Libra man texting me every single day after he breaks up with me

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This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
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I'm sorry to hear that. You should give him space he asked for, that means avoiding him completely and NO texts or calls. Just ignore him. Online contact means nothing honey and it will take you nowhere. Just ignore him and he will come back most likely soonest he realizes he can't be without you. Let him miss you to the point that he wants to see you in person
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Well that's just terrible! Who the hell does he think he is? But I understand he's having a really hard time separating from you but don't allow him to have access to you if that access is not leading back into a Reconciliation and he seems firm with it.

Balance the scale sister show him what it feels like for you not to be in his life let him endure the misery and the pain and the discomfort of not having you as someone that's going to be available for him day and night he doesn't get to have his cake and eat it too who the hell does he think he is? Play your cards right and you just may win your hand. Lol?☺?

No but seriously on a serious tip do not allow him to have that much access because see what happens is Libra's need to pursue and Chase and if we have too much of you then we lose interest. Libra is a masculine sign and masculine signs need to pursue so if you're there and you're there and you're there and you're there and there's nothing to pursue and there's nothing to Chase and there's nothing to get then you're actually ruining the relationship and ruining the chance of a Reconciliation more so than allowing a Reconciliation to take place what is your sun sign?
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I'm sorry to hear that. You should give him space he asked for, that means avoiding him completely and NO texts or calls. Just ignore him. Online contact means nothing honey and it will take you nowhere. Just ignore him and he will come back most likely soonest he realizes he can't be without you. Let him miss you to the point that he wants to see you in person

My sentiments exactly!
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Thank you so much to the two of you for responding! I greatly appreciate it! This past month has been one up and down crazy ride.? And I totally get what you mean by just cutting contact completely. I've thought about it but there's this annoying nagging thought in the back of my head that tries to convince me that if I were to cut contact, he would end up believing that I'm over him and he would just get up and walk away for good. So I feel like the reason why I've kept so much contact is because I want him to always know I'm there? But I realize that that may actually hinder things. You are right. But when do I know when it's the right time to reciprocate contact?

So even though we have been speaking every single day, I should just cut cold turkey? I haven't talked to him at all today.

Also, I'm a Capricorn Sun and Libra Moon.
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Thank you so much to the two of you for responding! I greatly appreciate it! This past month has been one up and down crazy ride.? And I totally get what you mean by just cutting contact completely. I've thought about it but there's this annoying nagging thought in the back of my head that tries to convince me that if I were to cut contact, he would end up believing that I'm over him and he would just get up and walk away for good. So I feel like the reason why I've kept so much contact is because I want him to always know I'm there? But I realize that that may actually hinder things. You are right. But when do I know when it's the right time to reciprocate contact?

So even though we have been speaking every single day, I should just cut cold turkey? I haven't talked to him at all today.

Also, I'm a Capricorn Sun and Libra Moon.

You don't have to cut contact, just reduce it so he misses you.

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How crazy. I haven't heard from him ever since I posted this. Which isn't long but it went from every day to nothing out of nowhere haha

I have tried speaking to him on the matter before and expressing my feelings. But that didn't work none.

So I suppose I will just be here doing my thing and just let him reach out to me when he feels like it?
Stop worrying about it and move on.. Sounded like he wanted to use you to help him get over his break up with YOU.Lame.
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This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
He's texting you because you text him back. He's calling you because you take the calls. You've allowed this fuckery to go on when you should've screened his calls. Your basically giving him the emotional relationship gf experience without actually getting anything in return. He can go out and date, kiss, fuck other women and then contact you for his emotional well being. AND YOUR ALLOWING THIS.

If you really want him back you need to cut off all contact. If he breaks up with you then that means he doesn't get to benefit at all from your presence. You can't miss something if it's not gone...and right now you not gone from his life. Can you see that??



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He also tells me that as if right now he can't be with me but that he doesn't know what he'd think a month from now or 2 months from now or yada yada..
How arrogant of him to just assume that you will put your life on hold for him! This is how little he thinks of you.

And lets be real...after 3 years together another 2 months isn't going to make a difference. He should know by now whether your the one for him. He's put you on the bench while he plays others. Your not even in the rotation.

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This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
He's texting you because you text him back. He's calling you because you take the calls. You've allowed this fuckery to go on when you should've screened his calls. Your basically giving him the emotional relationship gf experience without actually getting anything in return. He can go out and date, kiss, fuck other women and then contact you for his emotional well being. AND YOUR ALLOWING THIS.

