How to Charm a Snake Charmer..the Libra...

This was from Nic in a post about libra's and sex..."Once you get to that point there will be no shortage of sex, EVER. Unless there is something wrong in the relationship....then sometimes we tone it down until we work it out....then you get make up sex that will make you limp the next day."

OK, I'm waiting, bc I would love a limp and he has a lot of making up to do.. 7 yrs worth believe me...

So its been 1 year for me next month and 6 months for my libra next month.. WTF!!!! he is not going crazy, he is remarkably calm about the whole thing, however, yes, Nic he is driving me insane. We still talk everyday and I am going there next Wednesday on the 4th for the day.

Ques.. I want to be casually sexy but get his freakin attention.. without jumping on him, bc that could get ugly. How can I do this?

I also want to charm the socks off of him.. how can I sweep this dude off his feet so I can have him..

as far as what to wear were you going for a dress or a skirt and a top or what exactly? Cuz whichever you were thinking of I can tell you what will make a libra lose control. The key is simple and something that looks like it can be removed easily.

yup yup... dress that can be removed in seconds is the easiest thing. But it should be modest at the same time. 😉

Aqua, I just don't get it? Why is there a problem now. I thought you guys were doing so well.

QS..Things were going well.. and then his libraness kicked in.. plus im still not divorced, the process is a lot longer than I thought as my ex is dodging his own lawyer who is trying to get the paperwork pushed through, but he won't answer her call. So, now I am in limbo and my libra won't touch me until the divorce is final. So, he has not agreed to see me since the last time I was there in April. And before then he kept telling me how much he was turned off to sex, so I did not even try anything while I was there in April.. then later he asked why I fell asleep with my clothes on.. I said, "why do you care you don't want sex anyway". He said, "oh yeah, I did say that".

So this is the first time I am getting to see him since then. I am trying to keep his attention until August, that is when our final divorce hearing will occur. We go to court on the 16th, but if my ex does not attend the hearing, I don't know what I am going to do. My libra may just give up on me, but I hope not.

Maju.. Nic.. Gemfox.. I had a dress on the last time I saw him. We went to the movies and he grabbed my hand.. so I put both our hands in my lap and I kept trying to inch my dress up.. he pulled my dress down over my knees with his other hand.. WTF! So, I dunno I just got a weird one I guess.

Chatz said something about libra's not liking too much eye makeup.. whats up with that??

Wow, aqua, I so know what you mean about divorce, I am in the same situation, my ex (also a Libra) won't sign papers, so now I am going another route that costs a lot more. So this is too taking forever. However, Librapersonified and I are great... It isn't stopping our relationship at all. We plan to move together very soon, so yes, I am leaving Chicago to go south with my Libra...

I hope all will be well with you and your libra after the divorce, it seems that he is serious about that and feels that it is immoral, for you guys to be together and you are still married, even though it is only on paper.

Eye make up? I know in my experience Libran's don't like a lot of make up, some is nice, but not over doing it. More natural looking make-up which is fine with me as I don't like a lot of makeup anyway.

Thanks QS.. I will keep that in mind about the makeup. I don't wear a lot either so that is cool.

Well I hope all goes well with your divorce also, I spoke to my ex's lawyer yesterday and she said I should get the draft in the mail today or Thursday, so we will see.

I hope my libra comes around like yours. Not sure about living together, but I would consider moving there. But we will see. All is up in the air right now and it is quite stressful.

I will give you a 411 update when I get back on Thursday..

Enjoy your fourth everyone...

"And before then he kept telling me how much he was turned off to sex, so I did not even try anything while I was there in April.. then later he asked why I fell asleep with my clothes on.. I said, "why do you care you don't want sex anyway". He said, "oh yeah, I did say that"."

Lemme decode this for you. He is not turned off to sex by you, he is turned off to sex by the situation. This happens to me too. Some time ago he made the decision that he is going to stand by his high Libran ideals, and your situation falls into one of those principled situations. He desires to have sex with you but he won't becasue it would go against his ideals. He wanted to the communicate that to you....and he did in the way libras do which is subtle actions and between the lines.

