How do you play it cool with a libra guy?

I tend to overthink a lot and I am pretty sure it's just unnecessary overthinking because he hasn't done anything wrong to take my trust away. How do I play it cool when he isn't texting me or talking to me as much? I feel like he likes to play hard to get a lot too so I don't I want to come off as clingy or anything but sometimes I just want to talk to him and meet up. I like him and I know he likes me but we are just being friends right now, but I also want to let him know I am interested. When he first started talking to me I was kind of cold and he was very forward about him liking me, but I'm afraid I pushed him back and I missed how he was when first started talking. I am afraid by falling back I am seen as uninterested or cold and that's not it at all, but at the same time I don't want to be up his ass 24/7 when we aren't even dating.

I am a Libra woman that was with a Libra man for 11 years. They like the chase, and think you should "baby" them.. They seem to be lazy in a relationship though, and never happy.. My advice is to make him do the chasing or you will be unhappy..

Posted by mylife123
I am a Libra woman that was with a Libra man for 11 years. They like the chase, and think you should "baby" them.. They seem to be lazy in a relationship though, and never happy.. My advice is to make him do the chasing or you will be unhappy..

Oh thank you for answering me! I am very much on to that right now because I barely try to get in contact with him. I try to not expect it and it does help a lot when I do that. He does come when I don't contact him and it's usually him asking if I want to hangout with him or something. I also tend to shift my focus else where when I start thinking of him like homework that needs to be done.

I have another question: Does a female Scorpio Moon have a chance with a male Sun sign Libra? Sorry I don't have more information about him but I only know his sun sign currently. However my sun sign is Aquarius and my rising sign is Libra. So does this have a chance for any romance to blossom?

Again sorry I don't have more details about him but we aren't even dating and I was just wondering is all.

Posted by verseaufemme

Posted by mylife123
I am a Libra woman that was with a Libra man for 11 years. They like the chase, and think you should "baby" them.. They seem to be lazy in a relationship though, and never happy.. My advice is to make him do the chasing or you will be unhappy..

Oh thank you for answering me! I am very much on to that right now because I barely try to get in contact with him. I try to not expect it and it does help a lot when I do that. He does come when I don't contact him and it's usually him asking if I want to hangout with him or something. I also tend to shift my focus else where when I start thinking of him like homework that needs to be done.

I have another question: Does a female Scorpio Moon have a chance with a male Sun sign Libra? Sorry I don't have more information about him but I only know his sun sign currently. However my sun sign is Aquarius and my rising sign is Libra. So does this have a chance for any romance to blossom?

Again sorry I don't have more details about him but we aren't even dating and I was just wondering is all.

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LOL, you're stressing about nothing here. You're a woman, he is a man & your scorpio moon wont stop a relationship from happening if you both want it. I'm curious, what is the situation between you & this friend of yours? Is he interested?

Posted by WaterCup

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Posted by mylife123
I am a Libra woman that was with a Libra man for 11 years. They like the chase, and think you should "baby" them.. They seem to be lazy in a relationship though, and never happy.. My advice is to make him do the chasing or you will be unhappy..

Oh thank you for answering me! I am very much on to that right now because I barely try to get in contact with him. I try to not expect it and it does help a lot when I do that. He does come when I don't contact him and it's usually him asking if I want to hangout with him or something. I also tend to shift my focus else where when I start thinking of him like homework that needs to be done.

I have another question: Does a female Scorpio Moon have a chance with a male Sun sign Libra? Sorry I don't have more information about him but I only know his sun sign currently. However my sun sign is Aquarius and my rising sign is Libra. So does this have a chance for any romance to blossom?

Again sorry I don't have more details about him but we aren't even dating and I was just wondering is all.

LOL, you're stressing about nothing here. You're a woman, he is a man & your scorpio moon wont stop a relationship from happening if you both want it. I'm curious, what is the situation between you & this friend of yours? Is he interested?

