libragemmale
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Aries girl libra boy
...If that doesnt work just get yourself in a hot little outfit with heels and hose, with your hair all done up and painted nails and walk out the door... He WILL follow you !! make NO mistake about it 😉
Posted by libragemmale
...If that doesnt work just get yourself in a hot little outfit with heels and hose, with your hair all done up and painted nails and walk out the door... He WILL follow you !! make NO mistake about it 😉
+1
"What are you getting all pretty for, baby?"
"Well, I feel bored and restless, and I don't want to sit home tonight. So I'm going down to Charlie's to listen to the band. You relax and enjoy the game you wanted to watch, I won't be late. *kiss*"
*BOOM* He's up like he's been buckshot, throwing on clothes, eager to go -- when 30 mins before, he said didn't feel like going anywhere at all. 😉
HarHarHar on what Nefer said ! You know it's true , If he dose'nt follow you - he likes MEN !
HarHarHar on what Nefer said ! You know it's true , If he dose'nt follow you - he likes MEN !
Omg check your inbox, I know just how you feel. I hope my aries doesn't feel that way about me! LOL. Libra simply cant help it, they LOVE love. Its there weakness. When they are truly in love we pull out all the stops. I mean in our mind we've been looking for someone to make us feel this way for so long that we just cant help but to go all out when we finally get it (or shall I say THINK we've found it). I can read my aries sometimes like a book. He knows I love him, but I dont say it to him. I've said it once or twice but that's enough. He's almost there, but not quite there and I don't want to put the pressure on the relationship or make him feel uncomfortable for not being there just yet. Just as long as he knows I love him that's all I care about. But I don't like not hearing it back, so that's another reason I barely ever say it. I mean I don't want him to lie, but it feels weird saying it alone. So my cousin was the same way with her sagg and she's an aries. When they were friends they used to do everything together, party, go to the mall movies and I was always with them as a 3rd wheel, they were one of the most fun couples I'd ever seen, but I remember my aries cousin telling me that he started to be too serious all the time, and always wanted to be right up under her. It was started to irk her last nerve. Me being a libra, im all about compromising and communication before doing anything drastic like cursing the person out, so I told her to be open and tell him. He's not a mind reader, and you cant shoot the man in the foot for not knowing how you feel if you never told him. So she told him, and he opened up and told her a couple of things as well, next thing you know they left me in my apartment and went to the park and for ice-cream, my aries cousin came back with the biggest smile id ever seen on her. So basically what im saying is TALK to your libra. lol
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by NeferPosted by libragemmale
...If that doesnt work just get yourself in a hot little outfit with heels and hose, with your hair all done up and painted nails and walk out the door... He WILL follow you !! make NO mistake about it 😉
+1
"What are you getting all pretty for, baby?"
"Well, I feel bored and restless, and I don't want to sit home tonight. So I'm going down to Charlie's to listen to the band. You relax and enjoy the game you wanted to watch, I won't be late. *kiss*"
*BOOM* He's up like he's been buckshot, throwing on clothes, eager to go -- when 30 mins before, he said didn't feel like going anywhere at all. 😉
learn to exploit/benefit from his indecisive nature ?? la pisces 🙂click to expand
Lol
Posted by NeferPosted by libragemmale
...If that doesnt work just get yourself in a hot little outfit with heels and hose, with your hair all done up and painted nails and walk out the door... He WILL follow you !! make NO mistake about it 😉
+1
"What are you getting all pretty for, baby?"
"Well, I feel bored and restless, and I don't want to sit home tonight. So I'm going down to Charlie's to listen to the band. You relax and enjoy the game you wanted to watch, I won't be late. *kiss*"
*BOOM* He's up like he's been buckshot, throwing on clothes, eager to go -- when 30 mins before, he said didn't feel like going anywhere at all. 😉click to expand
This is annoying why do libra males do this though? My libra did it too, followed me when I left but didnt come when I asked him to come. I ended up wearing a hot short dress and just walking out, he kept following me till I was at the club.
