Ashame...

i'm on a business trip to california for awhole week and tonight i decided to go out with some of my friends... i met this leo girl very attractive (she told me her bday)... we flirt, drink and things about got out of hand when she getting really close to me... i wasnt thinking and really drunk...she kiss my neck and its very tempting to make out with her but i didnt do it and push her away... dam now i dont know if i should hid this from my aries girlfriend or be honest and tell her what happen... totally kill my buzz...

being drunk is never an excuse! I know exactly what im doing when im drunk i just dont care much about it. If myboyfriend came back to me with this story i would find it very hardto trust him while away and trust is a very important thing in a relationshp. Alo did you stop her because you didnt want to or because you though it wasnt fair on your girlfriend? Because if you wanted to do it then it will eventually happen at some point.

i come to my sense and push her away , your right drunk is not an excuse but i was kinda slow in the head i flirt but never was my attention to do anything with that leo girl... i'm all at fault thats why i can't even sleep right now thinking how ima explain to my aries that waiting for me at home in Louisiana .... we getting engage end of the year i love this girl... i'm so mess up right now , ima be honest and tell her.

Hmm yes honesty is the best policy, atleast if you tell her the truth then hopefully she will think you will always be honest with her. You seem very apologetic so hopefully you will learn from this and not make the same mistake again.

Diddylibra,

I feel for you but at the same time...what were you thinking—?

Not going to judge first off because its not my place and second of all Im sure that youre punishing yourself
big time already.

You know its going to eat you alive if you dont tell your lady and if you do well....
Guess youve got to do make big time decisions to make and I wish you well whatever you do Diddy.

I had something similar happen in my relationship with my Aries. I was at a party and this guy I hadn't seen in a couple of years was there, when I was single, we had always flirted. Anyhow, we were talking and suddenly he was kissing me. I pushed him away and left.

I told my bf right away. He was fine with it. He was wise enough to know that sometimes things just happen.

libras and their damn charm.....

Didn't sleep yet i'm exhausted .. i told her thru the phone few hours ago , she tell me we will talk about it when i get home... she very disappointed and piss off ... all i can say thru the phone is i'm sorry .. i'm not goin out anymore till i leave on sunday.

I believe you did the right thing in telling her. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I want to say good job on that.
Hopefully she will see how sorry you are in time.

yeah thats my gf in the pic.

ahhh dam my gf talk about that situation to my sister and now my family raising hell on me.

^your sister is an Aries too right?

there was another pic of you and another ..is that the aries?

U did the Right thing and you are STRONGER then most men who hide and lie. Good luck with your lady and be strong.

My younger sister is a gemini.

Posted by spica
^your sister is an Aries too right?

there was another pic of you and another ..is that the aries?

My main profile pics is me and my aries gf and the other one is my pisces best friend.

Hi Diddy

I think what you did really took courage and I am pretty sure once your aries gf cools down, you guys will be back on track.

Temptation is always going to be around, but your morals prevented you from going further, that is what counts.

Let us know how it goes.

Posted by Diddylibra

Posted by spica
^your sister is an Aries too right?

there was another pic of you and another ..is that the aries?

My main profile pics is me and my aries gf and the other one is my pisces best friend.

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there was one more, dude. 🙂

i'm heading home tomorrow morning and my aries is picking me up from the airport... ladylibra12 i did all that yesterday thank you for the advice... cheating is wrong but was i really cheating? true... i flirt with that girl in the club but i didn't think she would do that...
Spica the other girl is also a good friend of mine a aqua.

I don't think you were cheating, actually..
but I'm interested to see the Arien reaction.

Whatever differences you have, do thrash it out before marriage. Its best to know all about them and vice versa, and... all the contrary stuff before, NOT after.

Yep we are all human...so put the shoe on the other foot and what and how would you feel if your Beautiful Beautiful Lady was doing all that with some HOT guy and then coming to you all apologetic—

For me, I'd be totally devastated that you were flirting with someone else AT ALL...this is what contributed to her kissing you so stop pretending you had nothing to do with it and were innocent. Once you except that then maybe your Lady acts like a Lady and can forgive you...

Although the trust factor has gone until it can be regained...however long that takes!

**just saying**

Posted by LadyLibra12
@ Diddy my apologies; I misread your original post and thought that you did more than flirting (especially since you mentioned that you were drunk). Sorry about that!

Yes, I do think that you were still disloyal. However, to be fair, you do feel bad about it and you did come clean. It doesn't make it right, but at least you have a conscience about it.

