Do you have a the one that got away?

What happened?

Feeling a bit nostaglic myself.

nah. the ones who got away can stay away.

It was many years ago. But I found his Facebook page out of nowhere..(and I've searched for him before) Scorpio Mercury brings out the secrets.

What surprised me was that after realizing it was him, my heart started racing, and I've been semi-depressed ever since.

Posted by nimbue
nah. the ones who got away can stay away.

Sometimes, they don't leave on bad terms...
Just hopeless ones.

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz

Posted by nimbue
nah. the ones who got away can stay away.

Sometimes, they don't leave on bad terms...
Just hopeless ones.

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i wasn't talking about leaving on bad terms, actually. just indifferent ones.

He decided he would rather be married to someone who hates his job and wants to use him as a cash machine.

.....not much of a reflection on me, is it?

actually saw my sag ex on the weekend, on the way to meet my current sag.

clocked him, he clocked me. said polite hi's, fake as hell. felt nothing...

I think that would be a good thing? the feeling nothing? No pain, no wanting to run them over. Alles guht?

That's what I mean. If it's indifference, there are no pangs of regret..

I mean, someone in your life, where if you tried a bit harder, maybe they could have put it more effort themselves...maybe timing was off, or meeting your twin flame, but wrong place wrong time...

Coulda Woulda Shoulda, that sort of thing.

all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
That's what I mean. If it's indifference, there are no pangs of regret..

I mean, someone in your life, where if you tried a bit harder, maybe they could have put it more effort themselves...maybe timing was off, or meeting your twin flame, but wrong place wrong time...

Coulda Woulda Shoulda, that sort of thing.

if i ever felt that way, i'd do something about it. but i'm not really one for regrets...

interesting you said twin flame. did you feel the 'one that got away' was yours? that must be hard. and +1 about timing, it's paramount

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Ahem. I hope you meant ex-best friend. Who does that to a "friend"?


I hear you with the 'all feelings died' business.....way to stop wasting time on azshats that aren't worth it.
I have a set of Maxwell Smart doors that close off. Brilliant stuff.

Some argue that you have more than one...There were two people, neither of them my husband, that I coulda shoulda woulda. One I felt like I was 'coming home' you know?

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Ahem. I hope you meant ex-best friend. Who does that to a "friend"?


I hear you with the 'all feelings died' business.....way to stop wasting time on azshats that aren't worth it.
I have a set of Maxwell Smart doors that close off. Brilliant stuff.

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no...see, i have saviour issues when it comes that particular friend. i'm not proud of it. 😢

but when it came down to him or her, choosing neither felt too drastic, you know? like i wanted to show him, you're not that special and you won't come between friends. like i had something to prove.

but yeah...LOL, i hear you. where's your venus?

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
That's what I mean. If it's indifference, there are no pangs of regret..

I mean, someone in your life, where if you tried a bit harder, maybe they could have put it more effort themselves...maybe timing was off, or meeting your twin flame, but wrong place wrong time...

Coulda Woulda Shoulda, that sort of thing.

if i ever felt that way, i'd do something about it. but i'm not really one for regrets...

interesting you said twin flame. did you feel the 'one that got away' was yours? that must be hard. and +1 about timing, it's paramount

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aren't you an Aries iheartnerdyboyz?

I seriously doubt you could have put in more effort. Aries come in for a lot of criticism, but not usually for a lack of enthusiasm. It's an area where a few folk could maybe learn a thing or two from us..

Don't beat yourself up about it. Hang tough. A bigger brighter flame may yet await.....

I'm married, and an Aries. Just taking a walk down nostalgia lane.

