krazy libras #2

soo...for those of you who read my last post....this is an update.

I wrote mr.libra saying that i was angry about what had happened mostly because it made me feel like i couldnt trust him. I also said that i was ok with being friends and i didnt want it to be weird for us and i didnt hate him.

he wrote this back:
"i'm really sorry for doing and saying what I did. I just really wanted to try and make things work with you but i guess i just wasn't ready for that and I thought I was. I dirn't mean to hurt you or upset you and if i did i'm sorry about that. i do hope we can still be friends and hang out cause i really do care about you. Hope to see ya around soon.. take care"

its impossible to hate him. Guess im a crappy grudge holder.

so, do you guys think he really does just see me as a friend? Cause i mean i can say that a million times but deep down inside i think of him as more.

He means what he says...he's not ready

take his email at word value: he means what he says....he tried, but he can't see himself with you right now.

Sorry, just because you see him as more and wants him to see you as more, doesn't mean he will.

oh i know you cant will someone to see you as more than a friend.

But basically we've been more than "just friends" for more then a year (and hes told me that he likes me wayyy more then a few times). So what im asking is that even if were both saying we want to be just friends, you cant just stop liking someone like that and switch it to a friend like i dont think.

No you can't switch your feelings/emotions off so its possibly a really good idea to keep your distance for now so that you can work on shutting those feelings down....then when that has been achieved, you can just be friends coz they really do make AWESOME friends.

Just like he is looking to you to understand that he does not want more, he should be willing to understand if you need to keep your distance for a while. If you tell him you need to do this he should be understanding about it. We don't like it, we wish the other person could just switch to friends mode but we also understand that can be really hard to do.

"But basically we've been more than "just friends" for more then a year (and hes told me that he likes me wayyy more then a few times). "

A year is more than enough time to fall for someone and he didn't get past liking you. He would not have said that or stayed more than friends for a year if he did not think or feel that there were qualities about you he wants in a mate. In all likelyhood it isn't you, it is really him. He sees the potential for what you guys could have but he is not ready or willing to commit. Sometimes with us all it takes is the expectation from the other person to make us hold ourselves back.

***So what im asking is that even if were both saying we want to be just friends, you cant just stop liking someone like that and switch it to a friend like i dont think.***

Yes they can. He said he "Likes" you, not that he is "in love with you" there is a difference. Libras love/like everyone they care about. So, although I am sure he cares for you and may even love you, he just doesn't seem to be "in love" with you. You can't resent him for that. He just doesn't feel the same way you do... Accept him as a caring friend or move on.

Yes, you have to accept it is what it is for him. JUST friends and you cannot, as you said, will it to be something more. The challenge is in finding the strength to let go of those expectations. It's really hard and we all know that. But distancing yourself temporarily or long term is the best way to do it. Otherwise, you just keep yourself anchored to the hurt and disappointment.

Be strong, don't be angry and give yourself time to heal and come to terms with just being friends if you can. Some people can't and that's ok too. We all have different coping mechanisms. Find what works for you.

TJ is right. Librans can be the best friends ever... Male and female 😉

xoxo, it IS impossible to hate Libra. Period. You're in the same boat I am---so I hang out w/ Libra Girl----we have dinner together, go to movies and plays----had my heart set on something deeper with her, but not accept (at least in my head) that it will probably never be. But I'm not going to give up the great time we have together hanging out. (HEED the 'jag and Chatzy---THEY know too!).

Atom, I know, I am always the one to point out the sour points.... sigh...

You aren't accepting that she only wants to be friends truly... YOu are still very much emotionally involved. Sad as that may be. You are putting too much energy into her for her not to be able to give you what you want in return. 😢

For most people, you can take them @ word value. The libra i know, does not mean what he says. Sometimes I think he says things just to see my reaction.

***For most people, you can take them @ word value. The libra i know, does not mean what he says. Sometimes I think he says things just to see my reaction***

He might mean it in the moment and change his mind later.