Haters...

You know....The girl that stares you down everyday with cutting eyes, the man or woman that gets mad because you're not interested. You know, like when you achieve something and people get mad. Like when women say, "She thinks she is so hot", and they can't be knowing what you're thinking because they really think you're hot because you haven't said a word. These are HATERS people. There are many others examples. Tell me about your haters.

I see that more as bitterness rather than hatred - hate is one of those pure, passionate and irrational emotions that shouldn't neccessarily be shunned just because everyone says it's bad.

It's more likely that the people you've described above are projecting their own disatisfaction with themselves onto strangers - I can't seem to get annoyed when that happens to me because they're really making a statement that says more about their own faults than it ever could about mine.

I also don't think you can define a person as a 'hater' - I think everyone is capable of dropping a snide comment here and there at some stage of their lives

Hey Twink...

Ummm...I cannot get any idea what you are trying to say...can you give another example...!!!

Well, like when you are dressed really cute and you know it. You go out and you hear a girl whispering, "She thinks she's so hot"!. That's a hater! Why does she care what you think or how you act. Well this is mostly in women. ALso, to cortica, i didn't mean "hater" literally. It's a slang term used to desribe jealous or envious people. People that want what you have.

Com'on Twinkee,
You know that's comes with the territory of being a gemini. You exude such confidence, they can't help but talk. They don't hate you, they just wish they could be more like you. Don't take it as an insult but a compliment.

Do your thing girl, focus your energy on something more positive and rewarding and continue to accept compliments in whatever manner they come. Tell'em thank-you next time.

Thanks Parallax and Rare gem for your input. Parallax I am glad you feel more confident now. Rare gem, you do your thing girl too!

Hi! Twink,

I would just smile at them and be your sweet self!

You know what they say, "kill them with kindness".

In order for you to be aware of them staring at you, you have to be doing the same.

Maybe they think you are giving them the eye?

Ask them out to lunch and that will break the ice; then you can get to know them, and make friends with them.

🙂

Thanks you suzy! I do not stare at people, but if I look behind me or to the side of me and see someone staring, they are. And if I look again, and they haven't turned away, i know they are doing that. I don't stare at people because i know how it makes me feel. This is not about staring, it's about a hater.

OK, replace staring with looking. That was the wrong word to use!

Here is a different appoach depends on the situation and how well you can turn things around if they take it wrong, but how about going up to them and asking them "what the hell are you looking at"? Just get all up in it!!!lol
Yup, I would do it. Go ahead just lace right into them!

Turn the voodoo on them!

"Well, like when you are dressed really cute and you know it."

Perhaps they pick up on that...

I see your point star, but honey I don't give a damn who looks cute unless I am interested in dating them! If I project confidence that way, that is my business. They shouldn't feel uncomfortable or think negative because of it. I see confident people all the time, but I don't get jealous or offended. If they know they look good, so what. Let them feel that way. That's all I am saying.

I don't like being called 'honey'. It does give insight into your attitude though...

Though, I do agree about confidence and it shouldn't matter to someone else if you possess it! It is better to have it than not!

My figure is what is described as an hour-glass shape and I got attention from men and boys at a very young age because of this...(perhaps the reason I do not like being called 'honey'). But, it is my brain and not my body that has gotten me far!
I dress very carefully so people do not notice my body...or not too much anyway...
I will dress how I want when I am with my guy...but, that is different...(I realize that this is just how I am)...

Well, excuse me for calling you honey. What would you prefer to be called. I also have an hour glass figure and yes I get attention but I am also smart as hell and have a degree. Seems like a good combo to me. Thanks for your info.

Call me honey or sweety I like it!

Sorry, Twinkee...it just sounds derogatory to me, when people say, 'honey'.
I too am 'smart as hell' and have a degree.

Well, I am built like a brick sh*ithouse and you can call me anything but late for dinner!hehe

Nothing offends me more than when I walk by a construction site and hear silence!

When ever I need a pick me up, I head down to where ever I can find lots of orange cones and large equipment operators! Those guys can really put me in a good mood, fast! I love em for it too!

Mom!! er...Umma!!

LOL! I suppose I should relish the attention!? But, I find it embarassing!! I am confident in other ways...but, was brought up to be conservative! (Though I have mastered the 'lady in the living room and b*tch in the bedroom' routine! LOL!)

I think that when someone takes something that should be rightfully yours u have the right to be upset and do and say as you please....as for people who talk butter about ppl and then turn around and be nice to thier face that is a load of crap.

