@Mohini
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How to handle difficult co workers & achieve resolution?
Well.
If you really have done everything by the book you can think of to resolve this.
If it was meh, first choice would be run her over in the work carpark...
Does your place have a HR Dept or Senior Management you can approach?
What are you worth to them, can you pull the old 'I'll quit if nothing get's done about this' card?
Leave box of laxative filled candies for her?
Posted by wagtail
Well.
If you really have done everything by the book you can think of to resolve this.
If it was meh, first choice would be run her over in the work carpark...Does your place have a HR Dept or Senior Management you can approach?
What are you worth to them, can you pull the old 'I'll quit if nothing get's done about this' card?
Small office where we each wear many hats.
I also don't drive, good thing too because I thought of that. I bike.
I am that important to do that but not that desperate.
I want to either:
1) find a way to bury her.
2) discover a common ground so we can work peacefully
3) learn meditation so it doesn't bother me
This woman is quite horrible to me. Openly and then he uses a baby voice to respond to my questions. Like an actual innocent baby voice! (Cancer sun, July 15,1965)
Posted by Weeds
Leave box of laxative filled candies for her?
Ha-ha. I could.
But then she'd be in the bathroom when I need her to do her job (which I do enough of). Im more inclined to put addaral in her chocolate.
This woman is an absolute detriment to intelligence. She is witty, I give her that, but that's all I give her. She's been there 15 years!
Ive been there 3+
It's noticed by the owner/boss/doctor that she sucks and he agrees. I am professional. I never flaunt my dissatisfaction on a daily basis, Instead, I've been writing them down. He asked me to talk privately today. (I'm not good at being open because when I do, it's often too much, so I was bare minimum and precise.)
He told me to start sending him reminders in the system so he can handle it every time
He said she hasn't been the same for years.... (ok so why is she here?)
Yet I don't do anything but act as a holder in the hose with many holes. (They re spewing out!) I have but only so many fingers to plug her holes in her hose she messes up at work to save myself so I can do my own job on top of hers.
Her fiance just died. Like... 3 months ago. She really messed up around then but I gave that a blind eye. Before she fucked up, and again she is using me to do her work and blantently using me as a scape goat.
I feel like a whipping post.
Posted by feby
View her as a victim or something. Whatever you have to do to ease your mind. I also need a peaceful work environment, so I get it.
I have, with results. But it's the blatant disrespect and disregard to my position that gets to me. She could easily handle half the shit she gives to me but I still do it. That part is fine. *Poor fucking stupid bitch* and i do it.
She had the nerve to ask me for help yesterday, I have her an injection and was kind, despite my schedule.
Does it matter?
I thought so.
Today, she openly threw every problem at me and acted dumb. She sent her own work to ME and said, "she isn't know how"
I thought I would help...
I went out of my way and mentioned said work, I told her the way ti handle it and said, "let's do it together" and shw said... "nah, this has you written all over it"
She has been there 15 years so she knows better.
The boss said she is jealous of me because SHE hired me to take her job and is now jealous of me— Wtf? Something bout mw being young and pretty and more competent.... I'm just mad. I dont know.
Posted by feby
View her as a victim or something. Whatever you have to do to ease your mind. I also need a peaceful work environment, so I get it.
Yeah, sounds like a situation where you'll have to work on your own methods of coping with her...
She isn't going to change any time soon, although I am sorry to hear about her fiance - that's awful.
And it doesn't sound like anything will be done by anyone else.
Long time employees are valuable when they are good. They may be taking it easy on her for loyalty's sake perhaps.
Posted by feby
Is this the same person you made a post about awhile back?I would try to just ignore her and rationalize a way to be peaceful with her for my own sanity, not hers.
Yes!
I want her stay to terminate. But not by doing, by her own.
Cruel woman! Like passive aggressive to the max.
Posted by wagtail
Posted by feby
View her as a victim or something. Whatever you have to do to ease your mind. I also need a peaceful work environment, so I get it.
