What does this Libra guy have in mind..

I was dating this libra guy and we broke up but I have been constantly trying to work it out, until one day when I realise that I have put down too much of my self respect and now I need to move on. So I keep my distcnce from him, only to find him sending me text messages. He still wants to know what I do, who I meet and what's new in my life. I asked him this question recently "What relationship are we sharing? Or is it just that he messages me for the heck of it". I wanted to know if he feels for me and he would wanna work things out. And this is the reply he sends me "IL TELL YOU HOW IT SHOULD BE. RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD TO HANDLE. SO LETS TAKE IT EASY. DON'T FORCE YOURSELF ON ANYTHING". I wonder what he wants? Does it mean, lets not get into a relationship but have fun? Or is he keeping me as a back up? I am so confused.. I told him that I am not interested in a casual fling. But he still texts me. We've already been in a relationship earlier for ashort time and it all seemed nice. Now he's acting crazy. I also wonder if he actually meant that he wants to take things slowly and then if it works out he might consider a relationship or am I just a pastime? I can ask him to just keep away from me which i know will hurt his ego and he will say goodbye for good.. but deep down I really want him badly, at the same time not seem so desperate. How do i deal with this?? I need help ..

He doesn't want anything, he's basically saying either do the relationship on my terms or it will never happen whereas your attempting to negotiate with 2 parties involved he's only thinking about himself.... men that are real will not confuse you, he will make it clear that he wants to come to a mutual understanding, this guy is just clowning around hoping you will do things his way, he wants you in his life but he doesn't want to do what it takes to keep you in his life, he's lazy.....dead weight

I have helped women with libra men in the past and when the men are stuck they simply make the worst boyfriends on the planet, when they are not ready they will not budge in giving you your fair share of a relationship no matter how pretty no matter how great you are, maybe some others can help you out but from what I can take from it, he's selfish and he's not going to give you the relationship you hope for.

Stick to its natural flow than getting curious about what is ahead.

IL TELL YOU HOW IT SHOULD BE. RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD TO HANDLE. SO LETS TAKE IT EASY. DON'T FORCE YOURSELF ON ANYTHING".

hahahahahaha - he is to tell you how it should be? that's convenient and idealistic... dude doesn't want to face up to reality and somehow your communicating with him has given him clues that you still like him so he's playing that. He wants to keep you where he wants until he's good and ready to move on to the next thing that takes his fancy...

Who knows why he doesn't want more? frankly, is that for you to figure out? that's for him to get decisive --- but hang on him and well, get played, really...

there is no natural flow, it's his way or her way... both of them are not reaching a middle ground... she'll get hurt as she seems to want more.

Yeah I guess thats true. I need to back off. And he a few weeks back he wasn't afraid to work out a relationship. We broke up in between and now hes telling me that its difficult for him to work out a relationship. Thats sick. I need to move on. For starters, I have cut off all my contacts ith him.

If you are new here, listen to tiki & Zen they have wise old heads and always offer great advice.

in fact next time i have issues, I'll be going straight to them!

but does that mean I have to dye my hair white and grow a beard?!!

lol .. Thanks Sweethearts. Its just that it feels bad to lose a guy I've been dating and was so close to just because of his problems. He's so unpredictable. And after all the efforts put into a relationship, it feels even more depressing to see it all go down the drain. But Atleast I tried.. I tried to make a dead relationship work. 😢 He still texts me atleast once in a day, I am just trying to act normal andnot react much. Initially it seemed difficult. But im getting used to it now. This is sooooo stupid, they say they can't make it work, yet they want to keep in touch and keep coming back. Damn these Pussy hunters !!

the way we are the more you push him away the more he would want you back

hahahaha @ pussy hunters 😉

Its just that it feels bad to lose a guy I've been dating and was so close to just because of his problems. He's so unpredictable. And after all the efforts put into a relationship, it feels even more depressing to see it all go down the drain.

See this is a natural reaction but there is a lesson from all of this. No human is predictable hence it follows that relationships will not be predictable otherwise we will know who we are going to marry, etc. If you go in with expectations, you are likely to get disappointed.

