Will we recover from cheating - part II

some with sexual content. He was meeting random girls, basically, behind my back.
My world...stopped.
I tend to say that I'm not jealous, but I'm not stupid. It was as If I was feeling something was wrong. And hell it was.
I was sad, disapointed, surprised, heartbroken...you name. So I confronted him and stormed out of the house and was gone for a few hours. He couldnt leave because the moving guys were there.
After inumerous non answered phone calls and text messages before, I went back. The moving company was still there so I told him I was going back to the old house, grab my things and leave.
I'm the victim here, but he was crushed. He was crying, was embarassed, his face was white..Me, I cant even describe it.
Later on he returned to the old house where I was and we talked, shouted, cried. Then cried some more.
He is a very closed person emotionally, so it is really tough to get emotions out of him. And as a true Leo, he hates confrontation.
Basically what I could get out of him was that most of all he was very ashamed of what he did. That it wasn't a kind of emotional cheating, that he still loves me, that he regrets it but that he feels so bad with himself, that he is not sure wether he can still move on with me after what happened.
I'm a sensitive girl, but at the same time I'm strong. I'm not a quiter. I don't want to give up on him, on us, like this. If this is something we can both overcome. So eventually, I told him that.
That we can fight this. Because from what I read and what i feel from him..it was meaningless encounters. Not saying this is OK. Definetly NOT.
He is very embarassed. He says he doesnt know if he can take it. That he hates himself as a person. And that he needs to deal with his feelings first before deciding on anything.
So this last days, I had to deal with my emotions and still do my part and HIS part: by reassuring him he was not a bad person (I deep down believe he is not), that he was better than that and that I had hope on him as a man, and that I still loved him. But that I needed to know from him, if he is willing to fight for us and for my trust again.
In my heart I feel that if he comes back, he would come back as a better individual. I think he was so ashamed of himself that this could make him a better man. I just don't know if his selfish side is going to be stronger than the love for me. If he will be able to digest what he did and take the consequences, or if the shame will be too much for him to