Yeah, sounds like a situation where you'll have to work on your own methods of coping with her...
She isn't going to change any time soon, although I am sorry to hear about her fiance - that's awful.
And it doesn't sound like anything will be done by anyone else.
Long time employees are valuable when they are good. They may be taking it easy on her for loyalty's sake perhaps.click to expand
Exactly.
But the boss notices and is made aware.
Im not one to give up. I'll keep doing stellar work, (while confinuing higher education) and keep making it known of all of her mistakes.
Ita not me that wants her to change. It's that it's paramount for he life of his business to exchange her position
I'm thinking king, diligence,percision, attention to detail and alerting him of all potential business building mistakes should help.
I'll make it my job to get rid of her. But I shouldn't. I should be a strong get person and say whatever.
But it's become personal
Worse mistake.
I'll take my feelings aside and act as needed while reporting her problems (aka hungover. Aka fake migrane for attention, aka fake issue with knee to prevent her from assisting me which IS NOW her job.)
Going hardcore.
Posted by sunkisses26
ok this is what you do
look below
then you tell her thats from sunkisses26... your partner! and if she doesn't want it again ...she better straighten up and fly right! or else I WILL be up there ...to "help" her understand!
Hahahahahahahha
Visualizing that is happiness.
But we did once get i to an altercation.
To this day I don't know what I did. (Sag questions for why people get pissed)
She flipped out on me about a year ago, told me she wanted to fight.
((I too wanted to play)) but I saw patients through the glass window. They saw us &maybe heard us.
So...i said
"This is so u professional, don't you ever scream like that in front of patients, shut up and. where is your self control goddamnit!, I'll deal with you later!"
I walked off.
Not a minute later I was dry heaving in the back room. I guess without a fight I started to cry. Energy has to go somewhere
Boss finds me, i can't breathe and said she yelled at me.
He brings her forth, acts all shocked I'm crying
Boom.
We go back to "normal" but it's not been normal since.
We want to fight.
Ugh, I'm sorry you are going through that...I went through stuff like that for years with women(I'm the Cancer) and one of them she was a Cancer and just nasty. I started validating, making the Cancer feel good...it's hard when u in that situation 😢
Posted by febyYou say that she's passing work onto you...are you two equals in terms of title? Is she a supervisor to you? I'm just trying to get the picture.
Backfiring is not possible ... thank god.
I'm above her in licensure and title.
But she has me in years.
I've been there 3+
Her 15-17+
... I took her job because I'm licensed and have a degree. She was trained back in the day without either
But she is also the one who hired me. I used to love her. Unril the day shw flipped out on me.
A year or so going strong of straight fake comrade
I hate it
Posted by Moonbutter
Ugh, I'm sorry you are going through that...I went through stuff like that for years with women(I'm the Cancer) and one of them she was a Cancer and just nasty. I started validating, making the Cancer feel good...it's hard when u in that situation 😢
Can you share details? What happened? What sign was fhe ither person? How did you feel? Did it work out?
Dress her in a gorilla costume then throw a baby at her.
Posted by feby
You're going to put a lot of your energy into trying to get rid of her and I just don't think that's a very healthy spiritual route to go down. I really suggest trying to free yourself of these feelings and the build up you have with her.
I know that's what you're looking for by making this thread.
I had something recently like this happen to me at work lol. Everything is 'ok' now but there was a buildup and a blow up and it did involve me and a coworker. LOL I always am in the middle of some drama 😛 fuck haha
I wonder if you relate to this libra moon: I need a peaceful work environment. I need the pleasantries, the smiles, the surface respect and courtesies. I like that shit lol. It's almost as if I just really want that more than anything. If you don't like me, ok that's cool, let's just be nice and civil...we don't have to be be best buds. Would this kind of situation I described and the feelings associated....does that work for you?
Absolutely!