If you really want him back you need to cut off all contact. If he breaks up with you then that means he doesn't get to benefit at all from your presence. You can't miss something if it's not gone...and right now you not gone from his life. Can you see that??



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I know I am a bytch but you are the meanest Pisces female I have seen on this site. ☺??

I suspect you don't like people to hurt and you want to shake some sense into them.

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Sounds like he found someone..

I hope it doesn't sound cruel but it's the harsh reality, he broke up with you because he was unsure..and wanted to see what's out there

Like most libras, he might decide to come after a month or so but just move on, you can be his friend if you want..but that's it. There's no no future with a guy like this

This may or may not be true; but I returned repeatedly to my ex-Capricorn. We have a tendency of returning repeatedly to the earth signs. So don't worry, don't think the worst either. Try to stay busy, post all you want, and be positive. Do something that you have been putting off.

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Posted by caplady28
This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
To keep it plain and simple

He doesn't see you as wife/mother of his child material.

However, hasn't found someone to replace you. As a Libra he also loves companionship.

He's using you as a surrogate, someone to quell his loneliness and needs for companionship until the right one comes his way.

This is why he texts you every day.

As hard as it will be you should definitely start taking the steps to move on. The truth is staring you right in the face. If he doesn't think you're worth continued investment ...even if it's temporary( a moment)

you should reassess if he is also worth a continued investment.

Love yourself more my fellow Libra mooner.

It sounds like you're not very good at it yet.

You deserve better.

You deserve a partner that is not going to doubt your connection. That understands relationships take work, has healthy expectations ( as in there is no perfect partner) and is committed and dedicated to you.

I'm working on this myself.

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This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
He's texting you because you text him back. He's calling you because you take the calls. You've allowed this fuckery to go on when you should've screened his calls. Your basically giving him the emotional relationship gf experience without actually getting anything in return. He can go out and date, kiss, fuck other women and then contact you for his emotional well being. AND YOUR ALLOWING THIS.

If you really want him back you need to cut off all contact. If he breaks up with you then that means he doesn't get to benefit at all from your presence. You can't miss something if it's not gone...and right now you not gone from his life. Can you see that??





I know I am a bytch but you are meanest Pisces female I have seen on this site. ☺??

I suspect you don't like people to hurt and you want to shake some sense into them.

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You obviously haven't seen much of P-Angel then. ? ? ?

My intention isn't to be mean, just keeping it ?

I've been strung along before and it's only ends up being a waste of time.

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When a guy with a Libra Moon did this to me it was because he was plotting getting back together with me. I have no idea if that is happening in this case.
Why would someone leave just to plot getting back together? I don't see why anyone would do that haha
Well, in my case, I was acting like a nutjob, and he hoped that if he left me alone for a while, I'd get help. I did.
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That's very funny cause that's very close to what is happening on my end. I deal with anxiety/depression and I tend to be senseless. But I wasn't always like that. I used to go to therapy and discontinued at some point. It was in the middle of our relationship where I started falling back on negative antics. He insisted I get more help. He blames his leaving on that. And since then, I've scheduled an appointment to get help again.

Either way, I'm still preparing myself to move on so I'm not just sitting here.
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Typical Libra energy. You just gotta cut off all communication to show that your serious. Also if has any cancer or water placements he's just gonna beat around the bush for ages.
He's Cancer Moon hahaha
I had a feeling. Expect him to cry and whine all the way home
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Hahaha! Feels good to laugh at him for once :p
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When a guy with a Libra Moon did this to me it was because he was plotting getting back together with me. I have no idea if that is happening in this case.
Why would someone leave just to plot getting back together? I don't see why anyone would do that haha
Well, in my case, I was acting like a nutjob, and he hoped that if he left me alone for a while, I'd get help. I did.


That's very funny cause that's very close to what is happening on my end. I deal with anxiety/depression and I tend to be senseless. But I wasn't always like that. I used to go to therapy and discontinued at some point. It was in the middle of our relationship where I started falling back on negative antics. He insisted I get more help. He blames his leaving on that. And since then, I've scheduled an appointment to get help again.

Either way, I'm still preparing myself to move on so I'm not just sitting here.


