why is he pushing my buttons?

hello again! my libra and i have been debating an issue all day (more i have been raving and he has been calm). we'd been texting back and forth for two hours straight (we were both at work). he calls me baby quit often so at the height of the disagreement he says baby i do care. of course i say no you don't you're just being sarcastic. then i said don't patronize me by calling me baby. so he texts back ok BABY! I texted Ugh!! (at the top of my lungs!!!) after a few more messages he says ok baby i'm at my game wish me luck i'll call you when i'm done. like nothing happened. why?

Hi, I have once a libra BF who's younger than me by 9 years. We never argue at any height. I think his nature is really calm as I base it with 2 other Libra cousins who are men. Cousin 1 when nagged by a wife only says, "ok I'll do what you ask". Cousin 2 when push by a GF to limit only act normally as if something happened.

I think they just don't like arguments. They like harmony. They will not buy any invitation to send themselves into a serious fight unless necessary.

One thing I noticed with Libra men, they love beauty and everything that surrounds it. But when they fall in love they follow their heart. They act according to it at the moment they are into the feeling. They go for it.

My ex BF was taken away by his mom from me because I am way older than him. But he left his home and live alone to make his way to me but regularly visits mom. When the mom made drastic move, he attempted suicide. The mom mellowed down.

I, because I understand, slowly push him away. Away to better life because he can have better woman for him.

I'm a cancer.

he WASN'T...we love to debate... but dislike argument & disharmony Intensely

he will not fight with you over a difference of opinion =)

he is 10 years older than me. it just seems like we can't leave each other alone for longer than a few dqys. is that strange? what do you think i should do? he sometimes acts like my opinions don/t matter.

do you think he is set in his ways because he is older? he has the attitude like "this is what i said this is how it is"

Maybe he is just looking at it as women's tantrum so he is not taking it seriously. Because if he did, the relationship has ended long before then.

"...after a few more messages he says ok baby i'm at my game wish me luck i'll call you when i'm done. like nothing happened. why?"

Because his eyes are on the big picture and we are rather grounded people. He can go from arguing to acting like nothing is wrong because he knows that in the end things will work out in mutual favor. A lot of times were non-confrontational not because we ARE non-confrontational but even in the heat of the moment we can recognize and compartmentalize the local/specific issues and seperate them from the overall picture in our mind. I don't know if that made sense the way I want it too.

"he sometimes acts like my opinions don/t matter."

This is usually a sign that he believes you are being irrational and emotional over reasonable. It isn't necissarily right, but this is how we deal with conflict. If he really cares about you (I have no idea the seriousness of your relationship) he isn't disregarding your feelings but he is cataloging them as feelings. Feelings to us Libra men are important, but not as important as rational feeling. This aggrivates to varying degrees the more emotional signs of the zodiac and when the two are together they have to really work to come together when it comes to difference of opinion.

"do you think he is set in his ways because he is older? he has the attitude like "this is what i said this is how it is""

No, I think he believes you are focusing on the details and he is focusing on the big picture. He is not going to get unsettled by the details. We have a "let the small problems remain small problems" philosophy. My gf is younger than me, I do not really use this as a point of validation when we disagree at all. I look at the situation objectively and analyze the points. The points are still the points weather she is younger or older than me. It doesn't really matter at all.

"is that strange? what do you think i should do? he sometimes acts like my opinions don/t matter."

Not when a Libra really cares about someone. My gf and I have had some pretty nasty, poison filled arguments but at some point we snap out of it and realize that we really love each other and we really hate feeling negative towards the other. Our "Space" time is usually short and we both put a lot of effort into resolving the dispute.

lol! I thought the same thing leokitten. My bf calls me baby. So not a big deal.

Your opinion probably doesn't matter. You are 10 years younger than him. He ain't there for your mind, Baby! You two will continue to engage in these unhealthy power games until one of you snaps. I doubt it will be the guy with 10 years on you.

You want to be his equal, but are fighting for his approval.

my trigger word is not baby. like i said earlier he calls me that all the time. that's my name. that's why it's my username. i know it was funny to him that's why he kept doing it which pissed me off more. it was the way he used it during our argument as to say this point is not serious. i just feel like he should take my points as serious as he wants me to take his.

if he doesn't really want to hear my opinion why constantly ask for it? he started this debate out of the clear blue.