How can you tell if a libra has stopped loving you

How can you tell if a libra has stopped loving you?

I am a gemini gal who has given her heart and soul to my libra man.
We live long distance, and we've been making it work so far...except a couple things.
He keeps me waiting all the time, sometimes for more than an hour.
He'll say he wants me to call in ten mins etc, but then I call & it gets forwarded.
He seems to get angry really quickly, and when he does, he says some very harsh things, always after apologizing etc.
I've been cheated on before (an ex with their ex), & the last libra I was with lied to me about being in love with his ex love until 5 days before he dumped me. I have PTSD issues with exs & he knows that, but still hid from me that he was selling his ex weed every three months. & when I get inquisitive, he lashes out.
I know all libras aren't the same, but they're supposedly good at communication & love.
Why does he openly ignore me (not even respond to a verbal convo unless it relates to him)?
We're engaged, his first and only tattoo corresponds with mine.
He wants to know every little thing I do, which I don't mind, I respect him!!!! But when I ask him things, he gets irritated & angry.
He says he loves me, I'm his only girl, but his actions are quite contradictory to everything he tells me.
Am I just not worth the msg back? He just flat out ignores me, but if I don't msg him back in a few minutes, he starts questioning me & everything.
But he has alot of double standards & quite simply, mentally I don't know how much more I can take.
I feel like I keep getting mixed signals from him & I don't know how to tell if he just doesn't care anymore or not.


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He doesn't put in half the effort that I do.
He also seems a little hesitant or gets quiet to say I love you.
Not to be affectionate, but I love you.
And when he says words that cut like knives, & gets angry super easy, he says he's just stressed. But it's everytime he's stressed, I just feel like a punching bag/ego boost.

Please if anyone can help me, I've been abused so much by men & I don't want to let my heart get annhilated by another libra, after the last one I couldn't feel anything for anyone for 7+ months. I've been so honest & so faithful & loyal, try to give him his space when he needs it.

I really need some help.

Am I overthinking in my gemini ways?
Are libras just more romantic in person?

What can I do to make him want me like he used to.

When he was trying to get me he made soooooo much effort, but since we've gotten engaged it's been steadily declining....

what am I doing wrong?

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Well, I do question, but not without plausable cause.
It took him 3 months into our relationship almost to take down pics of his ex from his profile, them kissing etc.
& he let slip in one conversation that he has been meeting her for weed once every 3 months.
But the thing is, He hid it from me, because he thought I'd be angry.
Which is illogical to me, being a gemini, because I've told him again & again I don't get angry or whatever, I just want a headsup, when he's specified the same.

yes he does but if even one thing is slightly off ... well, he cannot be wrong. I guess. is the best way to describe it.

He has amazingly sweet moments/potenial/times, & I don't doubt he cares about me, I just don't want to be fucked around tbh.

I'm I think too honest sometimes. its annoying to him occcasionally i think :/

There's a load of clash between Gemini and Libra at the beginning of the relationship but if you both still holds together and stay longer he'll realise that you are the only one that can meet his needs. Only the time can tell. Best way to get your Libra back is to play hard to get you simple. If its still didn't work then dump him and get an Aquarius, you will be happy forever. Wish you all the very best.

thanks you much, i heard other geminis are quite happy with each other, and yeah i am the only one that will put up with everything and still do all the chores, leave love notes, little gifts etc. I know that, every ex ive ever had has come back to me telling me im the best they ever had. but they abused it so too late.

once a gems is done with you, we unlike libras dont come back.

were still together, and im actually going to therapy for my self esteem etc.

i try my hardest. I wouldnt leave him unless he cheated. i love him.

are you saying i shouldnt group him in with other libras or ive just had horrible relationships?

I'm sorry, I am honestly confused on that one, I do apologize.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/it-s-you-3736369/

im actually doing this @rockyroadieicecream with my therapist, im working through things as best i can, but he gets frusterated/impatiant easily.

i know i have baggage, im a gemini im not gonna lie, i dont lie, im blunt even when its uncomfortable and doing the best i can with what i have. trying to be positive trying to let go of past hurts.. doing the best i can, regression therapy is slow but hopefully will help.

it just sucks when you're doing all you can and people have double standards thats all.
its like no matter how hard i try hes never satisfied, but i fucking love the guy with all my heart and soul.
im giving it my all, not giving up, just idk things just feel different but hell long distance blows right?

and i guess all guys try hard in the beginning then just slack?

im literally just making sure im understanding right.

it isnt that he stopped loving me?

the respect thing...ehh, good point. mutal respec/double standards is something us geminis require in a relationship, should be in all relationships.

i just still get the insecurity knowing he hid things from me before, im a logical minded thinker. emotion/feelings dont get you progress, logic & hard work do.

idk just mixed signals but i really really really from the bottom of my heart appreciate you guys even taking the time for this. truly.

