Need help with my ex libra women

We lived together for a few years, she kicked me out 5 months ago little communication if any atfirst, brought me back into her life for like a month basically back to normal dating(getting dinner/walking our dog/ sleeping over in same bed) pushed me out again because she stressed herself out over thoughts of things not being changed and not wanting to get hurt again, brought me back again just recently for a week and I upset her over asking how she felt about me and her and now she hasn’t contacted at all it’s only been a week since. What is going on with her? Is there hope for the future? She has mars in cancer/mercury in libra/Venus in Scorpio if that makes any difference

Posted by MadHatter
@jeane

she's a pro at this combo

i'm loving your confidence but oof...i'm weary just thinking about what mess this could be...lol

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Posted by MadHatter
@jeane

she's a pro at this combo

i'm loving your confidence but oof...i'm weary just thinking about what mess this could be...lol click to expand

I don't blame ya.. sounds kinda like he's messed up a lot.

Still have confidence in ya click to expand

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Yeah I kinda have messed up a bunch): she texted last night saying basically its really to bad we can’t even say hi when we see each other, her friend saw me at the same stop light and I didn’t even wave, not expecting a reply but I need to know she doesn’t hate me. She never had a friend with her and I didn’t end up replying

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I have no idea why you’re being advised to apologise when we don’t even know what you did or if you’re in fact in the wrong

He said "yeah, I kinda messed up a bunch".
I'm gonna take his word that he messed up a bunch. click to expand

What if she’s gaslighting him and psychologically assaulting him by making him believe he treetrunked up when really she’s having sex with several men in his mothers house click to expand

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I lied to her twice about smoking pot, she hates it, I eventually came clean and she held that over my head for the longest time, brought them up when we had our little month back together. She feels or atleast makes it out to seem I did her terribly wrong but I could name name several times she went behind my back or told little lies to me aswell.

Basically my wrong doings; lied to her two times, had a few consistent times were I wasn’t communicating so much and I mean that’s really it.

She can be very intense on me her family and friends

Posted by Toti
Cancer Mars and Scorpio Venus are tricky placements for relationships. I've experienced both in friendship only and it's very intense.

She basically treated her only two friends like hell when they wouldn’t agree with her or did things their way. Now they both want nothing to do with her at this point and she has one new girlfriend from college and since they began hanging out some months ago I’ve seen her say some pretty sideways things to this new friend. She’s very controlling. And pulled a lot of her high standing intense mannerisms on me. She once threatened to kick me out because I hadn’t put the toilet seat down

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Posted by MadHatter
@jeane

she's a pro at this combo

i'm loving your confidence but oof...i'm weary just thinking about what mess this could be...lol click to expand

I don't blame ya.. sounds kinda like he's messed up a lot.

Still have confidence in ya click to expand

Yeah I kinda have messed up a bunch): she texted last night saying basically its really to bad we can’t even say hi when we see each other, her friend saw me at the same stop light and I didn’t even wave, not expecting a reply but I need to know she doesn’t hate me. She never had a friend with her and I didn’t end up replying click to expand

My best advice:

Make every effort to let her know you're sorry (if you actually are) and don't expect anything in return. Apologies aren't about forgiveness, they're about admitting you were wrong. Forgiveness is another animal that you can't control.

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thanks, I like the way you put that

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Posted by Toti
Cancer Mars and Scorpio Venus are tricky placements for relationships. I've experienced both in friendship only and it's very intense.

She basically treated her only two friends like hell when they wouldn’t agree with her or did things their way. Now they both want nothing to do with her at this point and she has one new girlfriend from college and since they began hanging out some months ago I’ve seen her say some pretty sideways things to this new friend. She’s very controlling. And pulled a lot of her high standing intense mannerisms on me. She once threatened to kick me out because I hadn’t put the toilet seat down

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Ok fellow Taurean - this type of behavior is borderline abuse - and that is way too much stress to live with. Believe me, I've been there many times in my life with several different signs and I have had to walk on them all. It's not worth it. It's never easy to say goodbye but please try again and find someone worthy of what you can give.

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Posted by Taurus_mn
We lived together for a few years, she kicked me out 5 months ago little communication if any atfirst, brought me back into her life for like a month basically back to normal dating(getting dinner/walking our dog/ sleeping over in same bed) pushed me out again because she stressed herself out over thoughts of things not being changed and not wanting to get hurt again, brought me back again just recently for a week and I upset her over asking how she felt about me and her and now she hasn’t contacted at all it’s only been a week since. What is going on with her? Is there hope for the future? She has mars in cancer/mercury in libra/Venus in Scorpio if that makes any difference

What did you do that hurt her? Whatever it was, then you need to make serious changes with yourself to make things work, that's if you're in love with her.

Have you thought that maybe she's met someone else?

From what I've heard, Taurus and Libra aren't the best match, although there are exceptions. I know of a Taurus / Libra couple who have been together for 9 years and they got married recently. click to expand

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We’ve always had a pretty good relationship, always joking around having fun loving each other we’d just hit bumps and those bumps were usually pretty severe. I’ve made some serious changes in myself and she’s been skeptical of “are they permanent or just a show” and that’s why she pushed me away after our month back together because she could handle the stress of not being able to make up her mind. Now this last time she got mad because I started asking her how she felt about us and got mad and said how am I to build a friendship with you if you can’t stop assuming more.

Posted by FishyDude
Ah, I read the first two comments on page one of this thread then skipped to page two.

Judging by what you've said about her, OP, there needs to be some serious changes on her part as well.

Yeah I agree she needs to make some maturing changes and basically all my family/friends keeps saying the same

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Posted by Toti
Cancer Mars and Scorpio Venus are tricky placements for relationships. I've experienced both in friendship only and it's very intense.

She basically treated her only two friends like hell when they wouldn’t agree with her or did things their way. Now they both want nothing to do with her at this point and she has one new girlfriend from college and since they began hanging out some months ago I’ve seen her say some pretty sideways things to this new friend. She’s very controlling. And pulled a lot of her high standing intense mannerisms on me. She once threatened to kick me out because I hadn’t put the toilet seat down click to expand

That's Scorpio Venus. Jealous, dark, possessive, extremely manipulative, controlling and demanding, the type who will always check your phone for texts and calls, who will have great issues in trusting their partner. It's their way or the high way. Always interrogating their partners trying to trap them. Tendency to cheat. Sexual freaks or absolute nuns who are scared and/or disgusted of anything sexual.
I've read somewhere that many women with this placement were sexually abused in childhood by people they loved and trusted. My best friend has this placement. I love her much but she is impossible to live with. Very intense. Dr Jackyll and Mr Hyde.Going from one relationship to another, from one marriage to another,... She has her Venus square mars too.
I hope someone who has same placements could help you out. All the best! click to expand

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She actually was sexually abused by her softball coach when she was super young, I’m pretty sure he had sex with her but she’s only given very little detail about it. And what does it mean when her Venus squares mars?

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Posted by exsqueezeme
I have no idea why you’re being advised to apologise when we don’t even know what you did or if you’re in fact in the wrong

He said "yeah, I kinda messed up a bunch".
I'm gonna take his word that he messed up a bunch. click to expand

What if she’s gaslighting him and psychologically assaulting him by making him believe he fucked up when really she’s having sex with several men in his mothers house click to expand

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That’s oddly specific

Posted by tommycane
some libra girls love hardcore romeo juliet drama. it gets them going and its possible she enjoys that with you but its as consistent as a fart. she's either a breath of a fresh air, or a fart.

You mean me trying at the hardcore is inconsistent or her being an intense person makes it inconsistent?