Dumbest Question Ever!

So, one of my male Saggie friends asked me to go on a trip with him. This would be strictly platonic...just as friends. I have no interest in doing anything nasty with him (separate rooms, of course). We are both married. He's willing to pay for everything and I cannot tell you how bad I need a vacation.

Would any of you ever think this would be o.k. to do? Or have any of you ever done this with your friend of the opposite sex? I have several male friends and my husband has always been o.k. with them in my life.

Now, even though I'm sure this trip will NOT be happening, I'm just curious if you think it's kosher to do. (I know...dumbest question ever!), but surprise me DXPers! 😉

Well, to be honest, I've never had a male friend that didn't attempt to ruin our friendship, if ya know what I mean!
Saggie is no different, but I've made it perfectly clear, I'm not about that.

Yes, I know they do love Aries girls. I like his adventure level and spirit. I feel we mesh well as friends...just as friends!
Any idea why they love us?

I'm only mildly attacted to him. Surly not enough to compromise my relationship...that would take an act of God because I'm VERY faithful.
To explain, if I was ever single again (haven't been in 11 years), and he was single, would I think of sleeping with him? Sure...I'd think about it. But, I'd think about sleeping with many people!! LOL

I've not brought it up with my hubby yet...just came up today.

Posted by Mr Nice
whats does your husband think? Trust is import but, I don't know if I would argee to this. Would you agree to it if your husband went off with a female friend who was hot?

I've thought about this Mr. Nice...the shoe on the other foot? I don't know...he doesn't have any female friends. So, it's difficult to say, but I know what you mean.

Posted by eden 3
ram girlie! heya no lie i was gonna post something similar but couldn't be assed cuz ive been typing so much !!!

yes speak to hubby & clear it first...sleeping in the same pad is dif than just hanging with a friend

may have to do some traveling abroad soon & a friend also assoc has a house there & plenty of room we will be traveling together my hubby is very jealous but not of a few tight friends...including this one but its the other direction that worries me...the friend

Hey lady!
So, you are saying that you would be more worried about the friend?

For me, it's not like I've not been hit on before (been happening a lot in the past couple years). I can handle a man's advances fine. I think it's about trusting your partner to do what's right as you cannot control the other person.

Posted by Mr Nice
whats does your husband think? Trust is import but, I don't know if I would argee to this. Would you agree to it if your husband went off with a female friend who was hot?

^^ Very reasonable and fair way to deal and think about it!

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Posted by ramfishtwins
Well, to be honest, I've never had a male friend that didn't attempt to ruin our friendship, if ya know what I mean!
Saggie is no different, but I've made it perfectly clear, I'm not about that.

Yes, I know they do love Aries girls. I like his adventure level and spirit. I feel we mesh well as friends...just as friends!
Any idea why they love us?

Because your very compatible.

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Must be that fire energy! I know I get along with the girls really well too.

Posted by VirgoHero

Posted by Mr Nice
whats does your husband think? Trust is import but, I don't know if I would argee to this. Would you agree to it if your husband went off with a female friend who was hot?

^^ Very reasonable and fair way to deal and think about it!

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True...but if you trust each other it shouldn't be an issue, right?

Posted by eden 3
*waves @ mr nice*

yes ramgirlie, i find the more time or physical closeness involved with my male friends they r more apt to crush on me...i think thats the dif b'tween us & guys

im sooo unattracted to my friend but i adore him...

Yes, I agree about the time spent. Guess we are just irresistable! It does bother me, at times, that ALL of my male friends over the years have tried to take it to another level. Why can't you just be my friend!!?? It's frustrating, yet flatering at the same time 🙂

I wouldn't just because I'd not feel comfortable about it. Even a platonic outing. If it were he and another friend, I and my man. Hell yes I'd go, that would be fun.

Well, VB, we did spend a week together on a work trip a few years back and that was completely comfortable.

Not questioning your integrity one bit ramfish, I know you're content with your Bull. That's just what I'd do if situations were flipped round.

Posted by venusianbull
Not questioning your integrity one bit ramfish, I know you're content with your Bull. That's just what I'd do if situations were flipped round.

Oh, I know VB...didn't think that at all. The reason for this post was to see how other people would feel about this situation and if they've ever done this before.

I'm not exactly 100% comfortable with the idea...that's probably why I wouldn't go through with it, but I thought it was an interesting issue to have.

I think so too. 🙂

^ That was in answer to ramfish. *bonking message board*

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Posted by Mr Nice
whats does your husband think? Trust is import but, I don't know if I would argee to this. Would you agree to it if your husband went off with a female friend who was hot?

^^ Very reasonable and fair way to deal and think about it!

True...but if you trust each other it shouldn't be an issue, right?

If you need a vacation then make plans with your hubby, does the saggie have a partner? if not then no matter how loyal you are, it will not stop him trying it on unless he gay saying that I dont know the geeza he could just be a nice guy. It could also ruin your frienship if he does try something and he gets rejected. My partner is an aries it did take me a while to accept her talking to males because it used to piss me off big time but, there came a point were I said to myself you cannot ball'n'chain someone unless its save sex so I am cool with it now because knew it wrong. Plus when we where is a club together I had to girls come on to me and it made my girl so angry lol so what comes around gos around to. Peace

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He's married as well, Mr. Nice...
I've already rejected him along with all of my other male friends. It's almost like a rite of passage...we become friends, they want something more, I reject them, they choose to either be adult and still remain friends, or be a little child and we go our separate ways. This one has managed to stick around for many years now.

Thanks for your insight...I know you of all people know the Aries woman!

Posted by venusianbull
^ That was in answer to ramfish. *bonking message board*

LOL! Got it, lady!

*waves back at Mr. Nice* 🙂