Cancer+Libra = complicated Need help!

Need libra girls for advice about a libra girl I'm very interested in. Please read, sorry about the length.

I'm a cancer with libra rising. I've been good friends with this libra girl for over two years, she broke up with her ex (libra) a couple months ago. They had been together for 5 years. I gave her a month for the breakup before i made a move. Wanted to give more since 5 years is a long time but i hear libras can jump to one partner to another quickly. So i planned to take her out one week and she ended up cancelling on me because her aunt who really raised her growing up because her parents worked alot, was sent to the hospital. So i felt bad and texted her that, and if she needed anything to let me know. The following week when I first saw her after that, I surprised her with some pink roses. Told her they were for her and her aunt. She melted, and I asked her out again. I like to do dinner and an activity for dates mostly. This time she agreed to go with me and my friends on the day before my birthday for an activity that i have special talent in. But I wanted some time alone with her, so i told her before we do that I wanted to take her out to dinner. She agreed. So when i picked her up I kissed her hand and gave her a single red rose, first few minutes were awkward because she was very quiet....not like her at all. Shes very talkative and outgoing. After awhile she started to open up. Especially at dinner. When we got to the activity she again became very quiet, and started messing with her phone. I didn't say anything because I knew better. Didn't want to sound controlling or dominant to her. So basically thought that night ended as B-. Could have been better could have been worse. After a few days I asked her out again, this time I wanted to take her to a fancy restaurant with the zoo next to it. Shes really into animals, wants to be a vet in the future. She turned me down with excuse after excuse when i asked on three possible different days we could go. Uh oh! Few days later I brought her dinner to her work. Shes a cocktail waitress. Asked my cousins to come over, They brought their girlfriends too. I told her to come join us when she could get off. After awhile I noticed her talking to this guy even though she wasnt waiting him. Later she got off early and started having drinks with him! Not good! And i panicked! I asked to talk to her outside. I told her i cant do this anymore, i cant keep the feelings in check. Told my feelings for her

Cancer+Libra= Doom to Fail!!

When guys don't take "no" for an answer.

I have trouble with subtleties, this isn't subtle...she ain't interested. It's not complicated, it's just not the answer you wanted. Shit happens.

It's now been 3 months since they broke up. And I do care about her. If she wants to get back with him she has my support. But it doesn't look like that. Looks like she's playing the field. What bothers me is the last part. After rejecting me, weeks later now she says she love me. And she has kissed me before on the cheek I might add. Haven't seen her do that to anyone else. Just doing it for the attention?

I agree with everything Lust said. Every last syllable. You seem sweet, and if this Libra were into you, you would know it. I NEVER turn down seeing the guy that I like. The only time I do is when it's too late at night and I don't want to give off the wrong impression or idea. Otherwise I'm always ready to hang with my crush. In fact what most people don't know about Libra??s is when they really like someone, we want to be around that other person everyday if we could. We just don't want to smother the other person, so we act chill and nonchalant ESPECIALLY towards the guy we really like, or at least I do.lol. I'm like that because I don't like rejection or feeling like I'm doing too much. However I gotta admit with Cancers?? I never felt like I was doing too much, because they were always asking for MORE! The last cancer I dated drove me nuts because he always seemed to fuss about things he could not change. It was so damn irritating. And then he would sulk. I??d try to cheer him up, and he??d still find a way to be negative and emotion about everything. Like one time he came to visit from out of town and we got stuck in traffic on our way out to eat, and he started fussing about it. I'm thinking like dude, where the heck do you have to be? Please tell me? Nowhere? Oh okay then, shut up already! Sheesh, I was so happy when he fell asleep. (rolls eyes)

Anyway, back to you. You told her —I cant do this anymore?? — Smh. This is what we air signs don't like. What do you mean, you cant do —this?? anymore?? She was probably thinking, there is no —this??. Sorry but if she was not spending almost every day with you, or letting it be known she??d be interested in being your woman then you have no right to voice being upset with her for having a drink with someone else instead of going out with you. I seriously need people to remember that when the person you like is single, they are just that??_ —SINGLE??, therefore they will behave the way —single?? people act. She's not obligated to go with you, she's not even obligated to tell you why she doesn't want to. I mean really, you being a Cancer; are you even sure you can handle that kind of rejection anyway? No no. I say you read between the lines and keep it moving.

@pinklibra thank you. I see you here a lot so appreciate your response and time. And Lust.
She has a lot of water in her chart so I thought I had a chance.....apparently I never did. I feel horrible right now because of how selfish I'm sounding on this forum. I would do anything to compromise and make things work. But she doesn't want to, and I'm an idiot for missing that. I guess I'll cut all contact from her and leave her alone. Even if she just wants to be friends, I couldnt stand to see another guy hold her hand. I just hope someone great takes great care of her. I hate to see her again with bruises on her or hurt in any way. Haven't seen any since she broke up with her ex. She's a real definition of an angel and sweetheart in my mind. She's been through so much. She deserves better!

I guess my last question is what could I have done better? The damage is done. I'm in my mid twenties and every time I'm interested in someone they don't have interest back. In the past I've been interested in a Cancer, another Cancer, Libra, Pisces, Scorpio, and finally this Libra. Girls I'm not interested in, are interested in me. I don't want to settle for less, and I don't want to be alone forever. But at this rate I might have to. The only thing I'm picking up is I try too hard on the ones I like.

