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Posted by spica
I don't like how you utilised the word 'mess with'. If that's what you did then you weren't considerate of anyone's feelings. I can imagine you hurt the Leo pretty badly. It would seem like a betrayal both from you and his best friend, Libra. Of course, Libra is a good guy so he avoided you.
Libra guys tend to forgive easily. But it;s not possible to get back friendship when romance was once involved, so if you're ethical, I/'d suggest you can that idea and let nature take its course.

Posted by amethyst2002
You're 29 years old and use "mess with," as a way to describe your relationship with someone? What exactly does "mess with" entitle? Fucking?



Posted by amethyst2002
You're 29 years old and use "mess with," as a way to describe your relationship with someone? What exactly does "mess with" entitle? Fucking?
Posted by annabeIIsxo
she's a sag lol sag's never really grow up! 😛click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
I never realized you were that sensitive.
It's called teasing. Do you have any siblings?

Posted by annabeIIsxo
I think what they're pointing out is a lack of seriousness to the relationship. "Messed with" is a loose term, it implies you toyed around. Which it sounds.. like that's what you were doing with each other - toying .. fucking and that's it.

Posted by TheBeautifulStruggle
she just said that both relationships were not serious..so even if the word-choice is 'off'..(i don't think it wasn't) where is the problem with that? One can't have non-serious relationships now?
I'm pretty sure the leo's ego was hurt more than anything...and who really cares given that hte relationship wasn't serious to begin with.
All she was asking was whether there was any special way to apologize to a libra..making comments about her maturity, or her virtues is uncalled for and downright mean.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by TheBeautifulStrugglePosted by amethyst2002
You're 29 years old and use "mess with," as a way to describe your relationship with someone? What exactly does "mess with" entitle? Fucking?
Posted by annabeIIsxo
she's a sag lol sag's never really grow up! 😛
how are these interpreted as anything but mean spirited?
I never realized you were that sensitive.
It's called teasing. Do you have any siblings?click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
I think what they're pointing out is a lack of seriousness to the relationship. "Messed with" is a loose term, it implies you toyed around. Which it sounds.. like that's what you were doing with each other - toying .. fucking and that's it.
does the word choice really matter....geez louise
idgaf what your word choice is. and yes it does matter. since i don't know you.. you're asking.. you should try to use the best method possible to convey your meaning.
and read the whole thread before you start responding please. you have a tendency to be very trigger happy in responding to things before reading everyone's response. forum/thread etiquette, ya know?click to expand

