Capricorn falling into depression over Libra who left me in the cold

Just not meant to be.... there is someone better suited for you. Try not to take it too personal and think of the bigger picture.

I agree it doesn't seem meant to be. It's hard for Libras and Caps to make it. What sign is his ex girlfriend? Do you think he's going back to her?

Posted by DonnaLibra
I agree it doesn't seem meant to be. It's hard for Libras and Caps to make it. What sign is his ex girlfriend? Do you think he's going back to her?

Shes a taurus, its possible

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I could have never seen it coming.

not wanting to kick you when you are down but yes, you could have. if you believe that this came out of nowhere then there is a chance you might miss large red flashing signs again. let's be honest, he is not the first guy to (like an arsehole) drift away. i'm not saying you deserve it but let's clinically look at this.

8 months ago
libras and criticism
"I don't know how much longer I can put up with the bi tchine $ s/verbal abuse/cold emotions/passive aggression."

7 months
why is this libra being cold and distant
"there are times I feel like he doesn't like me OR that he may be distancing himself when things seem to be getting too hot and heavy maybe? I have met his mom in passing but he hasn't formally introduced us yet (though she does know who I am). When we're together, things are perfect for the most part and he's always very affectionate. We have been intimate and that's incredible as well because we share that mental connection. In the beginning of us talking, he was super sweet and we'd be texting each other essays throughout the whole day. But now....it's not like that.

He wasn't employed when I met him but now that he is, I've been helping him get to work and taking him back home until he gets on his feet to get his own vehicle. He barely talks to me in the morning, which granted, I understand some ppl are just not the morning type but I do expect him to at least be somewhat happy (and not crabby) when he sees me, ya know? And then once I take him home, we'll chat in the car for a while and then that's it for the rest of the night I will not hear from him and wonder what he's even doing. I honestly do not think he's cheating on me (at least not physically) but I'm wondering where all his communicative energy is going because it surely isn't with me anymore..

It seems like now that he "has me", he's stopped trying to win me over. He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant."

5 months
is he ready for a relationship
"I’ve been dating this libra guy for about 5 months now. we call each other bf/gf but he’s never officially asked me the question to be his actual girlfriend. Weird..
...[bit about hanging out with some friends and not telling you]...
he acts so mature around me and seems like he wants to be in a relationship but then he pulls away and i wont hear from him for half a day, whole day, sometimes two. i’m sure when he’s around them is when he can “let loose”. i just wish he’d be more upfront about it. and i myself am not sure how to address it or address the terrible nauseous feeling in the pit of my stomach that i’ve been having when he disappears on me.
is it normal for libras to want separate lives from their partners? how should I address it with him? everything else is great in the relationship, just feels like he’s being secretive."

4 months
am i pushing this libra away?
"I'm in a fresh relationship with a libra man (approaching 6 months). I caught him in a lie some weeks ago regarding him still hanging around his ex who he swears is just a friend now. we talked about it and I made it clear that I wasn't going to deal with any more lies going forward.

1/4

2/4

Fast forward to this past week and more details rolled in about the original lie. I couldn't go forward without addressing it so I recently brought it up to him 2 days ago and he lost his shit. I mean he got so loud with me and irritated because he said he was tired of repeating himself and talking about the same thing. But in actuality, I think he was mad at himself for getting caught in a lie. He still never fessed up to it and told me that I just need to trust him and he doesn't know what else to do to make me believe him. Said he's going to block his ex because clearly it's a problem.

Only thing now is that he still seems highly irritated by me. Nothing is the same between us and I don't know how to get that "balance" back.... Seems like I'm being manipulated because now I feel bad for what HE did wrong. What to do?"

2 months
what's going on with my libra
"Hey guys, so I've been with my libra for about 8 months now and we've had our minor ups and downs but we always recover and get that "balance" back, so to speak.