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@watercup
I originally posted this forum here(I forgot my password hence why I have this account lol): https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/is-my-libra-man-being-indecisive-4334586/
^^^on like page 2 is more to the story I posted there. But to answer your question yes he does like me! He has said so himself and I am pretty sure if he didn't he wouldn't of tried to clarify things or seek out why we lost contact during the summer. It was a complete misunderstanding on both parts. However we are taking things slow because of certain factors and because it's not exactly healthy to rush a relationship anyway.I just get super nervous, anxious, and overthink things when I am alone and not with him or when we don't talk. Like if I am in front of him I can tell that he likes me, but whenever we are not near each other I let myself get to me. Like I said above he has done nothing t

Posted by auriqa
Fucking iPhone.

Yeah, I agree. They like to be babied, but do NOT condescend them. All Libras I know hate that. Treat me like a king and they'll make you their queen, promise.

I know how that feels I had to hide some posts because my phone was being wacky, but now I am on my laptop for a very short time so if I don't answer it's because of that.

Oh trust me I do acknowledge him as much as possible without seeming desperate and clingy since we aren't official and just two friends who do like each other a little more than friends. I acknowledge like stuff from how he smells nice that day, how nicely he dressed, or how he had a nice haircut recently etc. I try to compliment him as much as I can because I know basically anyone likes that. I do not talk down to him because even if he is a Libra that is just cruel to do to a person regardless of their zodiac sign, you know? Plus that would lose major brownie points with just about anyone.

Posted by tiziani
1. Be yourself

2. Have your own schedule and change it for no one. If a Libra actively asks/makes time/shows you they want to spend time with you, be open and accommodating. But you were independent before we met you, and we'd appreciate it if you could remain independent.

That's it really. No magic tricks.

Haha yeah that is pretty simple I must admit! 😆
What threw me off board was the fact that I had no clue this guy would reenter my life and that he would tell me he actually had feelings for me for awhile. Unfortunately when we were younger we were awkward so that is why it took so long for these feelings to be actually spoken.

I was doing just fine before all this because my ex fiance had cheated on me and I was giving myself me time. I did go on dates but mostly with guys that I was uninterested in. Then he came along and BAM I was extremely interested but didn't want to show my feelings at the beginning, for at the very beginning he was pretty forward about his feelings towards me like I am not even exaggerating.
One thing I am really putting in my head is that it's okay if we don't talk or see each other because it's too much to ask from someone who is not your boyfriend. It's really helping to think like that I must admit!

Oh, I remember your story now. The only advice I can give you is, don't let it get to you & stop overthinking lol. One thing for sure though, you'll get used to the situation & will learn to deal with it much better with time. You're now feeling uncertain because it's new..it'll pass as you get the gist of things.

Relationships/friendships aren't all the same, some need a lot of getting used to before they can feel right or whatever. Remember what you said at the chart forum? Riiight. Chill & be flexible. This is what is needed here. You overthink yourself into a frenzy instead of just going with the flow, you should relax a bit. You must be used to a certain kind of relationships or man, here is your chance to adapt to a new situation..flexibility. Do you now understand what they were saying about your personality?

Posted by tiziani
1. Be yourself

2. Have your own schedule and change it for no one. If a Libra actively asks/makes time/shows you they want to spend time with you, be open and accommodating. But you were independent before we met you, and we'd appreciate it if you could remain independent.

That's it really. No magic tricks.

This right here!

Posted by WaterCup
Do you now understand what they were saying about your personality?

What do you mean by that question?^^^

Yeah I think that my old relationships consisted of guys who were all over me and doing a lot for me so that is why I am the way I am. My ex fiance spoiled me a lot with his attention and gifts btw he was a Sagittarius.

I really do appreciate your advice so thank you so much! I am going to apply this my life and I agree I think the reason I am like this is because this situation is new to my life.

Posted by verseaufemme

Posted by WaterCup
Do you now understand what they were saying about your personality?