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Some argue that you have more than one...There were two people, neither of them my husband, that I coulda shoulda woulda. One I felt like I was 'coming home' you know?

i think i know what you mean, about the 'coming home' thing. there's lots of stuff i've read on this. kinda been fascinated by the concept of soulmates since i was a very little girl. i'll post up some links...but the main gist is, we have many soulmates. they can come in the form of a parent, lover or friend. just a soul you've shared time with before.

apparently a twin flame is much rarer. literally your 'other half'. once you meet them, the two of you should work out your soul purpose then enjoy a lifelong bond. serious stuff. if not, you're destined to never resolve your karmic debt...and you will face that person in another lifetime, again.

Posted by PurrrrHissss
Pining for someone sounds like a nightmare.

it really does. 😢

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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Ahem. I hope you meant ex-best friend. Who does that to a "friend"?


I hear you with the 'all feelings died' business.....way to stop wasting time on azshats that aren't worth it.
I have a set of Maxwell Smart doors that close off. Brilliant stuff.

no...see, i have saviour issues when it comes that particular friend. i'm not proud of it. 😢

but when it came down to him or her, choosing neither felt too drastic, you know? like i wanted to show him, you're not that special and you won't come between friends. like i had something to prove.

but yeah...LOL, i hear you. where's your venus?

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I'd have run them both out of town.

LOL - as if you had to ask!! I am the proud owner of a really nice Aries Venus and I love it. It rocks. My love is genuine and sincere and pure and true if no one else on the planet loves me back so be it.
I would love to bask in the awesome love of Aries Venus....to be in no doubt that I was truly adored....I wonder if that freaks people out?

Does real love send mere mortals running for cover? Am I having an epiphany or do I need more coffee——

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Posted by nimbue
but the main gist is, we have many soulmates. they can come in the form of a parent, lover or friend. just a soul you've shared time with before.

I have a bond like that with my grandma. I'm going to lose my fucking mind if she dies before me. 😭

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wow.........😢 what's her sign?

but they are such beautiful connections. i feel that way about my mum. i honestly couldn't live without her

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
I'm married, and an Aries. Just taking a walk down nostalgia lane.

ok. you are married and "the one" got away.......so did another "the one" come along and you married him or did you settle?

Posted by nimbue

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Some argue that you have more than one...There were two people, neither of them my husband, that I coulda shoulda woulda. One I felt like I was 'coming home' you know?

i think i know what you mean, about the 'coming home' thing. there's lots of stuff i've read on this. kinda been fascinated by the concept of soulmates since i was a very little girl. i'll post up some links...but the main gist is, we have many soulmates. they can come in the form of a parent, lover or friend. just a soul you've shared time with before.

apparently a twin flame is much rarer. literally your 'other half'. once you meet them, the two of you should work out your soul purpose then enjoy a lifelong bond. serious stuff. if not, you're destined to never resolve your karmic debt...and you will face that person in another lifetime, again.

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With that specific person, I just 'knew' him. It really was indescribabls. I think I scared him, when I revealed what I knew...

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Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Wow, that's just pathetic and lame (on their side of things).
Good for you !

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i think that's why i have trust issues. well that's my excuse anyway 😛

but, seriously...if he wanted to cheat, there are so many girls out there. it was just a lazy and disrespectful move.

Posted by nimbue

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Wow, that's just pathetic and lame (on their side of things).
Good for you !

i think that's why i have trust issues. well that's my excuse anyway 😛

but, seriously...if he wanted to cheat, there are so many girls out there. it was just a lazy and disrespectful move.

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it takes 2. off with both their heads.
"fuck em"

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by nimbue

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Ahem. I hope you meant ex-best friend. Who does that to a "friend"?


I hear you with the 'all feelings died' business.....way to stop wasting time on azshats that aren't worth it.
I have a set of Maxwell Smart doors that close off. Brilliant stuff.

no...see, i have saviour issues when it comes that particular friend. i'm not proud of it. 😢

but when it came down to him or her, choosing neither felt too drastic, you know? like i wanted to show him, you're not that special and you won't come between friends. like i had something to prove.

but yeah...LOL, i hear you. where's your venus?

I'd have run them both out of town.

