Dun dun dun, FACEBOOK

What do you think when a friend's S.O. tries to add you on Facebook?

I've had this happen a few times. I found it the strangest when I'd never met them (usually female friend's boyfriend). There's been a couple that I'd met that wanted to add, but it seemed less odd.

But with some, I thought it strange because it's like ...why? I don't even know you?

Anyone ever felt this way when this happens? It could just be me. I'm not down to just add anyone that comes along, anyway.

Yeah had that, just ignore especially if you don't know them. Some people are all about numbers and wanting to have the most friends..normally the younger ones. But you have to remember sometimes some of the stuff that goes on there is quite personal and you really don't want just anyone looking into it! Each to their own obviously but with me I routinely delete people..I've added my kids friends because they have requested and after a period then deleted.

Posted by sweethearts
Yeah had that, just ignore especially if you don't know them. Some people are all about numbers and wanting to have the most friends..normally the younger ones. But you have to remember sometimes some of the stuff that goes on there is quite personal and you really don't want just anyone looking into it! Each to their own obviously but with me I routinely delete people..I've added my kids friends because they have requested and after a period then deleted.

I had a friend's bf add me. I kept denying and he kept trying. So I added him. Never once said squat or interacted at all. So I deleted him. No that I want to be BFFs or anything, but it's like shit, at least say hi, introduce yourself and ask how I know your girlfriend or something.

Posted by geminicandlelight
I don't have facebook, because it's a shitty place. Problem solved.

I felt the same way about myspace. Called it the black hole of the internet.

My friend created a profile on FB back when it was a college network and you needed a .edu email address to even have an account. All so she could share pics that she'd uploaded. when I found out I could get back in touch with so many friends I'd moved away from, I kept it. In fact, that's the primary reason I still have it, tbh. Otherwise, I'd drop it. It's become really diluted since everyone and their dog can have one now.

The friends bf thing is a little suss...and would make me think twice especially if you've not met them.

My ex-husbands cousin I added a while back and he kept making sleazy remarks...I just ignored but told my daughter and said if it continues I'll delete him. Makes me cringe..some guys have no morals or respect for anything other than what's between their legs!

I don't think anything of it. Some people will add anyone and everyone on facebook. They just want to increase their friend count. They will add anyone they met at a party once. I've actually never had a s/o friends try and friend me, although the Scorp's family members started friend requesting me a few months ago.

I have friended 2 of his friends, but I've been hanging out with them every other week (with the Scorp, of course) for the past 3-4 months, and I JUST added them last week.

Posted by capgirl69
I don't think anything of it. Some people will add anyone and everyone on facebook. They just want to increase their friend count. They will add anyone they met at a party once. I've actually never had a s/o friends try and friend me, although the Scorp's family members started friend requesting me a few months ago.

I have friended 2 of his friends, but I've been hanging out with them every other week (with the Scorp, of course) for the past 3-4 months, and I JUST added them last week.

Is that a Cap thing? I've been with Cap guy for nearly two years now, we only face booked about 6months ago...
And neither of us use it.... That might be why actually, never mind, answered my own question haha.

Wagtail- haha.

I facebooked the Scorp when I first met him, to check him out. He has his profile public though, so I didn't add him right away, I just stalked him (damn Scorpio moon!). Then he wanted to add me on our second date. We were waiting for a show to start, and he wanted to know if I had an Instagram and Facebook and he added me then.

I generally don't add new people. I can't handle it if they don't want to add me too, so I just let people friend me.
But these 2 guys I just added are guys I actually know now, we all hang out together so it was a "sure thing". lol. They are the Scorp's 2 best friends.

Posted by capgirl69
Wagtail- haha.

I facebooked the Scorp when I first met him, to check him out. He has his profile public though, so I didn't add him right away, I just stalked him (damn Scorpio moon!). Then he wanted to add me on our second date. We were waiting for a show to start, and he wanted to know if I had an Instagram and Facebook and he added me then.

Yeh, I get that, Cap guy has Scorp moon too, makes him versatile in ways to scope people out without being obvious about it. Very clever, I like it. Second date would be iffy for moi, Facebook is strictly vetted I gotta know you are hanging around in RL to add ya.

