Pain

I was wondering how you guys process pain on all levels?

Physical pain: I become very silent and tolerant
Emotional pain: I try to keep busy and not let it catch up with me.

Lots of emotional pain right now. Heart wreching. Writing about it helps...

Physical pain = pain killer helps tremendously
Emotional pain = God, is there any medicine available?? Let me have it!!!

I think emotional pain has got to be the worst possible pain there could ever be....whether it be the loss of a lover or the death of somebody you were close to, feeling a friend's betrayal and so on. I guess the only cure is time....there's always the good old "stay busy, focus on other things" that friends tell you to do but you know within yourself that just aint gonna cut it for now anyway.

When I have emotional pain I just ride the waves and do what I have to, to get through (cry, sulk, exercise, eat, drink, eat some more bad stuff, drink much more bad stuff)....when I lose somebody I love? this can take months (the shock, the pain, the anger, then the acceptance, then finally somebody new to take their place and you wonder why you were left dwelling for so long).

Arggghhhh yes QS, I do share your pain *hugs*

emotional pain - i keep trying different music or movies till I find one which can override my brains current emotional frequency

Emotional pain - Hmmm, funny crying and sulking normally comes much later for me. I go into instant survival mode, the good ole' "It happened, now deal with it" attitude. Push it way down and intensely focus on other important things in my life, until a particular memory, song, or familiar place reminds me of the loss, which is always awhile after, then here comes the break down... Which lasts about a day or so, then I purge everything about it and move on... Although someone else might come along, I don't think they replace, but I think you get over it and give another shot at it with someone new and exciting.

Emotional pain sux!!!!

what's happened to you , QueenS ? Why emotional pain ?? that's not good for a Scorp's mental as my thoughts sometimes can move too rapidly , from extreme crazy , to sulky , to peace and keep changing like that till I'm exhausted , yet during that time , my face is straight and noone knows I've lost my control - I still look so calm.Then fall into survival mode like you said till there is something reminds me of the loss -> another breakdown , maybe flood of tears but I wont let anybody to see it then I felt really stupid and do some meditation and finally real peace comes to me . Then I forgive and forget . I'm peaceful 🙂

physical pain: i usually don't even register broken bones

emotional pain: that's what booze is for. also, lots of one night stands.

oh yeah.. I forgot: another way to deal with emotional pain is getting a guitar and writing some love songs

Physical pain = fairly high treshold to physical pain. It takes quite a while for me to go to the doctor.

Emotional pain of the love variety and I was at the receiving end of it = heartbroken but I wear it with the biggest smile. I won't let you see it unless you ask for it and I think it helps the ball game.

Emotional pain of the love variety and I was doing the breaking up = relieved, probably because it took a long time to confess to the other person and so a breather was much needed.

Emotional pain: I block it out and reduce it into reason and explanation and move on. During the course of this it can get to me in the inside but it doesn't show on the outside, unless you live with me you wouldn't have a clue something was wrong. I can talk about it to just about anyone, but when I do it is factual and reasonable I don't talk about it in an emotional way. Almost like I am explaining someone elses experience.

Physical pain: I block that out as well. I have a very high threshold for pain. I just kind of deal with it by reminding myself that it is just physical and my mind can control my body. I have had complications to a sternum and shoulder injury that gives me a dull pain everyday. Stuff like that is just frustrating because it limmits cirtain things like my ability to work out which is bothers me more than the actual pain.

If you need to talk about anything qs pm me, and you have my number too. I hope your doing ok.

QS, you have my number and email, too. You've got people who care about you.

((((QS)))))

I hope you are okay.

Lots of love honey.

Just remember the old sage advice: Chin up. Tits out.

I used to write music on my guitar, write and draw when the emotional stuff got a bit thick. After a couple big emotional things happened, bigger than the average problem a normal person under 23 goes through I have pretty much just taken the licks and kept my stride. Now I kind of just use it to fuel my ambitions at the time, work harder and put a little passion into it.

Emotional pain = sleep

Physical pain = sleep

Sleep is pretty much my cure all.

Sleep helps in both cases. (IF you can find the time to sleep!).