LOL - as if you had to ask!! I am the proud owner of a really nice Aries Venus and I love it. It rocks. My love is genuine and sincere and pure and true if no one else on the planet loves me back so be it.
I would love to bask in the awesome love of Aries Venus....to be in no doubt that I was truly adored....I wonder if that freaks people out?

Does real love send mere mortals running for cover? Am I having an epiphany or do I need more coffee——

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ah man, seriously venus aries are so bold and passionate. i think with men, the energy can be a bit 'off' and come on a bit too heavy. i think it suits the ladies much better 😉there's nothing sexier than knowing what you want and going for it.

yes. yes, it does. mere mortals cannot hack it. and i'm speaking from both sides of the fence...

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Some argue that you have more than one...There were two people, neither of them my husband, that I coulda shoulda woulda. One I felt like I was 'coming home' you know?

i think i know what you mean, about the 'coming home' thing. there's lots of stuff i've read on this. kinda been fascinated by the concept of soulmates since i was a very little girl. i'll post up some links...but the main gist is, we have many soulmates. they can come in the form of a parent, lover or friend. just a soul you've shared time with before.

apparently a twin flame is much rarer. literally your 'other half'. once you meet them, the two of you should work out your soul purpose then enjoy a lifelong bond. serious stuff. if not, you're destined to never resolve your karmic debt...and you will face that person in another lifetime, again.

With that specific person, I just 'knew' him. It really was indescribabls. I think I scared him, when I revealed what I knew...

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i'm not surprised, really. because when it happened to me i shat myself. it was this summer. within like two minutes of our first date we were both like okay, i feel like i know you. and it doesn't feel nice. it feels unsettling and weird.

it's gotta be harder for men. they're more geared towards 'playing the field' while we're more geared towards 'settling down with a nice man'.

so when it happens for them it must be a mind fuck.

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Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by nimbue
but the main gist is, we have many soulmates. they can come in the form of a parent, lover or friend. just a soul you've shared time with before.

I have a bond like that with my grandma. I'm going to lose my fucking mind if she dies before me. 😭

wow.........😢 what's her sign?

but they are such beautiful connections. i feel that way about my mum. i honestly couldn't live without her

Aww. 😢

She's a Scorpio with moon in Sag and Aqua rising. She's been like a mother to me.

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a sag moon? *drools*

she sounds amazing purr. you're lucky to have each other 🙂

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Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Wow, that's just pathetic and lame (on their side of things).
Good for you !

i think that's why i have trust issues. well that's my excuse anyway 😛

but, seriously...if he wanted to cheat, there are so many girls out there. it was just a lazy and disrespectful move.

it takes 2. off with both their heads.
"fuck em"

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i'm loyal to a fault though. plus, she told me they did it in some graveyard and he lasted all of about 30 secs. i think she suffered enough 😛

sorry - meant nothing less sexy than hearing "I would rather be married to this chick who hates my job and is 100% UNsupportive of it, who just quit her job to sit around home planning where I will be taking her for her holidayS (seriously - who needs frickin holidayS from not working——??)"


***picks up Aries Venus and the larger fragments of heart and trudges off***

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
I'm married, and an Aries. Just taking a walk down nostalgia lane.

ok. you are married and "the one" got away.......so did another "the one" come along and you married him or did you settle?

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It's a long ass story. But I'll shorten it by saying that both were completely out of the picture for years when I married my husband. One resurfaced, and we made a promise that if the opportunity came in the future, we'd go for it.

Otherwise, I'm married...the end.

