Libra/taurus, libra males please help!

Hellou you all sweet libras , this is my first topic, I was on this forum way long before but i couldn't find any answers that could actually help me with my situation so i opened account to finally get some answers from first hand, so dear libra guys please take few minutes to help me cause basically i don't know what to do anymore.
I am taurus female(05.15.97'), and this irresistible libra (10.17.95')
I have my eye on him since september last year, we go to same school so i was seeing him often, i asked my friends do they know him and then i realized i already have him on faceebok since may, so i was spending almost half a month to find a way to contact him cause at that period (august till december) i was really depressed, i lost a lot of weight, dark thoughts and things so i really didn't knew how to start conversation. I finally contact him it was really stupid way to start convo like is teacher at school tomorrow yeah i know pretty bad but at that time i didn't know what other to ask, he was really cool and convo last for hour maybe, we talked about music and we realized that we have same taste, so few days latter he text me first, he send me some songs and stuff it was going really well until he asked me to go on joint, we both smoke. I was so scared i spent like hours in front of mirror thinking about what im gonna say ect.

So we went on joint with his friend and bad thing happened, like i said on beginning i was depressed and i dont know how you all know about maryjane effect but basically my sad depression mood went on surface when it finally kicked me, so i didn't know what to talk about i was just sitting and listening them like really bad situation. I think he didn't realized it cause we were maybe hour outside so i could control it a little bit. Then few days latter i asked him to go on joint yeah i know pretty stupid idea but problem with us two is that the only topic that we had and we still have is joint, art and music, so we went at his place, there were his friends kinda mine too cause i knew them, and everything was actually good i could control it. And then, after that day for some reason when he would stopped me at school or i him we had like stupid questions all the time like how are you, what class do you have and stuff. The problem is at that time i didn't know much about libras so i was trying really hard to get his attention,always around him, calling him while break, i was really insecure i didn't know what to do i literally forgot how to flirty and act. In middle of decmeber we were all out and i, my friend, him and his friend went on party and we had good time, while we were there i decided that i will try to kiss him it was like now or never cause i couldn't wait any more, so when i took my stuff and saying goodbye to everyone i came to him and tried to kiss him, he rejected me and that broke me apart even more, from that day he stopped texting me, coming while break and ect.

Now to make this story shorter i'll just go on this that matters. So in february this year we start talking again, i was in love with him all the time but i didn't want to contact him, i got rid of my depression in janury so i could finally think realistic and function normally. We have same group of friends so almost every week we saw each other, we had small talks and things were okay, we didn't hang out like we used to cause i didn't want to show him that i still like him. I started to ignore him like i said hi to him at school and then i wouldn't look at him till other day at all, he text me couple times in past two months but the problem with us two is that my first impression in his eyes wasn't good cause like i said i wasn't okay at that time and we never have topic to talk, i don't know how to start normal convo with him even now when things are okay cause you all now first impression is really important and mine wasn't good. What makes me laugh is that 3-4 his friends that i met wanted actually something with me, and he never wanted he is first boy who rejected me.

I am really kind and nice person and i always pay attention extra more when i am around him to be even more kind and nice, never vulgar, rude, aggressive and ect, i am not ugly actually quite a lot boys do want something with me so all this situation makes me confuse, i know i messed up at beginning but is there any solution to fix this? Please all you kind libras help me, i don't know what to do with this situation, first of all what do you libra boys love talk about but give me some topic that wouldn't end after 3 words, and what to do with all this.. and to make it clear i wanted to forget him but i cant, regardless that we can't find topic and after all that happened i know that if he could actually get to know me under my surface he would like me cause i know him more than he knows me i was paying attention all the time and listening him and we have really a lot things in common but something isn't going how it should, i don't know this lasts more that 8 months and oh my... give me some answers, any idea, you libras know each other the best and me confused taurus don't know what to do anymore and to mention i play piano i draw, we listen same music even have same style, so i really don't know what to do anymore 😢 oh my dear libras you so complicated hahaha 🙂

As long as you always try to get hard his attention and follow him , you have rare chances , dear 🙂 Is best to let him make any step, but not you . And at your age, Libra is very immature . They even at 35 years old don't know what they wants or what they don't want.......... so, be patient ... but if he don't do any step , you better move on and fix your eyes on other boy , anyway, you have a life in your front to find a good boy, don't worry now , you are young 🙂

