Controlling - normal or too much?

We have been together for a year and a half and were classmates for 4 years in college (just graduated). I was never on Instagram until we graudated as my classmates requested me. Now he panicked when I joined Insta. He has been ordering me to unfollow 2 of our classmates (1 of whom is our mutual good friend).Let's call the mutual good friend as AJ and the other one as Adam.
So once we had our grades out and I had topped the university, he threw tantrums and insulted my scores in front of AJ and 2 more of our friends in our then friend circle on our whatsapp group. He said I didn't deserve my score. I was kinda irritated so I chatted with AJ describing how he didn't even open his mouth during an important presentation and yet he got an A+ which he didnt deserve and yet he's the one pointing out to me. AJ didn't really tease back much. It was just an exchange of 4-5 messages in one of them AJ said "grades dont matter that much". 2 weeks later my virguy read our chat when he called me over to his place for 4 days. OF course, the after-effects were traumatizing where I cried to him and apologized and pleaded and begged and he asked me to get out of his house until he saw I was choking really bad. It's been 5 months since that incident. He had asked me to cut off my friendship with AJ.

I was leaving abroad for my Master's degree this August end so I was meeting up with all my friends and so I met AJ along with our mutual female friend(not alone but the 3 of us). When my virguy came to know about it, he got even more mad and he ended up meeting this girl I've had major problems with because she hits on him,behaves like his girlfriend ,sends him questionable texts, used to tell him to comment cheap flirty comments on her insta pics until I found out and he stopped commenting but the chatting continued .I literally caught them together sitting inside a cab sitting real close and taking selfies and they went to a mall. I have been asking him to block her since 10 months. He knew I was emotionally traumatized with the kind of msgs she would send him and the frequency of chats and yet he cheated on me like this. They didn't "do" anything they met in a public place but he knew I'd take that as cheating. When I confronted him later, he said he did it because he wanted to hurt me as much as I hurt him by meeting AJ despite him asking me to break our friendship.

Coming to Alex. During a group debate, my virguy was sitting next to me and I tend to carefully observe when a person speaks. Alex has this cool good-looking guy image in college and he is kinda fond of me as a friend so I did observe that he tends to look at me when he speaks to the class. My virguy is extremely insecure about him.I was looking at him just as I was looking at anyone talking in the debate. MY virguy accused that I was staring at Alex and when he looked at me I looked at him and BLUSHED. LIKE WTF!!! I swear I didn't. I may have smiled though but I am like that with everyone-guys and girls. So my virguy has been ordering me to unfollow Alex on Insta too.
This has been going on for months.
I dont speak to Alex. We were just normal basic friends during college. AJ and I also haven't spoken for months lately as we are busy in our lives. Both these guys know about our relationship and have always respected our relationship,whereas, this girl knows we are together but still behaved like she's his gf and he allowed her to do so.
He and I have had countless fights over this. It was his birthday in Sep and he asked me to block Alex and AJ as his bday gift but I didnt. The reason why I didn't is because if I do, he'll feel encouraged to control all my social interactions.
He fought with me again 2 weekends ago and said that he has brokenup with me because I still haven't unfollowed them.
What do ya'll think about this? Do you think what he's doing is reasonable? And if not, then how can I make him understand what he's doing is irrational and unacceptable?

Smh. Don’t give in to this nonsense. He’s insecure af.

Toxic

Why do you tolerate being around such high levels of stupidity, toxicity and immaturity? It's YOU who needs to go do some inner reflection

My eyes want to commit suicide and I haven't even read a third of the OP...

sounds like ya'll are a bunch of kids on the playground

OP i've always said this but you need to break up with that guy

My Virgo male is exactly like this. For some reason he does not trust me having male friends

Would be too much for me.

Posted by Gobby
My eyes want to commit suicide and I haven't even read a third of the OP...

I left after He ordered her to do something about Adam and AJ...
Then I saw she is getting for masters degree...God bless us all 🤦‍♀️

Posted by SassyKiwi
Why do you tolerate being around such high levels of stupidity, toxicity and immaturity? It's YOU who needs to go do some inner reflection

I rather watch Sailor eating Dazed show...let’s go...

Posted by Warrenama
My Virgo male is exactly like this. For some reason he does not trust me having male friends

and what do you do about it? Do ya'll just keep fighting over it from time to time or is there evr any resolution and understanding?

Thank you for your replies people. Some kind, some unkind. But whatever.
I know it all sounds immature. I understand it all. Which is exactly why I am fed up of these immature petty fights surrounding my friendship with AJ and me following Alex and AJ on Insta.
The reason why I still haven't brokenup is because of this faith that maybe it is the way it is right because he's immature. I have seen my bestfriend's relationship progress with time. The 1st 2 years were just like this full of petty fights and then gradually with time both of them matured as a couple and the bond strengthened and they have been together for over 6 years now and intend to marry in 2 years. Call me crazy but this is the only sole reason why I haven't had him off the hook yet. Some part of me feels or rather prays that he too would mature with time and we'd mature as a couple if only I hold onto some more patience and only so I know how to handle his immaturity.
Also I know that virgo's place a lot of importance to the duration of a relationship. It's been 1.5years since we have been together. It's nothing much for him.
So my main question is concerning how to handle a stubborn immature controlling virgo. I know he is absolutely shocked and hating the fact that I am not bowing down to his anger and unfollowing them yet. I have always thrown myself away like a doormat to him and he knows I love him just way too much so I know he's shocked to see me not give in.

I am certain he is an unevolved immature virgo. He is stubborn as hell and if things don't go his way he fires up. He will manipulate,lie and do whatever it takes to make you do what he wants.
He called me a just like me for still following Alex and AJ and that crossed the line for me. He called me that because he knows it will hurt my self respect and that will provoke me to unfollow them.
When I told him that he said something which one can't and shouldn't say it to any girl,he said my actions dont make him regret abusing me throwing out such words at me. Which of my actions? Still following Alex and AJ on Instagram despite him telling me not to 100000 times.
Isn't there a way to make a stubborn controlling virgo see how immature he's being?