Cajunspirit
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Libran Female Behaviour
It's hard to be friends with someone who can flip out any second and bite your head off, unjustly.
Posted by ellessque
but it's "justfied" to her. so you accept that she will come off as imbalanced, that is the only way to be her friend.
it's not her that has issue, it's you. she can't help it and no amount of constructive criticism is going to change it.
Have you dealt with this before?
The amazing thing is that CAPRICORNS get along with them.
I don't see how that is even remotely possible given Capricorn's innate intolerance for non sense.
I don't see how that is even remotely possible given Capricorn's innate intolerance for non sense.
The objective of this topic is not to bash Libra women.
I would really like to learn what they have to say about this kind of behaviour.
I would really like to learn what they have to say about this kind of behaviour.
Posted by ellessque
it doesn't phase capricorns because they are more accepting of themselves and it really doesn't matter what the libra might say. The capricorn will categorize them and put them where they need to go. They will shut down the drama in a new york minute...the libra will either accept or move on their way.
Fascinating... wish I could witness it.
Posted by Cajunspirit
The amazing thing is that CAPRICORNS get along with them.
I don't see how that is even remotely possible given Capricorn's innate intolerance for non sense.
I can't speak for all Capricorns, but personally, I don't get along with Libras too well at all. They have to be atleast 20yrs older than me for us to click. Libra males and females irritate the heck out of me.
Posted by size zero superhero
She doesn't slander mutual friends but acquaintances. typically over issues she also has and is ashamed of. Reason I don't do anything other than shake my head is because friends aren't brought up in her bashing sessions, although it's still stupid as hell IMO.
She has a lot of insecurities, my friend.
Horrifyingly annoying.
Posted by Cajunspirit
My very first ex [October 10th,1988], exhibits such strange behaviour.
I find that for a while we will be fine, happy and talk well as friends. We could make jokes, take what each other was giving and dish back, no worries.
However, every so often, she just becomes incredibly negative. I find her to be very flippant. She would argue over trivial things, turn mole hills into mountains, curse and accuse me of being bad to her. I really do not understand it.
It's as though I always supposed to know how be around her and if I go against the tide, criticise or say something she doesn't like, I am ridiculed and vilified.
To me, I think of it as her liking to give people a hard time for no reason, to test them. What annoys the living hell out of me is that she knows I am aware of her doing this on purpose.... yet she persists.
Is this normal?
How can this be justified?
Easy. You're incompatible..
I can bet she will probably be saying the same thing about you.
Posted by QLIbraMale
@Cajunspiri your avatar Carlton from Fresh Prince, its been bugging me for awhile not knowing lol.
Carlton?
Uuuughhh, most of my avatars are of myself.
Posted by spica
Easy. You're incompatible..
I can bet she will probably be saying the same thing about you.click to expand
She wasn't this way, thankfully, when I dated her years ago.
Now she has just become this indecisive and conveniently sensitive person.
She can't possibly say I am the same way.
Dude, you have only one side of the story here.. Virgos are nothing but critical on Libras.. more than we are ever critical on you guys..
I think ya'll should stick with Aries females..
I think ya'll should stick with Aries females..
Posted by spica
Dude, you have only one side of the story here.. Virgos are nothing but critical on Libras.. more than we are ever critical on you guys..
I think ya'll should stick with Aries females..
I agree on the Aries bit, but seriously?
If you're dating a married man?
Enjoy being the outside woman?
Fuss over someone mixing up the date they told you they dated someone else?
Throw a temper tantrum for being told what you are doing doesn't make sense?
What are we supposed to do?
Just accept it, pretend it doesn't bother us and go with the flow?
NO!
Being fake and pretentious is not for Virgos.
Nice offensive thrown to make it seem personal.
I have never and will never do what your Libra did, but I sense there is more to it than this.
Ultimately, Virgo men and Libra women are incompatible. I am not sure why they even try. Just move on..
Virgoes have plenty to pick from. Aqua women, fellow virgettes and Aries are right up their alley.
I have never and will never do what your Libra did, but I sense there is more to it than this.