When I feel that someone has stepped into my territory (sp?) I am going to do what I feel necessary to do what I need to do.

I do not look anyone down but I will never be friends with some ppl that I considered true friends and used to listen to thier bull butter all the time and they can not put up with a little butter from me....that is being one sided just like I thought that she was going to be, and was blinded cause I thought that she was a friend.

butter insted of butter- correction

Sorry just a little pissed off so I can not type.

Well, I think it depends on what someone is actually taking. I mean, you may feel the world revolves around you but it does not. You don't get everything you want. It depends on what you mean when you say what is "rightfully yours. I mean, who's to say what is yours. You get what you deserve or what you work for. God didn't make this earth for one person. As for people talking behind someones back, I don't like it either.

In addition, I know that I am a very good friend to my "true friends". Friends don't suddenly act like you are a stranger just because you move up a little or make a change. The friend should be happy and not react in a negative way regardless of the situation. Frankly, I am not a hater, so I would not give a damn. If I had a friend make a change or move up or something, I would remain that good friend and not hate. That is ridiculous. As for listening to negative words toward me and disrespecting me, I won't tolerate whatsoever. Friends don't behave negatively over small crap. It is very childish. I am a woman about my stuff. I simply don't want to hear negative words towards me. If you were ever a friend, you wouldn't act this way. My friends would be happy. Also, to the above post, why don't you simply as your ex friend what the problem is. That simple!

What is the problem— I am completely lost!!!

I feel that I am a good friend and I wked my ass of to get to a higer position and then what, someone else got it, u can not expect me to be frustrated.

I am happy for u but frustrated and I can not talk or look at you right now some personal things that I have to deal with.

Everyday it gets better and I realize that where I am at now is for a reason but it still bothers me, I guess u would not understand unless u were in my position. I have worked hard and I think that I do a good job. I am very happy for u I am just going to need time to sort it out with myself.

SW,

I understand you and all I can say is that when our time comes, then it wll be! And I have come to the conclusion that thats alright with me! I think if we really, really want something badly enough, it WILL happen! I really am suprised that I am where I am right at this moment. As matter of fact, I tried to not be interested and show any effort, and what happens...I get the position anyway! I am as baffled as you are in not getting what you wanted. But you will eventually, and it will all work out, trust me!

I am glad I got to hear from you; I was starting to wonder, and you seem to have be hurtng alot these last couple of times I've run into you. Last time you said you were gonna be fine, and now you are down again. Try and stay positive. I learned that there is nothing that you cannot achieve if you just stay in this mind set.

I have a relative who lives with me and they have mental problems, but they are high functioning and they never ever have a bad day. They work very hard and everything is always good. Their biggest thrill is to take a ride in the car and look at the surrondings. They get to pick where we go, and today the ride ended up in a very bad area with alot of crime and crack neighborhoods, and even this they found something nice about it! They thought the mountains in the background were pretty. Always just looking for the good and the positive, and this I learned from them is the best way to live! Just try and pick out the good things around and stay positive and you will be happy!

I will be thinking about you and praying for you!

Goodnight and God Bless you and Much Love!!!!!
SuzyQ

No Suzy Q I am fine again, I was just replying to a post and how I felt.

Twinkee,
I do find that many times in your posts you talk down to others. I am glad that you are gorgeous, smart, successful, etc.
But, I think you could benefit from a touch of humility.
Just a point of view from one who's IQ is higher than yours.

Ok, well take all the time you need. But think they didn't make that decision over night. It's more than senority here. I found out everything they evaluated. It makes more sense now. Senority has nothing to do with it. I am just as qualified in that aspect.I have been in your position many times and I know the drill so don't say what I havent' done.

As for Star, You have not idea what you are talking about. You don't even know what's going on. I don't talk down to others unless you do the same.
I have been humiliated before, but it didn't keep me down, so thanks for the psychology Star! And I am so happy to hear about your IQ. Keep up the good work and put it to good use dear. You'll find though, that it is worthless.
If you can't take opinions here, then go elsewhere. You sound way to sensitive.

Also, SW, I kinda expect you to go an tell out co-workers about everything WE speak of. But, I still won't say a word about things you told me. That's beneath me.

I know that one of them has seen this post SW also, or knows about this, but I don't care becaue it's all the truth. I am always one step ahead in what people do next.

Thanks STAR!!!! 🙂


Talk about what—?? What things did we talk about, everything that u have ever told me has never left me.

One one post I was upset and said something to the affect that things are not going my way and I needed to let them go, I never said butter about you or our situation, it is none of thier buisness, there for untill u acually see it then keep ur mouth shut, I have not said anything.

The last time that u spoke to me was that night and I was still upset to talk about anything, u have shown no effort to care and see how things are going for me, how do u call that a friend——

First of all, i don't respond to harsh words at at all. No one tell me what to do whatsoever! I have been very cool about this and not really that mad, but hell I am getting there! This is going to far! I can talk whenever the FHUCk I feel like it! Excuse me for thinking that is what you were doing. I just sensed something like that. And I didn't say it happened yet. It seems as though that may have occured, but excuse me for that mistake. You are also thanking star like i just say horrible things about people. You have said worse! I didn't reach you on messenger because I didn't want to hear negative things.I was a friend and you know it. You didn't behave as a friend the day I got the job. I can understand the hurt also, but you still act the same way. I gave you the space I thought you needed. I have not spoken to anyone about this!

I've never seen anything like this! 2 women (who obviously work in the same place) in a work dispute posting it on message boards! How mature are U women?

Must be a great place to work ,lol!!!

I have not spoken to you because I needed my space but u didnt care, now when I was upset that night did u expect anything less then for me to be hurt and frustrated—? I would expect not.

Saggie and Suzy, I would rather do it here than express it at wk and get fired, I love my job but just a few things have fallen for me more than once there.

I just dont think that all of this is my fault and I dont think that she is taking any credit.

Saggie, this is a good vent area. It has nothing to do with maturity dear. Suzy-Q, me and Sw went for the same job and I ended up with the job. Me and Sw were good friends until this happened. She is very upset about it which I understand, but should she take it out on me?

SW, I have always been there for you. You could have responded in someway, couldn't you? It could have been either one of us to break ice. I said I was sorry and I did care about your feelings. What did you expect me to do. It was an awkward situation. Like being torn. Between you and my new position. I didn't know whether to be happy or upset. You always could have talked to me on messenger. I am willing to chat when you are ready. Otherwise, I am tired of this.

As far as credit, what kind of credit should I take? I didn't do anything, but get hired. I didn't hire myself. What do you think DXP guys?

Sorry twinkee, but it has everything to do with maturity. 2 women neither 1 assertive, have to talk with one another thru a message board about their job problems? Get real! And grow up!

I think you should be doing this privately! Instant message each other. I am getting embarrassed having to read this stuff.

Why must everyone have to hear it. It is between you two and its as if you are trying to get everyone else involved!

Why?

I have spoken to her, but she didn't say anything to me.

Whole thing sounds kind of phony too me! IMO, I think it is some sort weird game you are playing?!

Twinkee,
I am not trying to get involved with your fight...

I was just voicing my opinion based on your posts that I have read.

You do talk down to people. Calling others 'honey' and 'dear' is considered patronizing.

It also turns out you don't know the meaning of the word humility. It has nothing to do with being humiliated!! (I can't believe you thought that!) It means being humble...letting go of some of your pride.

One thing I have learned is that respect begets respect.

"It also turns out you don't know the meaning of the word humility. It has nothing to do with being humiliated!! (I can't believe you thought that!) It means being humble...letting go of some of your pride"

I have to wonder how old this person is Star? No wonder she has to wear "cute dresses" huh? Lol

Star, show me where I have put someone else down on this post. Copy it and post it! I have only voiced my opinion as you do. As far as the word humility, I can admit, I really didn't remember what it mean with no problem. I am glad it makes you feel good to put ME down on that. It doesn't make me dumb at all . I don't have to wear cute dresses to look go either and that includes a good attitude and an education. FInd something else to do.

I don't have time for what you ask...you know that you talk down...look at your past posts...(not just this one)..
You see me as a person who loves to put you down...not so. I think you have much to learn, that is all.

cant we all just get along. lol.

dude..everyone just drop it. This topic is about 'hate' and it seems like its going toward that direction..lol in a way ~_~ you get what i mean, so anyway! hows everyone

star don't judge what you nothing about. Everyone has a lot to learn. You are doing also. The previous post were not meant to put people down. It is a forum so you voice opinion. You have issues. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

CJ7,

You're the only one that makes any sense here lately!!!!

Dont run off anywhere we need you here!

WELL Twinkee and I have made ammends so everything is going to be alright.