The point of dating is for mainly elimination so you don't waste your efforts... I guess that's why it's advisable to hold off on intimate/sexual stuff until you know the person well if you're looking for a serious relationship.

Incompatibility signs are usually there in the beginning or at least when the honeymoon stage clears, do not ignore it... no amount of vision or hardwork or patience will help something/relationship that had no great foundation/compatibility as there will be nothing to fall back on when it gets tough.

the way we are the more you push him away the more he would want you back

naturally, works that way with most guys, and girls for that matter.. human nature, we want what we can't have, it's all fairytale at the end of the day

You are insecure in this relationship and you want security which he wont provide so leave and look for it elsewhere. If he misses you and wants you back he knows what he has to do. In the meantime you will go on and eventually get over it...dont know how long it'll take but it does get easier...

9 weeks ago I felt like you, now I don't give it that much thought. It wasn't easy by any means, there were sooo many times I had to stop myself from contacting him. Keep yourself busy and know that you are worth much more!

Also reading and posting on these threads makes you stronger as you see others going through similar situations and you see how desperate some get and you want to slap them and then you realise...I looked like that!!!

Zen: Haha keep your luscious dark long hair, (that's what I imagine you look like.) underneath your wise council. Why would you grow a beard...you are a female arent you?

you are a female arent you?

yup! finally! most on the boards think I'm male! 😕

GIRLS thank you so much for all the support and help. And yeah it does help a great deal posting in this forum and getting all the support.

NOW there is a twist in tis story. Surprisingly this morning he sent me a text message. I was busy on the phone I couldn't check. Finally when I hung up I saw 3 text message. He said he wants to talk to me 'bout something. I asked him "what?" And he said he's been thinking about it and he wants things to be the same again. He wants to get back.. And he even added that this time things won't go wrong, and we can make this work. I haven't said anything, but he says he is sure about it and he wouldn't say it otherwise. BOY !! What do these men want? He sounds promising, and though I feel strongly for him I am scared. tiki, zen, sweethearts.. What should I do? Its like two voices coming from within.. One says "You've been waiting for this and you know it would make you feel better, so go ahead.. Just involve get mad about him this time" and the second voice says "Once again he's gonna be possessive, dominating, asking you to justify your every action.. its like being observed under a microscope.. "...

Sorry I meant "just DON'T involve yourself too much and get mad about this guy"

And Zen lol I thought you were a male too .. Sorry 😄

^ ok I forgive you if you post more hot pictures! oh I see why people think I'm male - I flirt with everything ! 😕

He said he wants to talk to me 'bout something. I asked him "what?" And he said he's been thinking about it and he wants things to be the same again. He wants to get back.. And he even added that this time things won't go wrong, and we can make this work. I haven't said anything, but he says he is sure about it and he wouldn't say it otherwise. BOY !! What do these men want? He sounds promising, and though I feel strongly for him I am scared. tiki, zen, sweethearts.. What should I do? Its like two voices coming from within.. One says "You've been waiting for this and you know it would make you feel better, so go ahead.. Just involve get mad about him this time" and the second voice says "Once again he's gonna be possessive, dominating, asking you to justify your every action.. its like being observed under a microscope.. "...

Hahahaha - can't tell you what to do really, it's got to come from that voice within yourself... we can only offer different perspectives...

Now from astrology pov, libras are air signs are communicators so can sell ice to polar bears (well, they may need it anyway due to global warming 😕). Somehow he know what you are looking for and they are just words... really, he hasn't done much if you look at it... just thrown you a lil line to keep you hanging or excited... remember the chase is still on to attain the unattainable 😉 so that makes you hotter to him right now!
Now as air signs, actions will count for a lot more that words as they are the zodiac communicators. What are his actions to back this up? If he wants you back, all this phonecall/text stuff is really just 'MEH'... let him work and work his arse off... this helps Libras seperate fact from fiction. When you start to put in work, you realise how much you want or don't want something.

You on the other hand are quite easy, he throws you a line and you get excited, don't you think he knows this? and I also see that he's more of a project to you of something that could be You've been waiting for this and you know it would make you feel better, so go ahead... it will make you feel better for how long? Is that what this is about? making yourself feel better?