But when ive tried to talk to her, she talks in a baby voice and never acknowledges the issue at hand, then or now.
Buf yes. I want peace. I want a productive workflow.
Tired of the receptionists looking at eahother with thwir eyes rolikg when I ask them to do their job.
It's as if I'm under respected. Like I'm irrational? But I'm proficient, kind, on time and efficient. I may not baby them ((like I used to)) but I have grown I to mt position and I need compliance.
They dont have to like me. IDGAF
I need them to do their jobs. Thats it.
But I lost their respect somewhere.. maybe.
Maybe that's what I need. How do I regain respect. Im 27, they are 52, &62 so they view me as "child"
Posted by feby
Libra moon advice to another Libra moon 😄 love you
I couldn't breathe today. The disaster for me was too strong and usually i can overcome it. Today, I fell victim and felt like I needed to make changes.
Like... SERENITY NOW!
wait. she HIRED you and then hates you and is jealous of you??
I don't understand this psychology......... 😕
maybe she loves the company so much she wants someone very competent. She thought, maybe... maybe you are EASILY to MOULD to her whims. still competent, good worker but MOULD to her whims...
and then ...when she finds out you are not to be CONTROLLED.
she is PISSED.
that's the only psychology I understand from this situation. Give me another—
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
if she were, she'd fire her already.
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
No. Ive had no professional appointed place.but I took it on
I am one of 4 employees
but little did she know.....
which is to her dumbness, and stupidity. you can't control people like that and ASSUME they are easily moulded to the whims of her control.
😕
that is probably what happened her.
you look INNOCENT and a person she can MOULD, but that innocence underlies a sneaky ambitious powerful woman. heehee. haha haaha "Evil laughter in the background"
😆
moral of the story??
don't be a dumbass and hire "innocent" looking people. 😄 😄
Posted by lisabethur8
wait. she HIRED you and then hates you and is jealous of you??I don't understand this psychology......... 😕
maybe she loves the company so much she wants someone very competent. She thought, maybe... maybe you are EASILY to MOULD to her whims. still competent, good worker but MOULD to her whims...
and then ...when she finds out you are not to be CONTROLLED.
she is PISSED.
that's the only psychology I understand from this situation. Give me another—
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
if she were, she'd fire her already.
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That's my point!!!
She hired me, at first loved me when I loved her, then randomly one day he flips on me... (insert fight scene above) and since we have had nothing but problems.
She deliberately goes out of her way to twart me.
I saw her flick ms of once behind my back. Not to mention she talked.s hit to the other receptionist. (But I hear it some time lol)
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
wait. she HIRED you and then hates you and is jealous of you??I don't understand this psychology......... 😕
maybe she loves the company so much she wants someone very competent. She thought, maybe... maybe you are EASILY to MOULD to her whims. still competent, good worker but MOULD to her whims...
and then ...when she finds out you are not to be CONTROLLED.
she is PISSED.
that's the only psychology I understand from this situation. Give me another—
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
if she were, she'd fire her already.
That's my point!!!
She hired me, at first loved me when I loved her, then randomly one day he flips on me... (insert fight scene above) and since we have had nothing but problems.
She deliberately goes out of her way to twart me.
I saw her flick ms of once behind my back. Not to mention she talked.s hit to the other receptionist. (But I hear it some time lol)click to expand
lol you can get away from looking so sweet and innocent too!!! and if you are a good worker. they want you because of that ASSET.
then because you are too sweet looking, they think, "i'm gonna make this girl dance to my puppet strings" lmao
Posted by lisabethur8
moral of the story??don't be a dumbass and hire "innocent" looking people. 😄 😄
She wanted someone creditable to take over her place and she hired me.
Zero experience.
Zero everything
We used to be close.
But at some point she turned bad.
I stopped needing her help, and started telling her what to do and BAM
my boss says it's bc of my talent and looks. He said he knew this would happen
Yet.