...Lately he's been super super irritable with me and I can't even think of what I've done to trigger it. Or if I even did do anything in the first place? I've asked him things like "well what's up your butt" and he'll say sarcastic stuff like "there's always gotta be something wrong with me." It's like he internalizes everything I say lately. And I in turn am internalizing this animosity because I don't understand where it's coming from....I'm a very sensitive person so his moods have been affecting me and I'm trying my best to be patient but it just feels like he's constantly annoyed by me.

... I've just never come across anyone who gets mad at you for showing love and support. Granted, he's been hurt a lot in his past. But it's really starting to hurt me and make me feel....helpless. He also always talks about himself. Only! Rarely does he ask how my day is, what I'm up to, how am I, etc. It wasn't like this in the beginning. And I don't know how to get it back or if I ever will...."

1 month
my libra guy is still friends with his ex
"Me and my libra guy are approaching a year of being together and since the end of last year, there's been a slight issue with him still being friends with his ex. Now I know that it's common for exes to be platonic after years of not dating but it's been a hard pill for me to swallow, especially since he chose not to disclose this to me in the beginning of our dating. That was strike one. I had to find out through my own investigations and one day i asked him what his relationship was with her and he hesitated at first but told me they dated a long time ago and mutually decided there was no connection and decided to be friends instead. they also share a mutual best friend and once lived together but he moved out a little before he and i started dating. however, he still goes over there to hang out.

...so many thoughts pop into my head and he's assured me many times that he has no feelings left for her but why keep an ex around if there's not an ounce of something left between them? [...] I just don't know what to do and every time I bring it up, he flips it on me and makes it seem like I don't trust him or that I'm insecure etc, etc. I can't tell if I'm being manipulated or if this is how a mature relationship is supposed to be like..[...] I suffer in silence but it's really eating me up inside because I'm just naturally jealous and I want to be the one and only girl/ best friend in his life. I want to earn that spot, but it doesn't seem like it's going to be happening anytime soon and idk how to regain his interest."

3/4

1 month
Libra switching up on me again
"I'm really struggling with how my libra's behavior towards me has changed recently. We've been together about 9 months and the "honeymoon phase" seems to be fizzling out. [...]. He disappears for hours on end without texting me, which is not how things were a few months ago. I've read time and time again about libras needing their space and freedom but it's really doing a number on me and my confidence in this relationship. I didn't realize I was this needy of attention/affection/clingy until dating him and I don't know what to do or say to reach a compromise.

So on top of this distance I feel from him lately, he hasn't been very supportive when it comes to my art and I've been extremely supportive with his (he makes music & I do photography). He doesn't ask me how my day is or what I'm up to or anything to show interest towards me (he never ever has) and he never properly asks me out on dates it's just assumed that we're going to hang out or grab some food. He'll ask indirectly or make a joke, but he never makes me feel like....a woman if that makes sense. And in turn it doesn't make me feel too wanted either."

1 month
my libras head is in the clouds
"So me and my libra have been dating for 9 months now. We're both artists, he's a music producer and I'm a photographer. He's been increasing in popularity recently on his social media and I'm so happy for him because he's finally getting the recognition he deserves. Only thing is, ever since he's been getting noticed his ego has inflated and he's been ignoring me and my needs.

[...] He didn't ask about my day or what I've been up to (which he never has), always talks about himself, and just was totally lost in his phone and social media. We went to the grocery store and he got a message on Instagram, stopped dead in the aisle to answer it. In my head I'm thinking like are you serious? I'm losing him to technology and all these new fans he has; he's totally detached from me and has never expressed whether he loves me. The only time I feel his affection and possible "love" is when we're having sex. Other than that he's cold as ice."

4/4

i would post more but it's not showing up.

It’s a challenging match, but a chance for success. From a cap woman that has had three long term relationships with libra men, you need to cut all contact and fall back. If he is interested, He will wonder what you are up to and contact you. Don’t lose your composure. Libra men like confident and assured women.

