need advice about a Libra woman (Page 8)

Well, you should think about her 🙂 You care about her ^_^.

But I think you should just wait 🙂 What decan libra is she? What decan libra are you?

whats a decan libra?

Its like the period you were born in.

Okay, lets do this, when is your birth day? Don't give me the year, just the month and day. Give me her's too

hers is October 12th...mine is October 19th

ok what does this mean? is this good?

no wait, here it is

You: Libra-Scorpio Cusp

Her: Libra III (the III, means 3rd decan)


Okay, good to know, I'm sure you two match well as friends too so thats good 🙂

ok so what does all this mean? can u explain briefly

Oh yeah, I just wanted to know the period in which you two were born -- every libra is not created equal.

Theres:

Virgo-Libra Cusp

Libra I

Libra II

Libra III

Libra-Scorpio Cusp

It just determines personality traits more or less and its a more indepth look into the two people involved.


Thats about as brief as I can be about that lol


I'll ask about you moon signs later, now thats about as equally important as the decans.

decans and cusps I should say.

You need sleep Denny, I'll be on later tomorrow 😄

ok thank you Cappy 🙂

welcome ^_^.

I'm coming to my conclusion now. Haha.
The impression I've gotten through all this is that you have a serious crush on this girl, but that's about as deep as it goes. Kind of like puppy love it seems? (I could be wrong not knowing all the details.)
You've talked casually in class. But really you two don't know eachother very well and you wouldn't consider her a friend - chances are she doesn't consider you one either. However, you do have eachother's numbers and she does respond to your emails and did call you back the first time.

Basically, I think you've idealised her at this point. You think she's a certain way - but you could totally be wrong. (You make a lot of assumptions about her.) & because you think about her so much - and run all these scenarios through your head - you probably feel like you know her better than you actually do. I mean if you only talked casually in a classroom setting and never hung out outside of class...how well could you possibly know her? I'm guessing not really at all.

Plus - she's told you many times how busy she is. She's probably not even hanging out much with her friends and the people closest to her. So why would she meet up and hang out with a guy she really doesn't even know?
Even if she's interested in you, maybe right now just isn't the right time.


But I still stick by my original advice: stay in contact with her if you really like her. Eventually she will have to give in when she sees how persistant you are. 🙂

you could be right briana...i know she is busy, and has a lot of responsibilities...im very aware of that....and in my opinion, i coudl be wrong, but what I think is that she has 'some' kind of interest in me, but shes just skeptical for some reason or afraid that it may be too much of a good thing and she doesnt have tiem for it or doesnt know how to handle it. I honestly dont know.

I just know how i feel. And i know I dont know her all that well, but there this feeling that I get when I think about her is like indescribable...im not really explaining this well. Bascially I just think about her like crazy, have since august, i really care for her, and I think we would, at the least, be good friends. And the thing that does bother me is that she really doesnt even know really who i am. Thats why i just wanted to go out with her 1 time. But honestly, im facing reality...I think about waht Im asking for...and what am i asking for?...an hour for lunch before work? I think that is very doable...thats just my opinion.

So im not going to say im NEVER going to talk to her again because thats pretty extreme...but I'm pretty much done. There really is NOTHING else i can do. Honestly, some people are like "call her again", no, after a while, I have to take the hint. And im taking it. Seriously, I have ran out of things to do. I really feel ive done everything possible. I thought that if she was interested, I woudl have defenetly got the phone call yesterday or today and make plans for today, tommorrow, or wed...but instead I got nothing back in return. So I got my answer.

how often did you make contact with her before you came onto dxp ? have you chatted a lot in the last 5 months ?

? it still works...why? Little Sparrow you lied to us!!!! LOL

Apparently! They USE to stop at 300. Well ?now I am thinking back to all the threads that had over 300 posts that I didn't read because I figured the posts weren't showing. Lol! Ooops.

I am with you Denny. She might still call tonight but if she works from 3 to 12 ... I think it is a done deal.

I HIGHLY recommend NOT calling her again but just leaving it be. You don't know the story on this girl there could be any number of reasons why she hasn't pursued this or responded to your interest at all.

If it was me, to be honest, I would have called by now even if it was to say next week would be better.

She knows you are interested. You know she knows and like you said you've done all you can. She'll either come back with a great excuse as to why she couldn't get back to you sooner (maybe there was a family tragedy. that happened to me once.) or she won't. But regardless, there is nothing you can do and pursuing more will just piss her off. It would me.

I think you have handled yourself with grace, dignity, and style . Even though it may not have worked out with this one, I think you handled everything extremely well.

I actually don't think he has a crush on this girl. I think he is in love with her.

* how well could you possibly know her? I'm guessing not really at all.

Have you ever just known things about a person without really knowing them? I have.