Here I am.
yeah it's better to be hired by a man (not to be sexist here) unless the woman boss is not threatened by a woman. crap!! so much politics in the workplace.
edit - ugh being hired by a man has it's own problems too. 😆 unless he's fat, old and happily married, then you have NO worries.
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
moral of the story??don't be a dumbass and hire "innocent" looking people. 😄 😄
She wanted someone creditable to take over her place and she hired me.
Zero experience.
Zero everything
We used to be close.
But at some point she turned bad.
I stopped needing her help, and started telling her what to do and BAM
my boss says it's bc of my talent and looks. He said he knew this would happen
Yet.
Here I am.
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oohhh
ok. switch up here.
she wants you to NEED her.
aw. i'm kind of feeling sorry for her. She just wants to be needed. When a woman worker gets up there in age, they need someone to want /need them. Have some pity on her. ok, it's not an excuse but i'm kind of soft on people who want to be needed.
edit - anyway, i'd have some mercy and pity on her. People don't want pity I know, but have some compassion on her. Poor thing. she probably does LIKE you....
but you and her clash like two bullheads. try to be more EASY GOING on her. it'll be better for you. She recognizes your assets and let her be happy too.
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
wait. she HIRED you and then hates you and is jealous of you??I don't understand this psychology......... 😕
maybe she loves the company so much she wants someone very competent. She thought, maybe... maybe you are EASILY to MOULD to her whims. still competent, good worker but MOULD to her whims...
and then ...when she finds out you are not to be CONTROLLED.
she is PISSED.
that's the only psychology I understand from this situation. Give me another—
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
if she were, she'd fire her already.
That's my point!!!
She hired me, at first loved me when I loved her, then randomly one day he flips on me... (insert fight scene above) and since we have had nothing but problems.
She deliberately goes out of her way to twart me.
I saw her flick ms of once behind my back. Not to mention she talked.s hit to the other receptionist. (But I hear it some time lol)lol you can get away from looking so sweet and innocent too!!! and if you are a good worker. they want you because of that ASSET.
then because you are too sweet looking, they think, "i'm gonna make this girl dance to my puppet strings" lmao
click to expand
So. Basically, realize they are shit. Be happy. Continue with my job. Take the shit she deals ms happily a d bs grateful.?? Because that's what I'll do. But she still makes mt life hard.
Extra time = overtime. So yay
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
wait. she HIRED you and then hates you and is jealous of you??I don't understand this psychology......... 😕
maybe she loves the company so much she wants someone very competent. She thought, maybe... maybe you are EASILY to MOULD to her whims. still competent, good worker but MOULD to her whims...
and then ...when she finds out you are not to be CONTROLLED.
she is PISSED.
that's the only psychology I understand from this situation. Give me another—
Posted by feby
Are you a manager? Are you in charge of the receptionists?
if she were, she'd fire her already.
That's my point!!!
She hired me, at first loved me when I loved her, then randomly one day he flips on me... (insert fight scene above) and since we have had nothing but problems.
She deliberately goes out of her way to twart me.
I saw her flick ms of once behind my back. Not to mention she talked.s hit to the other receptionist. (But I hear it some time lol)lol you can get away from looking so sweet and innocent too!!! and if you are a good worker. they want you because of that ASSET.
then because you are too sweet looking, they think, "i'm gonna make this girl dance to my puppet strings" lmao
So. Basically, realize they are shit. Be happy. Continue with my job. Take the shit she deals ms happily a d bs grateful.?? Because that's what I'll do. But she still makes mt life hard.
Extra time = overtime. So yay
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you have a cardinal mars and cardinal moon....that alone, makes you a "go getter"
so I don't know if being easy going is going to be easy for you. let it go, and do your work, she has been there a long time. and she did hire you. Be grateful for everything you have.
well you don't have to, but that's my 2c
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
moral of the story??don't be a dumbass and hire "innocent" looking people. 😄 😄
She wanted someone creditable to take over her place and she hired me.