By the way, to be match also means to have what to talk in common. You ask here Libras what topic to talk with him ? Nobody know this, the conversation come from your inside , there should not be need o think what to talk.... If you have this need to think what to talk, it means you have not much in common with him. Once I was in your situation when I was more younger . Me and that guy spent sometimes 10 mins without to know what to talk. he was very quiet and I did not knew what he think in that moments. This is a sign that we were not match , no many things and topics in common, so the same can be in your situation. If no topic, it means you have not too much in common with that guy, is like you are not on the same wave 🙂

dear taurussparkle. coming from someone with a taurus partner, you need to calm down and not worry so much! us libras are an adaptable bunch. we can talk about most topics and really all we want to do is to make you comfortable and at ease in our presence. and you lot are so sensitive and hard on yourselves, it really is unnecessary with us.

you guys like to take things slow and so do we. while you are slow to make a decision, our minds race at 100mph trying to work out every possible permutation including all variables and supposed outcomes. sometimes if we are impatient and being stupid, we jump too fast only to regret it less than a minute later. sometimes we will mull and mull and mull over things and when we think we have made our minds up we change it again by the time we have finished making dinner.

but we will mould ourselves to you. you like music? he sends you some songs. you like to smoke? hey, let's smoke together. if you are sad, that's ok. if you are happy, that's ok too. we'll try to be the person you need at that moment.

it is likely he rejected your kiss because he wasn't expecting it. he probably didn't text you afterwards because he didn't know how to respond afterwards and certainly didn't want to lead you on if he wasn't 100% or make things awkward between you.

my advice is to be yourself. you don't have to act a certain way. he will appreciate you just being the person you are. and don't worry about the first impression! i'm sure it was fine. we're, on the whole, easy to get along with! be your nice, regular, kind self. my advice would be to take the pressure of yourself and be his friend for now. topics of conversation will sort themselves out when you relax and are genuine.

good luck!

@jeane oh my you are so kind thank you a lot!
i have so many thins on my mind right now but i'll ask you couple of questions,
so i know you libras do like to have those deep mind convo and i love them too! but i don't know how to show him that i am not superficial person, he actually doesn't know me, i was too shy at beginning when he met me, sometimes when i tried to have those convo he would just start laughing cause he didn't take me serious, once when we were out solo i said that you feel music different when youre high and he just started laughing and said oh really before i even had chance to explain to him what i actually thought, so problem is that he doesn't take me serious at all. I can't even explain to you how nice and kind person i am to him, i helped him every single time he needed to, even when he said he doesn't need any help cause i just wanted to be nice person towards him. I know i was trying too hard but i don't want him to forget me and erase me from his memory because at the end i really want to be with him. It feels like he plays mind games with me and i don't know anymore what to expect and feel.. 😢
I can give you example of how nice i actually am, this friday we were out and he was drunk we all as group went home and in the bus he remembered he forgot his bag at the park where we were and when i came home i told my dad that i lost my bag and i literally begged him to throw me there with car at 2 am! and now his bag is at my place and i will return it to him tomorrow, he said thank you thousand times but to be honest i have feeling that it was bad idea cause who would do that if you really think about it... but i feel good cause i know i did something nice again and now this part when me and my dad arrived while i was walkling to my doors, the doors next to mine (i live in building) had his tag on it!
in my hood! we live 3-4 hoods far from each other and i asked him about it and he just ignored it and said thank you for bag, like what does that mean? you were in my hood and left tag on doors and now you don't want to tell me why and how and this makes me confuse a lot i am thinking about it since friday! Anyway can you at least try to explain to me what this should mean (tag) and was this good idea to go at park in the middle of the night cause he left his bag there... we are okay now, talk rarely but i have feeling like he has me in case he want gf and i don't want that because if he looks at me at that way even if we end up

*end up together my feeling are telling me it wouldn't last.. i really don't know my dear jeane what to do 😢

You should others appreciate you , instead to say always how nice you are, how sweet you are, how good you are.... Really... Libra man do not like someone who try so hard to get attention and is arrogant . Learn to take things slowly and let others to see all your qualities, don't put yourself in the front of them so hard, they will all avoiding you then ...