Most of the marriages that I know of that have lasted 20+ years usually the people knew immediately and didn't "know" the person that well before hand. They just knew.

LittleSparrow,

You just laid everything out to perfection...everything I feel and everything I think, you just said it

I dont know her THAT well, but like you said sparrow...sometimes you 'just know'...intuition. I had it with her.

Like me and my ex girlfriend....i saw her for 5 seconds and i knew that I could see myself in the far future with her...& we wound up going out and we did for 5+ years. soemtimes 'you just know'

I also knew enough about this girl to realize i cared for her and liked her a lot

But like you said sparrow, its a done deal. I really feel it. Even if she couldnt make it this week, she would have called by now with an excuse or to re-schedule it. Im taking whatever dignity i have left and laying low. If she happens to get back to me, Il post it on here and we'll take it from there, but honestly, whats the point?

This is the anaology that best describes the whole thing:
I told you all i felt like i was running an endless marathon, well now its like i collapsed on the track due to heart failure or something....getting a date with her would be crossing the finish line, but that didnt happen.

So, 5 months later, back where I started.

well, if there's no one else in the picture, might as well sit back and see what happens or what she comes back with.
I know it's hard as a Cardinal sign, you need a goal or aim to work with, but you have your dignity in tact to play cool with.

Sorry about that - I haven't given up hope though 😉

yea...i mean im going to be a nurse in less than a yea...i know I will meet lots of people....but i guess I just want what I want like everybody else

the thing is...i dont like many girls enough to be my gf....of course I think girsl are pretty, and nice and so on...but the first thing i ask myself is "can i see myself with this girl 3 years down the road"...i said that to myself with my ex and the anaswer was yes and we spent 5+ years together....with this girl...the answer was yes also...

I guess I just had a good feeling with her....

I have no regrets...i think i handled everything pretty good and I think i did everythign I could.

Im so close to writing her an email...and not a bad email...just letting her know how i felt and but in a nice way...im very close...and i might down the road...but not now

wow you really do that? I should try that - I just think it's too soon to tell if you can see yourself down the line.
For now, the timing may be bad all round.

No too soon to write in my opinion... wait a while, well not really waiting, just to see if she comes back, then if it helps you clear your mind... but may make her feel uncomfortable if she sees you in future or might guilt her into going out with you. IDK for real... you gotta do what's gonna help you close the chapter !

yea...im not planning anything...im takign everything in stride...

but one way or another, she will get an email and she will know how I feel, or felt

ok denny, take care and keep your head up... no matter what, you're still a hot dude 😉

thanks Zena... 🙂

I guess there was a back story, but not knowing it, I must tell you that you have indeed done everything you could and you have done it with dignity.

Not too many people (men and women) think like you explained it. Looking into the possiblity of the relationship.

Now maybe the universe has something else in mind for you.

Becoming a nurse, you will need all the compassion and hope you can find in humanity.

I applaud you Denny and all you stand for sincerely.

thank you so much thairis.....i appreciate it very much....thank you

Denny ...

Why are you giving up hope? After our talk yesterday ...

oh daer ..

cappy,

How can i not at this point? Ive tried to remain as optimistic as possible, but honestly, how can i sit here and say this girl is interested in me. If she is, she has some way of showing it

hopeful check in time 😭

I get you Denny. I have been in the exact same spot so I completely relate to what you are saying, the way you are behaving, and what you are feeling. 🙂

... and it totally sucks that she didn't respond.

😢

yea it does...

I dont know if the timing is just bad...maybe the fact that she cant see her family due to her work hours is having this much of an effect on her...but i mean what is it to make a phone call to cancel or re-schedule? thats all im saying.

Hmmmm doesn't sound good in my books, as a Librian woman if I like someone I'd certainly let them know that I'm interested and if I am playing a little hard to get it's because I want to make sure they are interested in more than just a fling. I find it hard ignoring a even total stangers advances as I always put myself in their shoes and think that they had the courage to ask so at least I can tell them that I'm not interested. Mostly this is done by making excuses to why I'm just too busy to go out with them!!! Cant just say "sorry your not my type" because I'm thinking that'll hurt their feelings or they will think I think too much of myself. Anyway that's me...

You've done as much as you can, as you already have acknowledged. Don't stalk Denny, you're way to good for that. Hardest thing is it really is her lose as we all here know but there will be something just around the corner for you...why dont you try conversing with a few of the ladies here onsite...alot seem really keen on you!

Good luck

listen to this....the story takes a twisted turn

Its 2:49am here in NJ on tuesday night. I just got a text message from her at 2:00am saying:

"what about having lunch this wedensday? guess what? I know an excellent italian place."

