LIbra women

General question. What is a Libra woman like after a break up? I'm not just looking for Libra women to answer. Anyone that has had a relationship with a Libra is more than welcome to post.

Interesting. When I experience a break up, my entire world crumbles for a couple of months. I always come back better, but I handle things very roughly. Though nobody around me knows it. I can smile and laugh in public and carry on, but I'm dying inside. At home I'll drink much more and sulk. Then meet up with friends and look normal. Nobody, but me, knows I'm dying inside.

Oh no! What happened? 😢

IMHO, librans take break ups lightly if the relationship wasn't anything special and the didnt feel a connection. But if the libran was invested in the person and the relationship they give it their all to make it work and after the break up...they wouldnt even want to look at the person anymore and try to put on a strong/poker face.

When i broke up with my libran ex he txted me later "i'm the best mistake you ever had, bye." Then he pretended as if i never existed in his life. He treated my like royalty and was loyal yet i remember his last txt becuz it was rather unlike him to be this prideful...it was weird

In my case, all 3 relationships ended in a bad way so it was hard for me. It took me a year on each one to fully recover.

It felt like a part of me died, like something I could never get back. I didn't wanna talk to anyone I knew about it. I didn't wanna go out just to pretend I'm okay. I just wanted to be left alone, barely eating, barely sleeping, crying my eyes out. I didn't want anyone to know how much it affected me.

First two ended because of them cheating so it hurt pretty badly. I mourned for the wonderful moments I had with them too because it had to end. Trust is gone so things can never be the way it was before.

The 3rd one was the most abusive relationship I had so when it finally ended, it was a relief like waking up from a terrible nightmare mixed with sadness and pity.

Posted by RainDancer88
she rolled his arm up in the window and did doughnuts **** ^

Holy shit. That's pretty metal. haha

Posted by Geminlove
IMHO, librans take break ups lightly if the relationship wasn't anything special and the didnt feel a connection. But if the libran was invested in the person and the relationship they give it their all to make it work and after the break up...they wouldnt even want to look at the person anymore and try to put on a strong/poker face.

If a Libra doesn't care about the end of the relationship it means that she didn't care about the relationship all that much to begin with. Correct? While in that relationship, would they still be a really good girlfriend? Or can you tell they're not really into it?

Posted by tiziani
All that aside, I believe it boils down to self-respect for most Libras.

It was libra08 that said it a while back - Libras need to like the look of who they are in a relationship with that other person. We want to be able to respect who we are in a relationship. If we don't have that self-respect internally anymore, it's relatively clear (not easy or hard but clear) to see reason to swim back to better shores as an individual. It becomes a sink or swim situation.

You always give insightful answers. I appreciate that. This is very interesting, but foreign to me. Can you elaborate?

Posted by SUPERJERKASS
Oh no! What happened? 😢

Not looking for a pity party, but I'm feeling like I'm not enough to make her happy. My one goal in this relationship was to make her happy. I've chased people from her life and helped her get things together, but now that things are better for her, we're fighting more. I can't seem to do anything right with her. If I let her go she'll probably meet someone new and it'll tear me up for the rest of my life, but if she's happy I've accomplished my goal. Is that not the point of love? Self sacrifice?

Posted by AesmaDaeva
In my case, all 3 relationships ended in a bad way so it was hard for me. It took me a year on each one to fully recover.

It felt like a part of me died, like something I could never get back. I didn't wanna talk to anyone I knew about it. I didn't wanna go out just to pretend I'm okay. I just wanted to be left alone, barely eating, barely sleeping, crying my eyes out. I didn't want anyone to know how much it affected me.

First two ended because of them cheating so it hurt pretty badly. I mourned for the wonderful moments I had with them too because it had to end. Trust is gone so things can never be the way it was before.

The 3rd one was the most abusive relationship I had so when it finally ended, it was a relief like waking up from a terrible nightmare mixed with sadness and pity.

Are you a Libra/Scorpio cusp? You sound like me when it comes to the end of relationship. Exactly like me.

Posted by Lust
I felt relieve and free.Then started focus on my self again. I tried to work it out as much as I could until I gave up.
The last breakup was the hardest one. I wasn't ready to let him go, but I knew his life style would always drive me crazy. So the bottom line I can't see future,no happy ending. I broke it off and didn't look back. I cried quietly almost every night before falling to sleep. I miss the cuddling & his kisses terribly. But that was about it. I cut contact to stay strong to my decision. No second chance for me and no need of friendship either. I just pretend that he is gone to a different planet. I change my numbers.

A complete break. Interesting. Is that common for Libras? The ones I know keep ex's a friends more often than not.

