New LIbra man

OK I have thought this through and wondered whether I should put this on the board and yeah why not....Im shocked more than you guys will be.

Late last week I met a LIbran (yes I know, I vowed NEVER to do it again but I didnt know til I asked him what starsign he was)....its not like its branded on their forehead is it?? LOL

Anyway, Im seeing an Aries at the moment, just casually and we are both on the same page that Im just not ready to get into a r/ship...so anyway, this LIbra man comes along and yes he has all the sexy qualities of a Libran that we have all come to know and love but this one is doing ALL OF THE WORK!!! Im not looking for anybody, Im happy being me right now (and yes I realise that it happens like this when you least expect it)...anyway, he asks me out (dinner, drinks, coffee, etc, etc) but I have said no to each one of his requests and the more I am saying no, the more he is chasing!!!

As flattering as it is to have this incredibly sexy man (and OMG he has money too LOL) chasing me, Im just plain not ready and still wounded from the last Libra (and no, Im not feeling sorry for myself, just not in the right place at the moment) and I told him that...he is more than willing to wait for when I am - can you believe that? after everything I have gone through with my Mr perfect?? LOL.

Anyway I dont know what the future holds or when I will be ready but for those who have recently come on the board and read that these guys are so bad? They don't all appear to be this way as QS and all the others have already said so many times....if they're not broken watch out!!! I can only imagine that being with this man would be like heaven on earth, the romance and charm he exudes is yummy and very tempting but I'd not be doing myself any justice in jumping in.

So anyway I wanted to share that....just when you think its all doom and gloom somebody wonderful does come along and gives you that spark to give you faith back in the human race (or men anyway LOL)

No I am not smitten, no Im not jumping in, no Im not even accepting any invitations but its nice to feel this way again....must admit I was starting to feel very unlovable lately....this gives me a new lease on life and we will see where it goes in time 🙂

There you go - Im a sharing/caring sort of person hehehehe 😛

good luck with everything Chatzy. Go with your heart.

Wrong answer!!!!!! You were meant to say "RUN, RUN REAL FAST" lol

Thanks HP....that's the problem, I don't know where it is at the moment....dilemmas!!! What a dilemma though LOL

Chatz, both you and QS know my Libra isn't broken and he pursued me from the beginning. He wants to be with me at least 95% of the time. He chases me when I back off, it sounds as if this Libra man that's appeared in your life is much alike with my boyfriend.

BUT I also know what you've gone thru with the other Libra in your life and I understand your qualms about accepting his advances for dinners and going out. I don't think you should put a stop on your dating life because of the wounds that the other Libra has.

The fact that he said he'll wait for you when you're ready is a good sign. I like that about him.

Okay.... GO OUT WITH THE GUY!!!! Geeeze. Subconciously, you could be waiting around for mr. not so prince charming right now. While there is a prince charming in front of you. No one said you had to jump into a relationship with this guy right away... But damn girl you have been through enough. Now enjoy the experience of being with an undamaged libra. It can be like heaven on earth. Trust me. 🙂

I guess what I am trying to say. Ya neva no... He could wind up being "the one" something I have learned recently is, never let a "possible" good opportunity go by. Life is too short and love can come and go so fast. 😉

I would follow qs's advice on this one. Your kind of doing to this new libra what the old libra was doing in the sense of him really wanting you and you being just available enough to get the good attention from it.

* Im not even accepting any invitations

And why not? (hands on hips)

Just go out with the guy. You aren't marrying him. You are having dinner. Put the past in the past and move on. There is no point in mourning the other Libra anymore. He has had enough of your energy and affection and attention. Start doing things that make you feel good missy.

Jesus I am still not 100% over the Leo but I am happily dating someone who is wonderful to me and I am getting over all my bitter feelings. I am not over it but I am getting there.

Let someone love you damnit! (shakes fist threateningly!)

yup, go with QS's advice...although I gave it first. LOL....

you know I love ya, QS.

so things are good, LS? That's awesome.

run Chatz run!!!!!!!

j/p!!

no seriously...have fun, take your time and try to enjoy every second of it (:

OK ok ok I will report back to you all...sheesh LOL

***Let someone love you damnit! (shakes fist threateningly!)***

Ditto!

***yup, go with QS's advice...although I gave it first. LOL....***

😉

Chatz - we ain't playin either!

You have no idea how friggin' JEALOUS I am, Chatzy sweetie. An Aries AND a Libra—? You GET to choose—? And here I am on the other side of the world. So far from that awesome Aussie mermaid. *sigh*

As long as they treat you GOOD, I will not protest TOO much!