Zero experience.
Zero everything
We used to be close.
But at some point she turned bad.
I stopped needing her help, and started telling her what to do and BAM
my boss says it's bc of my talent and looks. He said he knew this would happen
Yet.
Here I am.
oohhh
ok. switch up here.
she wants you to NEED her.
aw. i'm kind of feeling sorry for her. She just wants to be needed. When a woman worker gets up there in age, they need someone to want /need them. Have some pity on her. ok, it's not an excuse but i'm kind of soft on people who want to be needed.
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Um what?
So I'm just her crutch turned bad?
That is not okay, not fair.
If be there if she was authentic but shs is not.
She purposely hurts me. She knows I need computed reminders to all patient responses unless emergencies but she continues to say, "oh yeah, she just walked by, here she is" ... she puts issues that are clearly stated in the chart on my desk on STICKY notes!!! I need them to be documented ! Over and over i say this. Today, she is our OSHA officer and shw the it on me , in the middle of me handlishing our hipaa and radiation violation sheet from the state. I had shit to do.. and hsr daughter came in and she had a party in front of me for two hours while she sent all work to me while dealing with other stuff
(Aka, our boss/doctor had his door shur in the back room and was oblivious to all this)
How's that for needing someone.
I had an ongoing issue a couple of months ago with this Cancer guy (older with entitlement mentality)--
One day, he started rifling through my desk and credenza looking for something WHILE I WAS SITTING
RIGHT THERE, instead of asking me.
I told him in front of everyone not to do it again, because it's RUDE.
I think I was a little loud, but I made my point.
Some people are like animals-- you have to swat them on the nose with a newspaper.
And tell them NO.
It's all they understand.
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Mohini
Posted by lisabethur8
moral of the story??don't be a dumbass and hire "innocent" looking people. 😄 😄
She wanted someone creditable to take over her place and she hired me.
Zero experience.
Zero everything
We used to be close.
But at some point she turned bad.
I stopped needing her help, and started telling her what to do and BAM
my boss says it's bc of my talent and looks. He said he knew this would happen
Yet.
Here I am.
oohhh
ok. switch up here.
she wants you to NEED her.
aw. i'm kind of feeling sorry for her. She just wants to be needed. When a woman worker gets up there in age, they need someone to want /need them. Have some pity on her. ok, it's not an excuse but i'm kind of soft on people who want to be needed.
Um what?
So I'm just her crutch turned bad?
That is not okay, not fair.
If be there if she was authentic but shs is not.
She purposely hurts me. She knows I need computed reminders to all patient responses unless emergencies occur, but she continues to say, "oh yeah, she just walked by, here she is" ... she puts issues that are clearly stated in the chart on my desk on STICKY notes!!! I need them to be documented ! Over and over i say this. Today, she is our OSHA officer and she threw it on me , in the middle of me handling our hipaa and radiation violation sheet from the state. I had shit to do.. and her daughter came in and she had a party in front of me for two hours while she sent all work to me while dealing with other stuff
(Aka, our boss/doctor had his door shur in the back room and was oblivious to all this)How's that for needing someone.
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Posted by Montgomery
I had an ongoing issue a couple of months ago with this Cancer guy (older with entitlement mentality)--One day, he started rifling through my desk and credenza looking for something WHILE I WAS SITTING
RIGHT THERE, instead of asking me.
I told him in front of everyone not to do it again, because it's RUDE.
I think I was a little loud, but I made my point.
Some people are like animals-- you have to swat them on the nose with a newspaper.
And tell them NO.
It's all they understand.
Last time I started, she wanted to fight.
I took patients first but I wanted to fight.
It didn't work
my standing up for myself does nothing.
What's next.
I still don't know what to do.
But I know what I will do.