Yeah, you should do that. The funny thing is if I'd known he was intentionally manipulating me, even with the best of intentions, I would have been furious. It wouldn't have worked because I would have been pissed on principle. It only worked because I saw that my bad behavior had hurt me, and I thought he was really gone (and just being nice and maybe a bit clingy). I don't think I would have done all the things to "fix" myself that I did if I'd known what he was up to. I found out YEARS later. LOL
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Haha! He just decided to one day outright confess?

When he had first told me to get help in the midst of our breakup, I thought to myself "who does he think he is?" And I refused the thought.

It wasn't until some time had passed that I thought to myself, "man, I really do need to get myself together."
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This is just so confusing to me. Me and my Libra officially dated for 3 years. And within the last year, things got rocky. Especially in the last months due to lack of proper communication. And then he decided to break up with me. I was devastated. I was and am still in love with him. He says he loves me but that he feels he needs to think with his head and not his heart. All the while he's crying.

But not even a day later, he's texting me every single day multiple times a day. It's been over a month of this and when I bring up the possibility of getting back together he refuses the idea.

I've heard of Libras coming back after breakups but mine never officially left. He just broke up with me all the while keeping constant contact. I don't think a day has gone by where we didn't text all day. And sometimes we talk on the phone and it goes great. What is happening here?
He's texting you because you text him back. He's calling you because you take the calls. You've allowed this fuckery to go on when you should've screened his calls. Your basically giving him the emotional relationship gf experience without actually getting anything in return. He can go out and date, kiss, fuck other women and then contact you for his emotional well being. AND YOUR ALLOWING THIS.

If you really want him back you need to cut off all contact. If he breaks up with you then that means he doesn't get to benefit at all from your presence. You can't miss something if it's not gone...and right now you not gone from his life. Can you see that??





I know I am a bytch but you are meanest Pisces female I have seen on this site. ☺??

I suspect you don't like people to hurt and you want to shake some sense into them.



You obviously haven't seen much of P-Angel then. ? ? ?

My intention isn't to be mean, just keeping it ?

I've been strung along before and it's only ends up being a waste of time.

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P-Angel? She is blocked! I understand you are using tough love.
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Are you still feeling devastated? I hope not...I hate for people to cry.?
Thank you so much for caring.❤ I sway between feelings of sadness and anger. I cry when I need to since I know holding it in will do no good. :\
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You know what you can let go in any capacity that is best for you. When I left California to relocate in the South I left a 10-year relationship with a Capricorn and I'm a Libra. It was quite devastating but you know what I did for the first year I kept telling myself "any day now he's going to fly out here any day now any day now we're going to get back together again." And I held on to that in my head in order to not have to deal with a blow from the break-up that was too severe to function.

So it may not be time to completely let go and that's nobody's business; you let go when you're ready to let go. So hold on and let go when you're ready...let go in small dosages you know Earth signs move slow you guys stay forever and sometimes slow to leave.

It's okay I have a very strong suspicion however that this Libra is going to be back. More than likely there is a 99.9% chance that this Libra is going to return especially if you've done nothing wrong. So look at this as a break get yourself together and maybe if it's any consolation to you tell yourself that he'll be back besides the longer you don't talk to him the more likely it is that when you do call he'll pick up the phone.

But don't put any more pressure on yourself than you can bear it's just been 4 days honey.
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Typical Libra energy. You just gotta cut off all communication to show that your serious. Also if has any cancer or water placements he's just gonna beat around the bush for ages.
He's Cancer Moon hahaha
I had a feeling. Expect him to cry and whine all the way home
Hahaha! Feels good to laugh at him for once :p
You just gotta rationalize it cause he sure wouldn't

His sun is trying to leave but his moon has a tough time letting go, which creates conflict within

Don't forget to respect yourself
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Makes a lot of sense.
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When a guy with a Libra Moon did this to me it was because he was plotting getting back together with me. I have no idea if that is happening in this case.
Why would someone leave just to plot getting back together? I don't see why anyone would do that haha
Well, in my case, I was acting like a nutjob, and he hoped that if he left me alone for a while, I'd get help. I did.


That's very funny cause that's very close to what is happening on my end. I deal with anxiety/depression and I tend to be senseless. But I wasn't always like that. I used to go to therapy and discontinued at some point. It was in the middle of our relationship where I started falling back on negative antics. He insisted I get more help. He blames his leaving on that. And since then, I've scheduled an appointment to get help again.

Either way, I'm still preparing myself to move on so I'm not just sitting here.