I texted her back saying sure. But im thinking to myself....whats wrong with this girl? I hear nothing sunday, monday, or all day tues...and i get a text tues night at 2am. Not that I mind, but its just, idk. Im just hoping she did send it at 2am and not that she sent it yesterday or something and the text only went through at 2am. But anyway...now the questions start coming.

What if i wake up tommorrow (today) and i dont hear from her....do i call/text her? Or do i wait for her to get in touch with me? What do i do? Because no matter what i pick, i have a feeling it will be the wrong decision. If its like 12pm and i havent heard anything...what do i do?

I hope somebody comes on here within the next 20 min....my head is in a million directions.

but..i didnt get the text until 2am...i texted her back as soon as i got the text..

what do i do tommorrow?

🙂 thank u

she works from 3-11pm and usually doesnt get home until 1am

so its realisitc taht she sent the text at 2am...i have no clue when she gets up...

but if tommorrow rolls around...and its 12pm...what do i do? keep waiting for her to contact me or contact her?

ok but...

i texted her back already saying "sure lets do it"...somethign like that....but im saying, i responded already

so now what?

see that sounds good...

but i really dont like contacting this girl twice in a row....i know it may sound stupid...but i feel like im already at this girls beck and call....i sent her the reply text saying "yea lets go"...she SHOULD contact me tommorrow with the info...if its like 12pm and i havent heard anything....i wouldnt feel right sending her antoher text...do you get me?

ive been playing games with her for 5 months...since august....in october, we came so close to going out that i was actually in the shower, I had my clothes all ironed out...adn then i got a text message when i was in the shower "hey woudl u mind if we rescheduled, i took a pill and i feel nausious"....ive been through the mill and back with this girl....if she dotn know im interested, she never will

i just feel like if i send her another text, it just doesnt look good at all....it just seems that shes got me wrapped around her finger...and i dont like that. I mean i have no problem asking her out or asking to hang out...i beleive the guy always does that to the girl....but this is different...and i feel like if i send her another text tommorrow, it looks like im desperate or soemthing.

I texted her already accepting her invitation....if she didnt get it tonight, she'll see it tommorrow when she checks her phone...she SHOULD get back to me...am i wrong?

this sux...im so wired right now...im just thinking "what if she dont contact me tommorrow and its up to me once again to either make the move or wait for her"

its 4am right now and im about to shave, shower, pick out what to wear...as if im going out with her in an hour.

I can forget about sleeping...i mean il lay in bed but it wont do any good...cause i know i wont be able to sleep for nothing.

And thinking if she actually sent the text at 2AM or maybe she send it earlier and i didnt receive it until 2am...and if it was too late to text her back....just all this OCD

And for what...to get dissapointed again tommorrow if/when we dont go out.

i shouldnt say it sux...but you know what im saying

i know i sound a bit pestamistic...which is not like me...but how can i sit here and have hope of actually going otu with this girl after all this....like i said..in october, i was in the shower, actually in the shower & expecting to see her within the hour and she bailed on me...

Il still have doubts even if im on my way driving up to the restaurant

Il be satisfied when im sitting across from her and our clams oreganata are on the table...until then anything is possible...i wont be surprised if she textd me while i was driving up with soemthing like "hey, my shoe lace broke so we'll have to reschedule"

ok..i will try to get some sleep...il be back later on...wish me luck

OMG Denny 😄!!!!

What did I tell you 😉 I stopped talking to you because you got all 'doom and gloomy' on me 😉 lol. I was thinking to myself, "Dude, just wait, she will contact you, give her time."

haha, patience is a virtue my friend 🙂 I'm sorry I wasn't on last night, I was busy busy busy 🙂

You text or call her around 11:30 saying are we still on for lunch today? If so where and when do you want to meet?

Then leave it. This does two things. It reminds her that she made plans with you and confirms that you want to keep those plans. AND it makes her commit to the plans.

If she doesn't respond, SHE is breaking the plans.

I don't think it looks desperate at all. It looks like you want to know if you are still getting together and when or where. Lol!

If she was just a friend, that is the way you would handle it right? Treat her like a friend.

My feeling is she isn't sure. It might have to do with the fact that you are so much younger than she is and she doesn't know you that well so she is trying to decide what she wants.

Don't know if you heard from her yet or not...but if you don't hear from her by noon just text her with "hey what time do you want to meet for lunch?"
If she doesn't respond...okay, she's a wierdo - it's for the best. But I'm sure she will.

but do you guys see my point....i already sent her a text last night accepting her invitation....why should I sent her another text?

by the way...its 11:00am and still nothing...

I guess, once again, il giver her the benefit of the doubt and send her 'another' text if i dont here from her by noon. But this is bs...she should contact me...

I would never say to somebody 'hey want to grab lunch?, i know a great place' adn then when they say yes....i just dont say anything...thats just ignorant

Hi Denny, I have to run and be back on later -- I haven't read all your stuff yet lol