I won't go into what he's done in the past to you as I wasn't there and well, I hate living in the past... the present is what counts... Is he really doing anything presently to redeem himself? I can't see it, if you just met him, will his actions be enough for you to date him? idk?

Libras want people to think very nicely of them so don't expect him to not be all talk and nice and sweet and all romantic... it's vital to his sanity that you like him 🙂 it's when he stops doing all that stuff and you can see him sweating is when he gets uncomfortable. Now he's still in his comfort-zone, he won't move it if you make it easy

Fact remains, you know what you want, do not settle, let him figure out what he wants, then it will be clear to you, meanwhile, like tiki will say meet others and get distracted... we as women get attached really quickly if we're not careful.

Now from astrology pov, libras are air signs are communicators so can sell ice to polar bears (well, they may need it anyway due to global warming ).

hahaha thats funny. Seriously you're one liners are cool zen. Yeah that helps me make up my mind.. Now I have come to a point where this guy seems so boring to me. I mean its never getting anywhere, just phone call and text messages, All talk no action. Now I don't even think about it. Strange but true.. I do have those odd mad moments but its become so dull and boring. And yeah that's what I'm gonna do. Let him do all the work.. till then he can just be a text messaging friend. Thanks zen. You helped me see myself through and reconsider my stupid decisions. 😉

Okay so this is where this all ends. When this guy said he wants to work things out and wants us to be the same as we were earlier in a relationship, I thought maybe he means it and we should work things out. And the moment I did that, I found myself in an emotional mess again, waiting for his messages and calls and going through the same shit again. I thought okay fine maybe I need to relax a bit. He would say one thing and do another thing. Nothing changed, it was all the same. Don't know why I I said yes BUT I started feeling trapped again. He wouldn't meet me, he's not reliable.. He doesn't even have the thing in his heart to spare atleast half hour for me. Its like Everything has to go according to his will. Now this is where I had to make a firm decision and I told him that I need to talk. He did not reply. Maybe 'cos he could sense it that its a serious thing. So I politely sent him the message across, I said its not going anywhere, though he says he wants things to be the same, I don't see any effort from his side to make it work at all. I realised what a fool I have been and I am making one outta myself now by even considering him. He can never change. Its a virtual make believe relationship. When he's horny and wants someone to satisfy himself, he immediately think of me. So its better if we move on with our lives and chuck this whole thing. I was feeling suffocated. Come on How hard do I work and how much do I go through to make it work? Plus he has a list of rules laid down for me, "Don't do this, don't do that, don't talk to him, don't talk to her.. I want it this way, blah blah" And I said my final goodbye. Knowing that he wouldn't respond. But the moment I said "Take care good bye", I get a quick reply from him.. Just one word "BYE". So that's how the story ends. And I swore to myself that I am not gettinginto this shit anymore. And It felt great after that. Like life seems much better now. I am not bound to this moron who doesn't give a FUCK about my feelings and my needs. He's a self centered freak who only thinks of himself. I don't know but this was an inner voice kinda thng telling me "GOOD, you did the right thing". And though I kinda feel depressed about it once in a while, I am also happy that ITS OVER. Now I am trying to keep myself engaged with meeting my good friends, spending time chatting over a cuppa coffee and just keepin gmyself occupied. I think I made the right decision. It was a total drain out of my emotions

And I think its no use staying with someone who just isn't there for you, emotionally nor physically. It hurts but not as much it used to hurt being with this guy. And I am going to more careful in future before I give my heart away and make such stupid impulsive decisions where my heart is involved. Can't believe sometimes that this world is full of such crap scumbags.. who don't mean what they say, who don't live up tp their words and who just lie and are so unpredictable. Thy don't know what they say this minute and end up doing something else the other minute. I wanna thank everyone in this forum for being supportive and helpful and for taking the time out to give me their valuable suggestion which has made me more stronger and I didn't have to think twice before I decided to Shift+Delete this guy from my life. Hope someday he learns to appreciate what it is to get love and care from people, and that life just isn't about sex and having a gf for fun. I don't know what else to say, but do believe that whatever happened, happened only for the good. 🙂 And I'll be better with time. Thanks sweethearts, Zen, tiki, and everyone 🙂

Thank you Leo kitten, Don't know if he'd call.. Maybe he will if he can't find someone to hump, I don't know.. I know one thing for sure. I am not walking down that road again. God I never cared for myself, bending my life around what they think they want, well not anymore. I know how to treat him if he calls. Well he is a very egoistic guy and I am sure he wouldn't call. Yeah Lotta learning during the past 3 months. And Im gonna keep in mind now, Firstly not to get serious and place my trust on someone who I hardly know. And second, never ever to take shit from any DOGDAMN Guy in this world. NO matter who he is..

