cancer rising, his Uranus is in Scorpio. Trust me I know about those Scorpios, but I believe that Arians like to have their cake and eat it too. IMO
@Loyal Lioness maybe his Moon and Venus made an impact? and his rising too? I just guess so.
Posted by Lioness10th
@Loyal Lioness maybe his Moon and Venus made an impact? and his rising too? I just guess so.
@ Lioness 10th, i'm not sure, but I can tell you that we have been down this road before, and I'm just tired of it. I will just love him from afar while he continue to try to check up on me, like he always do.
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Do not respond to his attempts to get your attention. If he ever contacts you, just ignore him. He might bomb you with messages, but you just need to ignore him. He'll get the message. My Aries ex kept contacting me over and over again but I never responded to him and he just let go. I'm guessing that's how this Aries will act, too.
@ Lovinglioness1115, I plan on doing just that and I have no problem doing so. He has already started stalking my facebook page and asking people about me. I am prepared to ignore him to the end.
Lol he sounds kind of like a Scorpio. Watch out for those, too! They're the best tricksters/manipulators.
@ Lovinglioness, he's a Aries sun, Taurus moon & venus, Cancer rising, his Uranus is in Scorpio. Trust me I know about those Scorpios, but I believe that Arians like to have their cake and eat it too. IMO
Yup! Aries people are rough to deal with. To be quite honest, I've never understood why so many astrology sites say that Leos are very compatible with Sags and Arians. How would fire ever mix well with fire? Lol.
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@Lovinglioness, you're right Aries are hard to deal with, but I deal with him like he has never been dealt with before (by his on admission), I guess it's because of my Leo sun, Libra moon & venus, and my Sagittarius rising help me out, not to mention I was married to a Sagittarius sun, Aries moon, Scorpio venus, and Pisces rising man for 22 yrs. I actually believe that i'm more compatible with sun fire signs, regardless of their other placements, because that's all I have ever attracted an can never seem to get rid of. I had a year relationship with a Cancer sun & venus, Pisces moon, and Libra rising, and that was the worst mistake ever because I kept that man in his feelings. So I believe only men with a lot of fire in their chart can handle my feisty attitude, maybe a Scorpio sun, but i'm not sure.....I can tell you that I know how to use my Leo fixed energy on that Aries and he can't stand it. IMO
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Posted by Loyal Lioness
Posted by lovinglioness1115
Do not respond to his attempts to get your attention. If he ever contacts you, just ignore him. He might bomb you with messages, but you just need to ignore him. He'll get the message. My Aries ex kept contacting me over and over again but I never responded to him and he just let go. I'm guessing that's how this Aries will act, too.
@ Lovinglioness1115, I plan on doing just that and I have no problem doing so. He has already started stalking my facebook page and asking people about me. I am prepared to ignore him to the end.
Lol he sounds kind of like a Scorpio. Watch out for those, too! They're the best tricksters/manipulators.
@ Lovinglioness, he's a Aries sun, Taurus moon & venus, Cancer rising, his Uranus is in Scorpio. Trust me I know about those Scorpios, but I believe that Arians like to have their cake and eat it too. IMO
Yup! Aries people are rough to deal with. To be quite honest, I've never understood why so many astrology sites say that Leos are very compatible with Sags and Arians. How would fire ever mix well with fire? Lol.
Funny these are the only signs I've ever had long term relationships with. It comes natural. Everyone else is so different from me.
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@AriesLove, these are my longest relationship too. I was married to a Sagittarius sun, Aries moon, Scorpio, venus, and Pisces rising man for 22 yrs. Now, I have been dealing with this Aries sun, Taurus moon & venus, and Cancer rising man for 4 yrs now....he also have 4 other fire placements.....smh, I just don't know because no one else can handle me.....lol
Posted by lovinglioness1115
@Lovinglioness, you're right Aries are hard to deal with, but I deal with him like he has never been dealt with before (by his on admission), I guess it's because of my Leo sun, Libra moon & venus, and my Sagittarius rising help me out, not to mention I was married to a Sagittarius sun, Aries moon, Scorpio venus, and Pisces rising man for 22 yrs. I actually believe that i'm more compatible with sun fire signs, regardless of their other placements, because that's all I have ever attracted an can never seem to get rid of. I had a year relationship with a Cancer sun & venus, Pisces moon, and Libra rising, and that was the worst mistake ever because I kept that man in his feelings. So I believe only men with a lot of fire in their chart can handle my feisty attitude, maybe a Scorpio sun, but i'm not sure.....I can tell you that I know how to use my Leo fixed energy on that Aries and he can't stand it. IMO
Hmm, that's interesting. The element that I've attracted/have been attracted to the most is water... but fire comes as a close second. In both cases, haha. Do you maybe have an explanation for that? One side of me thinks that fire and water would go so well together because they kind of cancel each other out, but another side of me feels like I'd be too feisty for water...
@Lovinglioness, I can only tell you what I attract, and it's not water. The men that I have been in the longest relationships had mostly fire in their chart. I have mostly Libra air, 2nd is Fire, and 3rd is Earth. So maybe that's why I say I attract more fire signs. IMO
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I'm gonna try to make this as short as possible. I have been on and off with this Aries for almost 4 years now, and I must say we have the awesome chemistry. The problem is he's unpredictable, hot and cold, moody, annoying, and loving. Sometimes he ignores me for no reason, and I ignore him back. We have parted ways several times, but always seem to find our way back to each other. Last week he told me he wanted to be friends, and I replied that he could keep his friendly ass wherever he was going and just leave me alone forever. Although, I love him dearly, I am tired of all of the back and forth because it is so draining and I can't deal with him anymore. So please let me know if anyone has ever been involved with an Aries, and if so how can you get them to leave you alone forever ? Please help !!!