libra and aries

any one of you librans ever been in a relationship with an aries,

all ears,whats your story?

Dude!!! I found DXP because of an Aries had ripped my little heart to pieces. We had what we had, love and confusion. We are friends now and it's still love and confusion. Aries usually love Libras but won't admit it, so just chill. If she's not ready to settle down and trust me she's not, but push the issue. You're about to experience months of ignore and chase if and only if she likes you. Trust me, she has moved on and it doesn't phase her one bit. I had to learn that the hard way. My Aries is crazy and has taken me through some major BS but she always comes back. We talk like good old buddies, we argue like jealous lovers and eventually we just laugh it off like true friends. ENJOY! 😉

It may be a rocky start, but i've found librans and aries are drawn to eachother in many aspects of life. my sister and i are both libras. both our parents: aries. both grandmothers: libras. this has to mean something as far as compatibility goes 🙂. As a libra, i've found myself very attracted to aries both physically and mentally.

JOJOJO thats the same reason i joined dxp and i am in the same situation with MY aries

Maitredeamour and JO JO Jo thats hilarious when i started first reading posts on this sight a long time ago it was because of an Aries! Damn them! lol

hehehehhhee... i came here bcoz of a leo. but since then it has been always an aries who painted my life.

Yeah, Imma "MY" kind of person to .... especially for those close to me. It's my own personal little possession of them.

I have always been attracted to, drawn and appreciated the Aries ladies for who they are but have never really desired to be with one. I could always kind of tell that while there is a lot of potential for fun and excitement there is equal potential for frustration.

Aries women possess a lot of qualities I can admire and appreciate but I would rather do it from a distance LOL. no offense, I would probably drive an aries lady just as crazy haha.

^yes you would - like right now 😛
jking !

I drive MY Aries crazy, she's always saying what am I going to do with you? It's just a love/hate relationship. and I'm loving it.

"I drive MY Aries crazy, she's always saying what am I going to do with you? It's just a love/hate relationship. and I'm loving it."

My Libra utters these words several times a day. My parents uttered these words several times a day. This is something Libra just provokes with our abstract humor and trying to keep things lively.

I have read that Aries and Libra only works in the long run if both have compatible moons in fire or air (Linda Goodman). My bf's (Libra) ex was also an Aries and she tended to overreact to everything, which drove him crazy.
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In the beginning I would read way to into his every word and action, because he'd call all the time one week, and then be distant but not completely absent the next. Because I had a lot of fun w/ him and a strong physical/mental attraction, I would worry about it (Aries can drive themselves crazy w/ this but w/o some challenge we lose interest so it was a good thing)but didn't press him about it as I figured our relationship would either grow from their into something more stable or dissolve and why not have fun now.

It's definately a steamy, hot, fun relationship and I've learned a lot from him about his approach to life.

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I think you have the right mindset to make Aries woman/Libra Man work.

"My bf's (Libra) ex was also an Aries and she tended to overreact to everything, which drove him crazy."

I think this is the natural risk when it comes to how Libra guys feel about Aries girls. I never really considered anything more than friends with aries because I always felt that everything was a big deal to them. Now, that might seem like a little problem but us Libra guys it's not just that we are not the same we are completely opposite in that sense....nothing is a big deal, everything has a most workable solution.

So, we can drive them just as crazy as they drive us. I had the same basic misunderstanding with a scorp girl. Everything was a big deal and I just find to much chaos and drama in that kind of perspective.

It would only exaggerate it that I have a Libra moon, Taurus rising and Virgo in Mercury, Mars and Venus LoL. I'm very laid back and cerebral to the approach of problems and decisions. The only quality that aries have consistently found desirable of me is that while I am very laid back and go with the flow I am also very strong and have a lot of will power. They like that but it isn't enough. they want to see more "passion", of which we have a different definition.

nicod, there's definitely an over reaction on aries side, but leads the person on the receiving end to believe it means more to them than it actually does, if you laugh at it, you have them for life but if you go on the defense or attempt cower from them, you get more aggression and goes downhill from there....
things just don't run that deep with aries - one of the only signs that handles the aggression well is aquas

exactly ! when I get with virgos and aquas they become the aggressors 😕 no joke

If you're going for this relationship c that you have many, many things in common

"My libra calls me "my ashley" "my girl" "my baby" "my love" hes still got issues"

you like it and you know it ,

so far i am enjoying her attitude when we first got to know each other, i didnt really see me being in a relationship with her, she came on to me and i got hooked from that day i been chasing her ,so far the more i get to know her the more i want to be her,in short,it took more than just observing things without getting to know her,

she is unpredictable and free,that can be annoying(annoying not frustating),i didnt understand her then and i dont really understand her now,but i really have a great time with her,and i am curious to see what it will lead to

"If you're going for this relationship c that you have many, many things in common"

we do,movies music we are comfortable talking and hunging out,but i learnt from experience having things in common doesnt mean any thing,so dont base your relationships on that,BUT IT HELPS

"....nothing is a big deal, everything has a most workable solution."
-- definately something my Libra has taught me. Imo, we learn very well from ea other once the drama is eliminated. Smooth sensuality meets animalistic passion, coexisting creativity melds in different ways, I find I sleep in more and he's the one waking up restless to conquer the day, and then we cook a damn good breakfast wake and bake style , and it all makes sense.
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Natural physical attraction helps tons too..