"God I never cared for myself, bending my life around what they think they want, well not anymore. "

I know. It's because you have to take care of them. They need to be mothered and it's extreamly emotionally draining. Even as a friendship, I feel like I need to constantly reassure him about things he should already be assured about. This is how sex dies in relationships and why I think libra's can't sistain anything for very long. They want you to take care of their "inner-child" you don't want to fuck your child. They see you as a mother. You don't want to fuck your mother. So they go out searching for something else just to find it's the same. Into until they look inward and learn how to love and respect themselfs. They will go though this cycle.

Why people say you need a man not a boy.

I guess I understand that now, Boys are like Pussy hunters, Young, immature, they evolve into mature creatures with time, they wanna have fun etc.. But men I feel are sensible, mature (they can be assholes too) They would have been through a lot in their own life, had their share of fun and now wanna settle down. They are the serious types.. I don't know.. that's how I feel.

And this Libra thing about feeling to be mothered .. not sure about that. I do know that I had to be real patient with this guy. he could say anything he wanted to say and there was no question to be asked further. Whatever he wanted, he had to get it, but when I try to say something, he would cut me short.. for example, when he wanted to meet me, I should make myself available. But when I wanted to meet him and he didn't feel like meeting me, that's it. He won't. No matter what I say or do. If he texts me, I better reply on time, But when I text him and am waiting for a reply, its Absolutely OKAY for him to reply at his own pace or whenever he felt like. No matter how many times I text him after that, I can be assured that I wouldn't get a reply, until he feels like replying. These are just some of the examples. Its okay if he checks out a girl and makes a comment or tries flirting, But dare I even talk to any guy, let it be his own good freind, He would get infuriated. I dont know if all Libras have the same attitude but the one I was dating was such a stubborn kid, I don't know what to say. Were both 20 and ALL the time I had to make compromises and adjustments. I did that, without saying a word, but what got to me was, he had all the time in the world to meet his useless pot smoking freinds all day and do nothing, however when I asked for just half hour of his time, he wouldn't even give it to me. It was like, I was some kinda property he owned or some kinda toy kept in his shelf, that he would feel like playing with at his convenience or whenever he felt like. More like a materialistic possession than a human. Couldn't take it anymore.

Yes. All your saying is how a child acts. Hint it's like your the mother, the mature one of the relationship having to take care of everything. No one should have to take that. He has really low self-esteem and thats why he needs you. So does mine. Lots of libras do. Thats why they need another person. So if you walk away, it's like some of his self-esteem is (he gets it from you) and he runs to try to get it back. Thats why they feel like they own you. They like try to live through you in a way. You know?

Hah that's funny.. Crazy people. Are you dating a Libra too? you seem to know quite a lot about them. And yeah all the things you are telling me is so true. its like a mirror reflection. So you're saying that genrally these are the characteristics of a guy with low self esteem? He acts egoistic though. Never the one to make up after a break up, He'd kill himself but admit that he was wrong.. But make me the fall guy by taking me on a guilt trip. Some people really have a knack of playing mind games. So do people like these get in touch with someone they broke up with ? Or they feel its too cheap a thing to do that would again hurt their self esteem?

I don't know much about astrological things BUT I do know that LIBRA-CAPRICORN is definitely NOT a good combo !!

however, take some time to analyze what about yourself allowed yourself to be controlled

Oops sorry I couldn't catch that ?