🙂 no need to apologize ladylibra12 actually thanks to you , you really put alot of sense in my head and i do appreciate it.

Posted by PandorasBox
Um.. That's not cheatin buddy. Not like you threw yourself at her. If you're lady is smart, like someone mentioned b4, to recognize that the Leo's actions are not your fault, you guys will be fine, plus, comin clean like you did is a commendable act.. I respect you for it man.

You're such a sweetheart.. But it's time you start learnin how to reel in the flirtatiousness. Just think, how'd you feel if your girl talked to guys in the flirty way you talk to chicks? They're prolly dig it no?

she don't deserve none of this , i never had any kind of situation happen to me and to be honest i dont know how to react if that do happen... i'm a libra and knowing us we are insecure about things like this... i might go cold for awhile.

Posted by sweethearts
Yep we are all human...so put the shoe on the other foot and what and how would you feel if your Beautiful Beautiful Lady was doing all that with some HOT guy and then coming to you all apologetic—

For me, I'd be totally devastated that you were flirting with someone else AT ALL...this is what contributed to her kissing you so stop pretending you had nothing to do with it and were innocent. Once you except that then maybe your Lady acts like a Lady and can forgive you...

Although the trust factor has gone until it can be regained...however long that takes!

**just saying**

at this point i am wrong of what i done , good lecture.

As long as you can understand where she is coming from and how she will feel you may be able to get through it.

Wish you all the best and hope this is a lesson learnt. We here know you are one of the good guys which slipped up BIG TIME...hopefully only this once!

Honestly, I don't think it is that big of a deal. *shrug*

You cannot control other people's reactions and don't think we should wrap our happiness up on the what others do or do not. It is a receipt for unhappiness. Plus, we don't live in glass bowls. We are surrounded by others with whom we must interact. Having no power over the actions of others, what are you to do? Yes. Maybe you should have told her straight up you had a girl friend (which spurs some girls on) and maybe you shouldn't have flirted, but ... lesson learned.

I really hope she is reasonable Diddy. I really don't think you did anything that terrible.

that should have been recipe. lol

I'm surprised you and Aries are still kickin it .... good for you. You did nothing wrong ... don't be hard on yourself.

Back home today and there she was at the baggage section waiting for me , as she turn around and gimme a big smile i'm at shock of what she is thinking , came up to me and give me a hug and a kiss , during that time i feel really guilty but waited out till we get in my car , as i was driving i decided to bring it up and let her know how sorry i am.. her expression change...here goes the conversation:
Me: hey babe.. about the other night i wanna tell you what happen
Her: i'm listening ( with a uncomfortable look )
Me: ( tell her what exactly happen ) pretty much what i told you guys.
Her: i'm very disappointed in you honey ... why you flirt with other girl behind my back & she KISS YOU!? my friends tell me to watch out... since you go on a business trip alot but i care less cause i believe you!
i left my family in california just to move here with you wth were you thinking...(more in that but too long) (she tearing)
Me: baby i'm sorry i won't do it again stop crying babe ( i pull over the car )
Her: your an asshole! ( hit me on my chest repeatedly )
Me: getting emotional too ( i told her how much she mean to me and will NOT let this shit happen again )
Me: ( thinking what some of you guys say to me on this forum about trust issue... )
Me: i love you babe and i know trusting in me is hard but i will do whatever it take to gain it back...
Her: she look at me smile and tearing at the same time , i love you too honeybun (thats what she always call me)
Her: i don't want things like this to break us apart so i forgive you but don't think i forget about it
Her: i let it go this time and if you EVER do it again i'll kill you 😕 ( in a kinda funny tune voice )
Me: ( Gulp ) ( Sad libra look ) thanks babe , okay are you hungry now? let go eat before we get home.
Her: Okay take me to my favorite 🙂 Haso Sushi ( expensive ass hell i come home broke lol )
The conversation was longer than that but i cut off some parts that is pretty much we repeat alot of our words.
Her: Ooo i forgot honey , now you have to deal with your family cause they know what happen honey ( DAM!!! )

Thanks everyone here on this forum that help me out , thank you 🙂

I know she won't fully trust me now , i'm doing my best for me and my aries from now on.

I think that its wonderful and courageous that you told her Diddylibra. Give her some time but its obvious that she loves you with all her heart. I wish you both every happiness 🙂

I'm glad it worked out sweetheart. You are a good guy. I hope she puts it all into perspective before you go away again.