Why did you guys break up? He changed since then, what happened?
I got the feeling when reading the OP that he was either really young, or he was insecure about the relationship. Near the end of the post you said he is finished college already so that only leaves option two. You guys have gotten back together but he doesn't know how you feel about him so he is laying it on thick with the affection and "I love you"s. You say it is too much so it is having the opposite effect on you. He senses this and wonders what he is doing wrong. He is a sucker for soft words and affection so he gives it to you even heavier. You get to feeling smothered... it's a vicious cycle. This can also lead to him wanting to spend extra time (read: every waking second) with you.
ALibra is right though, talk to him. Don't attack him with this news but tell him to tone it down. I very much disagree with getting dolled up to leave without him. While it will definitely get him off the couch and have him following you anywhere I think it would put more doubt in his mind. Don't ever try to make him jealous. It will happen at some point regardless but don't intentionally bring that into a relationship.
As for, This is annoying why do libra males do this though? My libra did it too, followed me when I left but didnt come when I asked him to come. I ended up wearing a hot short dress and just walking out, he kept following me till I was at the club....
It's not laziness or us needing mental stimulation. You asked him if he wanted to go out, he said no. He is allowed to do that. All it means is that if it was 100% up to him, he'd stay in that night. What was your response then? One of those wimpy fake "Okay"s? Don't do that! Let him know it is not 100% up to him. Tell him what you want. You don't want to go out, you want HIM to take you out. When he saw it wasn't just what he wanted (when you were leaving without him) he jumped up and wanted to go with you.
I got the feeling when reading the OP that he was either really young, or he was insecure about the relationship. Near the end of the post you said he is finished college already so that only leaves option two. You guys have gotten back together but he doesn't know how you feel about him so he is laying it on thick with the affection and "I love you"s. You say it is too much so it is having the opposite effect on you. He senses this and wonders what he is doing wrong. He is a sucker for soft words and affection so he gives it to you even heavier. You get to feeling smothered... it's a vicious cycle. This can also lead to him wanting to spend extra time (read: every waking second) with you.
ALibra is right though, talk to him. Don't attack him with this news but tell him to tone it down. I very much disagree with getting dolled up to leave without him. While it will definitely get him off the couch and have him following you anywhere I think it would put more doubt in his mind. Don't ever try to make him jealous. It will happen at some point regardless but don't intentionally bring that into a relationship.
As for, This is annoying why do libra males do this though? My libra did it too, followed me when I left but didnt come when I asked him to come. I ended up wearing a hot short dress and just walking out, he kept following me till I was at the club....
It's not laziness or us needing mental stimulation. You asked him if he wanted to go out, he said no. He is allowed to do that. All it means is that if it was 100% up to him, he'd stay in that night. What was your response then? One of those wimpy fake "Okay"s? Don't do that! Let him know it is not 100% up to him. Tell him what you want. You don't want to go out, you want HIM to take you out. When he saw it wasn't just what he wanted (when you were leaving without him) he jumped up and wanted to go with you.
Posted by ilyb
by the way libras are all talk and no work
thats kinda true and i hate that about him, I even said that to him once.
Posted by LibraSid
Why did you guys break up? He changed since then, what happened?
I got the feeling when reading the OP that he was either really young, or he was insecure about the relationship. Near the end of the post you said he is finished college already so that only leaves option two. You guys have gotten back together but he doesn't know how you feel about him so he is laying it on thick with the affection and "I love you"s. You say it is too much so it is having the opposite effect on you. He senses this and wonders what he is doing wrong. He is a sucker for soft words and affection so he gives it to you even heavier. You get to feeling smothered... it's a vicious cycle. This can also lead to him wanting to spend extra time (read: every waking second) with you.
ALibra is right though, talk to him. Don't attack him with this news but tell him to tone it down. I very much disagree with getting dolled up to leave without him. While it will definitely get him off the couch and have him following you anywhere I think it would put more doubt in his mind. Don't ever try to make him jealous. It will happen at some point regardless but don't intentionally bring that into a relationship.
