Am I really a Libra—

Libra descriptions are totally off with me, am I a weird Libra— Maybe something in my chart— I have no idea, can anyone pls help 🙂

October 8 1979
3pm
Lima-Peru

Well I always hear about Libras being flighty, that we get bored easily when a relationship is not working and move on to a different person, that we are natural flirts... have commitment issues.

In my case I feel I am happier when I am in a relationship, I am extremely faithful and have no problems with commitment, when I fall for someone I am pretty much there 100% through good and bad, I like to be social but I have moments when I need to be alone, no phone, no family, nobody, just me. I would rather stay in watch a movie and have dinner than going out especially if my partner is with me.

I have also heard Libras are very cold and non expressive, I am very loving, touchy feely, and i will let you know how I feel always, also I am a little clingy and need reassurances of how much my partner loves me, I don't mind clingy AT ALL, but I do have a problem being vocal about how I feel at least at the beginning.

Thank you for the responses!

That is true Leeeebra, I am very shy and private person, I can spend entire weekends home, by myself and I feel recharged at the end of my seclusion, when I force myself to be sociable I am a success tough... some friends laugh when I tell them I am shy, those are the ones that are not that close to me, I have many type of friends but very very very few people know the real me...

On the other hand I drive people crazy playing devil's advocate in every discussion and my bf makes fun on my indecisiveness on a daily basis, but I find myself indecisive just in trivial matters, do I want steak or seafood for dinner or should I go for pistachio or cake batter lol but when it comes to important decisions I am not like that 🙂

Tiziani you are a doll, thanks!!!

Thank you Theultra79, that helps a lot!!! Is nice to know you relate to everything I wrote, most of the time I feel I use my social/chatty/non shy side in order to fit what everyone else thinks of me... I will look into the Capricorn rising. Most of the time I have all these crazy feelings and I am dying to say what I am feeling and is so damn hard, I turn to emails when I need to express myself... my Cancer boyfriend does not appreciate this very much... :/

Tiziani no problem, you explained the whole rising and moon sign, I was clueless thanks!!!

Dafna I think your description of yourself is a pretty acurate description of most Libras 🙂

Thanks Libra Sun 🙂
TheUltra79 that is sooo funny, everybody says we are not compatible at all but I am very happy, the only thing is my Cancer needs reassurance of my love but at the same time, he has difficulty expressing his feelings for me... He gets mad at me because I don't say it more often but he never initiates... That is proving to be really really challenging

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Posted by Dafna79
Thanks Libra Sun 🙂
TheUltra79 that is sooo funny, everybody says we are not compatible at all but I am very happy, the only thing is my Cancer needs reassurance of my love but at the same time, he has difficulty expressing his feelings for me... He gets mad at me because I don't say it more often but he never initiates... That is proving to be really really challenging

Yea. I have to say I find my guy to be emotionally selfish. Self-centered in general really. Not an initiator once he got comfy with me! Smh... Over time it's gotten better. I've just given him real life examples of the crazy shit he does lol. He typically will make an effort. But, for real, I've just accepted that's part of his personality. You just have to figure out if all the positive stuff is worth dealing with that part of him.

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I am sooo glad I found you!!! This is what I posted on the Cancer thread not too long ago:

"Cancers you have all these feelings and are very sensitive, need constant reassurance of your partner's love but why is it so hard for some of you to express those feelings... is almost like you want your partner to feel or to guess how you feel... This is very hard for me, I feel like I give and give and say it and he always says it back but the more secure he is of my feelings the less he would say it, or do things that show me his love..."

Sometimes I feel like taking a step back, going back to the first few months when he wasn't so sure about me and showered me with attention and crazy messages like "what did I do now" "are you cheating on me" lol now that he is comfortable he doesn't do that anymore and I know is sick but I miss his unsure self... 🙂

That is very true, mine has a lot of moods depending on what's happening in his life, most of the time is not about us but about work, family, lack of sleep... does your boyfriend tend to turn little things into a big deal and simple tasks complicated— I am so laid back, practical and positive and I have to make an effort not to let his moods bring me down, those moments are very brief but he does that a lot.

Our biggest issue right now is that because of his job, we don't see each other a lot, and it affects him a lot, there is nothing we can do about it but he wants to talk and talk and talk about how difficult it is and how stressfull it is... but right now there is nothing we can do about it, so to me is we just have to deal with it, it is what it is but I can feel how much it bothers him. It feels great bc I know he wants to spend all of his free time with me but he seems focused on it, that's all he thinks about... ahhhh

Posted by Dafna79
Well I always hear about Libras being flighty, that we get bored easily when a relationship is not working and move on to a different person, that we are natural flirts... have commitment issues.

In my case I feel I am happier when I am in a relationship, I am extremely faithful and have no problems with commitment, when I fall for someone I am pretty much there 100% through good and bad, I like to be social but I have moments when I need to be alone, no phone, no family, nobody, just me. I would rather stay in watch a movie and have dinner than going out especially if my partner is with me.

