Closure conversationn with the Libra

Okay guys... Here it goes. He did call tonight at about 9:45, he said he had just walked in the door from class. It was a fullfilling and relieved conversation. He was upfront and honest about everything and so was I.

In a nutshell, he told me after the second email he was confused and didn't know how to respond that is why it took him forever to do so. He said he first wanted me to know that he appreciates me and the friend I have been to him and he will always cherish that. He said he really cares deeply for me and he is an emotional mess and wouldn't be good to anyone in a relationship and if he was capable and wanted one right now. I would be his first choice. 🙂

He said the second email did mention I understood where he was right now, but then when I mentioned about my child and if he was attracted to me in that way it through him off. Yes LS you were right... He said he has dated women with children before and that wouldn't be a factor, also if he wasn't really attracted to me, we wouldn't have gotten as close as we have, so that was definitely not a factor.

He said he needs to breath, because of the termoil his back and forth relationship with the Sag has put him through and that it seems he is finally over her. He needs to reinvent himself and focus on him before diving into another relationship.

That's a positive outcome!!

He said he noticed right before I told him that my feelings were changing that they were. That is why we weren't hanging out as much, because he didn't want to lead me on and hurt me, by making me think it was something else. He said he is not emotionally equiped to give me or anyone else what they deserve from a partner. He said, "remember you were at that same place not too long ago." I agreed. He said another girl he knew that hung out with a group of his friends, female and male, was starting to get try and like him.

He told her all he could offer her was sex and that he knew she liked him more so they couldn't have sex.

Toward the end he said that there is definitely a bond between us that is very comforting to him and he loves the fact that I "get him", (yeah right if he knew the things I was saying on these posts) he said he cared too much about me to lead me on and to offer me less than what he knew I deserved, as in a rebound relationship or a broken spirited relationship...

He said I deserved better than what he had to offer right now. I was happy and relieved.

I told him he will always have a friend in me, however, a platonic one, he said yeah although he knew I was right. He will always remember how we were and once he was whole again, he hope I was still available. I told him I couldn't guarantee that. We than caught up on basic stuff. He said he would be calling and checking on me from time to time and not to be a stranger. I told him I would never do that. So, yes I am at peace.

Yeah KennyG and Chatz, I am so relieved and at peace right now and now I am glad he waited, gave me time to get those emotions in check. I can move on with grace. In the back of my mind I knew he wasn't ready, but like I told him, I would always let him know if my feelings changed and I did. So I think it was a great outcome and I still have my buddy.

Again, that's a positive outcome and peace is a good place to be 🙂

And who knows what the future holds with his comment: "once he was whole again, he hope I was still available".....who knows...options and more options LOL

He's not letting go - how typical LOL...in a good way!!

Chatz, I hear you, but I am not one to wait, and once I move on although I like to keep exes and past involvements as friends, I rarely if any go back... So, that is probably slim to none.

Kenny G that is wild and astrologers don't think Libra and Scorp are a great match at all... Ugghhhh. Anyway. I am happy he knows my worth and knows that he can't give me what I am worthy of right now. I think that is very considerate as there are so many guys out there who will drag a woman on and lead them on and break their hearts playing games.

That's is great, QS. I am glad that you got the closure you needed. It is hard to move on when a chapter hasn't been concluded. I am glad he was so honest and open with you. Personally, I find that far more beneficial to the other party than glossing things over for whatever reason...

How is the Aries?!? 🙂

Yes how is the Aries and the Cancer while we're on the subject?

"I married my best friend, Mr. Scorpio this Saturday St. Patricks Day!!! going on 6 years... Didn't happen over night. Didn't even want to get married again. Ahhhhh"

OMG!!! Congrats!!! That is so awesome!

WTF is up with slyly trying to drop that in?!? That sounds more like a Scorp tactic... Hmmm, good match. Haha! 🙂

yes Congrats Kenny!!

Hope you're planning on something speeeeeeecial to celebrate 🙂

ahhh yes the typical Libran response of "nice" this and "nice" that....never awesome or great LOL. I love it!!!

Should be a "nice" evening for you....don't forget a present though!!

QS, that is nice. *ow, ow, ow, ow, ow*---giving you a Libran response! *OW*

No, really. That's nice. (*ow*). So NOW how's it going with the Ram? We KNOW were you stand with Mr. Libra, but I doubt you'd EVER have a conversation like that with an Aries.

And I'm so proud of you be true to your Scorpio roots. You're doing GREAT!

Thanks to you all. No Cancer - sorry can't do it. Aries, great, moving slowly. I have had recent problems with the ex and spliting daughter time. He is trying to get back at me and in turn is hurting his relationship with our daughter. He can be a real ass sometimes. So, my social life is very limited right now. 😢

* He needs to reinvent himself and focus on him before diving into another relationship.

ding! ding! ding!

I love how consistent us Libras are.

I am glad you feel better about the situation QS. PLEASE, don't wait for this guy. Keep dating around/shopping around. I would hate for you to pass up a real chance at love with someone while waiting for this guy.

I know you will keep moving on. Just givin' ya a thumbs up and my support. 😉

Congrats on 6 years!

Oh yes! Congrats KennyG!

LS, I definitely will not wait on any guy... Geeez, I just admitted my feelings had changed and if it went hte other way it still would have been a challenge for me because I haven't dated or been with anyone besides the ex in 8 years!!! So, I am at peace in knowing he could be totally honest about his feelings and he answered a lot of questions, I have been wanting answers to. So, he is as always a great friend, so I am fine with that also, during the time of our non communication, my emotions seriously drifted. So, I am just having fun and when the "right" guy comes along... I will be ready 🙂

LOL - I know what you mean QS - we scorps are bad sometimes. It's amazing how someone elses advances can make us easly move on. Makes you wonder if we are just as undecisive as a Libra, maybe cause we're neighbors. Then if Im still friends with that person, I will wonder what I saw romantically in that person in the first place. Sheesh.

OMG!!! Benice, you hit it on the head. I now know that later down the line I will probably be like " He is a great person, but don't see myself going back to that place with him". I do that all the time!!! I do wonder why I felt the way I did about exes all the time!!! We just like closure. Until we know exactly what is going on it is like we can't completely move on... Yes, my emotions faded, but I really needed to hear his honest feelings and get some questions to some answers, which were a ton (most I didn't even post). So yeah when we move we move and move and move and almost never go back. Actually I haven't yet, once I completely moved on... Funny...

Scorps are bad "sometimes—"