Smitten_already
@Smitten_already
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Help me have a good start!
please help me! 😢
Guys please I thought I would find some replies....I really want to get closer to this not-so-available guy..please help me achieve this goal of getting to know him & attract him ..
I guess there isn't really much to say because it sounds like he's not that interested sweetheart.
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interested
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interested
Posted by Capmercury87I don't know unfortunately
What are his planet placements?
Posted by ShrewdsharpThis is what it seems so far...I just feel I need to give it a try ..maybe it's because he is busy..I want to check if he us going to contact me during his holiday or not and want to be ready for that by asking about his traits and what he likes...etc.
I guess there isn't really much to say because it sounds like he's not that interested sweetheart.
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interested
I will be prepared if it turned out to be like what u said ..hopefully not :/
Posted by LibrasettingHe us extra busy ..I can see he doesn't come online for one ir two days! That would be so difficult specially that we don't live in the same country...if ever he comes back contacting me how can I be so attractive to encourage him to talk more often?Posted by ShrewdsharpI wouldn't say that, he might be really busy. Beside I personally hate talking on the phone and texting and that's kinda of the problem right there.
I guess there isn't really much to say because it sounds like he's not that interested sweetheart.
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interestedclick to expand
He's not interested, honey. You're coming across desperate and needy because you're chasing after the dude you had one interaction with. Get a damned hint and get some self respect. He's being friendly and will chat with you because that's how Libras roll.
"He is busy" is NEVER an excuse for a guy who is into you. He obviously found time to see you the first time. He's not just magically too busy after the fact.
The big question is why are you chasing after this dude like you're desperate as fuck?
"He is busy" is NEVER an excuse for a guy who is into you. He obviously found time to see you the first time. He's not just magically too busy after the fact.
The big question is why are you chasing after this dude like you're desperate as fuck?
I don't understand why you would waste your time holding out for someone who is not available.
Posted by LibrasettingThis is horse shit. Stop coddling and lying to her.Posted by ShrewdsharpI wouldn't say that, he might be really busy. Beside I personally hate talking on the phone and texting and that's kinda of the problem right there.
I guess there isn't really much to say because it sounds like he's not that interested sweetheart.
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interestedclick to expand
Going a month without contact isn't "busy" it's "I couldn't give a fuck about you."
"Busy" is if you don't hear from them within a couple of days vs the usual daily/hourly/whatever thing.
Even then, "busy" is rarely ever a legit excuse. When someone is into you, none of this bullshit happens.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamOk I think you are right about the possibility of him being not interested, but can u tell me where in my story did I mention that I am chasing him? I mentioned I only initiated a conversation with him ONCE ..and the first was a greeting card ..The remaining 2 times were him talking first ...i don't think u consider thinking about how to get him attracted to me is considered chasing..
He's not interested, honey. You're coming across desperate and needy because you're chasing after the dude you had one interaction with. Get a damned hint and get some self respect. He's being friendly and will chat with you because that's how Libras roll.
"He is busy" is NEVER an excuse for a guy who is into you. He obviously found time to see you the first time. He's not just magically too busy after the fact.
The big question is why are you chasing after this dude like you're desperate as fuck?
Thanks for ur advice guys, ur answers are like a wakeup call to me to stop thinking it might be something serious...
Posted by Smitten_alreadyGood decision! Don't waste your time anymore. It's been 3 years you are looking - so keep looking. There is a los to every pot! 😉Posted by rockyroadicecreamOk I think you are right about the possibility of him being not interested, but can u tell me where in my story did I mention that I am chasing him? I mentioned I only initiated a conversation with him ONCE ..and the first was a greeting card ..The remaining 2 times were him talking first ...i don't think u consider thinking about how to get him attracted to me is considered chasing..
He's not interested, honey. You're coming across desperate and needy because you're chasing after the dude you had one interaction with. Get a damned hint and get some self respect. He's being friendly and will chat with you because that's how Libras roll.
"He is busy" is NEVER an excuse for a guy who is into you. He obviously found time to see you the first time. He's not just magically too busy after the fact.
The big question is why are you chasing after this dude like you're desperate as fuck?
Thanks for ur advice guys, ur answers are like a wakeup call to me to stop thinking it might be something serious...
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Posted by rockyroadicecreamI have to say, this is a lesson I keep trying to teach myself, but I'm too stupid to learn it.
"Busy" is if you don't hear from them within a couple of days vs the usual daily/hourly/whatever thing.
Even then, "busy" is rarely ever a legit excuse. When someone is into you, none of this bullshit happens.
If somebody likes you, you usually don't have to sit around wondering. If they like you, they make an effort to talk to you and be with you.
I work 14 hours a day, 7 days a week, and have no problem finding a few minutes to chat with the girl I'm interested in. It's the ones I'm NOT interested in that I push off until I have free time.
