libra & libra

Hi

New here and need some help.

I met this wonderful libra male and we had our first date last week. He showed a lot of interest (held my hands and said we would do something fun next time). Prior to the date he would call me and text me a few times a week but 5 days went by after the date and I didn't hear from him. I proceeded to text him very casually and he did respond immediately but here we are 3 days later and I have not heard from him.

Does this combination work?


Thanks
Leze

Whats ur sunsign??

"Whats ur sunsign??"
I'm going to take a wild stab at it and say libra.
I'd say libras get along pretty well with other libras. You guys share the same idea's and will meet at middle, where you're both happy. You'll be happy to be in each others company. I do think its a good match, for the most part.

i didnt saw the topic title - libra & libra... my fault.

2 librans fly like butterflies as per linda goodman and from personal experience. so dont worry he will chase you back in sometime.

Libra and Libra might work but I would be worried that he didn't call. I think if he liked you he would have called and set something up by now.

I wouldn't be worried that he didn't call. From what I have experienced, Libra guys don't guage how much they like someone by the amount of calls they make to someone. Usually it's when they stop calling you, returning your calls, or responding to your text messages after a week or so that you can begin to wonder if they've lost interest since they're non-confrontational.

houstonpeach74.

I have found the same to be true about Libra's and calling..

Houstonpeach, I second that, or third that... However they may get u, because they call quite a bit initially, then when you least expect it they stop for awhile, and again when you least expect it you get a call out of the clear and they act as though you've been talking everyday...

Got to love 'em they keep you going.

Thanks for the responses.

I got the impression from our date that he knows he is a good looking guy and he is probably used to being chased. I am old fashioned in that aspect and rather be chased than do the chasing.

I REALLY want to see him again and would like for him to call but I don't want to text him again since I sent him the last test msg 4 days ago. He did tell me that work was extremely busy and he does have 2 daughters at home to look after but COME ON!!!

I guess my best bet will be to wait and see what happens this week and if I don't hear from him, I'll take the hint.

Its SOOOOOOOOO fustrating and I can't stop thinking about him but I refuse to call him or text him.

That is exactly how they are... The can get u hooked and leave you wondering... For some reason I don't even know if they are aware they do this.

As far as being gawked by other women. They always attract tons. This is something you would have to accept. As I look at it as a compliment. All the Libras I have known have a carisma, charm and attractiveness that is pretty irresistable. So damn polite and say all the right things. They have a way of making a girl feel like she is the only one in their world when she is in his presents. Although that might not actually be the case.

They shall teach you patients, but again, make sure that is what you want, because if he falls for you an it doesn't work, it will be like hell getting rid of him!

queenscorpio,

Oh I want this man! LOL but he is not your typical male thats for sure. I am a libra as well but have an aries influence somewhere in my birthchart so that makes me strong headed, blunt and very straight forward.

You have no idea how many times I've started texting him and then not go through with it. I want him to call me.

Patience, that I do have and plenty of it but when I want something, I really want it.

I'll wait a few more days I guess.

Enjoy the dance...he will keep doing this dance too!! LOL

Oh but worth it 🙂

as long as its worth it I'll be dancing, lol!!!

Am I doing the right thing by not calling him though?

Libra-Me, I emailed you a few hours ago. What I asked you has a lot of bearing on whether he's going to call you or not.

Many of the posts about men not calling women back has to do with women sleeping with the guy on the date. Many times, the man didn't call the woman back because of this fact. I'm reading a bit between the lines and going out on the limb here and guessing that you had sex with this guy.

If you're not familiar with me, I'm a straightforward, speak my mind, female Taurus. If this offends you, it shouldn't.

You really want to see him again and you can't thinking about him: classic signs that you had sex with the guy. But putting sex aside -one thing about Libra men: you can't be emotional to them or about them, not this early on in whatever type of relationship you want from them. The fact that it frustrates you shows that you're already emotionally attached to him (after one date!??!!?!?!?).

Since it's been 4 days since your "date", I say call him. If you get his VM, then leave a message that is very casual, "Hi, there. Just calling to say hi and see how your weekend was/week is going. Give me a call when you get a chance!"

There, the ball is in his court. If he's interested, he'll call you back. If he's not, he'll continue the game of not getting in touch with you. Why would you want to deal with that kind of attitude anyway? Figure it out early so you can move on to some fabulous guy who isn't going to use you for one thing and one thing only.

Many posts on this board are very one-sided, so there's a lot of reading between the lines. We all come on here one time or another looking to read something that we WANT to read, not necessarily what we NEED to read.

houstonpeach,

you have mail. No offense taken what so ever, I am very much like you and don't like to sugar coat anything, better to be straight forward, I for one, appreciate that quality in anybody.


Absolutely nothing happened on this date, just a soft little good night kiss and that was it. He never said he would call me back or when, he simply said that the next date would be more fun and we left it at that. I didn't want to seem to excited about it because he is probably used to that. He is very attractive.

