Posted by blackphvsePosted by lionfirePosted by blackphvsePosted by lionfirePosted by blackphvse
You were together only for a short while, so how much chance did you give him before breaking up with him?
Looking at the time span you were together, the fact that you were the one to break up with him, then drunk called him a bunch and left voice mails, your chances with him are likely done. You'll just have to try your best to hold you head high and move on. I know it's not easy, but you lions are tough!
We were together for about 2 months. I said the relationship was toxic because i always end up waiting for him to spare me some time. I did my best to understand the situation he is in. He runs their family business and i did try my best to be supportive to him. But lately ive been feeling like he was just giving me time to talk or text me when its convenient for him. I get it. He works super hard. And i love him for that. But my point was. I needed him to give me some time too. Maybe this my come off as clingy to some people.
Before we started our relationship he promised me that he will try his best to spend some time with me. I saw that he tried. But when i have those days when i really needed him. He wasnt there for me. This makes me more depressed and upset.
Maybe some will also say that this wasnt the right relationship. But as i said. In my 31 years of exsistence this is the first time i fell so hard like this. Its like i met my match. And its hard for me to just let him go. I know i will regret this for the rest of my life. He was the first person i felt so connected too. Iike he was the missing part of me. (Yeah i know its sounds dramatic. But thats exactly how i felt) i know he felt connected to me too. I just cant tell now on how much level.
Not trying to be mean.. but do you know what a toxic relationship is? The fact that he didn't give you as much attention as you required does not make the relationship toxic. 2 months is not a very long period at all and you said that you did see him trying to give you time, it just wasn't enough for you. To be honest I'm surprised that you were the one to break up with him and not the other way around. You knew before you got together that he was busy with work, and you admit that he did try to give you his time.. what more did you want from him? Maybe try to find someone who has more free time to spend with you because it sounds like that is what is most important to you in a relationship.
I got it. Its really my fault. I appreciate that he works hard. I really do. I just wanted a normal relationship with him. He also said that he is not the one for me. Because i need to change a lot for him and as he said i cant do it. He said he needs a submissive woman. Which is also not me.
I definitely understand. I am also the type of person who likes to spend a lot of time with my significant other, but in knowing that I am like that, I don't invest much energy in people that I know can't give me as much of their time as I'd like. Once you know what is important to you in a relationship, it's a lot easier to select someone whose life is more in line with yours. That's why I tend not to go for guys who travel a lot for work, or are workaholics, it doesn't fit with what I need from my partner.
Also, you shouldn't have to change for anyone (as he suggested), compromises definitely help to make relationships work smoother, but you should never have to change who you are to suit someone else. It just sounds like you guys aren't overly compatible in the long run. Better to have found out sooner rather than later after investing even more time and emotion on this connection. Just keep in mind what you need from a relationship and select your next partner wisely.click to expand