Where is LS?

Lol! I didn't see this to now.

I am no longer a regular poster here. I prefer to pop up occasionally. It adds to my mystery. Lol!

Aries and Libra, Libra and Aries ? I must say I am incredibly happy with my Aries guy. It has been a long, long time since I have been in such an easy, happy, stable relationship. I think the key to our relationship is we amuse each other. He is very, very laid back and I am definitely the more excitable of the two of us, which amuses him (thus me) to no end.

He also just inspires complete confidence that everything is going to be okay. We could be on the titanic sinking into the sea and I doubt I would really give a fuck because we would probably just have a grand old time watching the sunset.

Doing nothing with him is pretty much better than doing anything with anyone else.

The odd thing is no one in their right mind would put us together. Our style s are very, very different. But I am having fun. He is teaching me to relax and I am teaching him ? er ? something I suppose. Lol!

It is kinda funny. When you are in a good happy relationship you tend to forget the crap of bad relationship. I kinda forgot all about bad relationships and how much dating sucks. This weekend I was over at a friend's house and you could cut the tension between her and her partner. I went home and curled up to my bf for the remainer of the weekend realizing just how lucky I am to find someone who gets my inner needs and makes me feel safe and loved in a relationship. What a FANTASTIC place to be!

Oh yeah for those keeping track

He is three planets of Aries. I am five planets of Libra.
He has a libra moon. I have a leo moon.

I find that the longer I am with him the more Libran qualities I pick up and the more Aries he becomes! So nice to curl up on the couch with too....

LS, it must be the Libra moon that keeps him chill...and maybe the weed helps too...

Our relationship isn't very passionate. It is a familar comfortable love not a passionate exciting lustful love. Passion is the one thing it is missing.

I highly doubt I would off myself if he did. Perhaps I just lack sentiment. lol!

Cooks

Perhaps. Perhaps.

I find that the longer I am with him the more Libran qualities I pick up and the more Aries he becomes! OMG - this happens with my libra friends ! I started hanging out with a libra at 13 or so and now most people have never seen me angry 🙂 ok maybe it's my taurus rising too which is just as venusy, right?

Good points Arianlatay!

* Its really stupid that a simple reverse of which sex is which sign can make the world of difference in the success.

Yeah. I am not exactly sure why that is but it does seem to make a difference. shittahy!

I think you two have found that middle way in this combo. Let each other be themselves, control when needed, support always, being friends and not sexually driven. Quality not Quantity.

Yea i always find it silly when people look for passion. Everything exciting got a downside to it. Safest is when everything is calm and good and flowing without much turbulence. But trouble is tat most people are way too immature to remain in such a good relationship and keep searching for better ones than they already have.

Why do you assume it is me denying him passion?

I have a leo moon and a sag rising, coupled with all my libra I am a pretty passionate person, if it isn't obvious. lol! A lot of people mistake me for a leo. Rarrrr!!!

* is it too much to ask to have both sexual passion and a great love? People always say its one or the other, that sucks seriously. Im gonna find a way to have both damn it!

I saw this comment today and have been reflecting on it all day.

Is it just that we simply looking for a saviour? We heap so many expectations on our romantic partners. They have to be EVERYTHING and we just set the bar so unbelievably/unachievably high. As communities and extend families become more and more obsolete it is like this one person has to fill all the roles in our lives that were once filled by entire communities of people. They become our number one support. And can anyone be everything to anyone?

I don't know. I think it is something we all wrestle with. I know I do.

What is love? What is partnership? What is commitment? What is monogomy?

Passion or familiar love?

These seemingly simple question are so vastly complex and touch on the very essence of what it means to be human.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts tomorrow guys.

hugs!

I think those are really common problems this day in age.

Although people complain our lives are so fast paced, I don't think that THAT is the problem as much as our lives have become some transient. Perhaps the two are linked. I'm not sure.

Relationships (and I don't in anyway mean just romantic relationships but just relationships in general, which I truly believe feed our souls and spirits) have become commodities of our throw away society. Those people who are closest to us are spread out and no longer near. Their absence leaves spaces, spaces we desperately seek to fill.

No one can appreciate these sentiments more than myself as my Scorp best friend moved to the States two years ago and our bond has slowly dissolved. I love her dearly and am so happy that she is meeting people and finding her way there but our paths are separate.

Perhaps some of the answers are simple. Find joy where you find it and laugh as much as you can not from bitterness but from sheer delight.

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How do you guys deal with aries' impatience? Or forwardness.

