#12.89, What do you mean you have been waiting 5 yrs for a married man? That is crazy. Surely you can do better. He obviously cant be in love with you and have you waiting while he is with his wife. I will be honest, not meaning to be mean, but dont you feel bad or guilty? It just seems wrong. How could he even trust you or respect you. Not alone how could you even ever,ever trust him knowing he is married and messing with you. Your relationship could not be based on trust if he is cheating on his wife with you.The odds probably are not in your favor if he hasnt left after 5 yrs. Really.You should keep in mind that there are plenty of men out there who arent married and be commited to just you.How will you feel after 10 or 20 yrs and he is still married and you all alone, 10-20 yrs older,wasted a lifetime on a man who could care less, just wanted extra on the side.What does he have to offer you?Oh, and he has stuck around 5 yrs for his wife, she must be doing something right.You should gain a bit of respect for yourself and learn to know you can do better. You should let him be. If it was meant to be for you and him, he will divorce her and be back to you.But why would you want him... Good luck to you.