4/4
26 days
how to help a libra out of depression/anxiety
"I feel like I'm posting on this thing once a week now lmao. So following my previous post about my music producer boyfriend being immersed in his phone and not paying me any attention. He and I finally had a talk about it and he told me that "this" is too much. He said I have too many expectations and require too much attention. He said it's a bad time in his life right now and he can't think straight with so much going on and not being where he wants to be. I told him that I would ease up and stop pressuring him. and he thanked me for understanding. It isn't clear whether we're still considered boyfriend or girlfriend..."

14 days
am i losing my libra boyfriend?
"...things have been very rocky between us for a few months now because I felt like he was taking me for granted for the things I was helping him with and also not valuing me as his woman. So he told me he wasnt going to ask me for anything anymore (he never asked, he demanded things sometimes). He also said that I require too much attention and I'm too emotional. He hinted at taking a "pause" on things and I told him if space is what he needs then I would give it to him.

[...]

We seem to be in the power struggle phase of our relationship and I don't know how to be supportive or helpful without being annoying to him or being taken for granted again. He's also very avoidant of confrontations so it's hard for me to even communicate how I feel or even bring up the topic of our relationship and where it's going. He always makes me feel like I'm the one with the problem hence why I'm always the one who opens the discussion about things going on in our relationship.
[...]

Either way, I'm feeling helpless and I really don't want to lose him he's the greatest guy I've ever been with..."

Posted by CreativeCap
It’s a challenging match, but a chance for success. From a cap woman that has had three long term relationships with libra men, you need to cut all contact and fall back. If he is interested, He will wonder what you are up to and contact you. Don’t lose your composure. Libra men like confident and assured women.

That really helped girl, thank you so much for taking the time to say that

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I could have never seen it coming. We'd been together for 9 months with some mini conflicts and arguments in between. all because he lied to me about hanging out with his ex. I wouldn't have known she was his ex because he never disclosed this information when we first started dating; I found out from investigating his facebook and asked him so he had no choice but to tell me the truth.

Anyways....throughout the relationship he'd do a lot of sneaky/disrespectful things that raised my suspicions (ex: grip his phone tightly when I went to grab it when he was showing me something, keep his phone in the opposite room, text during our dinner dates, etc). I felt like he did some of these things on purpose to see if I was either paying attention or if I'd say something about it or if he was just trying to make me break up with him. We got SOOO close in March. We went on our first trip together and I mean i really felt like he loved me; it was just us against the world, he was happy and living out his dreams. he gazed into my eyes and wouldnt look away just kept staring. We were so happy). When we got back is when things took a turn for the worse. He started doing things that seemed like he was distancing himself. I would try to bottle it inside but there were times where I'd just flip out and call him out on his shit and he'd get defensive and flip it around on me, saying that I require too much time energy and attention and he's just super overwhelmed with how his life is going and discouraged financially and basically not happy.

So I told him I would ease up and let him have some space. He thanked me for understanding, we continued to talk normally for a week, then another week went by and his communication decreased from every 12 hours to every other day and now to NOTHING. I am so confused as to what happened or what to make of this. He's a producer and he did tell me that his ex is now pursuing her music career and he sold her some beats. All I can think is that he's fallen back in love with her and is helping her with her music and has left me in the cold. I've been ghosted in the past but this is really the hardest hit for me. I feel like almost dying would be better than this. Idk what to do. I met his mom and everything and apart of me wants to just go over to his house and tell her about her no-good son!

hmmm.. what is his other placement ?

He's got Libra rising, aries moon, venus in leo, mercury in virgo and mars in libra

Fuck that libra !!!!! Find you a new person to entertain you



Only then you'll survive

Posted by tiziani
I remember the cold carpooling story and the two artists in a relationship story but for some reason i never remembered them being both from the same username.

raise your game tiz.