3 month rule- guys' facade drops and you see the real him.

Two- if you aren't happy with his bullshit, be blunt and tell him. If he doesn't like it or manipulates you into submission, that's not good and you should reconsider the relationship.

If he's hot/cold all of the sudden, again question it.

Long distance relationships don't work for a reason. Makes it much easier for shady individuals to take advantage and do as they please with little consideration toward you. They then can hide behind bs reasoning and logic.

The fact that you've stuck around and allowed such bullshit is why he continues with this crap.

Put your foot down to the bullshit. If you don't and continue to stick around, sorry, but that's your fault.

Posted by littlegemini
yes he does but if even one thing is slightly off ... well, he cannot be wrong. I guess. is the best way to describe it.

He has amazingly sweet moments/potenial/times, & I don't doubt he cares about me, I just don't want to be fucked around tbh.

Guess what? You're being fucked around with. I really wouldn't be surprised if he was cheating. All his behavior suggests that direction, tbh. He wants to keep tabs on you but you can't ask about him? Gets touchy when the ex comes up?

Stop being a doormat and do something about it.

I have tried, & he was patient for awhile. I totally understand I have trust issues, I am in no way saying I don't have my own shit to deal with. & even his mom and sister say that he doesn't go anywhere except to skype me and to work. he says that im the only one keeping her in his life because i ask about her. i dont care if he has to pick up off her, i just want a headsup thats all, and i know hed want the same. he flipped when he saw a fb thing that my ex made me cry. i just dont understand him and yeah im not sure how much longer i can take it.

trying to talk about it is like igniting a fire. he was patant for awhile, but I think I pushed him in that respect. It just hit me when last night he said he'd be 2 minutes & im guesstimating here but it took 15-20 minutes. i aksed how jordan (the guy he was picking up off of ) was and some basic conversation and he said idk idk etc. i said well its just a little weird thats all and he was like seriously im about to flip and just started yelling well almost yelling but not quite at me. and told me point blank when i asked why cnat you just reassure me, and he said haven't i reassured you enough? i don't fucking care anymore. if you can't handle long distance that's your problem. but we hadn't said a thing baout that. & things have just felt not so nice since yesterday.

I get confused in my head with the signs, the signs of cheating, but he doesnt have his own car and his mom and his sister both vouch for him and say eh doesnt leave so....im just confused within my head.

I'm taking the steps i know i need to to work through my self esteem through regressional therapy and some other things but i just cant tell if its in my head or real...because of the shit I'm trying to work through


sticky. fucking. situation.

and thank you for being blunt with me, i know it hurts to read, but id prefer some honesty over sympathy.

patient" sorry I have horrible dyslexia.

and just to add - i go there month(s) at a time, wouldn't it be hard for him to turn off an affair? idk any girl who would be like okay ill just wait till shes gone etc and were always skyping or gaming when were apart as long as were both home.

but liek you said, there are weird moments and signs and my own stupidity.

gemini issues. we can help everyone but ourselves.

thank you guys, ill take honestly all your advice, I'm going to withdraw a bit, that seems to work when i withdraw, he tends to msg me a few times. i know libras love beauty, ill make sure i look the best i can, im already working through my issues, have been. I'll give him more space (i asked him if he wanted any and he cried and told me please no, but a few minutes later was like whats the point your're going to give up too, everyone does. but i thought libras like space? i meant it in a clear your head way, so idk ill give him more space to do his own thing?) & yeah if it gets any worse. I can't do it. i guess time will tell.

don't know what's worse being alone or being a relationship feeling alone.

any libra men would love an opinion, you guys know yourselves and no not everyone's the same but personality traits are dead on. (at least from what ive seen in personal experience with many libras as friends)

Sounds like you both have issues.

You get treated how you allow yourself to be treated. If your not happy tell him. If he wont do anything about the way he is making you feel then leave him. Learn to love yourself before you expect others to love you.

You set what you think is acceptable/unacceptable and dont settle for anything less. Changes dont happen over night but someone who loves you will not want you to be unhappy.

I am paying very close attention, and you guys are right, he's coming down today, and things are hard to tell from canada and skype, so we'll see how it goes and well....logical reasoning speaks for itself.

he says he wants me to go back with him.....its just is so painful...i want to marry him. were enagaged we have corresponding tattoos, the way it happened was literally extraordinary..you probably wouldnt even believe me if i told you...hes hard to even think of letting go. but i cant dispute fact. why fight for a cause that won't even uphold itself for you? i overly respect him if anything. im scared to even go out of my house and if im late he'll do this withdraw thing.


you guys are a blessing. thank you. truly. honesty over sympthay always.

and i am working on my issues hah in therapy and psych evaluation.