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Posted by Geminlove
IMHO, librans take break ups lightly if the relationship wasn't anything special and the didnt feel a connection. But if the libran was invested in the person and the relationship they give it their all to make it work and after the break up...they wouldnt even want to look at the person anymore and try to put on a strong/poker face.

If a Libra doesn't care about the end of the relationship it means that she didn't care about the relationship all that much to begin with. Correct? While in that relationship, would they still be a really good girlfriend? Or can you tell they're not really into it?

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Yup, Liberians (evolved ones) take their relationships srsly because they are big on partnerships. While in the serious relationship they try to be the best gf/bf possible and bend backwards to keep the flame going if the person mattered. If they aren't into it then u will be on the recieving end of flaky BS. That's one way to tell

Posted by Shruikan

Are you a Libra/Scorpio cusp? You sound like me when it comes to the end of relationship. Exactly like me.

Ahh no, I'm a 2nd decan libra. The only scorp planet I have is my jupiter singleton, the only fixed and water sign placement too. I don't think it has anything to do with that though. Most of my friends are like that when they go through break ups.

I just don't feel like elaborating it to people that had nothing to do with that relationship and repeating it over and over to all of them. I don't find comfort in just talking it out. It's more like I just have to purge it out of me so I can move on. I don't want anyone reminding me about it either so I'd rather not talk to anyone.

Libras in general give it their all when they're emotionally invested in the relationship. They'll try everything and change anything to make it work. If the break up is bad, most would rather not have any communication for at least a few years. Unless they're desperate and insecure, then you'd see them keep coming back for some form of validation. Once they feel like they have the closure they need, they could be gone forever.

Posted by AesmaDaeva

Posted by Shruikan

Are you a Libra/Scorpio cusp? You sound like me when it comes to the end of relationship. Exactly like me.

Ahh no, I'm a 2nd decan libra. The only scorp planet I have is my jupiter singleton, the only fixed and water sign placement too. I don't think it has anything to do with that though. Most of my friends are like that when they go through break ups.

I just don't feel like elaborating it to people that had nothing to do with that relationship and repeating it over and over to all of them. I don't find comfort in just talking it out. It's more like I just have to purge it out of me so I can move on. I don't want anyone reminding me about it either so I'd rather not talk to anyone.

Libras in general give it their all when they're emotionally invested in the relationship. They'll try everything and change anything to make it work. If the break up is bad, most would rather not have any communication for at least a few years. Unless they're desperate and insecure, then you'd see them keep coming back for some form of validation. Once they feel like they have the closure they need, they could be gone forever.

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We sound similar in that regard. I only talk about break ups or any of my problems with people if I respect their intelligence or their heart. Other than that I keep it to myself.

That's interesting. I wonder what planet/aspect influences that aside from moon. My moon is aries. The only aspect I remember about my moon is moon opposite pluto.

My moon is in Taurus. The exact opposite of my sun from what I understand. I'm a mess haha!

Posted by AesmaDaeva

Posted by Shruikan

Are you a Libra/Scorpio cusp? You sound like me when it comes to the end of relationship. Exactly like me.

Ahh no, I'm a 2nd decan libra. The only scorp planet I have is my jupiter singleton, the only fixed and water sign placement too. I don't think it has anything to do with that though. Most of my friends are like that when they go through break ups.

I just don't feel like elaborating it to people that had nothing to do with that relationship and repeating it over and over to all of them. I don't find comfort in just talking it out. It's more like I just have to purge it out of me so I can move on. I don't want anyone reminding me about it either so I'd rather not talk to anyone.

Libras in general give it their all when they're emotionally invested in the relationship. They'll try everything and change anything to make it work. If the break up is bad, most would rather not have any communication for at least a few years. Unless they're desperate and insecure, then you'd see them keep coming back for some form of validation. Once they feel like they have the closure they need, they could be gone forever.

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@ AesmaDaeva, you hit the nail on the head! I am a 2nd decan Libran too with a Scorpio rising, and most Libra's I know including myself, when I was in the dating world was exactly this way. Nothing to talk about, nothing to elaborate on and nothing to discuss. The relationship was over, so I just wanted to move on. For whatever reason, Libra's apparently come across as aloof and non emotional, but that's just not true. We may not show emotions with everyone we encounter, but we are very emotional to the one we love. I know for me, once I left a relationship, I was gone..PERMANENTLY!
However, years later I would run into an ex and we'd talk as if nothing ever happened, but that would be the gist of the reunion. No harm..No foul

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Posted by tiziani
All that aside, I believe it boils down to self-respect for most Libras.