You have no idea how friggin' JEALOUS I am, Chatzy sweetie. An Aries AND a Libra—? You GET to choose—? And here I am on the other side of the world. So far from that awesome Aussie mermaid. *sigh*

As long as they treat you GOOD, I will not protest TOO much!

OK I got the hint LOL....yes ok 🙂

Atom sweetie, its just the distance thing......I wouldnt want you to swim amongst all those sharks 😢

No need to get jealous, Im only me!!!!

RUN...RUN...RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!!

I tried that, he followed!!!!

OK I have set up a date for Friday night (just drinks so don't get too excited), we will meet there...OMG what am I thinking??

After Friday night I may indeed run LovelyLIbra but I think I might be getting pulled into this charmer.

God, I hope its a happier roller coaster ride than the last although I still love him very much....

Update? well my darling LIbra and I have parted ways with the following from him..."I have caused you enough hurt over the last 6 months or so culminating in the last month and I think for now its best to keep our distance..you deserve better than me and im sure you will agree - in time anyway. I think at the end of the day the timing was wrong for us and we wanted different things...I need to look at the way I approach life from now on...I dont want to nor go out to hurt others" So that's it...the end for the year long saga of the one I thought was absolutely perfect. I will probably never hear from him again which is sad but he is right, he caused me a great deal of pain (mostly because I saw more in him than he can see in himself and hung around) by taking advantage of me when he knew how I felt. He knows it, I know it but we are both to blame, at least he has given me closure and I am free to go on (not that I wasnt before of course).

Perhaps some day we will bump into one another and just smile and walk on by without feelings but for now, he's right, we do have to keep our distance or we could fall into the same trap yet again.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr@everything. but in a way its a relief...at least I know there's NO hope ever!!!

Gawd what am I thinking going out with another LIbra— I am shaking my head, I truly am but I just have to see for myself that they are not all the same....something is drawing me to this guy....grrrrrrrrrrrrr

LOL

Caution Chatz your being vulnerable and this guy is catching you on the re-bound. REPEAT: proceed with caution. Have fun, of course, but......don't let the heart rule the head!! Any lessons you learned from your last Libra experience MUST be remembered and applied to the next one. Otherwise, you are destined to repeat them until you do learn them.

***Gawd what am I thinking going out with another LIbra— ***

To know and experience how it feels to be with someone who wants you there. Unbroken librans can be the best!!!Just remember things you have learned from this forum and lessons from the previous one. Enjoy life for what it is... Don't read too much into anything. Live and love freely. Don't look for love, it will find you.

Hugs....

Chatz, that's really somethin' from your previous Libra---wow, so cerebral----and we Fire Signs so HOT, er, emotional. I've got broad shoulders. It would be SO good to have you lean on one while we're guzzling Aussie beer. AT LEAST you know what to look for and what to be cautious about with New Libra. You CERTAINLY know how these folks operate.

BTW, just being you is AWESOME.

"Oh and wear something fabulous maybe purple"

Why is purple in? I don't understand.

* so things are good, LS? That's awesome.

Yeah. They are. I am pleased. 🙂

* Well your old Libra's message was predictable

Yeah. Textbook. I would have handled it the same.

I agree with Kenny. Not all Libras are the same. You just got one that wasn't ready for a relationship. Since you do want a relationship. You aren't compatible.

I COMPLETELY feel ya. Seriously? It feels awesome to be with someone who wants to be with you. I totally forgot how easy relationships are meant to be.

You don't want someone that you have to convince honey. You want someone who gets how awesome and just plains gets it.

Go have fun. You deserve it.

Thats awesome Chatz- i say go for it and have a blast 🙂

You KNOW we expect pictures after kg's suggestions, right, Chatz—?

atom, i think i speak for most people when i say go ahead and hop a plane to australia already! 🙂

LOL HP

"But you have closure and he may have learned something about himself through his encounter with you. You made him a better person Chatz! I'm sure not what you wanted, but isn't that good that something came from all the time you invested in this broken down horses arse!!!!"

EXACTLY!!! I am not sad, Im not angry, I NEEDED that closure from him and he finally gave it to me but in time, we will meet again...that I am guaranteed but he has also made it clear he wants me to do some healing and being around one another won't allow that. Anyway I appreciated the fact he put it like he did and yessssssssssss I have made a difference in his life and maybe in another lifetime we would have made it. Maybe in 10 years time when we're both old and grey!!!! LMAO

Hmmm this new guy? ok well I have done and said EVERYTHING to put him off the scent, trust me, there is no hanging onto every word he says and I have given him every scenario that I would probably not be the right one for him, I even told him that I would "bore" him....he still didnt run the other way!!!