Posted by Cancer2448
@pinklibra thank you. I see you here a lot so appreciate your response and time. And Lust.
She has a lot of water in her chart so I thought I had a chance.....apparently I never did. I feel horrible right now because of how selfish I'm sounding on this forum. I would do anything to compromise and make things work. But she doesn't want to, and I'm an idiot for missing that. I guess I'll cut all contact from her and leave her alone. Even if she just wants to be friends, I couldnt stand to see another guy hold her hand. I just hope someone great takes great care of her. I hate to see her again with bruises on her or hurt in any way. Haven't seen any since she broke up with her ex. She's a real definition of an angel and sweetheart in my mind. She's been through so much. She deserves better!

Oh my, hun you have made the biggest mistake in the dating world, and thats "fall in love" by yourself. Its' when one person misses all the queues, and falls in love alone. They spend the duration of whatever piece of the relationship they have trying to get the other person to see what they see for the future, and feel what they feel. You being a Cancer i'm sure you are running off pure emotions just by how you put so much passion behind your words to describe her, sadly it's not reciprocated, but thats okay. Even no one admits it, your not the first to fall hard for someone that didn't fall for you as well. Just take time to get passed it, DO NOT beat yourself up about it, or dwell on what should've or couldve happened. It's just not that deep to her, and frankly i think you should waste another ounce of energy on someone thats not on the same page as you.

Irresistible libra..

Just realised the last paragraph of my first message is missing. Thanks dxpnet! Doesn't matter anyway I guess. @Lust I will, thank you for your time. All of you, thank you.

Posted by Cancer2448
I guess my last question is what could I have done better? The damage is done. I'm in my mid twenties and every time I'm interested in someone they don't have interest back. In the past I've been interested in a Cancer, another Cancer, Libra, Pisces, Scorpio, and finally this Libra. Girls I'm not interested in, are interested in me. I don't want to settle for less, and I don't want to be alone forever. But at this rate I might have to. The only thing I'm picking up is I try too hard on the ones I like.

Dude, I think I'm the one of the people who can really understand you. Cause I've gone through similar things and still have problems with my libra..I think I'm gonna finish it cause it really gives pain and makes me angry..I don't have any right to be angry but I feel it that way
Please listen libra people who wrote here..
Even if she wants to spend some time with you, reject her. Don't call her and don't pick up if she calls..Cause you feel very bad when you see her with somebody else while think about what was all you've gone through together..
I know you have feeling you can have her, you think she'll see the pure love you have for her and make things works..But it dosen't work that way..She'll try to push you and see what you'll do for her and give you nothing back but joking 🙂
Your writings make me remember what I've done for my leeb. It dosen't have to be the same way but it's so same..If you don't get enough attention or you're the one who usually want to be with her, don't make your life worse
You'll see world is enough big to find to someone you love and love you back..

Posted by Lust
Hey Funny,
Maybe, the next time you want to being kind with others, do it without any agenda behind it. It's simple being nice to other fellow being.
Just because you have a pure love to give that doesn't mean that the object of your attraction have to take it & give it back in return. You will end up broken hearted lots of time if that's how you operate.
I'm sorry that your libra is just not into you. It happens. Infact it can happen to any signs.

EXACTLY! Just because you like or love someone, doesn't mean they are obligated to love and like you the same amount or at all in return. This is not a libra thing, this is a human thing. Some of yall write on this board with things that all the signs do. Libra traits are the following??_

Indecisive
Nonchalant
Aloof
Disappearing
Flirty
Nurturing
Kind
Charming
Analyzer (sometimes too damn much)
Almost every Libra I met was silly as hell too.

Posted by pinklibra

Posted by Lust
Hey Funny,
Maybe, the next time you want to being kind with others, do it without any agenda behind it. It's simple being nice to other fellow being.
Just because you have a pure love to give that doesn't mean that the object of your attraction have to take it & give it back in return. You will end up broken hearted lots of time if that's how you operate.
I'm sorry that your libra is just not into you. It happens. Infact it can happen to any signs.

EXACTLY! Just because you like or love someone, doesn't mean they are obligated to love and like you the same amount or at all in return. This is not a libra thing, this is a human thing. Some of yall write on this board with things that all the signs do. Libra traits are the following??_

Indecisive
Nonchalant
Aloof
Disappearing
Flirty
Nurturing
Kind
Charming
Analyzer (sometimes too damn much)
Almost every Libra I met was silly as hell too.

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@Lust
Don't understand what you meant by being kind to others without any agenda.
Life dosen't have to be reciprocal, We all people already know it. I'm talking about being honest to the partner you are with. Not let them to understand what's going on. It's obvious every single people has their perception, we can't fully understand each other. That's why people have to talk to understand each other.

As I understand him very well, I want him to listen to you cause you make good statements.

@pinklibra

I agree with you

Posted by pinklibra

Posted by Lust
Hey Funny,
Maybe, the next time you want to being kind with others, do it without any agenda behind it. It's simple being nice to other fellow being.
Just because you have a pure love to give that doesn't mean that the object of your attraction have to take it & give it back in return. You will end up broken hearted lots of time if that's how you operate.
I'm sorry that your libra is just not into you. It happens. Infact it can happen to any signs.

EXACTLY! Just because you like or love someone, doesn't mean they are obligated to love and like you the same amount or at all in return. This is not a libra thing, this is a human thing. Some of yall write on this board with things that all the signs do. Libra traits are the following??_

Indecisive
Nonchalant
Aloof
Disappearing
Flirty
Nurturing
Kind
Charming
Analyzer (sometimes too damn much)
Almost every Libra I met was silly as hell too.

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+1000...especially: every Libra I met was silly as hell too
🙂