As for, This is annoying why do libra males do this though? My libra did it too, followed me when I left but didnt come when I asked him to come. I ended up wearing a hot short dress and just walking out, he kept following me till I was at the club....
It's not laziness or us needing mental stimulation. You asked him if he wanted to go out, he said no. He is allowed to do that. All it means is that if it was 100% up to him, he'd stay in that night. What was your response then? One of those wimpy fake "Okay"s? Don't do that! Let him know it is not 100% up to him. Tell him what you want. You don't want to go out, you want HIM to take you out. When he saw it wasn't just what he wanted (when you were leaving without him) he jumped up and wanted to go with you.
Yea maybe he is insecure, he changed ever since we got back together, he is just a little more of everything now, affectionate, caring, loving. He pretty much does everything I say now. But I dont care about cute words or i love you's I care about him showing me that he loves by understanding my need for freedom and being active. I do everything he wants, I even learned how to cook, so I c
You have a few issues going on here.
One is that different people express feelings differently. You saying you don't care about "I love you"s and the like is fine. You just need to communicate with him that those things don't mean as much to you. He needs to understand what makes you feel appreciated and loved and he needs to focus on doing some of those things. He can also work on understanding how you show love, you learned to cook for him. You do things for him, that's how you show it. Now that we went through what he can do, you should do those things as well. Try to understand what makes him feel appreciated (men want this too) and show him.
Him not taking you seriously is a seperate issue that needs to be dealt with. If he thinks you are sexy when you are mad then you aren't staying mad and you aren't helping your case. Most likly you get mad but back down when he starts laying on the libra charm. If you back off, it tells him that the issue wasn't really important to you. Your best bet is to go to him calmly and tell him how you feel. Approaching a topic when you are angry isn't really going to get you anywhere anyhow. He will get defensive and either shut down or start trying to passify you. Go to him calmly when you can have a rational discussion.
One is that different people express feelings differently. You saying you don't care about "I love you"s and the like is fine. You just need to communicate with him that those things don't mean as much to you. He needs to understand what makes you feel appreciated and loved and he needs to focus on doing some of those things. He can also work on understanding how you show love, you learned to cook for him. You do things for him, that's how you show it. Now that we went through what he can do, you should do those things as well. Try to understand what makes him feel appreciated (men want this too) and show him.
Him not taking you seriously is a seperate issue that needs to be dealt with. If he thinks you are sexy when you are mad then you aren't staying mad and you aren't helping your case. Most likly you get mad but back down when he starts laying on the libra charm. If you back off, it tells him that the issue wasn't really important to you. Your best bet is to go to him calmly and tell him how you feel. Approaching a topic when you are angry isn't really going to get you anywhere anyhow. He will get defensive and either shut down or start trying to passify you. Go to him calmly when you can have a rational discussion.
Posted by LibraSid
You have a few issues going on here.
One is that different people express feelings differently. You saying you don't care about "I love you"s and the like is fine. You just need to communicate with him that those things don't mean as much to you. He needs to understand what makes you feel appreciated and loved and he needs to focus on doing some of those things. He can also work on understanding how you show love, you learned to cook for him. You do things for him, that's how you show it. Now that we went through what he can do, you should do those things as well. Try to understand what makes him feel appreciated (men want this too) and show him.
Him not taking you seriously is a seperate issue that needs to be dealt with. If he thinks you are sexy when you are mad then you aren't staying mad and you aren't helping your case. Most likly you get mad but back down when he starts laying on the libra charm. If you back off, it tells him that the issue wasn't really important to you. Your best bet is to go to him calmly and tell him how you feel. Approaching a topic when you are angry isn't really going to get you anywhere anyhow. He will get defensive and either shut down or start trying to passify you. Go to him calmly when you can have a rational discussion.