Posted by Mohini
Posted by Montgomery
I had an ongoing issue a couple of months ago with this Cancer guy (older with entitlement mentality)--One day, he started rifling through my desk and credenza looking for something WHILE I WAS SITTING
RIGHT THERE, instead of asking me.
I told him in front of everyone not to do it again, because it's RUDE.
I think I was a little loud, but I made my point.
Some people are like animals-- you have to swat them on the nose with a newspaper.
And tell them NO.
It's all they understand.
Last time I started, she wanted to fight.
I took patients first but I wanted to fight.
It didn't work
my standing up for myself does nothing.
What's next.
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What does that mean, you both wanted to fight?
Are you saying you told her to stop, and she wanted to throw down
in the doctor's office?
😕
Explain, please.
I agree with Lisa on her needing you to need her.
She's older and may feel kind of inferior to you just on that one note or maybe she feels a bit incompetent but hides it under the guise of handing you extra things....but she will never say this.
It's sad some people don't appreciate when you've excelled in your job and become jealous whether consciously or unconsciously.
I've learned how to block people's energy out in plain sight if necessary to do my job.
They could be sitting inches from me and I'm in my positive space and communicate for work things only. Even if you all are in constant communication through out the day. This is possible.
Don't let her energy enter through you. Deal with her from a higher place mentally.
Some people do this because it makes them feel powerful to be over someone and misuse that energy because they don't have power like that in any other aspects of their life.
It's really sad honestly.
But you stay strong and keep doing what you believe in.
Sounds like you have great work ethic and care about your patients. Which is the most important thing.
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Mohini
Posted by Montgomery
I had an ongoing issue a couple of months ago with this Cancer guy (older with entitlement mentality)--One day, he started rifling through my desk and credenza looking for something WHILE I WAS SITTING
RIGHT THERE, instead of asking me.
I told him in front of everyone not to do it again, because it's RUDE.
I think I was a little loud, but I made my point.
Some people are like animals-- you have to swat them on the nose with a newspaper.
And tell them NO.
It's all they understand.
Last time I started, she wanted to fight.
I took patients first but I wanted to fight.
It didn't work
my standing up for myself does nothing.
What's next.
What does that mean, you both wanted to fight?
Are you saying you told her to sto
p, and she wanted to throw down
in the doctor's office?
😕
Explain, please.
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she attacked me.
I had pts and she accosted me..
Posted by happyface1
Some people do this because it makes them feel powerful to be over someone and misuse that energy because they don't have power like that in any other aspects of their life.It's really sad honestly.
But you stay strong and keep doing what you believe in.
Sounds like you have great work ethic and care about your patients. Which is the most important thing.
thank you.
but forget her
She's manipulating and doesn't respect you because she can. No yelling needed. Send the work back to her. As long as she can manipulate you, she's the boss.
She deserves the nice/nasty responses. Beat her at her own game. I'll be extra fucking nice to her, handing her work back to her with the brightest smile on her face while offering her a cup of coffee at the same time.
Point is, get on top of your shit.
You were hired here for a reason.
Yes, she has tenure. Respect that. Also stand your ground.
You don't have to be a smart ass with it. No
You can be as down to earth and as sweet as possible.
Show her you are unbothered.
Keep showing her you are unbothered.
Kill her with kindness.
Next time she hands you some work, I'd do this:
Pretend you have an issue solving whatever with the work she passed on to you/
Go to the her in front of the superiors and say, "Hey (lady), you know this work you had me doing for you, what does (xxxxxx) mean? Or something to that effect. The more she hands you work, the more I'd keep doing it.
Posted by Mohinishe attacked me.
I had pts and she accosted me..
Wait... she physically attacked you?
Posted by Mohini
I'm struggling to find a solution to my dilemma. A woman at work has been making my job a lot harder for over a year.I've tried writing down all her transgressions and going o the boss, I've tried making peace, I've tried doing the extra work but am left depleted of energy and pissed, I've attempted to bring solutions to how to remedy this but so far, no resolution is in sight.