Last I heard from him was 4 days ago and that has me a bit worried.

HP74..
I have never slept with or kissed my Libra (not that I have not obsessed about it, daydreaming and stuff for hours), .... we barely hold hands and I am insanely in love. I think these Libra men are truly driving us crazy, intentionally, and we are letting them?.or it is just about wanting something that is unreachable or seemingly unattainable that keeps us wanting them more. The thrill of the chase. What do you all think?? Because we are all BASICALLY saying the same thing.. whether we had sex with them or not. We can not figure out how to get inside the Libran's head to get what we want.

Ok.. now i gotta figure out how many female friends of mine have been driven crazy by my nature. I know 2 for sure. Gotta find out rest. 😉

libra-me, same here. Don't get me wrong. I want him, but just not ready for a full-fledge relationship with him because this isn't a good time for that for him or me. However I miss his friendship and the sex of course, but honestly the friendship mostly.

You have no idea how many times I started to call or text him. I have learned while dealing with Libras, (even when married to one and he is still crazy about me after divorce...) to give them their space, they will eventually come around and I am not that patient... I definitely get what I want, however, I will do what I need to if I want it bad enough...

OK Girls...
I saw him at the gym today. He was far away on the other side, however we waved and made eye contact. Remember I sent an email to him yesterday letting him know I wanted to talk to him about something (that was it). How he took that, I have no idea. I never received a response. So you will know, that will be my last request. If he wants to talk he will contact me, if not I will leave it alone and keep my distance. If he comes back around then I will talk to him. At some point we have to let them know we would like to aware of the nature of our relationship, then we ourselves have to figure out if it is something we want to deal with or not.

queenscorpio,


I guess you and I are on the same boat as far as having to wait patiently.

I don't feel that I should call him, he can take 3 minutes from his busy schedule to text or call like he did before.


I like to have my space myself and don't like to feel smothered but I don't mind a text or call here and there, not everyday but a couple times a week will suffice.

Ball is in his court now, you saw him and sent him an email. I would let him make the next move and go from there but the waiting is what I hate the most, argh!!!

Good luck

Libra-me, you are right. I hate that I have to see him every morning it is a little awkward (we have the same work-out schedule at the same gym) However, i make sure I mingle with other people at the gym. I don't want him to think I am worried about his lack of response. If he is concerned he will reply. He has always done that in the past. If not it was good knowing him.

"We can not figure out how to get inside the Libran's head to get what we want."

This is it. You can't. It develops completely on its own. 'Exposure to you' helps but is not even a pre-requisite. We have to find ourselves thinking of you, more and more. You can be nice or not nice, it does not matter. It's just a very long thinking process. And this needs to peak with the realisation that we are in love with you. This is then combined with us allowing ourselves to admit feeling something (we don't like feeling emotions, remember?) The realisation takes a long time because we don't trust our feelings very well.

Then for me personally - but this might be my venus in virgo, I will look for signs as to whether you might like me and when I am satisfied I will increase how often we 'accidentally' bump into each other, that sort of stuff, repeat your words, smile, say things in an ambiguous way, get brave and outsmarten in (only in private), or just say the sweetest thing as a one off, make compliments. And I continously look for clues in you. Then I will wait for you to make a move or alternatively I will reveal myself.

** We have to find ourselves thinking of you, more and more. You can be nice or not nice, it does not matter. It's just a very long thinking process. And this needs to peak with the realisation that we are in love with you. This is then combined with us allowing ourselves to admit feeling something (we don't like feeling emotions, remember?) The realisation takes a long time because we don't trust our feelings very well.


YES! YES! YES!

*** I will increase how often we 'accidentally' bump into each other, that sort of stuff, repeat your words, smile, say things in an ambiguous way, get brave and outsmarten in (only in private), or just say the sweetest thing as a one off, make compliments. And I continously look for clues in you. Then I will wait for you to make a move or alternatively I will reveal myself.

YES! YES! YES!

I also give gifts and do sweet thoughtful things for you. I try to do things you would like or give little things you will like. Prior to that I try to win you with flirty charm.

OK my dear librans, so I should continue to act as if nothing is happening and walk up to him and say hi? I have done that before and always have received a response. I might motion for him to come over to me, as he likes when I play the seductive games. Even in public surprisingly.

*****I also give gifts and do sweet thoughtful things for you. I try to do things you would like or give little things you will like. Prior to that I try to win you with flirty charm******

Ok, so since we are both libras, will this work in my favor or against me?

I had the charm going during our date, we both flirted openly and we liked it.

You mean it can take him two weeks to process all of this in his little head to find out whether or not he wants to persue a relationship with me? or anything for that matter??

queenscorpio,

How did you originally hook up with this guy?

I guess it depends on the circumstances but you were more involved and we do have the tendency to want it all or nothing.

I once went out with a guy that got upset because I wouldn't return his calls right away and that was the biggest turn off to me. He was nice but after he left me that message, that was it, he was done before we even started.

I would still say HI and all but would let him know that you are ok with him.