Good for you sonya for taking a stand about how you expect to be treated and just an fyi, anything serious like breaking up, making up should be done in person or at the most over the phone, don't take men seriously that are attempting to woo you through technology, that is a huge indication he's a lazy clown that have intimacy issues, I love texting and emailing but it should never take the place of reality, I personally would go no contact on, change phone number, delete him from any and every site you share togther but that is a decision you have to make but from my own experience the type of guy you had will never change, he will come back only to see if you will allow disrespect in your life again...ditch the prick for good and pay attention to and date other guys that appreciate and want to cherish you

lol this is funny and you're gona laugh at this.. But there is this song that describes my state of mind right now perfectly..

Do you love me?
Or am I just another trip in this strange relationship?
You push and pull me, yeah
And I'm about to lose my mind
Is this just a waste of time?
Keep acting like you own me,
I keep running, watch me walking out that door
I hear you behind me

Give me that strange relationship
Never felt pleasure and pain like this
Something so right, but it feels so terribly wrong
I keep holding on
Give me that strange relationship
One of us gotta let go of this
I keep pushing and you keep holding on
I'm already gone

Do you love me? (yeah)
We break up and back together
And I swore to myself never
But oh, how you do me, yeah
You stripped me of my honor
And I don't ever think I'm gonna
Break free of these mind games
Well, all I'm tryin' to do is modify my plan
'Cause I can't contain you

You keep acting like you own me
Like you control me
You said you never really wanted me back
Well maybe that's a fact
May I suggest
A brand new plan of attack?
And in defense of that you're hard to crack
You're way off track
I want you back, I want you gone
Maybe I'm sick of holding on

Give me that strange relationship
Never felt pleasure and pain like this
Something so right but it feels so terribly wrong
I keep holding on
Give me that strange relationship
One of us gotta let go of this
I keep pushing and you keep holding on
I'm already gone

TIKI 🙂 Its GREAT to hear from you !! Honestly there was nothing good in this relationship, it hurt BUT I really took a big step and made that decision. And it feels great !! Its like getting rid of some negative crap or some kinda negative evil energy draining out my strength. That is exactly how I felt and I took an aimmediate decision. Atleast I am happy now Or I'd be sitting here right now explaining to him what I did today, who I met, Or worse wait for his phone call or reply which I know would never come. Dating other guys Gee.. I'm scared now really. They're like wolves in sheep's clothing really. They sweet talk in the beginning and then you get to see a side of them that you never thought existed. I feel proud of myself for having made this decision for the first time. And I really feel good from within cos I no longer have to take some shit or abuse from some jackass who didn't care. I have deleted off his number from my cell phone, Mainly because I wouldn't be tempted to send him any kinda text messages from my end. Last time it was all over but just cos I had his number I had this urge of getting back to him and that was the mistake I did that led to this shit. So Now neither he'll contact me nor will I. Cos I know this lazy clown cares a great deal about his ego so he would never make the first move of contacting me.

That is a very question Leokitten, I wish i had the answer. I have problem with myself I guess. I was so badly craving for a guy to love me, not that he was the only guy available. But I felt some sort of connection towards him, God knows where that came from. Initially when the wooing part was going on, he was real nice. He would keep in touch constantly, he would care, meet me often, but the moment our relationship was like a week old o something, he started laying down the rules. And I just thought to myself that here's a guy I am in a relationship with, So to make it work yeah let me do what he wants me to do. The problem started when I felt like a slave bound to listen to this guy, if I didn't he would go mad and leave me. I didn't want it to end. Maybe I have a inferiority complex within myself and was insecure. SO I was sticking along and I felt content that I was doing my bit and maybe with a lil more more persistence he will start appreciating it and love me more. Now as I write this, I feel like the biggest fool on earth. And yeah that was the mistake I made, compromised for nothing but more shit. First it felt nice to give more but later as I kept giving and getting nothing in return except for rejection, torture and abuse I started thinking. And that's how I realised today that I wouldn't compromise. By the end of the day I am being treated like a door mat and I am willingly carrying on with it. Well if he's giving me all the loving and caring and his time, FINE, I wouldn't mind mind making compromises BUT it was like a non existent virtual crap. I get a "Good morning honey.. How are you ?" message in the morning and a "Good night sweetheart, sweet dreams" in the evening., I started feeling Like I am being played around. I don't know what happens in his life during the day, I don't exist for him for almost 23 hours and the last 24th hour he realises "hey I have this SO-Called- Girlfriend lemme send her a nice crappy message and that'll keep her on the hook. Besides she's so crazy 'bout me that a one liner would do".

