Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Gem03Posted by LadyNeptune
Your asking the wrong questions.
Hold him over the fire and have him take accountability for his empty words.
Why did you ask me to be your gf in January?
What changed your mind between now and 90 days ago?
What about this situation makes you so wishy washy.
I have known him for years he wouldn't say anything like that "lightly". I don't blame him for being cautious, I was the one who rejected him first bc of commitment issues and partly because I am not as sexual as he is and he wants to make sure he doesn't scare me off (he said that later on). Which I appreciate, and I always protect myself so no worries.
Except he did say it lightly if less than 3 months later he is changing his mind.
Your making a lot of excuses for his behavior. That never bodes well for the start of a relationship.
Just because you know someone for years doesn’t mean you really know know them. You’ve fallen out of touch for a few years per your op, a lot can change in that time. He’s not the same guy you knew or thought you knew.
If he was then he wouldn’t be holding you at arms length when it comes to a relationship, something HE INITIATED.
I get the sense that he sees you as challenge sexually and will come on hard until the panties drop, then ghost or slot you into the fwb category.
He tried the ‘be my gf’ line, which obviously wasn’t sincere.
Now he is playing the ‘I’m unsure’ angle to see if you’ll use your pussy to help convince him your gf material.
Step lightly with this one. Eyes wide open.click to expand