I came to think that the main reason I met a Libra guy is for me to understand patience. It is hard for a aries girl to sit and watch a decision that could be made in a blink of an eye is made after hours, days or even months of thinking. Sometimes when I get tired of waiting and being quiet I start a conversation which becomes a monologue. Do all libras tend to be silent when cornered? Afterwards I feel bad, I think maybe if I would take a breath in between sentences, maybe just maybe he would add something. But he sits there and listens, agrees to some and that's it. I cool down maybe make a joke, he'll grab it in the air and everything just flows again. Sometimes I wonder if I am not annying him to death. Other times I just feel deep inside he understood my point and it will be taken into consideration. But yes, I am learning to be patient, I am not arguing with people all the time, I fee more harmonious and peacefull. I am wondering though, what is he learning from me?

He's learning at some point, quick and bold decisions are best. Not every opportunity sits around and waits. Learning patience from your libra will send you on your way to something long term, if you don't get bored. Him learning to sometimes just explore on a dime will keep your interest and keep you around. Quality communication is good with a libra but just idle chat ..... down hill.

what is he learning from me?

decisions decisions decisions...
aries learns when to stop for a second and factor more things to decide when a decision is major or minor, so takes more time to do major things or ask for help of those who can see more details... or learn to factor in how quick decisions affect others around.

Libra learns that depending on the decision scale, some decisions can be made more quickly as it is not the perfection in execution that counts to others, it's the timing and intentions behind them that count more... that's why a lot of people think libras are very into themselves... I just think they try too much to perfect everything they do i.e. how people see them matters, so in the end, they're really doing it for themselves... idk...

Do all libras tend to be silent when cornered?
well, the ones I know go silent... sometimes they're just thinking though, they could wait for another opportunity when you're not so fired up to prove their point... more peacefully but libra like all other signs hate to be wrong or caught out 🙂
--- you gotta tell a joke and not get them into argumentative/defence mode... well like everyone else.

Do all libras tend to be silent when cornered?

IMO it's because they are major chicken shits. If it isn't shiney or sparkley feel good words of praise they turn tail and run or pretend they have no idea what you are talking about.
Aries is way too blunt and willing to get dirty for soft little Libra.

Do all libras tend to be silent when cornered?

For the most part I would YES. Don't like confrontation and when it's time fot the confrontation, WE DECIDE!!! Aries are just as soft, there's flesh under that tough skin.

what re u kidding me never never evereverevereverevereverevereverevrevrevreverevereverevr eeeeeeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! date an aries woman please dont? thats just somthing libra males should not do

? Do all libras tend to be silent when cornered?

Tends on what I am cornered about. I am a great debater. I don't like telling people close to me that I am upset with them. It is uncomfortable. I have no problem questioning people's ideas even those close to me.

? Aries is way too blunt and willing to get dirty for soft little Libra.

I find the relationship between Aries and Libra, Aries is anything but blunt and I would love Aries to get dirty. I find Aries turns gentle and soft around Libra. I also find Aries can be quite indecisive and unwilling to take the lead. They rather confer and take a group consensus.

Beingmyself,

Don't be afraid to make decisions especially piddly things like ?what do you want to do tonight?. I HATE that question ?cause most of the time, I don't care. When I do care, I say, ?Hey, do you want to do this tonight?? Those piddly decisions, especially ?cause I worry so much about the other person, are a total killer for me.

As to your question, I can't really articulate what I have learned from him but perhaps I can offer an illustration.

I have a bad habit of thinking about things and doing nothing about them. I will think and think and think and think. We are talking 12-15 years of thinking, wanting, weighting, thinking again, and doing nothing about.

This weekend, my Aries took me to a music store and got me a guitar. I have wanted a guitar for almost 20 years. He got it for me because he knows how badly I want one but also knew that if left to myself well ? 20 yrs might go by before I do anything about it. Lol!

Few things have shocked me more than going into a music store and just buying a guitar. Lol!

THAT is what you can teach your Libra. That they can just go into music store, buy what you want, and start a new path in your life. Sounds really obvious. But for libra, that loves to live in their heads, it really isn't.

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BTW it was probably the best gift I have ever been given. Just because it proves that he has been paying attention.

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bought you a guitar thats how aries do it but when you dont give it back they fly way off the edge and thats what i dont like

date an aries woman please dont? thats just somthing libra males should not do
after all we shared vsop? 😛 don't worry, I'll never buy you a guitar 😉 😛

poor vsop ran into an untamed aries now he hates all of us 😭

no fair

Little sparrow thank you for your answer! It is funny, I usually was a very decided person and now my libra influences me big time. I find it hard to decide what to cook for dinner and we usually end in deciding "kind of together" which is very sweet.
Last week we made some shopping and I stopped in front of the hobby department and bought some paint, brushes and painting canavas because I knew he has some talent and I wanted him to pursue it. Maybe some of these days I'll post a sample of the result.