I generally don't add new people. I can't handle it if they don't want to add me too, so I just let people friend me.
But these 2 guys I just added are guys I actually know now, we all hang out together so it was a "sure thing". lol. They are the Scorp's 2 best friends.



I can really relate to this, it makes sense when they are close to him right? It's like family twice removed, you gotta keep an eyeball on 'em... Hehe.

Wagtail- lol. not that I have to keep an eye on them, but it got annoying, because the one guy (Cancer) is in a band, so he's always saying, "Oh- did you see my new video on facebook?" to the guys and I never could see them because I wasn't his friend. And then I added the other one (Pisces) because I felt bad adding one and not the other. Didn't want him to feel left out.

Um omg yes. My exs dickhead friend added me. I added him cause I thought " try to be nice " well all that dude did was leave weird rude comments on ALL my posts. Fuck that lol

Facebook is so lame and so is everything else

Posted by sweethearts
Yeah had that, just ignore especially if you don't know them. Some people are all about numbers and wanting to have the most friends..normally the younger ones. .

At my age ppl do that! 23! people are insane.

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Posted by sweethearts
Yeah had that, just ignore especially if you don't know them. Some people are all about numbers and wanting to have the most friends..normally the younger ones. .

At my age ppl do that! 23! people are insane.

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Right? I don't understand the appeal in adding everyone and their dog. It's like uh, hello? People are freaks. Either you limit who you add or you watch what you post. People can take the most innocent information and use it against you- to which has happened to me before. I'm usually very good about watching what info I share, but even the most innocent stuff was used.

I think that people have become so self absorbed and attention whorish that they're not too bright in what they should and shouldn't share.

I think that people have become so self absorbed and attention whorish that they're not too bright in what they should and shouldn't share.



+million

Than everyone starts thinking that is " good " and " normal " it's horrifying and makes me think jesus come save us lol

I haven't had that happen too often. I probably wouldn't think anything of it, honestly. Probably just that my friend talked about me a bit to that person or that s/he wants to be friendly with the friends of his/her bf/gf. I'm usually the type to jump the gun and try to add someone on fb. It's almost like an initiation in to being acquaintances and an opening to becoming friends. Like 'hey, I exist and we'll probably hang out eventually, so we're pretty much already friends, right?'
Well, sort of, anyway. I don't do that with everyone. I do occasional sweeps and delete people who are no longer relevant in my life. So, it's not for the numbers, for me.

I probably wouldn't worry about it either. They have probably heard so much about you, they feel like they know you. I'd add them to be nice. I had one friend say "hey, he sent you a friend request, why didn't you respond?" Uhh...because I've never met him..."well, he hears me talk about you all the time".

Posted by capgirl69
Wagtail- lol. not that I have to keep an eye on them, but it got annoying, because the one guy (Cancer) is in a band, so he's always saying, "Oh- did you see my new video on facebook?" to the guys and I never could see them because I wasn't his friend. And then I added the other one (Pisces) because I felt bad adding one and not the other. Didn't want him to feel left out.

Haha, oh man I know what you mean...
Sometimes when I can see its a professional thing for a friend -like band or business promotion, I will friend them so it's a way to help their 'thing'.
Past couple of days I've accepted three friend requests, had a stalk, established we have nothing in common and promptly unfriended them. One guy was like why. I just said I valued my privacy and I didn't need anymore friends....Facebook! Urrrgh!

It would be a way to find out about what said SO is really like and really up to. This may or may not be particularly positive, but I can see it happening.

Posted by capgirl69
Wagtail- haha.

I facebooked the Scorp when I first met him, to check him out. He has his profile public though, so I didn't add him right away, I just stalked him (damn Scorpio moon!). Then he wanted to add me on our second date. We were waiting for a show to start, and he wanted to know if I had an Instagram and Facebook and he added me then.

I generally don't add new people. I can't handle it if they don't want to add me too, so I just let people friend me.
But these 2 guys I just added are guys I actually know now, we all hang out together so it was a "sure thing". lol. They are the Scorp's 2 best friends.

i am the same. most of the people i interact with on a daily basis are not on my FB. i cannot bear the thought of imposing myself on them, and at times i also cannot bear the thought of them imposing on me hmmm.. i wish i could give two hoots about others like some. it must be liberating to not constantly think how others receive your thoughts.