Children of Divorce

The other day a friend told me about having a miniature high school reunion at a dive bar. we then strolled down memory lane until we wonder why were some of those people so troubled and disturbed in high school. the updates my friend got some of them ended up in jail or created families they couldn't handle, why? we figured out a lot of those people had divorced parents. Why did those children turn into something so problematic? were they babies who couldn't handle being weened from their bubble shielding them from reality? sink or swim?

Divorce can absolutely negatively affect children. But it depends on when their parents divorced + how effective of parents each parent was after the divorce (some parents subconsciously start to lack in the parental category once their relationship with the other parent starts to suffer, hence the reason some women/men are accused of treating their stepchildren in a new relationship better than their biological children with someone else they're no longer with) + how rocky/dirty the divorce actually was.

Sometimes it's not the divorce itself that dramatically affects children. Sometimes it's the fact that the children saw the worst in their parents during the process of the divorce OR long before the divorce was even filed for. Constant fighting. Attempts at parental alienation in a parent's intention to get custody or likeness from the courts. Dirty laundry being aired out that the children may not have otherwise known about had their parents still been having a healthy relationship.

But to be fair, there are tons of other things that will contribute to how someone turns out. You may only think that the common link is divorce, but most likely it's also a combination of other things not mentioned too.

There are plenty of troubled folks whose parents stayed together.

Just b/c 2 people are married doesn't mean that they aren't individually flawed. Just b/c 2 people are married doesn't mean each parent is an actual good parent. If your parents are together, but yet your dad is an alcoholic and your mom is a raging walking mood swing, then children with parents like these may still turn out messed up with trust issues or a skewed perception of what people, life & relationships are all about