Posted by DeadInside
capricorns'


you dont understand, karma does not exists' this is not because you are the most serious that your patner will be serious, this not because you hardworking that you'll see results in a relationship.

at work take the hard road and the work hard mood, but in relationship take the easiest path.

just when I thought you weren't Cap enough ... that was some wise and insightful shit.

you're taking some serious L's.You've made a lot of threads about him but what about you in the process? Ok you were happy 1 week but what about the other 8 months or something?

You do have to see the bigger picture here and maybe his ex is better suited for him. Theyre in the same field which means something to talk about wihout pressure or when their relationship sucks they have something else in common that can help them stay connected.

When someone wants space that's a serious flag and need to be left alone for as long as they want and for as long as they actually tell you that they're ready to be with you again. Not just because they call/text when they're bored.

So supposedly Cap women are strong and you need to have self-confidence to get through this.

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I could have never seen it coming. We'd been together for 9 months with some mini conflicts and arguments in between. all because he lied to me about hanging out with his ex. I wouldn't have known she was his ex because he never disclosed this information when we first started dating; I found out from investigating his facebook and asked him so he had no choice but to tell me the truth.

Anyways....throughout the relationship he'd do a lot of sneaky/disrespectful things that raised my suspicions (ex: grip his phone tightly when I went to grab it when he was showing me something, keep his phone in the opposite room, text during our dinner dates, etc). I felt like he did some of these things on purpose to see if I was either paying attention or if I'd say something about it or if he was just trying to make me break up with him. We got SOOO close in March. We went on our first trip together and I mean i really felt like he loved me; it was just us against the world, he was happy and living out his dreams. he gazed into my eyes and wouldnt look away just kept staring. We were so happy). When we got back is when things took a turn for the worse. He started doing things that seemed like he was distancing himself. I would try to bottle it inside but there were times where I'd just flip out and call him out on his butter and he'd get defensive and flip it around on me, saying that I require too much time energy and attention and he's just super overwhelmed with how his life is going and discouraged financially and basically not happy.

So I told him I would ease up and let him have some space. He thanked me for understanding, we continued to talk normally for a week, then another week went by and his communication decreased from every 12 hours to every other day and now to NOTHING. I am so confused as to what happened or what to make of this. He's a producer and he did tell me that his ex is now pursuing her music career and he sold her some beats. All I can think is that he's fallen back in love with her and is helping her with her music and has left me in the cold. I've been ghosted in the past but this is really the hardest hit for me. I feel like almost dying would be better than this. Idk what to do. I met his mom and everything and apart of me wants to just go over to his house and tell her about her no-good son!

I hate to say this but the thing about us Libras is we can get caught up in the moment which can make a person think we are in love when in fact we are in love with love. I think that is why after you two returned from your trip he started pulling back. He knew he wasn't feeling what he expressed and that you were falling for him deeply so he made up ridiculous excuses not to be with you. I doubt if he's gone back to his ex but possibly still has feelings for her. The fact that she is moving forward in her music career is interesting to him and will draw him to her. You have to get up and get out of the house and start living your life. Put your phone down and work out, eat good and make plans to move on with your life.

Posted by stillstillwater

So supposedly Cap women are strong and you need to have self-confidence to get through this.

I have a Cap friend and she has been pinning over this same guy for 2 years now. I wish she too would move on.

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by stillstillwater

So supposedly Cap women are strong and you need to have self-confidence to get through this.

I have a Cap friend and she has been pinning over this same guy for 2 years now. I wish she too would move on. click to expand

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true we suck at love. I think one dude took me like 5 years but I didn't stop dating or trying to get over it. It was just like a on and off feeling. But I read that for caps once they fall in love it's forever... lol

Posted by DeadInside

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by stillstillwater

So supposedly Cap women are strong and you need to have self-confidence to get through this.

I have a Cap friend and she has been pinning over this same guy for 2 years now. I wish she too would move on. click to expand

true we suck at love. I think one dude took me like 5 years but I didn't stop dating or trying to get over it. It was just like a on and off feeling. But I read that for caps once they fall in love it's forever... lol click to expand

ROAD TO FUCCBOII click to expand

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lmao for you??