Yea I do calm a little after with his sweet words when Im mad. Sometimes when Im too mad I dont,I just leave.I havent gotten in a heated argument with him lately. But your right I'll try to talk to him, he texted me saying he is been going through a tough time but I havent replied back! Usually I call him or make him feel better by talking to him when he says stuff like this
Posted by oldskoolflavor
your libra's a 6 year old at heart
he's benefitting from (or taking advantage of) your maternal attitude ..
he can do as he pleases because you're more of a (passive ?) mother than a GF to him
your attitude says:
I'm way understanding & I'm not going anywhere soon, snookum
Maybe that could be it! But he loves it lol. Oh he knows I'll leave if he dosent treat me well. But youre right about him being the child in the relationship. He is very childish sometimes, and pretty clingy too I guess its just when he is in love.
How do I solve this problem, I want to be his gf not his mom lol
Posted by oldskoolflavor
you need to have a serious convo w/ him
- remind him he means a lot to you (awww) & you're thankful to have him in your life
- unfortunately, his current behavior will ultimately lead to break-up (sad puppy face)
not because he's a bad person, but because (1) you deserve to be taken seriously & (2) things can't always be on his terms .. where's the *fairness* in that ?!? lol
if I remember correctly, he's sort of dramatic dude, right ?
this sounds silly, but do not hesitate to exaggerate things, be all over the place
*just as dramatic as he sometimes gets*
because you aren't calm & collected, you must really mean what you're saying
I mean, you may find out he associates dramatic behavior w/ being genuinely concerned
he is a big drama queen!I do make it a big deal already and he listens, but right now we're not talking at all. I dont wana call/ text right now, we got in an argument a few days ago
Posted by oldskoolflavor
if you think you're built for this,
you'll have to play therapist+mother+gf for a while .. probably months
he's to become secure enough to loosen his hold on you,
get the idea outta his head that he'll lose you IF he doesn't cling to you
Yeah I figured,believe me Ive tried everything I could. I even told him he means a world to me, if he is still insecure idk what more I can do!
He is clingy but not in an obvious way. Though when he gets jealous of me talking to other guys & then he acts like he dosent care. I was talking to a my guy friend at a party and I could tell he didnt like it, he gave me a stare lol. I dont know why he was jealous! Was it because he likes my attention on him only or because he dosent want any other guy talking to me. If its the second reason thats not much I can help with, Im an aries, Im pretty and outgoing and I do have alot of guyfriends but no one is special to me. I only love my libra!
I say leave him, Libra men and aries women isn't going to work, save yourself the heartache. its all stress, we are just 2 different people, it could all be lust. if it was anyone else would you leave? if yes then leave, don't leave or fight your instincts, your an aries. all about self. do whats best for you.
Posted by sleepyrebel
I say leave him, Libra men and aries women isn't going to work, save yourself the heartache. its all stress, we are just 2 different people, it could all be lust. if it was anyone else would you leave? if yes then leave, don't leave or fight your instincts, your an aries. all about self. do whats best for you.
I would leave him if I didnt love him, and even if I do it would be for our best not for me.Heck I love him, Im not a libra, its not as easy for me to fall in love. If it was anyone else I would leave but its not anyone else, its my love. He has made alot of mistakes but he has been there for me always when I most needed him to the times when I wasnt sure about my decisions about certain things going in my life and I have always been there for him too always when he was sick, had problems at work and couldnt decide. We help each other out in everything.
I dont know where your coming from but when Im in love, its not all about me.Its all about us. So your wrong on that part.
All I saying is look out for your best option for yourself, if you was to talk to him and things didnt change or he didn't meet you half way, You have to do whats best for you. Anything else will just lead to a let down.
Posted by sleepyrebel
All I saying is look out for your best option for yourself, if you was to talk to him and things didnt change or he didn't meet you half way, You have to do whats best for you. Anything else will just lead to a let down.
AH I see
^^ thats true, and I dont like being cagged or smothered!
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