Ultimately, Virgo men and Libra women are incompatible. I am not sure why they even try. Just move on..
Virgoes have plenty to pick from. Aqua women, fellow virgettes and Aries are right up their alley.
And, fake and pretentious right back atcha.. Virgos are masters at dodging blame and fixing it on others. Libra + Virgo energy = incompatible. NEXT.
Posted by spica
Nice offensive thrown to make it seem personal.
I have never and will never do what your Libra did, but I sense there is more to it than this.
Ultimately, Virgo men and Libra women are incompatible. I am not sure why they even try. Just move on..
Virgoes have plenty to pick from. Aqua women, fellow virgettes and Aries are right up their alley.
I am sorry if you interpreted it that way.
I was just quoting the actions of Libras I have known personally.
I just want to be her friend, to be there for her, but she keeps pushing me away viciously after we are cool for awhile.
Very much a sociopath. I have come here to find out from other Libra women, why?
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by spica
Dude, you have only one side of the story here.. Virgos are nothing but critical on Libras.. more than we are ever critical on you guys..
I think ya'll should stick with Aries females..
I agree on the Aries bit, but seriously?
If you're dating a married man?
Enjoy being the outside woman?
Fuss over someone mixing up the date they told you they dated someone else?
Throw a temper tantrum for being told what you are doing doesn't make sense?
What are we supposed to do?
Just accept it, pretend it doesn't bother us and go with the flow?
NO!
Being fake and pretentious is not for Virgos.click to expand
She is doing all these things and you have pointed them out to her and WHAT offered advice— Or are you trying to tell her you are the one for her??
If so, no wonder she is flipping on you! The truth hurts when spoken out loud, she already knows all this, she's living it.
Yes you will be attacked as her defence of herself even if she knows she is wrong. It's human instinct to defend when attack!
And who are you to sit in Judgement on someone else, this she has to workout for herself, unless of course she asks you for your opinion...then maybe she is receptive enough to hear you!
If she is doing this, it's flipping her own scales and she will have to numb herself to any others opinions in order to keep doing it.
She wont be told or hear what you have to say!
And yes, I understand where his concern is coming from but, it's all just taken as an attack to her! She's in LUST!
She wont be told or hear what you have to say!
And yes, I understand where his concern is coming from but, it's all just taken as an attack to her! She's in LUST!
And what inspired this thread? 😉
Posted by amethyst2002
Who cares? It doesn't excuse shitty behavior toward her friend. If she has issues, she needs to keep them to herself, not lash out to someone who clearly cares about her.
The fact that he wants to know reasons behind the behavior says a lot. If he was truly critical, he wouldn't care what her underlying issues were. At least he's TRYING to understand her.
If I read right, and she's the one hooking up with a married man and supposedly happy with it, this behavior is an indicator that shes' NOT happy with her situation and life right now.
And being a friend doesn't give you a right to impose on anyone your morals and high ground in a way that irritates or offends someone else! There is a tactful way to approach anything and if the subject in question is not open for discussion then quite frankly a friend should know when to BUTT OUT!
People will live their own lives according to no one but themselves!
So Amy, if your doing something others feel is self destructive no matter how you feel. Your going to stop and turn about face to pls others— Give me a fucking break... People are out to pls themselves not others. If someone is in love or lust with another womans man and their friend is overly opinionated they will more than likely dump their friend! Women do it all the time leave their mates when there is love on the cards.
A friend can have their opinion but to force it down anothers throat is going to get a negative response.
A friend can have their opinion but to force it down anothers throat is going to get a negative response.
I have a good friend of 25 years and a relative, both libra females, that behave in this exact same way. They will be insulting seemingly out of the blue. When you give it right back to them though, they adjust their behavior. It's really weird. They are both very independent, secretive and misleading at times. But they are alot of fun to be around when they are in a good mood. I agree with the disconnect comment..it's like they are unaware of their behavior.
You can sit there and give advice and deliver reality checks til you're blue in the face, but SOME people just will not listen and continue to self destruct. You just gotta say treetrunk it and back off or walk away at that point. :/ Getting sucked into their issues when they won't bother to do anything about it isn't worth the energy.