You Libras feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but from my experience Libra women are very sexual and physical. I can imagine that it would be hard for a Libra to have a non-physical long-distance relationship, anyway.
Posted by csdude55For myself, I could never do a long distance relationship. It becomes
You Libras feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but from my experience Libra women are very sexual and physical. I can imagine that it would be hard for a Libra to have a non-physical long-distance relationship, anyway.
Posted by csdude55This. It was something of a serious eye opening moment when I did experience guys who were into me. It's so damned obvious and any of the dudes who I had ever spent that whole "what if" conundrum on was like omg yeah, SO different and obvious. Dahell was I doing??Posted by rockyroadicecreamI have to say, this is a lesson I keep trying to teach myself, but I'm too stupid to learn it.
"Busy" is if you don't hear from them within a couple of days vs the usual daily/hourly/whatever thing.
Even then, "busy" is rarely ever a legit excuse. When someone is into you, none of this bullshit happens.
If somebody likes you, you usually don't have to sit around wondering. If they like you, they make an effort to talk to you and be with you.
I work 14 hours a day, 7 days a week, and have no problem finding a few minutes to chat with the girl I'm interested in. It's the ones I'm NOT interested in that I push off until I have free time.
You Libras feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but from my experience Libra women are very sexual and physical. I can imagine that it would be hard for a Libra to have a non-physical long-distance relationship, anyway.click to expand
So once someone, ANYONE, who has experienced it and knows, they have NO reason to sit here and be like "oh tee hee, does he/she like me if they looked at me at midnight on a 4th Tuesday and said, "Hi?"
It is NOT that hard to figure out, people. You KNOW when someone is into you.
People just want to ignore that and base everything on THEIR feelings. "Well I like this person/want this to work because of the fantasy in my head, so I'm just going to ignore the obvious. I WANT this so fuck reality."
We have way too many adults thinking like teenagers. It's freaking ridiculous.
Posted by 2MoonSoo...."He's not into you."Posted by rockyroadicecreamYou could be right or totally wrong.Posted by LibrasettingThis is horse shit. Stop coddling and lying to her.Posted by ShrewdsharpI wouldn't say that, he might be really busy. Beside I personally hate talking on the phone and texting and that's kinda of the problem right there.
I guess there isn't really much to say because it sounds like he's not that interested sweetheart.
It's best to just try and just move on and find the next party especially since he's not acting as if he's interested
Going a month without contact isn't "busy" it's "I couldn't give a fuck about you."
"Busy" is if you don't hear from them within a couple of days vs the usual daily/hourly/whatever thing.
Even then, "busy" is rarely ever a legit excuse. When someone is into you, none of this bullshit happens.
OP:
He could be really busy after all. Guy is a fcking doctor yoo...
A month without contact doesn't automatically means that he doesn't give a fck about you.
It just means that you are not his priority #1 right nowclick to expand
You basically just reiterated what I said, so how am I "totally wrong?"
She needs to simmer down in fawning over a dude she really doesn't know- one who clearly is not into her like she's into him.
As I pointed out elsewhere- we are in the age of instant communication with devices on us all the time. Sending a quick text takes all of 10-20 seconds, yet he couldn't be bothered for a month. Dude does not give any fucks about her on the romantic front. If he did, he'd find the time. BECAUSE GUYS WHO ARE INTO CHICKS DON'T IGNORE THEM FOR AN ENTIRE MONTH.
That may be how your fuckboy ass rolls, and in turn you want women to tolerate it and make exceptions for your snowflake self, but any self respecting woman doesn't sit on the sidelines waiting for a dude like this. Giving her false hope, like you've done here, is horse shit. You and a few other Libra dudes here need to fuck off with that. It's absolutely misleading to the desperate who come here looking for that glimmer of hope that she should continue to make an ass out of herself and chase after a dude who clearly isn't into her.
Thank you guys...I am not going to hope that he might be interested, because simply he might really be not interested, and this is a huge possibility..I can feel that.. ...at the same time, I can't be 100% sure that this is the reason why he isn't contacting me, because people are different, he might be busy as some people here said...plus he doesn't know me enough to be keen to contact me..i am not a priority of course..how can I be a priority for him to come out if his way to contact me when he is that busy while we don't know each other well? I came here to understand the Libra's mind, I thought maybe it's normal for them to do so!
I just want to clarify that he mentioned to me that he is busy like hell, he can't find time to do any of his hobbies, he works all the day and has only one day off per month...I don't know about being interested or not, but I know for sure that this is a difficult mission, nearly impossible, I like to talk and can't do anything with him being distant like this...will leave it as it is, so for the person who said I should not accept false hope, take it easy am not that desperate not going to be affected by any word written...I will update you if anything happened...