NOW that I have gone trhough something so terrible, I have learnt a important lesson. To be strong and not take that kinda shit from any guy. In a way this relationship taught me something. 'Cos honestly I don't know why I sustained all that crap? Why I let myself be controlled? Why I let my self respect go down? Its a crazy thing. I also realsed that I tend to get attached to people (most of the times the wrong types) too soon

Now put in the same situation, NO I wont take it. No more.

Oops sorry. Didn't mean to type such a long message. But that was a good question leokitten. I really had to think about it.

sonya just remember FORGET his words of charm, yes they are nice and yes it feels good but if there is no action behind his words, they are just words and meaningless, if he says I want to get back together but doesn't do anything about what he said then he's a clown and you can't take him seriously, actions, it's all in his actions or none of it means anything and no matter how much you want it to, it won't, he will string you along if you live by his words...

As for wolves in sheeps clothing, just remember good looks, money, charisma, sex, gifts or whatever it is that makes him attractive externally NONE of it leads to love but it can lead you into mistakenly falling in love with him which can lead to you becoming stuck on the wrong man, ANY MAN can look good, can build a big bank account, can have ambition, can have charm, can create a loving feeling in you and it doesn't mean he's capable of doing and being in a relationship, which means you have to take your time and see what's inside of a man before committing yourself. Give a guy 3 tries and if he's still exuding the same ill behavior then get rid of him, don't try to change and love him more, it never works, matter fact your love will be the catalyst for him to be even more resistance and belligerent

Sonya just remember that any man that has to control you, has to be right all the time, has to have his way and have the relationship on his terms is an abusive insecure needy cowardly clown, that is your que to get out, don't stick around to get ignored, to get pushed aside as if you don't exist, to be used as an emotional punching bag because any man will ask you to disrespect yourself but it's your choice to do it, the moment you decide he's more important than you by giving into his ridiculous request he will take you for granted and treat you like dog shit...the moment a guy ask you to disrespect yourself get out, don't stand there begging and hoping for crumbs from a man, he gave little because you told him through your actions that your NOTHING, you a nobody that can't get a man and as low as he was by showing you his wolf teeth, by you accepting his terms you showed him you had no self esteem, no respect for yourself and that he's the only guy thats around in the game thus he had you 100% and he resented you the moment you said okay let's do it your way because he know he's a piece of shit and why would any woman want that, if she wants to be controlled and treated bad then she's a loser and if she believes she deserves an abusive man like me what does that say about me...I'm a loser for being with a woman like this so I must make her suffer b/c there is no way I could love a woman that allows herself to be treated bad....connection no matter how strong DOESN'T MEAN HE CAN DO RELATIONSHIP, IT DOESN'T MEAN HE WANTS TO DO A RELATIONSHIP, IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING and women have to stop equating connection and chemistry with love, it has nothing to do with love, it can lead to love but it doesn't mean the man is capable of loving anyone.

Next time a guy ask you compromise yourself, cuss that clown out and keep it moving

Next time a guy ask you compromise yourself, cuss that clown out and keep it moving

HELL YEAH 🙂

Thanks Tiki. Thanks a bunch .. Love you loads for that

It was too quick I know. They say that people can't fall in love or get into relationships in a week or so, I knew this guy for a few days I guess.. Now that's another mistake on my part. I went with the flow and felt nice the way things were happening, and with weeks it became a month and .. I didn't know him so well. Its only afterwards thats I realised. Another lesson well learnt. I won't blame this guy compltely for everything cos I know that I have been really stupid with my choices and decisions. And somewhere I am responsible for this whole mess. But I felt strong once I got into a relationship with him, and from there it all took a different direction. I will be really careful with my decisions next time for sure .. Thanks Leokitten, you really got me thinking about some silly mistakes I have made which i never realised. And now I thinkI am finding the answers to my questions.