To be honest, with the fashion stakes?? I am going to wear my jeans, a nice top, do my makeup as per usual, do my hair as per usual and be myself....the thing is, I am not looking for love or anything at this point in time so if somebody really does fall for me, it will be just for me and I won't have had to try to figure somebody out like I have the last year, I wont have had to read between every line, wonder if this gesture or that gesture meant anything...that really isn't healthy and yes it shouldn't be that hard 🙂

The dating scene since I broke up with my Gemini for 7 years has not shown me a great start and maybe I jumped into the last one with Mr Libra way too soon (less than 3 months) but I have learnt a LOT out of it which of course makes me a stronger person in the long run.

anyway this is getting old so I will shut up and move on 🙂

Thanks guys - love you all xx

right on, sweetie!

*, it will be just for me and I won't have had to try to figure somebody out like I have the last year, I wont have had to read between every line, wonder if this gesture or that gesture meant anything...that really isn't healthy and yes it shouldn't be that hard

YAYAY!!!!

Life is just tooooo short sister.

Trust me, if you have any idea how much I went through the last two years of dating .... lol! The first year wasn't so bad 'cause I was mending and not very serious about it, but last year where I was actively putting myself out there? BRUTAL. I am still bleeding from the closure I never got from the last Leo. You just gotta keep getting up, even when you don't want to.

You'll be fine!

LS is right, look at me— Still single. LOL!!!

* LS is right,

ahhhh sweet music to my ears. learn these words everyone. LOL!

😛

I tried that, he followed!!!!""" Ha Ha...

Yeah but white and black is in as well and I like both of those.

Thank you all my dears!! I have selected the outfit I will wear tonight (very casual but still feminine - OMG Nic, its black and white!!!), spoke with him on the phone for about an hour last night and OMG his voice!!! yikes here I go LOL OMG he can talk so much!!!

Anyway Im kinda nervous but its also good therapy - I will report back to you 🙂

Mwahs!!

black n white is good, but as a fellow red head, next time, wear green!

Im not a red head though LOL....the picture I had up was just the lights from the place the photo was taken....Im a brunette.

Must admit I am very much into black and white.

PS...He sent me a goodnight text and a good morning text - wtf—

Chatz, that is a libran who is interested....

Hehehe it is kinda nice....he even told me to let my guard down coz I have been pushing him away....the more I push though, well you know LOL

6&1/2 hours to go!!! Im starting to freak!!

Although the date is just drinks (I think) it will be very romantic... Can't wait to hear about it!!! Yay!!!

Yow! (Do I REALLY want to hear how the date went—).

Good morning texts, good night texts, weather reports texts (how to wear in order not to be cold), did you eat smth texts, take care texts, did you get to the job ok texts... in a word: love&care. Which is 2 words actually, but with a good libra, one word for everything you'll get was not invented. Go for it chatz, but stay cool and aloof. Fingers crossed!

OK REPORT:

Here it is, I just got home and its 11.00pm....Im pleased with the date....he bought me a couple of drinks, we talked and talked and talked and laughed?? OMG!!! hilarious and yes he has those dimples and that million dollar smile!! He had to go to pick up his cousin but said and I quote "we will do this again soon and I will call you tomorrow"...yikes!!!! My other LIbra NEVER called the next day!!! Anyway he walked me to my car, gave me a hug, kissed me goodnight and said "see ya soon, Ciao Bella"...uh huh, gotta love these Italians!!! Well he is only part Italian but mmm mmm I love that talk!!!

Anyway I think it went well and of course he wasnt put off by my aloofness, nor my walls I had up (yes he noticed them and said he was more than happy to wait and watch them slowly come down)...argghhhh LOL.

Still think of my other Libran (who lives only 5 minutes away) so very much but I think this one (who lives 50 minutes away) may even have a chance of making me forget in time.

OK long story short, I had a nice time 🙂 I will sleep well tonight LOL...I did you all proud

Yaay Chatz !!! What a great date!!! Hope they're ALL like that and just keep getting better.

* Good morning texts, good night texts, weather reports texts (how to wear in order not to be cold), did you eat smth texts, take care texts, did you get to the job ok texts... in a word: love&care

yeah. pretty much. lol! I call it my daily news feeds and up to the minute updates. Sometimes they are random compliments. Sometimes things I have been mulling over.

If the other person isn't into it, I don't do it. I do it with a couple of people that I love and consider close friends. ONLY if I know they aren't bothered.

Libras are very affectionate and loving.

YAY Chatz!

You did it!

Now we see if he calls when he says he will.

2 snaps up

2 snaps down

you go girl (: