I NEED OPINIONS!

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aquapisces
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I was lead on by a guy for about a year I always thought he had a girlfriend I asked him more than once he never said anything. We went out a few times I thought maybe this was going to end up in a relationship. long story short I'm the type of person that if I feel something is going on im not tranquil until I proof other wise. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and continue to add all of the red flags until the beginning of this year when I was able to confirm that he does have one and her name. I stopped talking to him he texted me saying why I ignored him and that I needed to stop playing games I told him "what games you are the one lying about your girlfriend" to which he answered "i don't have one" then I said "oh really then who is......" He just answered lol then said lets just be friends. I got mad because he already knew I found out when I had asked him since the beginning and I thought he doesn't take me seriously I told him to leave me alone. Now I need opinions because I had also found out he was messing with multiple females and has been living with his girlfriend since the beginning of this year and now they are engaged. I now some are going to say that I am jealous but I can honestly say that I'm not I just don't think it's fair for the fiancé to not now what he is doing and I also now he takes them over to their place and could potentially give her an STD. I have a burden over this should I just let it be let the fiancé find out on her own?
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aquapisces
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Posted by sunkisses26
talking it over with self.....

my libra ascendant says that she deserve to have all her options so that the girlfriend can make a fair decision
my cancer sun feels like your just hurt and your acting out.just let them be and live your life...
my scorpio moon says that this is mean and vindictive....and that he totally deserves it ....😈
so in short ...I don't know ....
Lol I do feel like everyone would feel like I'm hurt but I'm not My Pisces sun is so emotional and caring and with my Sagittarius moon which I tend to be straight forward but I'll just let it be. She might already now and If she wants to marry him well that's how it will be. More sooner that later everything will surface
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Posted by jessbtwin
Posted by themagnetoreborn
TL;DR.

Please give us a sparknotes version of this unnecessarily long story @jessbtwin @sunkisses26
Lol I need an opinion because I now someone is cheating on their fiancé with multiple females should I let the fiancé know or just let it be and she will eventually find out?
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Okies here's MY opinion. And it's probably wrong

You wash your hands of this situation. The Player, the games and the lies.

So, I'd walk away. Who cares whether she finds out or not. It's not your problem, not your relationship.
Things come out in the wash eventually, if he is in fact messing with several other females then maybe they can reveal all... if it does happen, she may contact you anyway for more details or info at some point in the future. If she does approach you, worry about it then ~shrug~
look after yourself first and foremost and clear the crap off the table.
You had a gut instinct that this guy had a long term thing going with someone and you still stuck around... I don't care if people hold you accountable for that or if it's purely his fault for playing the field regardless, meh.
I'm no judge or jury - but don't get involved- unless you crave Drama for whatever reason...
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aquapisces
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Posted by wagtail
Posted by jessbtwin
Posted by themagnetoreborn
TL;DR.

Please give us a sparknotes version of this unnecessarily long story @jessbtwin @sunkisses26
Lol I need an opinion because I now someone is cheating on their fiancé with multiple females should I let the fiancé know or just let it be and she will eventually find out?
Okies here's MY opinion. And it's probably wrong

You wash your hands of this situation. The Player, the games and the lies.

So, I'd walk away. Who cares whether she finds out or not. It's not your problem, not your relationship.
Things come out in the wash eventually, if he is in fact messing with several other females then maybe they can reveal all... if it does happen, she may contact you anyway for more details or info at some point in the future. If she does approach you, worry about it then ~shrug~
look after yourself first and foremost and clear the crap off the table.
You had a gut instinct that this guy had a long term thing going with someone and you still stuck around... I don't care if people hold you accountable for that or if it's purely his fault for playing the field regardless, meh.
I'm no judge or jury - but don't get involved- unless you crave Drama for whatever reason...
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Thank you for your opinion. I will stay away from this drama like you said it's not my relationship and if she finds out and approaches me I will go from until then I will continue my life
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aquapisces
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Posted by Plagued
Poor girl. How can someone be so oblivious. She might be fucking around also! Pisces guy led me on for awhile, flaked on me every time. He had lady and a baby.

Lol her friend request has been in my box for 3 years I just noticed. I laid into him before I booted. I never said anything to her though..That shit ain't cute boys and girls...

I'd be a dick on his part and tell her. No harm in being honest. You can cut them off after their house of cards fall. 🙂
Or do what wagtail said which is good also.
@Plagued my comment below is to you I forgot to quote lol
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aquapisces
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Posted by Plagued
Poor girl. How can someone be so oblivious. She might be fucking around also! Pisces guy led me on for awhile, flaked on me every time. He had lady and a baby.

Lol her friend request has been in my box for 3 years I just noticed. I laid into him before I booted. I never said anything to her though..That shit ain't cute boys and girls...

I'd be a dick on his part and tell her. No harm in being honest. You can cut them off after their house of cards fall. 🙂
Or do what wagtail said which is good also.
@Plagued my comment below is to you I forgot to quote lol
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I guess it posted above ‚
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Posted by jessbtwin
I was lead on by a guy for about a year I always thought he had a girlfriend I asked him more than once he never said anything. We went out a few times I thought maybe this was going to end up in a relationship. long story short I'm the type of person that if I feel something is going on im not tranquil until I proof other wise. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and continue to add all of the red flags until the beginning of this year when I was able to confirm that he does have one and her name. I stopped talking to him he texted me saying why I ignored him and that I needed to stop playing games I told him "what games you are the one lying about your girlfriend" to which he answered "i don't have one" then I said "oh really then who is......" He just answered lol then said lets just be friends. I got mad because he already knew I found out when I had asked him since the beginning and I thought he doesn't take me seriously I told him to leave me alone. Now I need opinions because I had also found out he was messing with multiple females and has been living with his girlfriend since the beginning of this year and now they are engaged. I now some are going to say that I am jealous but I can honestly say that I'm not I just don't think it's fair for the fiancé to not now what he is doing and I also now he takes them over to their place and could potentially give her an STD. I have a burden over this should I just let it be let the fiancé find out on her own?
You went out a few times in a year — And this is relationship material to you —
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aquapisces
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Posted by happyface1
Are you really trying to strike revenge on someone who never promised you anything ?

You don't know this woman. She could be more of a liar than this man that lied to you.

Not saying that she is....you never know a couples history sometimes.

Go on with your life. You were blessed to find this out.

Leave him and her alone.
I was blessed and yes he didn't promise anything to me I guess that's what he came into my life for so I can learn this lesson. I have never dated before so can't really compare to see what is considered relationship material.