Look at the other side of the coin...I'm speaking from hers and yours from his, yet I think we are saying the same thing...
Go figure!! Is it that complicated for you??
Look at the other side of the coin...I'm speaking from hers and yours from his, yet I think we are saying the same thing...
Go figure!! Is it that complicated for you??
Posted by sweethearts
She is doing all these things and you have pointed them out to her and WHAT offered advice— Or are you trying to tell her you are the one for her??
If so, no wonder she is flipping on you! The truth hurts when spoken out loud, she already knows all this, she's living it.
Yes you will be attacked as her defence of herself even if she knows she is wrong. It's human instinct to defend when attack!
I do not understand why you all view it as an attack. If you are drowning in a pit of excrement that you walked into, of course I am going to try and save you [advice] and tell you how you went wrong [constructive criticism].
What I can not stand, is that you KNOW you're wrong and you still PRETENTIOUSLY broadcast you are right.
Posted by amethyst2002
You'll get one of two reactions- either she'll get mad, but secretly think it over and correct herself.
Or
Refuse to see it your way and just get offended and hold a grudge because how DARE you make her feel bad for being such a unstable hobag!! Depends on how evolved she is. *shrugs*
It seems to be the latter, all the time.
Posted by sweethearts
And yes, I understand where his concern is coming from but, it's all just taken as an attack to her! She's in LUST!
Lust for?
Posted by LibraLove
And what inspired this thread? 😉click to expand
Your thread reminded me of my past and on going tribulations with my ex...
Posted by Cajunspirit
My very first ex [October 10th,1988], exhibits such strange behaviour.
I find that for a while we will be fine, happy and talk well as friends. We could make jokes, take what each other was giving and dish back, no worries.
However, every so often, she just becomes incredibly negative. I find her to be very flippant. She would argue over trivial things, turn mole hills into mountains, curse and accuse me of being bad to her. I really do not understand it.
It's as though I always supposed to know how be around her and if I go against the tide, criticise or say something she doesn't like, I am ridiculed and vilified.
To me, I think of it as her liking to give people a hard time for no reason, to test them. What annoys the living hell out of me is that she knows I am aware of her doing this on purpose.... yet she persists.
Is this normal?
How can this be justified?
Sun Libra 17.04
Moon Libra 8.54
Mercury Libra 19.29 R
Venus Virgo 6.31
Mars Aries 1.59 R
Jupiter Gemini 5.43 R
Saturn Sagittarius 27.15
Uranus Sagittarius 27.33
Neptune Capricorn 7.33
Pluto Scorpio 11.31
Lilith Virgo 16.34
Asc node Pisces 13.38
well first off the retrogade ARIES mars makes her very fussy b/c she probably only has the relationship as an outlet. Plus it opposes her moon. The accusations can be from a neptune square her mars nd she can just be relaing anger from somthing inthe past that she bottled in so long and you are the oe catching hell for it
her moon trine jupiter can make her emotions and moods extreme and thats why she might be extremely negative sme days, sounds like she needs an outlet
all in all, libras when immaure, use relationships as an outlet. Our partner will catch alot of hell for the stress we dont express in the real world. Not it is not justified by her chart on bit, she is just fussy and her chart shows that her moods are a little wild and that her anger may be a little repressed
Posted by THEKingofLibraPosted by ellessque
cuspers have such keen intuition. i'm jealous 😄
Now if only I was a brotha, we'd be getting it on already 😢click to expand
wtf? a brotha?
I do not understand why you all view it as an attack. If you are drowning in a pit of excrement that you walked into, of course I am going to try and save you [advice] and tell you how you went wrong [constructive criticism].
What I can not stand, is that you KNOW you're wrong and you still PRETENTIOUSLY broadcast you are right.
You are attacking someone, they will instinctively defend themselves right or wrong! Seriously, how can you not understand this? Another example then...
If someone came up and punched you in the face, how many would go nuts and start smashing that person back? How many would just take one swing and leave it and how many would try to understand what bought all this on?
What I can not stand, is that you KNOW you're wrong and you still PRETENTIOUSLY broadcast you are right.