Posted by amethyst2002
Mean spirited? More like calling her out on speaking like she's missing a few chromosomes. The entire story sounds like it's just full of immaturity and has been handled by all parties like a bunch of 2 year olds.
I'm not even sure why she's wanting to apologize. Because she gave him the silent "eff you" for being a passive weenie? Why would you want to be friends with someone who won't even stand up for you? Why would he want to be involved with someone who sees him as someone to "mess around with?"
If you want to apologize for basically telling him to eff off because you were upset, go ahead. But also make it clear that you don't think it's cool that he did that shit. My Libra friend growing up had a tendency to be a douche to me around friends. When it was just us, we were cool. But it was like he was trying to impress them by being mean. I told him it was bs and I didn't appreciate it and he stopped. MAGIC.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by TheBeautifulStruggle
she just said that both relationships were not serious..so even if the word-choice is 'off'..(i don't think it wasn't) where is the problem with that? One can't have non-serious relationships now?
I'm pretty sure the leo's ego was hurt more than anything...and who really cares given that hte relationship wasn't serious to begin with.
All she was asking was whether there was any special way to apologize to a libra..making comments about her maturity, or her virtues is uncalled for and downright mean.
thanks....i felt something that wasnt even related to the topic was being discussed.
i can see why non-regulars who post on dxp dont like it. everyones trying to be a shrink, trying to read between lines that dont exist.
Maybe you just don't see the whole scope of things. its important to consider the context (you know..the between the lines part 😛 ) in order to give you a valuable answer. We are discussing it to come to a conclusion. If you're so sensitive, maybe you shouldn't put yourself out there for us to dissect.click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
I think what they're pointing out is a lack of seriousness to the relationship. "Messed with" is a loose term, it implies you toyed around. Which it sounds.. like that's what you were doing with each other - toying .. fucking and that's it.
does the word choice really matter....geez louise
idgaf what your word choice is. and yes it does matter. since i don't know you.. you're asking.. you should try to use the best method possible to convey your meaning.
and read the whole thread before you start responding please. you have a tendency to be very trigger happy in responding to things before reading everyone's response. forum/thread etiquette, ya know?
i respond the way i choose, if ya dont like it...cest la vie
Oh ok cool. Me too. Then don't complain about what I say 🙂click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxoPosted by TheBeautifulStrugglePosted by amethyst2002
You're 29 years old and use "mess with," as a way to describe your relationship with someone? What exactly does "mess with" entitle? Fucking?
Posted by annabeIIsxo
she's a sag lol sag's never really grow up! 😛
how are these interpreted as anything but mean spirited?
I never realized you were that sensitive.
It's called teasing. Do you have any siblings?
the point is, i came with a simple question. how to apologize to a libra and the tangents were unnecessary
typical Sag chick. Demanding, and overbearing. You guys like to pretend you're passive when you totally aren't. You are dictating to me how to answer your question on a public forum. I'm going to use your response "if you don't like it...cest la vie".click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by amethyst2002
Why would he want to be involved with someone who sees him as someone to "mess around with?"
I was wondering that myself. I felt the point of an apology/making up was moot. Neither of them seemed to respect each other. Furthermore why should he stick up for someone who is only "messing around" with him. If she was his girlfriend, then I see the motivation in doing so. But to stick up for a fuck, who is presenting herself as a threat to his friendship seems to cause more detriment to the friendship (which he obviously placed at greater value).
Just being real.click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
For a fire sign.. you sure are an air head. This is why I like Aries chicks more... at least they aren't so bitchy.
and we are on topic dummy! You're the one bitching about how you can't control the conversation..and coincidentally its right after I inadvertently called you nothing but a whore to him! What... did that strike a nerve?!

Posted by annabeIIsxo
Here.. you want a more direct answer?
All you were to him was a fuck. You treated him that way too. Why on earth would he stick up for you to his best friend? And why on earth would your retarded ass apologize to him?

Posted by TheBeautifulStrugglePosted by annabeIIsxo
I never realized you were that sensitive.
It's called teasing. Do you have any siblings?
okay then, if ya'll have that relationship with dmv...I didn't realize that. my apologies.
See, how easy that was?click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
lol ok believe me bitch I am way more important than you. lol don't try to get sassy.
apologize to him all you want, you will be lucky to get a friendship from him again...especially after your history. I dont see why he would still give a shit about you now. he's probably moved on.
i think this conversation is done.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
Here.. you want a more direct answer?
All you were to him was a fuck. You treated him that way too. Why on earth would he stick up for you to his best friend? And why on earth would your retarded ass apologize to him?
your name calling says alot about you.
i see him as a good friend. what more reason do i need?
a good friend? shit I'd hate to see how you treat bad friends, or worse off the enemies.
if he cared, don't ya think he would have tried to talk to you??click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
sorry i just think its bs that sag girls are bitches and then they think that just because time has passed things are ok, an apology will do.
obviously your head was shoved so far up your own ass for a long period. you said that yourself. now that you've taken it out, you expect there must be a good way to apologize to someone (let alone a libra). any criticism of you is forbidden, its all what you want to hear and that only. . . did i say your head was out of your ass... I was mistaken.

Posted by annabeIIsxo
Ya well I am an aqua.. and I can tell you.. you're too into yourself for my taste. You just argue everything I say instead of trying to understand it.
Later.


