Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Brickhouse27Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Brickhouse27Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Brickhouse27Posted by Phantom_Dangus
So, I can tell what it's really like for me, but it's embarrassing, and I don't know which placements cause it. Once I feel "allowed" to admit I'm falling for someone, I get so knocked out by the hormones involved in the "falling in love" stage I start acting like a stereotypical lovesick fool, thinking everything about that person is great. They can do no wrong. I hang on their every word. I am always excited to hear from them and panic if too much time passes. I can't sleep or eat properly and begin to lose weight. I do everything in my power to keep them from knowing how bad it is, so I've never been sure how much it shows. Eventually, if things progress between us, and he makes me feel loved back, that feeling eases into a deeper love. I know I've reached it when I feel a mixture of irritation and "d'aw" when he does one of his annoying habits, instead of not even noticing he can be annoying, and I relax and feel secure enough not to get jealous easily. I've only made it that far three times. Things would usually blow up in the middle of the infatuation stage. I've been married for a very long time now, so we've been through many other stages.
Aww this is so cute. This looks similar to what I’m noticing and it’s getting worse. How long you been married?
I hated feeling like I wasn't in control of myself and thoughts and emotions. I felt bad too that it was almost like a bait and switch to my partner because I would go from chill to suddenly intense. And then when things finally leveled out, back to chill again. 16 years married (I think I said 17 recently, lol) and 20 years together.
Lol it’s ok. At least you were aware and can admit it. I’m happy for you 2. Did you ever admit it when you switched or apologize?
Aw butter. I answered you but I was only half logged in, and i don't know where it went. Into the ether, I guess.
I didn't really apologize for doing that when I did it because it is only with the benefit of hindsight and detachment from those events that I can see the pattern in what was happening.
He just understood from previous conversations? So that’s where the detachment comes from as well? If you don’t mind me asking, what’s his sign?
He's a Pisces. Haha, no. I think he had no clue what was going on but liked me, then loved me, enough to go along for the ride. Also, he still to this day can never get tired of hearing affectionate, encouraging comments, so he probably loved the intense phase.
He put his foot down really hard once. He broke up with me after about a year together because I kept making jealous scenes when we went out with friends (and I got drunk). He wasn't really interested in why I kept doing it; he just wasn't going to put up with it anymore. I got into therapy and quit getting drunk, and we never had that particular problem again.click to expand