Moving in together

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Pride of 0ctober on Thursday, December 2, 2010 and has 4 replies.

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@Pride of 0ctober
16 Years500+ Posts

How do yall feel about moving in with someone so early or ever in a relationship?

It was a bad decision for me, i wont say why on here but it was a bad one, especially if you are not ready for it. Its alot to ask for when you are still discovering yourself and wish to be alone

your thoughts>

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@LibraSid
16 Years1,000+ PostsLibra

It is a big step. If two people stay together long enough it is one they will have to address but if both people aren't ready it is a mistake. To me, my home is my castle. Letting someone move in is significant. It is my safe haven from the outside. It is where I am vulnerable.

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@libra sun
16 Years1,000+ PostsLibra

I have a bad habbit of moving myself into peoples houses. At the start of a relationship I always rush everything then just stop until the relationship has caught up with my actions, something I am working on as I do not want to keep making the same mistake. For some reason it feels so right at the time, but I have learnt from experience that it is a big decision that should not be rushed into. If you really love and care about a person then there is no need to rush, you have your whole lives to make such decisions

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@zjv
16 YearsLibra

Of course there are exceptions...

But generally speaking...

Bad idea. Take it slow.

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@Pride of 0ctober
16 Years500+ Posts

It is a big move that takes maturity, i will never do it again though. I am a man who does have a hunger for privacy and boundaries. I have days where i am moody, by myself i am silent and quiet but my emotions and nerves are hair triggered on those days and one wrogn word can set me off, thats alot for someone to handle but i think it comes from feeling smothered and subconsciously its a way of pushing someone away so you can have space

Its just too much to ask right now and libra sun i agree and relate to you 100% on that

i learned that you shouldnt do it until you look at the whole spectrum. I was staying on campus at first and i got caught up in the world of clinginess and loneliness since im being honest with myself.

well i never knew that she didnt have a job and her parents helped with the apartment along with her school refund. Eviction.

My life has been an unblanced nervre racking hell ever since and i wish i would have established boundaries, stood my ground on no relationship and stayed on campus b/c the life has been throughly sucked out of me