How does one handle a difficult co worker properly to achieve results?
When you are dealing with a nasty co-worker, you need to realize that one of two things needs to happen:
1.) You tolerate this shit because the job and money are worth it.
2.) You get the hell out of there, and find a better job elsewhere.
You are in no position to confront, accuse or otherwise counter-attack this vile person because HR will most likely fire your ass.
Either put up with it, or get out of there.
In today's era of disposable mindsets and lawsuits, you have only these two options.
In the old days, you could pull her sorry ass aside and put her in her place behind a closed door.
In the old military days, you could go a step further and kick the shit out of them in a treeline environment to get things in order with them.
However, today that would only get you fired and probably sued.
Posted by mzmee
She deserves the nice/nasty responses. Beat her at her own game. I'll be extra fucking nice to her, handing her work back to her with the brightest smile on her face while offering her a cup of coffee at the same time.Point is, get on top of your shit.
You were hired here for a reason.
Yes, she has tenure. Respect that. Also stand your ground.
You don't have to be a smart ass with it. No
You can be as down to earth and as sweet as possible.
Show her you are unbothered.
Keep showing her you are unbothered.
Kill her with kindness.
Next time she hands you some work, I'd do this:
Pretend you have an issue solving whatever with the work she passed on to you/
Go to the her in front of the superiors and say, "Hey (lady), you know this work you had me doing for you, what does (xxxxxx) mean? Or something to that effect. The more she hands you work, the more I'd keep doing it.
Fuck that noise.
That is the worst kind of response I have ever read.
Your suggestion will only constitute placating the bitch, and since this vile woman has tenure, it will only embolden her to act even worse because it's not being dealt with properly.
OP, What is the sign of this evil bitch, anyway?
Posted by AnOdeToNoOne
Posted by mzmee
She deserves the nice/nasty responses. Beat her at her own game. I'll be extra fucking nice to her, handing her work back to her with the brightest smile on her face while offering her a cup of coffee at the same time.Point is, get on top of your shit.
You were hired here for a reason.
Yes, she has tenure. Respect that. Also stand your ground.
You don't have to be a smart ass with it. No
You can be as down to earth and as sweet as possible.
Show her you are unbothered.
Keep showing her you are unbothered.
Kill her with kindness.
Next time she hands you some work, I'd do this:
Pretend you have an issue solving whatever with the work she passed on to you/
Go to the her in front of the superiors and say, "Hey (lady), you know this work you had me doing for you, what does (xxxxxx) mean? Or something to that effect. The more she hands you work, the more I'd keep doing it.
Fuck that noise.
That is the worst kind of response I have ever read.
Your suggestion will only constitute placating the bitch, and since this vile woman has tenure, it will only embolden her to act even worse because it's not being dealt with properly.
OP, What is the sign of this evil bitch, anyway?
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Scary cat. You suggest leaving. She shouldnt have to. This should have been nipped in the bud. So if she's not going to go thru the proper channels to resolve it, at least she can kill her ass with kindness and fuck with her head.
I hate when tenured employees think they can pick on the new employees. I laugh when they get their asses passive aggressively handed to them.
All I see this as woman working together bullshit been through this enough women can't work together period I worked as a Supervisor in a division of a corporate company I didn't have that many employees under me but it didn't take that many to operate the division. The women that worked in the division were always one step away from being at each others throats it drove me nuts. Women have the frienemies bullshit nice to each others faces but they are bad mouthing each other behind their backs.
It sounds like the place you work at is a bit toxic your boss is a lame duck or he doesn't care, I couldn't do a damn thing myself if I tried to lay the law down with the woman I got backlash. You got two choices suck it up and deal with the bullshit or have a big blow out with this other woman and run the risk of getting fired or quit.
To this day I would never work with woman directly I will never supervise them either the headaches and bullshit women bring with them to a work place isn't worth it.
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