Posted by nimbue

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by nimbue

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by nimbue
all good? yeah. i mean, this is the guy who cheated on me with my best friend...then waited outside my house everyday to try and force me to take him back.

not exactly stable in the head. it's ike the second i found out, all feelings died. it was great 😄

Wow, that's just pathetic and lame (on their side of things).
Good for you !

i think that's why i have trust issues. well that's my excuse anyway 😛

but, seriously...if he wanted to cheat, there are so many girls out there. it was just a lazy and disrespectful move.

it takes 2. off with both their heads.
"fuck em"

i'm loyal to a fault though. plus, she told me they did it in some graveyard and he lasted all of about 30 secs. i think she suffered enough 😛

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You're a good friend...lol.

she was westsides first love. shes just too beautiful for words. it was more platonic than anything..bold feelings from both ends but it was almost like they enjoyed playing the game too much to actually get to know each other. then time passed and westside began to grow weary and bored, moving on with his life, only to find out he had hurt her in the process. time went on and westside knew that the only way to make amends was to apologize. besides, other females simply did not compare to her. she had caught his eye one day while he was walking around reading, and he approached her, only to find that her pain had turned to hate and bitterness. she had simply acted like she had and never had feelings towards him. westside refused to believe such a thing and insisted that he was sorry. she did not budge, and westside was forced to confess his peace and leave it at that. the next thing westside knew, he was forced to move locations due to irrelevent matters.


perhaps one day westside will return to his home. but most likely not.




the moral of the story: fuck bitches, keep your mind on your riches.

Shiiit... I AM that one who got away! 😛

for anyone who's interested, here's some writing on twin flames:

http://www.soulevolution.org/twinflames/twinflames.htm</a><BR>
http://ladydyanna.net/</a><BR>

http://www.freewebs.com/keeperofdreams/twinflames.htm</a><BR>
http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/Readings_By_Rayna/SOULMATES--BRIAN-WEISS--M-D/526526.aspx</a><BR>

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she was westsides first love. shes just too beautiful for words. it was more platonic than anything..bold feelings from both ends but it was almost like they enjoyed playing the game too much to actually get to know each other. then time passed and westside began to grow weary and bored, moving on with his life, only to find out he had hurt her in the process. time went on and westside knew that the only way to make amends was to apologize. besides, other females simply did not compare to her. she had caught his eye one day while he was walking around reading, and he approached her, only to find that her pain had turned to hate and bitterness. she had simply acted like she had and never had feelings towards him. westside refused to believe such a thing and insisted that he was sorry. she did not budge, and westside was forced to confess his peace and leave it at that. the next thing westside knew, he was forced to move locations due to irrelevent matters.


perhaps one day westside will return to his home. but most likely not.




the moral of the story: fuck bitches, keep your mind on your riches.

Fuck guys - keep your eyes on the prize??

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by westside
she was westsides first love. shes just too beautiful for words. it was more platonic than anything..bold feelings from both ends but it was almost like they enjoyed playing the game too much to actually get to know each other. then time passed and westside began to grow weary and bored, moving on with his life, only to find out he had hurt her in the process. time went on and westside knew that the only way to make amends was to apologize. besides, other females simply did not compare to her. she had caught his eye one day while he was walking around reading, and he approached her, only to find that her pain had turned to hate and bitterness. she had simply acted like she had and never had feelings towards him. westside refused to believe such a thing and insisted that he was sorry. she did not budge, and westside was forced to confess his peace and leave it at that. the next thing westside knew, he was forced to move locations due to irrelevent matters.


perhaps one day westside will return to his home. but most likely not.




the moral of the story: fuck bitches, keep your mind on your riches.

Fuck guys - keep your eyes on the prize??

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i like the way you think

we should get together, you and i

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
I'm married, and an Aries. Just taking a walk down nostalgia lane.

ok. you are married and "the one" got away.......so did another "the one" come along and you married him or did you settle?

It's a long ass story. But I'll shorten it by saying that both were completely out of the picture for years when I married my husband. One resurfaced, and we made a promise that if the opportunity came in the future, we'd go for it.

Otherwise, I'm married...the end.

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don't you go crumbling under questioning.....you are an Aries...put a true or false answer on your paper.

Did you marry your "the one" or not? Some folks on the relationship forum prattle on about how there is more than just one "the one" and I would really like evidence of this before proceeding.

