I got a phone call at 5:30 this morning...

...from my ex wife...whose in county lock up. I've been successfully avoiding her for a few months now and things have been doing good. A couple weeks ago when I picked the kids up, she'd had a bit to drink already and rushed out onto the porch to talk to me. She was flirty and touchy, I was friendly but made it clear I wasn't playing that game.

She texted me yesterday that she'd be starting a new job today and probably would be working the weekend (letting me know she wouldn't be having the kids this weekend). I simply said okay. Like I said, no communication.

Anyway she calls this morning telling me they impounded her car and she needs a ride home so she can figure out how to get to work today and she knows it isn't my problem but please cause her phone is dead and mine is the only phone number she knows by heart and please I have to help. I know that is a run-on sentence from he'll but that's how she was talking, and of course crying by the end. I agreed to come take her home.

I throw on some clothes and head over to county. On the way it hit me. My life has been drama free since I stopped talking to her...like completely drama free. And I love it. I start hoping they change their mind and don't release her ya know, haha. When I walk in the sheriff had no idea she'd even made a phone call and said she still had to sit for a couple hours before she could see the judge. He apologized for wasting my time and said she couldn't go anywhere. I went home, got the kids ready for school, and went to work.

So does this prove I have super powers or is this just a karma thing?

Keep doing YOU...screw her drama.

You TOTALLY HAVE SUPER POWERS!!!! 🙂, you thought it and bam she was not release haha. I was just having a conversation the other day with a friend and we were discussing my dislike for cereal unless it's fruity pebbles or honey bunches of oats. Long story short there is no cereal in the house, then Bam! Mom has fruity pebbles and honey bunches of oats with MILK ^_^. Sorry about the gas you wasted though :/

Is this the aqua psycho ex wife? lol.

I'm glad you have her out of your life, even if it's not completely. I guess it can't be completely since you guys share children.

I have to ask though, what did you ever see in this woman? Was she always like this and you just overlooked it with your libra rose coloured glasses or did she become this way?

Both!

Gawd, people like her just love to run back to good natured people. It's even more freeing when you (or karma) knocks them down for trying to do so.

There's a lot of karma going on right now regarding our past. The moon eclipse sure brought things back to our attention but then the solar one kind of forced us to put it all back in the past once and for all... The way I see it : we ascended and these ppl sure didn't. We don't see them with the eyes of love anymore. We see them with the eyes of truth. There is no better mind altering drug then the truth!
Good job, Leeb.

You got super powers and since you can't completely get her out of your life, keep that super power to deal with her. I hope she gets better though. At least she's willing to get her life together and she's lucky to have you to support her along the way.

My leeb friend has her hands full with 3 kids but her ex sometimes bails out on looking after the kids even if he's supposed to look after the kids in those times. He always uses his work as an excuse. So trust me, you just being understanding on her part is already doing her a lot of good.

Karma has a way of catching up with everyone.....Just keep being the good heared person and awesome father that you are, and GOD will continue to do the rest..even with your ex.

Matthews: 22:44 The LORD said unto my Lord, Sit thou on my right hand, till I make thine enemies thy footstool.

I'm sure she's not your enemy anymore because you've gotten past that, but at one time, I'm sure she felt like your worst enemy, whom you loved with all your heart back then. You all have kids together, so you will always have love for her..just do it from a distance.

"hearted"

Posted by aquarius09
Is this the aqdidsycho ex wife? lol.

I'm glad you have her out of your life, even if it's not completely. I guess it can't be completely since you guys share children.

I have to ask though, what did you ever see in this woman? Was she always like this and you just overlooked it with your libra rose coloured glasses or did she become this way?

Yes it's the same woman, no she wasn't always like this. There were red flags even when we were teens and yeah I prolly should have stopped it way before we got where we did but not this bad. We were married for several years and things went smooth, we were a good team.

It probably was rose colored glasses, I fell for her hard in high school and when my first marriage failed she charged in. She said my first wife was a fool to let me go and her loss was Tina's gain. She already had the first boy and was pregnant with the 2nd. I guess we got so busy so quick with kids and college we never took the time to hate each other haha.

Posted by AesmaDaeva
You got super powers and since you can't completely get her out of your life, keep that super power to deal with her. I hope she gets better though. At least she's willing to get her life together and she's lucky to have you to support her along the way.

My leeb friend has her hands full with 3 kids but her ex sometimes bails out on looking after the kids even if he's supposed to look after the kids in those times. He always uses his work as an excuse. So trust me, you just being understanding on her part is already doing her a lot of good.