I like very little make up too, but I like eye make up. It does need to be used as a highlight rather than a focal point. I am really good at putting on eye make up, as revealed in one of my pictures. Eye make up should fade into a shade at the corners of the eye and be thickest in the middle of the line. You can draw the line all the way to the outside corner of the eye on the top and bottom but not the inside corner. It needs to fade into a shadow and then completely dissapear by the corner. 🙂

WE all know now who to go to get those perfect eyes!!!

Wow nic, do you provide eye make up classes... That sounds better than how I do my eye make up... LOL!!!

When I was playing in a band in Ca....us band members (all guys) would do each others make up before a show and our girlfriends would get upset that they weren't doing it. Well.....we took shows seriously and we were just better at doing make up than the girls were. *shrug*

"Lemme decode this for you. He is not turned off to sex by you, he is turned off to sex by the situation. This happens to me too. Some time ago he made the decision that he is going to stand by his high Libran ideals, and your situation falls into one of those principled situations. He desires to have sex with you but he won't becasue it would go against his ideals."

I do this. Freaky...!

**but he won't becasue it would go against his ideals.

Perfect!!! I have been trying to phrase this situation for long. Now I got it. Thanks nic.

Glad somebody gets it - hope Brats does LOL

OK.. Ya'll are funny. Especially you Chatz.. LOL!! I am crackin up over here. Well thanks Nic for the makeup advice. I will have to try that, I was never taught how to put on eye makeup.. that is way cool getting it from a dude.

So I went yesterday and had the best 4th of my life. We had so much fun it was insane. He called me while I was driving home @ 1:00 in the morning and said he did things with me (ie.. walked around downtown, went to this festival) that he has never done before and he had so much fun, he said again, that when he closes on his new house in 3 weeks, I will finally have some where to stay when I come visit.

We were talking and I told him I did not think he really liked me, "like that", and he said how do you figure, we talk everday.. and everyday he tells me he does not want a girlfriend.. so what am I suppose to think. He asked what type of relationship I wanted from him.. I said, I did not know I had options. He changed the subject, but I am planning to get to the bottom of this tonight, because this crap is bothering me. He always does that when I go there. Starts talking all serious, but when we are on the phone he is passive about the whole thing.

Nic what you said, gives me great insite, maybe he does not realize what he is doing when he repeatedly tells me he does not want a girl and the message that sends to me. I dunno. But I know I had a great time. We watched the fireworks, and kissed under the stars.. it was perfect. I know this dude is mine, I just know it.. there is not doubt in my mind. Its just harder than I anticipated.

Oh and I wore something mad sexy.. he was thrown off all night. Kept getting lost and telling me he couldn't concentrate. It was a bit funny. So I don't know. We will see how things go after he moves and I got to visit him.. then my divorce should be finalized by then.. hopefully, so I am hoping he will feel more comfortable with me then.

Thank you all.. for your help and advice.. I know we are as close as we are because of you all... I could not figure this dude out on my own.. I would have let it all go a long time ago. But I am understanding our differences in communication which is helping a lot.

Good one Bratsy!!

"He asked what type of relationship I wanted from him.. I said, I did not know I had options"

TELL HIM what you want...don't make him guess any more....lay it on the line - its time chicky!!! Put yourself out there and let him know 100% for sure what you want out of all of this or you will continue to go round and round in circles....he doesnt want a g/friend coz he's already got YOU!!

Hehehehe 😛

Well I wish you all a very pleasant weekend...its Friday arvo here and you're yet to get to Friday hehehehe...

Im so looking forward to my first real date with Mr Libra (the one that has been pre-arranged for a week - OMG!!!)....2 more sleeps (or 2 more moons as you would call it)...yes I've been counting down LOL. He's even sent some texts this week, basically to remind me he's still there (I have been playing things low key, no more texts, emails, phone calls, chat online at nights...he's obviously missing that and man Im getting so much done lately LOL).

Anyway Im off....have fun everybody 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

Looking forward to updates, Chatzy!!!

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I'm with you Atom... What's going on Chatz?? How was your dream date??

bratsy I have written to you and also put it on "Libra Love" for memory!!!