It was libra08 that said it a while back - Libras need to like the look of who they are in a relationship with that other person. We want to be able to respect who we are in a relationship. If we don't have that self-respect internally anymore, it's relatively clear (not easy or hard but clear) to see reason to swim back to better shores as an individual. It becomes a sink or swim situation.

You always give insightful answers. I appreciate that. This is very interesting, but foreign to me. Can you elaborate?

It's hard for me to elaborate as I don't know where I could/don't have the words.which part?

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I guess what I don't understand is the concept of losing self respect internally. I'm not sure if I've ever experienced that. Is there a way to help a Libra retain the feeling of self respect in a relationship, if it's internal? Or does that just happen with time?

Posted by RainDancer88
My mom ( a libra) took it like she had been shot.

My dad cheated on her and she went to extremes. (she has a scorpio stellium too....)

BUT -

She used every chance to - what in her mind proved - that he was a piece of shit and tore him to pieces out of angry passion. I remember one time he was trying to reach into her car to take the keys so she couldn't leave and she rolled his window up in the car and did doughnuts in the front yard of his boss's yard!!

My mom has been straight sad, lonely, and crazy ever since.

Your mom is EPIC! Tell her to write a book! She could make some serious cash off of your dad & her heartbreak.

Regardless of the situation and different circumstances, whether it be me that has left or the relationship has just fallen apart. I analyse it to death over a few months, or longer, if the relationship was longer. This, to help me build myself up and be a stronger person, I can be very weak in the beginning but as time goes on, I recognise the reasons it didn't/hasn't worked out and that makes it more definite to me.

Memories haunt me though, special places or days of significant in the relationship never go away and can send me thinking back...but not for long, just fleetingly.

Posted by sweethearts
Regardless of the situation and different circumstances, whether it be me that has left or the relationship has just fallen apart. I analyse it to death over a few months, or longer, if the relationship was longer. This, to help me build myself up and be a stronger person, I can be very weak in the beginning but as time goes on, I recognise the reasons it didn't/hasn't worked out and that makes it more definite to me.

Memories haunt me though, special places or days of significant in the relationship never go away and can send me thinking back...but not for long, just fleetingly.

Have you ever dated someone that made it impossible for you to do certain things? Like going somewhere or eating something that was special to the two of you? Or does it all fade quickly for you?

Posted by Sugarfoot
It depends on how I felt about the person at the end of the relationship. If I've lost all respect and no longer see this person as a good human being, I leave and never look back. I feel like I've escaped.

If we ended because our personality differences were too great, but I still respect and love them, it's REALLY hard. It's hard for me to come to grips with the fact that we just cannot make it work. I always believe that there is a solution to every problem. So I tend to break up and make up a lot with those ones. My optimism and love blinds me from seeing the obvious. There has only been 2 of those in my life. I've accepted that I will always love them but made the conscious decision to move forward. That has helped me.

What am I like during the breakup? Scenario 1, I'm fine. I may beat myself up for a couple of days for being dumb enough to be with someone like that. After a week, tops, I'm back to normal.

Scenario 2? Wreckless, disoriented, noticeably affected, tears are always a moment away. If I'm talking about the relationship I WILL be crying. I fight the urge contact them and my heart drops if they contact me. I panic trying to figure out if I should respond or not. It's a big mess. I could stay that way for 3 weeks. Then chill out on the tears but keep the other stuff for the next few months.

Do you feel that you can always love someone that was from your past and still fully love someone new in the future? Or do you think meeting "the one" will stop all past feelings of love?

Posted by tiziani
Shruikan sorry I can't quote posts, but the point is it isn't really something within a partner's control so if it happens don't take it so much to heart. Easy to say I know, especially since it is actually a reflection on the relationship. But any time it happened to me it was because my vision at the beginning of the relationship needed adjusting for me personally, not the eventual outcome. The quality time spent in those relationships remains very important in helping me to see that

imo I feel much more complete as an individual than when I do in a relationship and I don't think this is uncommon for Libras

Very interesting. I'm not sure if I've ever felt completely complete in my life. Not totally. I always feel like I'm looking to finish myself. I've never equated that feeling to being with a partner or being alone. Do you think Libras tend to focus more on love than Scorpio? Could this be the difference in feelings or understanding. I've always been a sucker for love, but I feel like I could make it just fine alone if it needed to be that way. Though, as I've learned recently, this Libra has me questioning that about myself. She's flipped my world around somehow. Sorry for all the questions.

In the relationship yes. I'm speaking about stepping out of the relationship, if you think you are only hurting them.