I have also heard Libras are very cold and non expressive, I am very loving, touchy feely, and i will let you know how I feel always, also I am a little clingy and need reassurances of how much my partner loves me, I don't mind clingy AT ALL, but I do have a problem being vocal about how I feel at least at the beginning.

Firstly, there is a gender difference. Libra men are the flighty ones or get bored easily and string people along and all teh good stuff you mentioned in the first paragraph. Libra women are veryyy different from libra men. Libra women are how you described yourself: faithful, no problems with commitment etc. Libras being cold and non expressive is a rumour the water signs started. Only they would find a libra cold because they are super needy and emotional. However, ask a gemini or an aquarian (or even a fire sign) what they think of fellow air sign, they would tell you that they are the cancers of the air signs. lol. They are needy, clingy and fairy tale romantics. So yes, you are a libra, mon ami!

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That is very true, mine has a lot of moods depending on what's happening in his life, most of the time is not about us but about work, family, lack of sleep... does your boyfriend tend to turn little things into a big deal and simple tasks complicated— I am so laid back, practical and positive and I have to make an effort not to let his moods bring me down, those moments are very brief but he does that a lot.

Our biggest issue right now is that because of his job, we don't see each other a lot, and it affects him a lot, there is nothing we can do about it but he wants to talk and talk and talk about how difficult it is and how stressfull it is... but right now there is nothing we can do about it, so to me is we just have to deal with it, it is what it is but I can feel how much it bothers him. It feels great bc I know he wants to spend all of his free time with me but he seems focused on it, that's all he thinks about... ahhhh

He can't get enough of you? Ahhh...well that's not a big problem to have. My guy is a triple cancer (sun, moon, asc) but he has a gem mars and Leo Venus. I don't find him to be moody. But if I go all day and haven't heard from him, I know something's wrong. Typically it's a family or school issue. He gets wrapped up in his parents problems. And yes, he will go on and on for days talking about it. Definetly preoccupied by it. The last time he was feeling down because he's just tired of being in school and working.

Generally, he doesn't let himself get down and stay down for long.

I don't know at this point if the cancers I know are just different from the rest or if I just experience them differently than everyone else.

My mom says I'm moody. Maybe they just seem normal to me? Idk. Anyway,

What's your guys chart look like?

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Well he tells me I am the moody one...his chart I have no clue 😢 he doesn't know what time he was born, he is June 26 1978 does that help??

Posted by Leeeebra
Hi Dafna79, If I may observe, your cancer is asking you to do something about your current situation, may be even change a job. Cancer in my experience feel too vulnerable to just ask you, so they show you and hoping upon seeing how miserable he is would do something about it. If this issue isn't addressed, he then would move to conclude you don't care for him, or you are too insensitive to care for him.

Although you didn't ask ; ) but my advice is to make him understand to Libras, or other air nature, distance, pockets of space is normal, something to be expected or even created. but to the water nature, they need the continuation and submerging. therefore this makes the goals of the two of you very different, you would settle but he would not settle for separation even when forced. It also shows you how close you are to his reality. Congratulations and good luck.

Thank you Leeeebra, now I have told him in conversation that I would consider moving so things would be easier for the both of us but when I do this he says that he cannot ask me to do that for him, that is too much pressure, that I cannot just move bc of him... I think I will have to just do it and stop talking about it... 🙂

It was in a dream, right? Maybe the symbolism means different things, I dunno...
But I don't think a libra would cry if forced to choose stuff under 2 mins as a sequence of challenges...
I think it would take the pressure off them actually.. I don't know. To make a choice under 2 mins is easy 4 me, esp for retail stuff. It's when there's too much time then the problem arises lol

Dream interpretation is totally not a strong point for me or else I would have liked to interpret it for ya hahaha..

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Oh I agree. Libras don't usually cry over stuff like that. What you said just reminded me of my dream. Just thought it would be funny to share.

I don't even wanna think about what the symbolism could mean. Hahaha

Haha what I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall if that particular discussion came up in couple's therapy one day!

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Voyeur!

😛

I do cry during PMS and usually out of frustration and of course I make sure there are no witnesses

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Oh I agree. Libras don't usually cry over stuff like that. What you said just reminded me of my dream. Just thought it would be funny to share.

I don't even wanna think about what the symbolism could mean. Hahaha

Haha what I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall if that particular discussion came up in couple's therapy one day!

Voyeur!

😛

Haha one of my many specialties!

But in this case more for seeing a counsellor with the cohones to actually ask "ok so you had a dream your boyfriend left the toilet seat up. What do you feel this SYMBOLIZES?"

Tell me how that isn't lobbing a grenade right into the room right there?

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lol! actually what is wrong with that question? I thought they tend to ask all sorts of questions in there.. weirder ones even..