I just want to clarify that he mentioned to me that he is busy like hell, he can't find time to do any of his hobbies, he works all the day and has only one day off per month...I don't know about being interested or not, but I know for sure that this is a difficult mission, nearly impossible, I like to talk and can't do anything with him being distant like this...will leave it as it is, so for the person who said I should not accept false hope, take it easy am not that desperate not going to be affected by any word written...I will update you if anything happened...
I wanted to add this too, sometimes i will not " find " few minutes to chat because :
1) I want to be alone not talking to anyone etc
2) I'm dealing with many things
3) It's boring to text at the moment
I will just tell my partner that i need some time for myself etc before, or that i want to see him instead of texting
Well, yeah, but that last sentence changed everything... you would tell him that you need some time, or that you want to see him. You wouldn't just let him sit around waiting for a month.
For me, it's all about priorities. I know that some things will have to be more important than me: her job, her kids, that's acceptable. But when she's posting on Snapchat or Facebook and saying she doesn't have time to talk to me for days at a time, that's just because I'm lower on her list of priorities than her FB feed.
And maybe that's OK, not everybody expects to be high on their partner's priority list. But I expect to be more important than Facebook.
To the OP, my question for you is, are you sure that you want to be with a guy that's in a different country, and can't find 30 seconds before he goes to sleep to say "good night"? If the answer is yes then that's good... it's not for me, but that doesn't mean it's not for you.
Posted by RozaeonI agree with you...I don't know why they expect him to go out of his way to contact me while he is super busy and we are not even in a relationship..of course he is not interested at the time being! we talked 3 times only! all what I wanted to ask for here is how to MAKE him notice me..not spare some time to chat with me while am not even a priority and will never be in his case even if we had a relationship, he is a surgeon and passionate about his job as u said, I won't be a priority even if I became his wife..Posted by csdude55I don't think that changes something because it's basic respect.I wanted to add this too, sometimes i will not " find " few minutes to chat because :
1) I want to be alone not talking to anyone etc
2) I'm dealing with many things
3) It's boring to text at the moment
I will just tell my partner that i need some time for myself etc before, or that i want to see him instead of texting
Well, yeah, but that last sentence changed everything... you would tell him that you need some time, or that you want to see him. You wouldn't just let him sit around waiting for a month.
For me, it's all about priorities. I know that some things will have to be more important than me: her job, her kids, that's acceptable. But when she's posting on Snapchat or Facebook and saying she doesn't have time to talk to me for days at a time, that's just because I'm lower on her list of priorities than her FB feed.
And maybe that's OK, not everybody expects to be high on their partner's priority list. But I expect to be more important than Facebook.
To the OP, my question for you is, are you sure that you want to be with a guy that's in a different country, and can't find 30 seconds before he goes to sleep to say "good night"? If the answer is yes then that's good... it's not for me, but that doesn't mean it's not for you.
However i agree with what you said next, it's all about priorities, but you seem to forget that this guy is a doctor and he is passionate about his job. So no, you can't expect someone who is 100% passionate about his job to reply to you 24h/24 7j/7 whereas you're not even in a relationship with this person. It's not possible, it's not even realistclick to expand
all what i needed is advice an about how to get closer and stand out in his busy life..that's it
Posted by tizianiYes you are right, but he is looking for settlement as I knew and wanted to find someone ..so the long distance relationship will not last in his case, he wants a wife....the problem is that he can't find the time to look for her...I wanted some tips to apply them when he comes online to benefit from the very few minutes he is free
I get that you're looking for some insight into Libra but I'd say worry about that when a relationship/romance materialises and not before. Long distance is dead, in my opinion. And, even if it isn't, I can't remember the last time I saw astrology build a bridge over it. It would just be pure speculation.
Okay so I decided to ignore this ridiculously busy doctor because I can't take it anymore.. again for 3 more weeks he disappeared and I forgot about him or forced myself to do so... he came back today sending his greetings...I answere the first question and stopped replying after 2 minutes...I dont know where will this lead to...but I felt i really want to ignore him back
hi guys....the guy came back and he is contacting me more often now...he mentioned that he will be busy for the next 4 months...and whenever he has a spare time he contacts me..he usually does before he heads to work..
now, let's get back to my main question which is why I wrote this post: What does a Libra man like in a girl? are we compatible (Virgo & Libra?), and how to win his heart, I don't want to be stuck in the friend-zone...never...please help
now, let's get back to my main question which is why I wrote this post: What does a Libra man like in a girl? are we compatible (Virgo & Libra?), and how to win his heart, I don't want to be stuck in the friend-zone...never...please help
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*thank u all very much for ur replies...you all agree that he is not interested and that I should move on.. I think I needed this opinion even though I wanted to hear something else....I will move on..I deserve better*