What do you mean by that question?^^^

Yeah I think that my old relationships consisted of guys who were all over me and doing a lot for me so that is why I am the way I am. My ex fiance spoiled me a lot with his attention and gifts btw he was a Sagittarius.

I really do appreciate your advice so thank you so much! I am going to apply this my life and I agree I think the reason I am like this is because this situation is new to my life.

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I meant to take it easy. Breathe. I'm guilty of working myself up over nothing too, but these days not so much because I've realised that it's NOTHING.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by verseaufemme

Posted by WaterCup
Do you now understand what they were saying about your personality?

What do you mean by that question?^^^

Yeah I think that my old relationships consisted of guys who were all over me and doing a lot for me so that is why I am the way I am. My ex fiance spoiled me a lot with his attention and gifts btw he was a Sagittarius.

I really do appreciate your advice so thank you so much! I am going to apply this my life and I agree I think the reason I am like this is because this situation is new to my life.

I meant to take it easy. Breathe. I'm guilty of working myself up over nothing too, but these days not so much because I've realised that it's NOTHING.

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Ah yeah I need to stop making mountains out of mole hills basically. 🙂

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Posted by WaterCup
Do you now understand what they were saying about your personality?

What do you mean by that question?^^^

Yeah I think that my old relationships consisted of guys who were all over me and doing a lot for me so that is why I am the way I am. My ex fiance spoiled me a lot with his attention and gifts btw he was a Sagittarius.

I really do appreciate your advice so thank you so much! I am going to apply this my life and I agree I think the reason I am like this is because this situation is new to my life.

I meant to take it easy. Breathe. I'm guilty of working myself up over nothing too, but these days not so much because I've realised that it's NOTHING.

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Ah yeah I need to stop making mountains out of mole hills basically. 🙂

Yes!! If you read 11/8 that's exactly what it says.

^^^ The funny thing is that my grandma use to always tell me that saying when I was younger. 😆

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Posted by tiziani
1. Be yourself

2. Have your own schedule and change it for no one. If a Libra actively asks/makes time/shows you they want to spend time with you, be open and accommodating. But you were independent before we met you, and we'd appreciate it if you could remain independent.

That's it really. No magic tricks.

True.

Posted by auriqa
They like to be babied, but do NOT condescend them. All Libras I know hate that.

Indeed, but that advice is universally applicable in that most people don't take kindly to condescension...Libra or not.

Otherwise, Libras are usually receptive to sarcasm & enjoy poking fun back-and-forth; so long as it's done in jest & doesn't cross over into personal attack-territory.
For instance, don't poke fun at his Grandma's dementia or his brother's learning disability(LOL well it's pretty obvious you should never go there, but you get the picture).

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Haha yep I agree you should never belittle someone regardless of their zodiac sign or not. I feel like that will piss anyone in their right mind off haha. 🙂

Posted by size zero superhero
Also I'll add that Aquarius & Libra are generally considered an ideal pair in regard to sun sign, which could override other "conflicting" chart placements between yourselves.

There's really no need for concern over the ways in which your Scorpio moon might manifest itself. In fact a considerable portion of Libra suns have Scorpio(and/or Virgo)-influenced charts, being that the two are neighboring signs.

As someone else mentioned in a different thread though, misunderstandings are prone to be an issue. Communication is particularly vital to Libra-Aqua relationships.
IME, Libra & Aquarius' mutual go-with-the-flow airy approach lacks long-term sustainability. Eventually both must bite the bullet, get real and state their expectations/intentions/concerns--or else things will begin to dissipate.

Ah thank you for giving me some in depth on this, but I need to figure out my battles. Like what actually needs to be addressed and what doesn't need to be talked about. The cool thing is that he says if I want to ask him anything that I could and he would be honest about it, so I don't have this fear of him lying to me. He is a very peaceful sweet guy so I am sure when I do need to address something appropriate I would get a honest answer.