OH but he seemed promising and loving that is what mainly mislead me and I allowed myself to be mislead

Yep.. I'm dealing with it. Its hard sometimes to just survive alone, makes a void in life. But then yeah when I look back, It was the same when I was with him. I mean what difference does it makes.. I just had some guy with doll mouth to message me in the night thats all.. Now thats gone. Doesn't make a big difference. But I do feel lonely sometimes.. cos I have lost my interest inmeeting people, doing something, I feel lazy .. Maybe its just a phase.. Il come out of it. Hopefully soon.

Hey Sweetsherrie I am a Capricorn sunsign with a taurus moon sign and an aquarius rising.

Wait a minute, You said "equality"— Like you give him a present and he gives you a present back —

Hmmm Well trust me.. If he is trying to be equal, it isn't really a bad thing. The problem with mine was, he was way too possessive, dominating and abusive. he wanted things his way. And Libra is a sign of balance, so maybe I think its in his nature, he feels like if you gifted him something, he should also gift you something. There are problems worse than this.. When they don't care, they're moody, they say one thing now and mean something else the other minute.. don't care about the feelings of the other person.. Thats Problem. And Unhealthy. But yeah My ex never made me spend any money during whetever lil time we were togeather. Don't know again if that was his ego or something..

Sonya, I totally understand what you're saying. You've basically analysed your Libra extremely thoroughly.. he's basically consumed all your time and energy from your life. You've basically given him your spirit.

Sonya - best advice I can give you (if u would take it): dont waste anymore of your beautiful life on him. He's not worth it at all. Don't make excuses for the little crumbs he gives out that are positive.. you deserve way better.. he prolly will remain a bachelor until he grows up.. and by then if you have moved on, you'd be glad you never gave another thought to him. Don't let him bring you down; you suit a mature Cappy sort of guy (not necessarily sun Capricorn) who'd not be like the 3 year old you need to look after.

Right Spica.. But moron had a very bad impact on me. Its still left its scars. I mean GOD knows why? I do know that there are mostly negatives in our relation Hardly any postives.. and I would feel all low, Miserable and disappointed all the time. He'd ne having fun out there and I would be sulking all day, wanting him to atleast care for me and be a lil considerate. And yesterday morning things went crazy all over again. Again he showed me that NO-CARE attitude it was a total brain melt. No matter what he says, he will never change, he will never make an effort to make it work. And I made a decision that was really difficult for me, but Ihad to do it. I told him that things aren't working out and I amnot happy in this relationship and blah blah .. if he thinks he wants to keep intouch as a good feind, he has my number.. Bye bye.. thats all .. And that musta pissed him off and given a blow to his ego, he replied "BYE". So that's how it all ended.. It was hard on me.. he didn't even try to reason out why I would do that and that clearly showed that he had no value for this relationship.. he wasn't even treating it like relationship, It was some kinda joke.. And I wouldnt say I am all happy that it ended and I feeling all happy.. yeah I am feeling low, I feel low once in a while.. But I know its good for me. Good to go through this feelingnow than be stuck with him for longer and suffer more.. So yeah I hope I come out of this.. Sometimes Its very tough, But still I am moving on 🙂

Your libra sounds like he needs a mother and is treating you like one. You'll always get the short end of the stick. You can still love him, but soon someone else will come along to treat you like a lady.. begone Libra! Unless you really can take this forever.. let it go.

And sweetcherrie.. this was a second chance for both of us.. we broke up in between but I didn't wanna give up on it and even he suggested after some thinking that Yeah lets work it out.. so it was a second chance for us and it went no where ..

Nah !! I don't wish to.. Yeah if he would want this to work and he comes back and is willing to make it right (which I know will never happen) then Maybe I wil give it a thought. But I don't he'd come back and I don't need him the way he is.. Its been so long, he didn't even try to get in touch, good for him and good for me..

Oh I told him bout my ex and he was giving me suggestions too that he wasn't right and he would often tell me that you need to move on forget your past, be happy, chill out.. Enjoy life.. Dont get too serious .. So one thing I do agree, they are good at cheering up people and giving them suggestions, as friends. And yeah when I used to chat with him, I could feel that uneasiness in him .. like he din't want me to go.. but he was too proud to show that out..