You are attacking someone, they will instinctively defend themselves right or wrong! Seriously, how can you not understand this? Another example then...
If someone came up and punched you in the face, how many would go nuts and start smashing that person back? How many would just take one swing and leave it and how many would try to understand what bought all this on?
Caj even though you only a little bit younger than me I see that you are in a point in your life. That I was in a couple of years ago where I try to be mr.save a hoe lol. Just let it go she has no use for you and she is not good for you their is a point in time when virgos need to learn to let it go. And your time is now you can't fix this accept it this type of change you want from her must come from her and only her.
Posted by sweethearts
What I can not stand, is that you KNOW you're wrong and you still PRETENTIOUSLY broadcast you are right.
You are attacking someone, they will instinctively defend themselves right or wrong! Seriously, how can you not understand this? Another example then...
But I am not attacking her.... If someone came up to me and pointed out, with logic and facts, that what I was doing in situation A was wrong I would at least listen to their point of view and see if it made sense to change. I would value their input and be grateful they took some time to think about me.
If someone came up and punched you in the face, how many would go nuts and start smashing that person back? How many would just take one swing and leave it and how many would try to understand what bought all this on?
This is a poor analogy... They intention of a Virgo is to help, to serve, to perfect.
The problem, as always, is in interpretation.
Posted by virgoking
Caj even though you only a little bit younger than me I see that you are in a point in your life. That I was in a couple of years ago where I try to be mr.save a hoe lol. Just let it go she has no use for you and she is not good for you their is a point in time when virgos need to learn to let it go. And your time is now you can't fix this accept it this type of change you want from her must come from her and only her.click to expand
I know that much, but it depresses me.
The desire to help is like a driving force.
But I am not attacking her.... If someone came up to me and pointed out, with logic and facts, that what I was doing in situation A was wrong I would at least listen to their point of view and see if it made sense to change. I would value their input and be grateful they took some time to think about me.
And this is where you need to except that a LIBRA does this in their heads at their own time!!
She may listen and take in what you have to say but she may not change what she is doing. If you don't like it then the choice is yours as to whether you sit around and be a witness or leave.
YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE ELSE DO WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY ARE SELF DESTRUCTING!!
And this is where you need to except that a LIBRA does this in their heads at their own time!!
She may listen and take in what you have to say but she may not change what she is doing. If you don't like it then the choice is yours as to whether you sit around and be a witness or leave.
YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE ELSE DO WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY ARE SELF DESTRUCTING!!
Posted by sweethearts
And this is where you need to except that a LIBRA does this in their heads at their own time!!
She may listen and take in what you have to say but she may not change what she is doing. If you don't like it then the choice is yours as to whether you sit around and be a witness or leave.
YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE ELSE DO WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY ARE SELF DESTRUCTING!!
I understand that, but look at how may Libra women end up.... total train wrecks.
Always harping about some relationship gone wrong or how this one did that bad.
Don't you think someone at some point warned them?
Don't you think, they themselves, realise just how self destructive their behaviour can be?
Choice is what defines a person, and the choices the Libra women I have encountered, including said ex, always seem to be ultimately poor.
How many people listen because someone else advises them— Seriously? I have children and no matter what I say at times they will find out for themselves, I've done it against my friends advice and u bet you have too.
Try all you like but there will come a point in time where you'll work out that some don't/won't/can't listen or hear you. They are numb because of their own desires.
The mind is willing but the flesh is weak!
Try all you like but there will come a point in time where you'll work out that some don't/won't/can't listen or hear you. They are numb because of their own desires.
The mind is willing but the flesh is weak!
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However, every so often, she just becomes incredibly negative. I find her to be very flippant. She would argue over trivial things, turn mole hills into mountains, curse and accuse me of being bad to her. I really do not understand it.
It's as though I always supposed to know how be around her and if I go against the tide, criticise or say something she doesn't like, I am ridiculed and vilified.
To me, I think of it as her liking to give people a hard time for no reason, to test them. What annoys the living hell out of me is that she knows I am aware of her doing this on purpose.... yet she persists.
Is this normal?
How can this be justified?
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