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Posted by cunninglinguist
I wouldn't worry about playing it cool. There have been guys I've been interested in, who tried to "be cool" to not appear needy, and I completely lost interest in them because they didn't act fast enough. So u may want to hurry up and make ur interest known, or you'll miss ur chance.

& im a Leeb sun. Aqua is just my rising. so respect ma authority! 😛

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HEHE you seem really cute! 🙂
He does know my interest as do I know he is interested it's just he is so busy @___@ so I am trying to be understanding of his schedule. His dad recently had surgery and not only that but his dad has PTSD so that requires attention. Then he is taking 22 credit hours at school so that pretty much takes up all his time. He is a very busy young fellow! It's really annoying because I sometimes wish he didn't tell me he liked me and that he wanted to take me out on dates because right now isn't exactly the time for all that. So it's kind of frustrating because now that we older and can finally speak about this crush we had on each other....WE CAN'T ACT ON IT!

I can tell he definitely likes to take things slow because I remember him saying he use to go on dates with this one girl and he didn't even kiss her after three months of knowing her. She got kind of salty about that and stopped talking to him, which I don't blame her but at the same time maybe he felt like he needed to know her more before he actually did that. Who knows lol...

Well I know his birthday is coming up so I know I will get to see him.

Posted by lenttony
I too am a Scorpio and I completely understand you. If at all possible, do not show displays of jealousy.. act as if you do not care if you have him or not...be sweet everytime you have an encounter with him so his every thought of you will be a sweet one...We Scorps are very emotional and Libra men can not handle that..we do not like to share so unless this is discussed between the two of you do not make him feel confined to you it will only make him want out.. the moments you have, tell him how beautiful he is every now and again, he will eat that up..but do not chase him under no circumstances, although they like when you chase, I do not want you to get hurt. they will respond but will play games and pull back so if you like him be ready for mind games.. learn to play them.. do not pursue and keep your feelings inside..

Scorpio woman in love with a Libra also

Sweety listen, you got it all wrong. Do you know that quote by Marlyn Monroe, I'm not sure of the exact words but it goes like this 'If you can't accept me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best'. Point is, you don't need to change who you are to please a man. Stay real & if he doesn't like it tough, he can go find someone else. A man who truly likes you will accept you with your character flaws..you don't have to change to suit what you think he likes. He can go kick rocks! Be you all day & everyday.

I think the best thing you can do when it comes to libra men is not to worry about them too much. Don't force yourself to be cold or any of that, be emotionally available, just have your own stuff going on and think of him as coming second to everything else that's important- at least at first and especially when he has a ton going on. Fight the urge to let him consume your thoughts and let YOU consume them. Do what i'm sure everyone else told you to do and let it all just happen without worrying about him. That might be more difficult for scorpios, i don't know much about your sign, but just...i don't know, drop and do some yoga every time you think about him lol

Posted by ANRivas
I think the best thing you can do when it comes to libra men is not to worry about them too much. Don't force yourself to be cold or any of that, be emotionally available, just have your own stuff going on and think of him as coming second to everything else that's important- at least at first and especially when he has a ton going on. Fight the urge to let him consume your thoughts and let YOU consume them. Do what i'm sure everyone else told you to do and let it all just happen without worrying about him. That might be more difficult for scorpios, i don't know much about your sign, but just...i don't know, drop and do some yoga every time you think about him lol

I actually liked how you phrase your advice because it made sense to me. Instead of saying just fully be emotional or fully be distant. You kind of said I need to balance between the both. I am actually trying that as I type because as I mentioned even though I like him, I am still preparing myself for the reality that there is a possible chance that we are only going to be friends and you know what that is okay. I would love to be more, but I would rather have a friend then another person who just didn't do anything beneficial to my life. I keep myself busy by doing homework since I am in college for example I am trying to be ahead of the class right now, for we have a paper due in a couple of weeks so I'm shifting my focus on getting that paper done asap.

Also Scorpio is not my sun sign, but it's my moon sign which explains why I get so emotional over things. My sun sign is Aquarius and my rising sign is Libra! 🙂