Posted by nimbue

With that specific person, I just 'knew' him. It really was indescribabls. I think I scared him, when I revealed what I knew...

i'm not surprised, really. because when it happened to me i shat myself. it was this summer. within like two minutes of our first date we were both like okay, i feel like i know you. and it doesn't feel nice. it feels unsettling and weird.

it's gotta be harder for men. they're more geared towards 'playing the field' while we're more geared towards 'settling down with a nice man'.

so when it happens for them it must be a mind fuck.

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I was surprisingly in control. Usually I'm a mess around someone I admire.

The one that I looked up on Facebook used to quiver around me. Soooo much energy.

I want to contact him so bad, but I won't. No good can come of it. Absolutely none.

lol at my quoting abilities.

haha i can't stand when it does that.

yeah? sucks when you know you shouldn't even try...then again, i'm so persistent. if i'm sure about someone, i'm sure. life is way too short.

what makes you think it's not worth it btw?

@RNAP, lots of women just settle. And lots, pine over 'the one,' and never move on.

I chose to move on. 🙂

Do I miss, and yearn and when Venus and Mercury is in Scorpio,do I obsess over past love?

yeah

Nimbue, is that you in the avi? If so, you're beautiful.

It's worth it, I just can't. I'm committed to my husby, I have kids...

I'm a romantic. One day, maybe, I'd get that chance.

So, did what happened with your twin flame experience.

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
@RNAP, lots of women just settle. And lots, pine over 'the one,' and never move on.

I chose to move on. 🙂

Do I miss, and yearn and when Venus and Mercury is in Scorpio,do I obsess over past love?

yeah

Hugs babe. Massive hugs.

what did happen...

Hugs right back RNAP,

Gotta keep on keeping on.

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Nimbue, is that you in the avi? If so, you're beautiful.

It's worth it, I just can't. I'm committed to my husby, I have kids...

I'm a romantic. One day, maybe, I'd get that chance.

So, did what happened with your twin flame experience.

it's amy winehouse 🙂

oh you're married? wow...that's hard. and yeah...you never know what the future holds. but that's gotta hurt 😢 sorry to hear that.

we met a few months back, things were great. i was merrily going with the flow, you know. just happy. then out of the blue he turns around and jumps ship. i was devastated. also, i didn't believe him, that there was no connection. his actions and what he was saying were way out of sync.

a month later we got back in touch, agreed to be friends. then he asked if we could try again. he said he rushed in and rushed out...imposed a sex ban. and said we should take things more slowly. i reckon if it wasn't him chickening out, it would have been me. it's so easy to get complacent when you feel like you know a person inside out who you've known for such a short time. we know what the other is thinking/feeling. we're both so protective of each other. he feels like my best friend yet i want to jump on him all the time. so it's amazing but alot of work too...

i really didn't expect all this.

Sorry, didn't recognize Amy--healthy.

So what do you think is your soul purpose? What can he teach you, help guide you through?

My faith was compromised by both of my connections. I have major spiritual rifts...

i loved her till the tabloids jumped all over her arse. then i just ignored everything till it died down again...literally.

ahem.

so far, my main passion is singing, which he picked up on straight away. and the fact i play guitar. this was all on the first date, without me saying a word about it. being with him inspired me to write this book i'd been thinking about since '09. so there's alot of creative energy between us. i see him as my muse and i'm not even joking. so much poetry/lyrics has come since i've known him. also, my chiron is in gemini, his north node is gemini. he seems to make me speak up...there's this healing element. i don't know how much of this is down to him, but since we've been together my voice has improved so much.

as for him, he's into psychology. but he has a creative side too, he's a drummer and gave up playing once he took on a second job. i'd like to encourage him to take it back up, he's so hard on himself though. we both have similar views on global issues...i think it's a case of directing our energies into a joint project, but i'm assuming that'll come later...sounds robotic, but it's a very productive relationship. we seem to motivate each other...

spiritual rifts? what's your faith?

I am the one that got away 😉