umm i am not saying to others how nice i am like what, i am trying to explain my situation best i can and i want to show it in details so others can understand it better for sure im not going to one person on other and saying hey you know how nice and good i am? wanna hear it? and this ". Learn to take things slowly " it lasts more than 8 months and we still didn't make a move so what are you even talking about?
you are not helping at all, i came here to get some answers as you need them too about your libra guy so please if you don't have some advice that could actually help me please don't. I am young just like my libra, i am 17 for 2 weeks 18 and he is 19. I need some advice from older libras cause they know what they are talking about. peace out

You are overthinking , really too much... Everyone here tell you to calm down , but you still be so excited about this things..... You should reacting no way . Simple, give him his bag and say " you are welcome" , simple as you did a good thing for a friend. If you take it with questions over questions and you are waiting for him so much, you will end up be used by him in many ways, because you just show to him you are able to even wake up your father at 2 am for him ! when he did not asked you for any help . Or at least, you should asked him before you wake up your father and go there if he need any help . You run too fast in decisions , without to know or ask someone if he/she need your help . Even you ask yourself if anyone else would really do this... You should have more respect for your father, not to wake up him at 2 am for a guy ! 🙂

it's hard because you are both so young.

i don't know what the tag means. it could be that he was just around there at the time. it might have no meaning at all.

you're a good and kind person. i know friendships mean a lot to you and when someone is your friend, it's hard to not put yourself out for them when they are in need. but i think when it comes to libras, we want to respect you. we'll respect you but you need to respect yourself first.

astrology aside, as a young woman you have to make him impress you! you're a catch. a guy would be lucky to be with you. you have a lot of value as person, the guy you go with should see that but so should you! don't waste your time on people who aren't worthy of you. set the bar high and make sure these boys come up to it.

your kind and generous self will shine through. you don't need to do more. you are already enough. and if he doesn't see it, then keep walking! he is not the right person. i think you should really think about the qualities you want in a boyfriend. what is important to you? what kind of person should he be? what does he value? what are his morals? how does he behave? but the most important quality is how should he make you feel about yourself.

there will be many many many boys that you will meet in your lifetime. value yourself first and you will find the right boy will come along. don't settle for a nice smile, cute hair and good conversation. there is plenty of that around. it's more common than you think. go for the one that respects you, appreciates and treasures your presence in their life. go for the one in a million. you deserve nothing less.

do this and hopefully you'll impress the socks off that libra. there won't be many women your age who will behave like this. you'll separate yourself from the crowd and if nothing comes form the libra, you'll develop the strength of character that will be beneficial for years to come.

Dear, 8 months now + 1 year later....+ 2 years later.... and this is how your years will go on and you just try to get the attention of a man who is not interested in a relationship with you...... I am sorry to tell you this, but a man in this world is worth to wait for him 8 months to see a step from him ! If a man likes you and wants you, he does not need 8 months to start a relationship with you ! Now you are young and you think you have time to give to him and maybe you think 8 months is not so long ...but later you will regret all this time you lost for him , do you know this ? Don't wait for him to do any move, better you move on and let other man to approach you and find someone who will loves you and wants you as you are ! No need show them how good you are , believe me ! Show yourself only as you are and don't do much for men ! Be more selfish and let the men do more for you instead you do more for them ! I was wasting many years for men, many months... years... in this life and now, I wish to can go back in that time and stop the things at the right time, but now is too late and years was gone ... I wish you don't do this mistakes too ! No man deserving to wait for him if there is nothing coming from him too !

I am sorry to tell you this, but not any man in this world is worth to wait for him 8 months to see a step from him !

Im a just going to say something, referring back to @Delias second comment on here. Just because you find it difficult at first to have a following conversation with someone, doesn't mean that two people are not compatible, yes that is a very big possibility, however, the other strong possibility is that two people are nervous. Nervous because they like each other, they like each other so much that they are afraid to sound stupid, sound boring, they're afraid you like them, they are so attracted to you that they can't even find the right words to say. (this has happened to me before too actually, I was so attracted to this one libra that everytime i looked into his eyes, i was lost, i couldnt speak, didnt have any thought process. His huge brown eyes looking into mine, his dark Venezuelan skin, his long dark brown hair on his face.. oh my god, forget about it, I was so dumb infatuated).