That's the thing though, she's not trying to get herself together. She says she is, but she's all talk. She's turned into an alcoholic and is getting into that cycle where she's drinking cause she fucked things up but doing that is just fucking up more stuff..causing more drinking and more fucking up.

When she was working she worked weekends and "couldn't" take her every other weekend visitation. When she lost that job, she didn't have gas money so I dropped them off and picked them up...however she has gas to hit the bars? She had texted me that she was starting a new job yesterday and was excited to take a forward step again. Then she goes out and gets arrested the night before starting?! WTF? Sure everyone makes mistakes but it's been the same shit ever since we got divorced. Plus, she's always the victim. Even in this case I'm sure she'll end up blaming the cop for arresting her that she lost the job.

That's why I don't even talk to her no more. I want her to succeed and that's why I occasionally help, like I drove her to buy her car. things she can't do that she needs to, I've helped here and there.

But yeah, I do need to just stay away.

It's sad when you see people turn into such trainwrecks and they just will not get themselves out of that vicious cycle. :/

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Posted by aquarius09
Is this the aqdidsycho ex wife? lol.

I'm glad you have her out of your life, even if it's not completely. I guess it can't be completely since you guys share children.

I have to ask though, what did you ever see in this woman? Was she always like this and you just overlooked it with your libra rose coloured glasses or did she become this way?

Yes it's the same woman, no she wasn't always like this. There were red flags even when we were teens and yeah I prolly should have stopped it way before we got where we did but not this bad. We were married for several years and things went smooth, we were a good team.

It probably was rose colored glasses, I fell for her hard in high school and when my first marriage failed she charged in. She said my first wife was a fool to let me go and her loss was Tina's gain. She already had the first boy and was pregnant with the 2nd. I guess we got so busy so quick with kids and college we never took the time to hate each other haha.

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The only advice I can give libra sun and Aries moon is to steady yourself. Don't jump into things so readily and quickly. My ex libra was your combo and he was very hasty and impatient. The rose colored glasses usually came off when it was toooooo late. He goes with the flow almost always and gets himself tied to things that he doesn't want to be in. Then the libra "need to be liked at all cost/dislike for conflict" tendencies kick in and he either screws shit up really badly in untangling himself or staying in a relationship, which he should've ended a long time ago.

Aww! Sorry to hear that, Sid! It's frustrating to watch others in that downward spiral but there's really nothing you can do. You're right, it's best to keep away as much as you can and just be there at the other end of the tunnel. She really has to lay off the booze. Hopefully she'd be willing to get help.

Posted by AesmaDaeva
Aww! Sorry to hear that, Sid! It's frustrating to watch others in that downward spiral but there's really nothing you can do. You're right, it's best to keep away as much as you can and just be there at the other end of the tunnel. She really has to lay off the booze. Hopefully she'd be willing to get help.

Yep last time we hung out I told her that too. Of course being the ex husband she went off on a drunken fit about I can't control her, etc etc. It ended with her literally trying to kick me out of her place. At this point I hope she pulls it together but I ain't even watching the tunnel no more, she set up camp in it.

Anyway yeah until she wants to change it ain't gonna happen. The rough part is what to say to the kids. My son's is 12 and sees what's going on. It's hard to tell him to respect his mother when she doesn't deserve it. I do it, but part of me feels like I'm cheating him by not applauding him for calling someone's bullsh it and refusing to take it.

You can't stop your kid from forming his own opinion on what he sees but what you can do is show him that we should still try to be compassionate and care for people even if they don't deserve it. People go through the dark side, it's part of life and there's wisdom to be had in those instances. And he should try to still care instead of hating her after all, she's still his mother.

What I hated in my circumstance was my mom blaming my bio dad for everything that was wrong with me. It made me yearn for him more and made me feel like I didn't know half of myself because he wasn't around when I grew up. There was this huuuuge gaping hole of a void I felt as I grew up and I thought getting to know or meeting my bio dad would fix that. 20 years later, I met him and the world crashed on me. That's when I realized that he wasn't the answer to all my questions. That was tough.

I wish my mom didn't push him away. I wish she didn't disparage him so much. I ended up romanticizing my bio dad even if I knew he was a drug addict, wife beater and beat me up too but in my fucked up mind, I thought he can't be THAT bad since he's a part of me and I came out of that union.

It really fucks up a child, it distorts their own perception of themselves. At least you're a decent human being and didn't resort to this divide and conquer tactic when it comes to parenting.