Yeah, you should do that. The funny thing is if I'd known he was intentionally manipulating me, even with the best of intentions, I would have been furious. It wouldn't have worked because I would have been pissed on principle. It only worked because I saw that my bad behavior had hurt me, and I thought he was really gone (and just being nice and maybe a bit clingy). I don't think I would have done all the things to "fix" myself that I did if I'd known what he was up to. I found out YEARS later. LOL
Haha! He just decided to one day outright confess?

When he had first told me to get help in the midst of our breakup, I thought to myself "who does he think he is?" And I refused the thought.

It wasn't until some time had passed that I thought to myself, "man, I really do need to get myself together."


He had reasons for confessing. Old stuff coming out. And then this bomb. LOL I thought it was hilarious, but at the time I would have exploded.
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If I would've known he was doing that to me, I would've been pissed as well. Making me go through pain and such just to manipulate me. :/
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Are you still feeling devastated? I hope not...I hate for people to cry.?
Thank you so much for caring.❤ I sway between feelings of sadness and anger. I cry when I need to since I know holding it in will do no good. :\
You know what you can let go in any capacity that is best for you. When I left California to relocate in the South I left a 10-year relationship with a Capricorn and I'm a Libra. It was quite devastating but you know what I did for the first year I kept telling myself "any day now he's going to fly out here any day now any day now we're going to get back together again." And I held on to that in my head in order to not have to deal with a blow from the break-up that was too severe to function.

So it may not be time to completely let go and that's nobody's business; you let go when you're ready to let go. So hold on and let go when you're ready...let go in small dosages you know Earth signs move slow you guys stay forever and sometimes slow to leave.

It's okay I have a very strong suspicion however that this Libra is going to be back. More than likely there is a 99.9% chance that this Libra is going to return especially if you've done nothing wrong. So look at this as a break get yourself together and maybe if it's any consolation to you tell yourself that he'll be back besides the longer you don't talk to him the more likely it is that when you do call he'll pick up the phone.

But don't put any more pressure on yourself than you can bear it's just been 4 days honey.
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Thank you so much for your insight. That sounds like it was really rough. 😢 Sometimes I tell myself that he will be back, but I'm just so impatient. It does help a little.

I have been trying to let go in very small dosages as you say and it's been taking a lot of restraint to not get into contact. I just feel such a mess as I've never been through this before. But then again, does it ever get easier? Hahah..

I'm trying to stay busy busy busy but then when night falls it's all I wonder about haha
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No, it never gets easier, if you genuinely and honestly care about someone, no matter how old you get, you will hurt...... case of always riding the waves..... and only age dictates that you will deal with this particular form of heartbreak in a more reasoned fashion...... like I don't cry anymore, I just deal with it by getting on, and that is THE best thing, get on with your life, you are important and self care needs to be your focus.... for someone better who will no doubt come along at some point 😉
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Are you still feeling devastated? I hope not...I hate for people to cry.?
Thank you so much for caring.❤ I sway between feelings of sadness and anger. I cry when I need to since I know holding it in will do no good. :\
You know what you can let go in any capacity that is best for you. When I left California to relocate in the South I left a 10-year relationship with a Capricorn and I'm a Libra. It was quite devastating but you know what I did for the first year I kept telling myself "any day now he's going to fly out here any day now any day now we're going to get back together again." And I held on to that in my head in order to not have to deal with a blow from the break-up that was too severe to function.

So it may not be time to completely let go and that's nobody's business; you let go when you're ready to let go. So hold on and let go when you're ready...let go in small dosages you know Earth signs move slow you guys stay forever and sometimes slow to leave.

It's okay I have a very strong suspicion however that this Libra is going to be back. More than likely there is a 99.9% chance that this Libra is going to return especially if you've done nothing wrong. So look at this as a break get yourself together and maybe if it's any consolation to you tell yourself that he'll be back besides the longer you don't talk to him the more likely it is that when you do call he'll pick up the phone.

But don't put any more pressure on yourself than you can bear it's just been 4 days honey.


Thank you so much for your insight. That sounds like it was really rough. 😢 Sometimes I tell myself that he will be back, but I'm just so impatient. It does help a little.

I have been trying to let go in very small dosages as you say and it's been taking a lot of restraint to not get into contact. I just feel such a mess as I've never been through this before. But then again, does it ever get easier? Hahah..

I'm trying to stay busy busy busy but then when night falls it's all I wonder about haha

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