I love you, I love you not

I told my libra I love him, he said he was flattered, surprised and all good things.

So i asked if he felt the same.

He said he cares about me deeply, but he doesnt use that word lightly. That he knows it will happen.

and That I'm right up there.

Now, I know I love him because that's what caring about someone deeply means for me. He asked if i was in love with him too and I said that takes time.


We've been dating, on and off really for 2 and a half months. so not really alot of time.

I can't help being disappointed.

Should I just overlook this, knowing I said how I feel and continue being with him.


What do you libras mean when you say this? Do you take your time to say I love you?

Posted by THEKingofLibra
I would only say it if I mean it, and 'in love' is not even uttered. You'll just know without me saying it.

Sooo....what's the difference between in love and loving the person then? How do you show that you're "in love"?

I don't say love lightly either. Most of us use it was to liberally. So much so that telling someone you love them doesn't mean you're in love with them. Love is a very deep word to me. It's a connection that says I'm in for the ride where ever it goes. You get a few friends in this zone. You've known them forever, you've been through some shit with them. These are the ones that can show up at 3am and wake you up and you don't get even a little upset about it. Close family members are here too, siblings, some cousins and my parents for me.

When it comes to a romantic relationship, I've never been one for casual dating. I want a story book ending... so far it'd be more like a cheap drama/horror/comedy movie, but I'll get there. The point is, people don't get that close to me easily. Him saying he cares about you deeply but doesn't say love easily sounds legit to me. And while I understand the disappointed feeling, it's good that he's saying this instead of telling you what you wanted to hear. He's into you. If you like him as much as you're letting on, keep doing what you're doing and one night (probably soon know that he knows you'd like a decision) he'll just stop where ever you are and what ever you're doing and look you in the eye and say he loves you. He didn't say "I like you, but...", he said "I think so but I'm a Libra and I have to confuse my self thinking it through a million times".

QS, me too ^.^ Even love the ones who forget who you are 5 minutes later. I cried the day I quit. And the day I found out that some of my favorite clients had passed on (a year later).

King of Libra, you're awfully mellow tonight. Where's the acerbic wit? ^.^

Ahh yes, being in love does make you vulnerable. For some reason he hasn't been able to get me to that point yet. Perhaps it's because he's been holding back. He doesn't confide in me, and emotionally it feels as if he's still closing me out.


So, are you libras generally unemotional and unwilling to open up and share emotional concerns?

He's usually quiet most of the time, but I sense that he has deep emotions, and I also sense that there are things going on with him for one reason or the other he hasn't decided to let me in.

But says he cares about me deeply?

Also, on another point he always makes suggestive sexual remarks, always want to hear what i'm thinking about him---in DETAIL. but when we're around each other he's almost shy to be sexually aggressive? So when we message it's like non stop sexual innuendos but when we're together, not as aggressive as it would seem through his suggestions.

Also, do you libras not have to have a lot of sex? Cuz it's usually once for him for the night and that's it. Maybe I'm a hornball ...

Libra men will tell you they love you if they really mean it. And for them to mean it, they got to be sure you're worth it, that you're the right one for them. Until then, they'll appreciate your feelings for them but it might take a while before they say the L word. If you do the right things, you may not wait that long...

Hmm, appreciated is the fact that he's honest and isn't fickle with his love.

Of most pressing concern is he seems to need his space alot? And he doesn't talk to me all the time or all day. No that i really need that.


Except i don't know if i should really care about that --cuz it's like he'll make specific time for us, like he'll say can i spend the night on monday BUUUT what happened to the whole weekend? And he'll say, "talk to you soon"


So it's like i'm wondering, where is all this care he has for me? I've always been used to constant communication from a guy i'm with. and funny thing is, my personality--i need space, dunno if it's fear of intimacy of what.

So, maybe in the long run this may not be jelling--but what do you guys think, have you ever stayed with someone to see where it will lead, but know that uhhm hmm maaaaybe not gonna stick around. Is that doing a disservice to yourself?

In response to the original post/question...

You should've told him how you feel for you & not necessarily just to warrant a certain response from him. People go at different paces. 1 person almost always starts to grow deeper feelings before the other. Doesn't mean that the other person won't eventually get to the same plain that you're on, but sheesh, give him some time to catch up with you. Don't freak out now b/c that wouldn't be fair of you.

It's not like he completely rejected you or said the unthinkable. He basically let you know that in due time, he can't see why anything would stop him from being just as into you as you are into him. That wasn't a bad thing.

Hell, if anything be glad that he didn't lie to you or exaggerate his feelings just to be happy. Be glad that he was completely honest.

The slight disappointment you're feeling is quite normal, but don't ruin things by trying to over-analyze something that he laid out for you very easily.

Sometimes you have to be vulnerable & put yourself out there, even if that means accepting and/or being prepared that the other person may not feel the exact same way you do. And hey, that's ok. He's trying to climb the hill of emotions with you, he's just a little bit behind you. BUT atleast he's climbing it so give him that credit & be patient