This is way too much drama....I dunno I see it differently than others here, you did nothing so there really wasn't anything to tell her but now she's sure not to trust you and will feel insecure...I don't see her remaining faithful to you while your gone on business trips...Opened up a whole can of worms with this one...Good luck, I wish you the best. You just lost a wee bit more of your freedom.

When libra is with aries libra always loses..
be careful, shes gonna hold you hostage for your actions always to do what she wants
and will use your family as backup for her.

You're way too decent, Diddylibra. Go ahead and feel guilty if you like, but you need to see people and things for who they are and not what they present at face value.

"Her: i let it go this time and if you EVER do it again i'll kill you 😕 ( in a kinda funny tune voice ) "

She means it, dude

"Her: Okay take me to my favorite Haso Sushi ( expensive ass hell i come home broke lol ) "

Always about HER HER HER. Also, lack of consideration for your finances, since you came back broke. You just gave her more reason to be able to use you for her pleasure


Dont mind me, Diddy, I am very candid - I have nothing to lose, so havent you.

In a relationship there always have to be one person that give in , i don't mind at all really 🙂 actually on this business trip i make pretty decent income so she can eat all she want i just trying to be funny lol cloud is clear i'm alot relieve even though she might hold it against me but its all good as long as i know she care about me and know that i do love her.

Umm ok love does conquer all, but it also can't be blind.
A giving person always attracts a demanding selfish one.
I just hope there's a balance of power in your relationship.
I hate to see a Libra lose esp when they act in the name of love.

i'll be lying to my fiancee then... i can't do it.

Each peoples have there own look at this , im not a flirtatious type of guy but i ended up flirting with some random girl thats night , i was just bored and need someone to talk to, since all my friends are having too much fun. i can't control others action but if i could just keep my mouth shut than that night , this wouldnt happen you know what i mean?

I agree with spica and tasteofchaos...You have to be MINDFUL of how much power your giving over to your fiance, if you have a past history of allowing women to walk all over you then your bound to allow her to do that to you as well on some level, you picked ARIES for christ sake, one of the bossiest signs of the zodiac and the fact that you feel you have to snip your balls off for this woman says a lot about the dynamics of power in your relationship, mainly her having power over you.

Be careful that you don't castrate yourself trying to be with this woman, I love the fact that you felt you needed to communicate with her yet be mindful how you present situations or you will find yourself being emasculated and women tend to lose attraction for the pushohover chump kind of guys that she can boss around.

Although there was flirting you can't be responsible for another persons actions, especially a drunk chicks actions. Next time opt to not drink at the club or have a drink minimum, you can place limits on yourself as to not help create these issues but you can't stop living, breathing, being human to have a woman in your life.

She my other half that balance me out Libra's are indecisive and there time we need our mate to make the decision for us, i don't recall being step over thats just too much , my man pride won't let that happen.. i do have past history of women walk over me cause i spoil them but i make the last call by leaving all my ex's ( i believe there are plenty of fishes out there in the sea so i don't hesitate to leave a girl ) . If i get the same treatment from my fiance too i will do the same but so far nothing but love and caring she give me for the past 2 years we are together . About the club part lol honestly one shot of hennessy can get me drunk and its been so long since i went out its crazy. I'm a man and in my believe a man run the house not a women understand.

You seem balanced, happy, IMO your actions seem like you were attention seeking and in on some subconscious level you definitely felt you needed to rebel maybe b/c your bored with the relationship, I dunno, maybe your not being completely honest about this girl b/c deep down you know you should love her more, I dunno but something don't smell right about this whole deal but as long as your both happy that's what counts.

Thats the whole deal 🙂 as long as both of us happy lol.

"if i could just keep my mouth shut than that night , this wouldnt happen you know what i mean?"

What did you say to the Leo girl if you're inclined to reveal?

i don't remember what i said to her lol

Conscience is a personal thing...everyone has their own and no one can impose theirs on others so to Diddy he felt guilty of the situation and he had to correct it for himself, which is what he did. Telling him he did nothing wrong wont change the way he feels because to him it isnt so.

From the way he reacted I feel it says alot about his character and honestly dont think he will get himself into this situation again...he doesnt appear to be a Cheater at all but possibly someone that may have been cheated on before.

And go with it Diddy, marriage is a two way street alot of give and take. No one is perfect and we have to live with the little differences in other people..Dont sweat the small stuff is what to think about when in a union...esp when kids come into it!!

All the best SH

Amen sweethearts!
Well written and nicely put 🙂