I promised I'd update after my weekend away

I went away with 6 friends (all couples) plus my single Libran friend who I have a huge crush on this past weekend.

3 couples in a bedroom each, Libran and I in a bedroom together (2 single beds).
We drove together (3 hours each way) and were 'partnered' in every activity down to organising meals together and going for walks together.

He acted all blokey around me. I've known him 4 years, and never heard him talk about his bodily functions so much as he did over the weekend. Granted, it was probably the most intimate situation we'd been in (sharing a room) but I didn't need him to tell me when he was doing a number 1, or 2, or even... passing wind. So I knew then and there that it wouldn't happen.

We spent 3 nights together and on the 2nd, he got drunk and said something very hurtful (and wrong). He called me promiscuious - I've never even had a one night stand! I spoke to him about it the next morning and said that as he was drunk I'd excuse it. I'd never seen him drunk before, he's just not a drinker. He said not to excuse it, that he meant it and that drinking is never an excuse.

Four of us drove home together and after we dropped the couple of, we talked about 'us'. He said he thinks I'm *fantastic* but that there are a couple of personality issues preventing us from getting together. He doesn't believe it'd work. I disagree, but whatever. I said "yeah, I'm over it. Not over you, but over it because I know it'll never happen" and he said "never say never". Well my instant reaction (in my head) was 'don't screw me around'. He's just saying this to keep me on side, and I know it. I got all teary, as I've realised more than ever that we'll never be more than friends. He was lovely when I was teary though.

We've got a close friendship, and since Monday night, we've been out a couple of times (so every day since except today). I'm putting it down to the fact that we'll be good friends, and nothing more. He'll be a man I loved but never got to be with physically. And at the end of the day, I'm happy he's my friend. One day I hope to love someone completely and that it'll be mutual. I might be naive, but that's my goal. Because my husband adored me, but it wasn't mutual. And now I adore the Libran, but it's not mutual. Until then, I'll just adore myself :-)

dont you know that libras are shy in the beginning— u wasted some golden opportunity.

Really? Any insights on where the golden opportunities were?

the time btween the bedroom door was closed ...

LOL

Uhhh, I will definitely have to agree with thelibran. I don't know any Libra who cares about a person that deeply, and if the person was the aggressor couldn't get some, but ofcourse I am a scorp (librans can't seem to resist scorps sexually IMO) meaning I am a little aggresive when I want something. Like when he called you permiscuous. Instead of taking it personal, I would have said something like, "Oh, let me show you how permiscuous I can be." Then you would have gotten waaaayyyy more than a kiss believe me. LOL!!! Can I get an Amen!

That could have been a hint "You are permiscuous" translations "How permiscuous are you?"

However, you would have to be emotional capable of doing that without making him feel obligated to make the relationship you have more than what it is. It is an art to dealing with these guys.

Seriously? Don't go there. Why push you agenda when he has said he doesn't want it? Trust him when he says that you aren't compatible. Even though you don't see it, trust him. We usually know these things.

You have one of the wierd Libras that acts akward/un tactful when someone is in their personal space. We all get a little nervous or excited or whatever you wan to call it but he sounds like someone that gets wierd during that kind of tight proximity. I knew a Libra girl like this and we both liked each other and your right it is really frustrating and confusing.

The Libran and QS are right about us Liking the woman to be the agressor the first time. I have always been this way too. It is a combination of vanity admittedly, feeling like we are irresistable but deeper than that is is also clear and concise....there is no question you wanted it to go there becuase you took it there. He may have been prodding you to come out and do what you felt like doing and you didn't and that made him feel like friendship was the only possibility. Those issues he was talking about might be regarding that very thing.....your holding back and wanting him to make the move. Libras don't make moves, sex and intimacy comes easy for us and we never really feel pressured to try and convince anyone in the sex department.

Thanks everyone. For the record, I'm glad I didn't push it. He is totally against casual sex and once told me he wouldn't kiss someone unless he thought he could marry them. Very moral. Compared to my 'promiscuious' nature (haha) - in reality I'm not into casual sex, but I would be willing to kiss a guy and see where it led and whether we were compatiable...

Nic - he doesn't really back off when someone gets close. He said to me that he feels very close to me, and that I can tell him anything. He's just very analytical, and after knowing me for 4 years doesn't believe a relationship would work. So like little_sparrow says, I'll just trust that he knows what he's doing and be his friend.