Posted by Arielle83Posted by giaPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by giaPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by giaPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by giaPosted by Warrenama
My Virgo male is exactly like this. For some reason he does not trust me having male friends
and what do you do about it? Do ya'll just keep fighting over it from time to time or is there evr any resolution and understanding?
These things your virgo is doing is a big red flag. Insecure, demeans you in public, isolates you, and Hippocratical behavior. You don't treat people this way. I'm surprised you lasted this long.
Your Virgo has some serious issues he is hiding. Very counter productive to treat you in this fashion while there is someone who is around that is a actual threat.You have a crush on AJ obviously.
Sure, You could be holding things back on your end that would justify his reaction but not how he is handling it!
Honestly, Why have you stayed in the relationship this long? Is this kind of mistreatment something your use to?
Sure, You could be holding things back on your end that would justify his reaction but not how he is handling it! - I haven't held back anything. I have given up on 2 of my bestfriends for this relationship. One male bestfriend(a virgo again) of over a decade who asked me out 6 times before and the 7th time after I got together with my virguy . I removed him from my life of my own before even my bf had to ask me to do it. I did it because I knew it was the right thing to do.
I cut off my female bestfriend of 3 yrs from college because she she said that my virguy was being touchy with her(but he said that she misinterpreted and exaggerated the story to break us up) and he forced me to break my friendship with her as he felt offended.
I have sacrificed two people who were among the closest to me and I did it because it was the right thing to do.
When I confronted my virguy about this girl he was too involved with on Insta and how emotionally disturbed I was to see her frequency of texts and the content of her msgs. He would either brush it off or not reply her at times in my presence or defend her. When I asked him to block her, he didn't. Why should I be the one to have to be rude to people by cutting them off for no real reason? The only reason why I am going to be hell stubborn this time on not unfollowing them no matter what he says/does or even if breaksup is because if i do give in to his stubborness and actually unfollow them for sych petty reason then it will further encourage him to control me and i cant let this happen ,it would end our relationship anyway. He has to get under control and realize his butter.
What I'm getting from that is your giving him a ton of slack rather then just being complacent with his behavior. And you also have drawn the line in the Sand now?
I drew the line in the sand many a times before whenever he tried making me feel guilty about AJ or Alex.
He always character assassinates me by saying "This is the real you".
99.9% he knows I dont even talk to Alex and that I feel nothing for either of them. Yet he still wants to have me unfollow them.
This time I'm making sure the line I've drawn is indelible.
He’s crazy insecure but trying to convince you you’re the problem. You’re becoming accustomed to these constant attacks on your character. Your life will improve so much when you leave this behind.
These constant attacks on my character are a way for him to coverup his real butter. He does it to make himself feel better thinking "she's not a good person either. She has flaws too. So its not just me who's bad.". He does it to make him feel better about himself.
I want to give him one ultimate last chance. I am willing to forgive him for all the butter he threw on me if I see him transform into a better ,respectful, mature human. I know I cant force that change but maybe I can influence him?
Or maybe he would change after I leave him. Or maybe he just won't. God knows.
I did see him change though. Earlier he used to be a lot into womanizing but that has come down a lot lately. It's his extreme insecurity and sadist pessimistic mindset which has to change.
Sounds like all his devaluing of you has made you stay around to prove you’re worthy.
You think he’s tortured and you believe your love and caring will help him, and he will see the error of his ways and come running to you with open arms, and put you on a pedestal.
He won’t do any of these things because he’s chosen to ruin you until you are nothing left.
You will be disappointed again.
He’s your drug. The unpredictability of it all is addicting.
You keep going for a hit, hoping it will be better than the last.click to expand