Changing Plans

Ladies, tell me if you would be upset if this happened:

My boyfriend and I got to bed fairly early, but I've been sick and congested, so apparently I was snoring...lol I slept great but he didn't and maybe got 6 hours sleep. So this morning as we were in the bathroom getting ready for work, he specifically said he was going to go to bed early tonight because he's tired. I asked him if he wanted to just relax tonight at home and do his own thing and he said "Probably"....I've come to know that when he says probably, he really means "Yes" because he doesn't like to rock the boat.

So this afternoon, I decided on a whim that I was going to drive to Louisiana and go to a casino for a few hours. I left work at noon (I work short days on Fridays) and headed to Louisiana. I get a text message from my bf around 2 asking what I was up to. I told him I was almost to a casino. His reply was "oh".

A few minutes went by and he sent another text message asking when I decided to do this. I replied with "I planned it after you left this morning when you said you were going to bed early tonight. Hope you aren't upset". His reply "No, not upset AT ALL. Be safe".

Well around 8 pm this evening while I was driving back to the Houston area, he called. I figured he was at home about to go to bed soon. When I asked him if he was ready to crash, he said he was out with co-workers at a happy hour. I got quiet because I was perturbed he did that. I didn't ask him to go to the casino with me because he said he was tired twice to me (once while getting ready for work and again when he called me mid-morning at work) and actually thought I would have fun by myself, which I did....

Part of me can't help but think he didn't like the fact I made this decision without consulting with him first, so he basically said "Screw it, I'm changing my plans"...

I just a text message from him saying he's home - that was at 11 pm. For someone who wanted to get to bed early, that's quiet late (since we both tend to stay up until midnight most nights).

I didn't start an argument, but I did get quiet and he knows me quite well enough to know that when I get quiet, there's something on my mind.

What do you think? Do you think he went out and stayed out late out of spite?

No probably out of loneliness?? I dont think Librans are spiteful

lonely? even though he told me this morning that he wanted to just relax alone at home?

When we say we are tired, it means we are tired and hoping to get to bed early. But it can all change if someone or something charms us up. We can go out and stay out all night even if we are dead tired. There is no spite in it. Its the way we are. I can work 2-3 days nonstop if i want to and in good mood. Yday I was tired. Didnt got much sleep. Whole day at office I was working non stop. I wanted to go to bed early but got busy watching movies and slept at 2 am. One evening I was so tired, lying on bed and chatting. One friend said lets meet, I got shower and went out at 11pm and was out till 3 am or something.

true, lkat. i wish i had your perfect relationship. 🙂

no blowing up. i didn't mention anything to him nor do I plan to. I just found his bahavior odd after I told him I was leaving town for a while. It perturbed me, but I'm good to go now. 🙂

I liked your scenario.
What I gather is, he really wanted you around. But since you left on your own to have some fun, he thought he shouldn't miss out on it too.
When you told him regarding sleeping in, he probably thought you wouldn't sneak off to have fun on your own. Perhaps he was thinking you'd stay home with him.
Plans aren't really fixed with libra. He probably went off because he felt lonely.

HP, I actually agree with spica. I think he got lonely and didn't want to be home alone, when he texted you to see what you were up to, I think he wanted you to relax early with him. Since he didn't want to be alone, he decided to hang out with friends. I really don't think there was any spite involved. Librans can be perfectly fine alone at times, then they can feel very lonely and just want company.

No probably out of loneliness?? I dont think Librans are spiteful"""

...just go leave and drive to another state just like that... no invitation no warning no nothing!!!...did you even think of me—...NO!Since when is going to bed early from 2-8pm?...So who were you at the casino having fun with 'cause it certainly wasnt me HP—

even if i was too tired to go just to know that you considered me enough to ask and let me know...

something couldve happened to you and how would i know you were out of state tothe casino...

babe...i'm all about doing things on a whim...but lets be together (physically/mentally)on these kind of things...connection partnership communication...

i love you...

he trusts me. i was out of state at a casino and I've asked him to go to this particular casino before, but he never seemed interested. he was totally fine when i got home. 🙂

What do you think? Do you think he went out and stayed out late out of spite?
Doubtful. This has has happened to me. I am so, so, so tired all morning I am convinced I am going straight home and to bed. Around 3-4, I start waking up by 8 I am fully awake and looking for something to do.

When he called you at 2, he was probably seeing what you were up too and wanting to know if you wanted to do something, but you already had plans, so he made his own.

There have been a number of times I have cancelled plans early on in the day like around 1 or 2 only to regret it a few hours later because I have my second wind. This is probably what happened to your chap. Since you were busy, he just found a friend.

he trusts me. i was out of state at a casino and I've asked him to go to this particular casino before, but he never seemed interested. he was totally fine when i got home.""

Oh just bust my little emotionally driven bubble if you will ~sighs~

Houstonpeach remember that libra's are very indecisive. I catch myself changing plans everyday. I will say "Aw I don't wanna go out tonight." but I'll end up going anyway. Also since libra's don't like to say "no" his friends may have called him up and begged him to go with them. We hate to let our friends down ... even if that means for us to be uncomfortable. So don't let it get to you. Also I would have talked to him first before you make plans like that. Maybe he thought you were mad at him. He might have just wanted to cuddle up with you. We libra's love to cuddle. Let me know how it goes. Hope this helped.

I think he had a whim just as you did, and thus decided to go out with friends. Sounds like you have a pretty solid relationship with your BF.

yes, it's pretty solid for the most part. we have fun but lately i've been wanting to spend time alone. 😢 i guess that's natural.

i truly trust him, but i do not trust the guy who is renting a room from my bf.