So my point is, just because the first initial meetings are awkward, doesn't mean you don't stand a chance. it means you need to be more comfortable with YOURSELF first before you hang out with him about. you are beautiful, smart, and interesting, let him see that. don't be shy.

by the way, i strongly suggest you do some intensive research on the difference between twin flame and soul mate, its wicked interesting.

just for example here are some details.
twin flame = intense, captivating, sometimes leaves you breathless and speechless when you look at each other, its like looking into a mirror, you dont care what they wear, who theyre friends with, their popularity status, what you love about them is their soul, because you are literally looking at you, your soul and his soul are the same.
soul mate = very comfortable, easy going, you know this person well and can be yourself around them but something is still missing


hope I have helped you 🙂

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theyre afraid you wont like them so they hold back ... is what i meant to ssay

@delia you are being really rude to @TAurussparkle, if you dont have anything nice to say dont say it. dont tell her what to do when you cant even keep a libra man yourself. back off, she doesnt like what you have to say because you dont know to give advice to someone gently, so leave here please. btw youre not a man, dont give her false advice and say stuff like "if a man really likes you he would go for you" 1) youre not a man so how would you know 2) its REALLY not that simple. maybe hes confused, hes young.

for some reason i feel like you really dont want her to be with him, you seem vindictive, is there any aries in you? lol jk, not but really..

tizani gave you good advice.

@mysteriousTaurus & MrBalance thank you so much! this means a lot to me so thank u once more! 🙂)
I have some great news but couple questions again!
So before few days we were talking again and convo was "stupid" as always, few words and end, then i said to my self not anymore (i remembered everything you guys said) so i send him one picture that i'm drawing right now and said it has deeper meaning behind it, told him and first he was like meh fine but i didn't gave up and i said him straightly that he never takes me serious! and i did it! we started for the first time meeting each other! He opened to me and said he isn't really happy about his life, that he has some issues at home and about life, i was there for him and said to him that everything is not that bad and ect, anyway i console him that everything is gonna be alright. It means so much to me that he opened to me it is a big step for me! So on monday i went with him out to return him his bag, we talked, laughed and had some good time, we talked about his problems he wasn't really in mood to talk about it but i really tried to cheer him up! when i came home he send me message so he contact me first! it's a good sing right? 🙂 and now this part

Mrbalance did u date a Taurus?

yesterday me, his friend (mine too) and him went out, we really really had some good time! but if you read all i wrote the part i was confused about his tags on my building, i mention it to his friend and i was like "oh my you tagged my whole building like doors next to mine" and he looked at him and said to him i told you not those doors (so he wanted to tagged my doors!) and i looked at him and he just shrug and said to me now you understand. Like whaaaaaaaaat— i just smiled but no now i don't understand anything! and after we went on top of the building and we were drawing on the walls and there was one panel, only one in the center of the wall and he wrote my name there, first i didn't saw it and when i seen it i was like omg when did i wrote that and he said to me: i told you and he looked kinda disappointed and i said sorry sorry didn't see it and just said aww, i didn't know what should i say.. and later we went home. He didn't contact me but we played game together and after mach we didn't talk. nevermind about that i know libra do need to have some space but this what happened yesterday makes me go crazy in my mind cause i don't know what all that means!! he don't really show sings he wants something idk but like accidentally touching and things more like mind games which makes me crazy at this moment! I tried to kiss him back in december and i really don't have enough courage to do it again after he rejected me, he should know that i mean if all this really means something...

yesterday i was my self, really relaxed and chilled so it was a big + for me too 🙂
but i don't know guys... you libras cmon what this should mean?
we did a really big step! i never saw him like yesterday different level of convo and everything, and to mention he said that he used some of advice that i told him so he listen to me aswell, so idk idk idk oh my so excited and happy for this big step that happened it few days but more confused than before, trying to understand really bad but i cant solve the puzzles at all!

you should, thats why ;p

why didnt you pursue your taurus crushes?

Aries in what planet?

My sun is in Taurus and I'm a libra rising with Virgo moon and Aries Venus, leo Mars... Am I perfect for you? 😉

Lol jk, the kid who I'm in love with is libra sun, libra rising, libra moon, libra Venus, Scorpio Mars, and libra mercury. CRAZY

But I just love libras!!!! Omg why?! I can't get enough and I can't get away from you guys