***my face is straight and noone knows I've lost my control - I still look so calm.Then fall into survival mode like you said till there is something reminds me of the loss -> another breakdown , maybe flood of tears but I wont let anybody to see it then I felt really stupid and do some meditation and finally real peace comes to me . Then I forgive and forget . I'm peaceful ***

Exactly Exam.... Call me the run away whatever. I had to let go.

***Emotional pain of the love variety and I was doing the breaking up = relieved, probably because it took a long time to confess to the other person and so a breather was much needed.***

Except, I am not relieved. Disappointed is more like it for me.

Thanks Guys. I am still in survival mode, so for now I am okay... I can feel some anxiety though. No tears yet. They will come eventually, but with other stuff going on, they are not so important. You guys aren't helping. ALL THIS LUUUUUVVV. I feel so special. Love you guys.

LS, I can always depend on you to make me laugh. Another wonderful Libran trait!!!
***Just remember the old sage advice: Chin up. Tits out.***

Can't help that they are always out (pointed out that is)... LOL!!!

Nic and HP, will call. Don't worry though I am not doing as bad as I thought - yet.

awww sweetness. I am sorry.

What happened? (If you don't want to talk that is very cool. Totally respect that.) Just know we are all sending you our love. Everything will be okay.

If you want to hear something crazy, to take your mind off your own craziness .... remember the Leo? (Okay ... who could forget. I digress) But I am dating an Aries. I went to a cottage with the Aries and his friend ... found out ... they are all friends of the Leo.

He is like the lion that just won't die. He has been on the outskirts of my life for an entire year. It is just plain crazy.

In fact, they invited me to a party that HE invited me to last year on our first date. (At least I am pretty sure.) Had I been able to go, we may have been reunited a year and a day after we first met.

crazy. crazy. crazy.

I am kind of glad I can't go.

I also dwell in emotional pain by playing music that reminds me of the person. Or I cut it out altogether if that's wiser. But I play it (whenever I am ready to do this) to feel and work through the pain. Playing music brings out my feelings in my life anyway. I link them so that I can go back to them, call them when I need/want to feel, happy or sad.

OK time to regroup now!!! Instead of all this "pain" lets go and party!!! lots of cocktails (omg I can only imagine what that's gonna come out like online - something like chickentails or something silly hehehe)....and lots of small talk and music and food and yeah....come on, lets all pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and remember that its all going to be ok - this is just a phase we have to go through and lessons to be learnt. Those who have been hurt in any way by somebody they loved know there will be another, if not others in the near future....there's a reason this particular person came into our lives and there's also a reason that they had to walk out again.

Who knows what the future brings?? that's the beauty of the future...nobody knows the journey ahead 🙂

What happened?

When it all came down to it and I really needed him He wasn't there. On any level. The most unexpected people, were... Still are.

I feel when you love someone there is no limit to what you will do. I guess others don't. I can't process the opposite, therefore I can't accept anything less than what I give. So I walked away.

Sorry to hear that Queen, scorps don't suffer a-holes lightly.

Ahhhh, the Freeway of Love... 🙂

Thanks Soft Cookie, you guys make it an easier path.

Yow, QS. Has happened to me a few times in my life also. Surprising at first. Yeah, painful. Aries LUV coming your way.

Thanks Atom.

(((QS)))

I would preform a stellar tap dance to eye of the tiger for you, if I thought it would help .... and well ... if you could see it.

It is the ... eye of the tiger ... It's the ... thrill of the fight.

tappity tap tap.

LOL!!! You are officially insane!!!

That was for LS.

LOL LS

How are you sweetcheeks?

Emotional pain~ I usually zone out and stay quiet .
Physical pain~I usually try to forget by staying busy.

hope you feel better Queenscorpio...

Thanks guys I do feel better. No break down just some painful disappointment. But I am good. I really am.

Emotional pain: I shop and shop and shop and party and party, do schoolwork and keep extremely busy until Im so tired I can't think straight! Gotta love avoidance.

Physical pain: I cry like a bia.. and take lots of pills. Then keep on moving!

Emotional pain :I'm enjoying it..didn't try to push that pain away..will learn something from that pain.

Phsyical pain : crying..turn music loud.

Physical pain:Lots and Lots of pain medicine and sleep. Emotional pain:Music, Friends, Family, time alone, crying, shopping, talking about it and writing poetry.