Posted by annabeIIsxo
no you're not allowed to. because you complained and said we werent allowed to discuss so called tangents and bounce ideas back and forth. so neither are you.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
Ya well I am an aqua.. and I can tell you.. you're too into yourself for my taste. You just argue everything I say instead of trying to understand it.
Later.
well thats where your wrong. i actually read your posts objectively behind all the name calling and put downs and see what your saying. but to be honest, if you want people to really understand what your saying, maybe leave out the name calling and put downs. ever heard the phrase, you get more hookers with crack than baking soda?
all i can do is apologize. i cant make him take me back as a friend.
never heard that term, but heard something similar. what can I say? I tried the logical "nice" candy coated route, and you were getting confused. Had to bring it down to your level lol.
Seriously.. bye now.click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
and you say I start shit.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
no you're not allowed to. because you complained and said we werent allowed to discuss so called tangents and bounce ideas back and forth. so neither are you.
haha because your tangent was SOOOOO completely OFF
HA so you admit it. Quit trying to control people, it doesnt matter what your reasoning is. Such a hypocrite.click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
pft lol. just say you're sorry. if he doesn't accept it, he's not worth your time! 🙂

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
and you say I start shit.
did it? dont remember saying those words. nope. never came outta my mouth.
Posted by DMV
an aqua...that would explain it.
and a gemini moon. that would also explain.
the NEED to communicate and debate when there is no debate and no need to communicate on a deeper level.
proof is in the puddin darlin. you didn't say them tho.. you typed it.click to expand

Posted by Pecheresse
Yeah tell him what you feel, he will appreciate the honesty! We libras LoooOoove honesty!

Posted by aquagirl24Posted by DMV
ok i used to mess around with a libra guy for almost 2 years and he was perfect. his friend on the other hand was not, leo. i actually messed with the leo first and then i met the libra at the leos bday party. me and the leo were not serious, but apparently he was hurt by me letting him go and starting things with the libra. there was a connection. i was seriously imagining a future. for the record, i had no idea they were best friends. not until a year later.
me and the libra never made it official but he was a "great one."
fast forward, while the leo was dating my virgo friend, he was very vocal about me and my effect on his psyche. i didnt know he was that hurt and it hurt me that he was hurting. so the leo dogged me out to the virgo and i strongly believed the leo dogged me out to the libra. it was like the libra "changed." i never knew what caused the change until recently.
when i found out that the leo had been talking shit to the libra and the libra didnt stand up for me, i felt betrayed. i felt like i was being a better friend to the libra than he was 2 me. so i ceased all contact.
i miss him and would like to be just friends again. we see each other here and there but no one says anything.
whats a good way to apologize to a libra?
u were just unlucky... my mates friend was luckily a saggi who opened his eyes... that is why saggis are good mates... if the friend was an aqua would have helped you, but leos are just arseholes... (the men)... i am sorry, but you left, that was a "mistake" although the normal and right thing to do... u had to give him the fatal hint: you did me wrong without explaining, libran men are curious they come and ask you: what did i do wrong, then u could have explained. why u have to apologize— if you apologize he thinks he is right...
i like saggi-lib match, my friend is a saggi her bf is a lib, and i think they are a good match... eg she can talk to any guy, he wont be jealous, when its hard for me to talk to a male when am in a relationship with a libra, too controlling...click to expand

Posted by LunamistressPosted by Pecheresse
Yeah tell him what you feel, he will appreciate the honesty! We libras LoooOoove honesty!
This DMV.
Seriously just tell him, libras are very forgiving in nature, but make sure to indicate to him why you did what you did but really you couldn't have expected him to take sides since the leo was his bestfd.
Gosh leos and their egos!! lolclick to expand


Posted by annabeIIsxo
because you came in and said things that were totally unappreciative of people's thoughts and consideration of the issue. your insecurities lead you to shut the conversation down and verbally deem the discussion as unimportant and off topic... when we were trying to "think" and discuss the issue. It's frustrating to me, that you would tell me what I can say or not say. Please don't deny doing so, because you keep saying something to the effect of "dont respond this way because its off topic".
If you're not doing this to defend your insecurity, then maybe it's because you don't understand where we were going / trying to go.
If you don't like the fact we're discussing it, then please don't put it on a public forum for discussion. Or maybe go further to add a footnote in your original post that says 'dont go off topic, don't even discuss this amongst yourselves'. Maybe you should just post questions and restrict people from commenting altogether (if it were possible that is)... because it seems like you don't want others to talk about your posts or consider them further. It's is ok, however, to say things you want to hear.
I thought the purpose of these forums was to get a greater understanding of things, staying within strict lines seems to defeat that purpose.

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxoPosted by DMVPosted by annabeIIsxo
and you say I start shit.
did it? dont remember saying those words. nope. never came outta my mouth.
Posted by DMV
an aqua...that would explain it.
and a gemini moon. that would also explain.
the NEED to communicate and debate when there is no debate and no need to communicate on a deeper level.
proof is in the puddin darlin. you didn't say them tho.. you typed it.
i know right! good call on the aqua sun and gemini moon. but do u have any aries in you?
ya on the cusp of pisces aries be jealous 🙂click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxoPosted by annabeIIsxo
pft lol. just say you're sorry. if he doesn't accept it, he's not worth your time! 🙂
Oh.. I hadn't read the whole post when I made this comment.. So I kinda take it back..
I would say just say you're sorry you got your feelings hurt and you ignored him instead of talking it out like you should have. Ignoring someone is a form of emotional abuse. In my opinion, it's shows lack of regard for a person's feelings and is stifling IMO.
Anyway, you should address this. Don't be afraid to be humble (I know a lot of Sagi's who wont apologize or are afraid of looking weak).. Just be real, say hey I'm sorry I did that I know it hurt your feelings. It wasn't right, it's no excuse but I was hurt also and I miss you. Then let him come to you.. but if he doesn't take a sincere apology like that, then he probably isn't going to be a compatible friend and it may require more work than it would be fair for you to put forward.
click to expand

Posted by DMVPosted by LunamistressPosted by Pecheresse
Yeah tell him what you feel, he will appreciate the honesty! We libras LoooOoove honesty!
This DMV.
Seriously just tell him, libras are very forgiving in nature, but make sure to indicate to him why you did what you did but really you couldn't have expected him to take sides since the leo was his bestfd.
Gosh leos and their egos!! lol
thanks!
yeah he would understand why.
you know a few nights b4 thanksgiving, i had a dream about his dad. his dad has cancer and we would sit up for hours at night talking about his dad and my mom (she also has cancer). anyways, i called him the next day and asked him if he was okay. thats when he told me his dad died. i felt for him. his dad would have loved the man he became. and fathers day is sunday. 😢click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
I WASNT STUCK ON IT STUPID. I WAS BRIDGING THE GAP.. THEYYYYYY WERE ON IT.
I SAID THAT BEFORE!!

Posted by LunamistressPosted by DMVPosted by LunamistressPosted by Pecheresse
Yeah tell him what you feel, he will appreciate the honesty! We libras LoooOoove honesty!
This DMV.
Seriously just tell him, libras are very forgiving in nature, but make sure to indicate to him why you did what you did but really you couldn't have expected him to take sides since the leo was his bestfd.
Gosh leos and their egos!! lol
thanks!
yeah he would understand why.
you know a few nights b4 thanksgiving, i had a dream about his dad. his dad has cancer and we would sit up for hours at night talking about his dad and my mom (she also has cancer). anyways, i called him the next day and asked him if he was okay. thats when he told me his dad died. i felt for him. his dad would have loved the man he became. and fathers day is sunday. 😢
Aw 😢
But do what you do best, since your a sag, just apologize and throw the ball into his court-let him decide, if he accepts getting back together as fds or not at least its off your chest and out of the way!click to expand

Posted by annabeIIsxo
One of my best friends is a full blown pisces from head to toe, sun to 5 universes from here (yes that includes every planet within this universe) and she can bite your damn head off in two seconds flat. Aries, pisces, scorpio, or signless. Anyone with half a brain would get sick of you after ten minutes of conversation. You are a twit.
I feel more stupid for trying to help you from the jump. GFY.





Posted by annabeIIsxo
im pissed off you came in and bitched about how things werent going your way. you made suuuuch a huge deal over it.
^^^^
thats me repeating myself!!!
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me and the libra never made it official but he was a "great one."
fast forward, while the leo was dating my virgo friend, he was very vocal about me and my effect on his psyche. i didnt know he was that hurt and it hurt me that he was hurting. so the leo dogged me out to the virgo and i strongly believed the leo dogged me out to the libra. it was like the libra "changed." i never knew what caused the change until recently.
when i found out that the leo had been talking shit to the libra and the libra didnt stand up for me, i felt betrayed. i felt like i was being a better friend to the libra than he was 2 me. so i ceased all contact.
i miss him and would like to be just friends again. we see each other here and there but no one says anything.
whats a good way to apologize to a libra?